https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 03:18:01 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/6-week-old-sleep-help-commiseration#post-2853019 Wed, 24 Oct 2018 13:31:32 +0000 periwinklebee 2853019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Glad things are working better!</p> <p>My son has never been a great sleeper. At that age, (safe, of course) co-sleeping was the only thing that remotely worked, otherwise he would not sleep for more than fifteen minutes at a time and I was about to hallucinate... He also had pretty bad reflux until he was about six months, so I'm sure that contributed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/6-week-old-sleep-help-commiseration#post-2852982 Wed, 24 Oct 2018 10:01:34 +0000 ALV91711 2852982@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@muffinsmuffins: Glad you had a couple good nights, hope that they continue. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/6-week-old-sleep-help-commiseration#post-2852978 Wed, 24 Oct 2018 09:34:25 +0000 muffinsmuffins 2852978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you everyone for your help and tips! I was all armed and ready the last two nights: I wore him in the evening which worked nicely. DW was ready to cosleep and SOMEHOW he slept 9-2 am the first night (not cosleeping) and only woke ONCE at 3 am last night :shocked: and then slept til after 7. His day sleep is still hit and miss but less fussy for sure. Now I’ve written it out I’ve totally jinxed it and he’s absolutely fooling us buuuuut gives me hope and I still have all your ideas to try in case! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/6-week-old-sleep-help-commiseration#post-2852918 Tue, 23 Oct 2018 20:55:41 +0000 LemonJack 2852918@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@muffinsmuffins: Sorry for the delayed response. Like others have said, I never swaddled in bed and just kept baby in a sleeper. When I was cold, I would wear a sweatshirt, and keep any blankets below my waist and tucked between my knees so they wouldn’t move at all. I nursed, so I would have DD facing me at chest level, and whenever she woke up I would nurse her back to sleep. I had to teach her how to nurse lying down, but once I did it was a game changer! </p> <p>We had a side car attachment for our bed, so with DD2 I would just place her back in there after she was done eating. DD1 only wanted me, so she just stayed in bed with me so I could sleep. DH was on the other side of the bed. He’s a light sleeper, but for safety’s sake, the baby was never between us and only next to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/6-week-old-sleep-help-commiseration#post-2852715 Mon, 22 Oct 2018 17:46:55 +0000 Mrsbells 2852715@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@muffinsmuffins: what kind of swaddle do you use? Is it snug enough or is he able to get his arms free? Also is he in a bassinet or crib at night? Another thing is how deep asleep is he before you put him down?. For our son, 15 minutes isnt enough to get him deep asleep enough to put him down </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/6-week-old-sleep-help-commiseration#post-2852714 Mon, 22 Oct 2018 17:43:41 +0000 Kemma 2852714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@muffinsmuffins: Here’s a good graphic to help you with safe bedsharing!</p> <p>Have you tried wearing Baby for daytime sleep or napping her in the stroller? My third baby won’t sleep in her crib during the day but will often take fabulous naps in the Ergo or our Mountain Buggy. Also, 3-4 months was a real turning point for our colicky girl and she started to get much happier and sleep a lot better once she was out of the first twelve weeks. </p> [attach=1664/18/ph0v4t.400x600.FFE459F3-8A76-441C-941D-045ABD4B5C93.jpeg] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/6-week-old-sleep-help-commiseration#post-2852691 Mon, 22 Oct 2018 16:41:08 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 2852691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@muffinsmuffins: No, don’t swaddle. That’s actually dangerous. My tiny ones just slept on my chest. When they’re a little older, they sleep in my arms. Mother’s instinct really kicks in even when asleep. My hubby doesn’t sleep in the bed with us, which helps. So, just mama and baby. I actually keep a blanket on my legs and sometimes I just wear a lightweight cardigan. I stay warm. Plus, baby’s body heat is very warm. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/6-week-old-sleep-help-commiseration#post-2852651 Mon, 22 Oct 2018 13:47:35 +0000 bhbee 2852651@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@muffinsmuffins: i never swaddle in our bed because it doesn’t seem safe, but I don’t need to (maybe a sleepsack if needed). Your warmth and smell (for babies who like it at least!) seem to do the same thing and keep them calm. My kids were different on how long they were interested in co sleeping (and it’s not my favorite for all night every night but it worked when needed)<br /> No matter where I put them to start my cuddly babies wiggled to end up right up close against me. I usually wear a zip up hoodie if it’s cold. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/6-week-old-sleep-help-commiseration#post-2852643 Mon, 22 Oct 2018 13:31:20 +0000 muffinsmuffins 2852643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CatchAFallingStar: @LemonJack: @bhbee: thank you ladies. Glad to know we aren’t alone. Here’s a silly question but I have no idea how co-sleeping works because our older would never do that with us...do you swaddle them? Just lay them down beside you and somehow they sleep hopefully?! I know about safety stuff like blankets and pillows but how do you keep yourself warm while being accessible for nursing?! I’ll have to research but any tips much appreciated.</p> <p>@Amorini: I’m glad to hear you didn’t have to have ‘the routine’ as we are so all over the place and I feel pressure to get him sorted out because we’ve had such a lovely, easy routine for 3 years with our DS1! It’s exhausting thinking of new combos of things to try and frustrating when it seems to work then suddenly doesn’t. Glad to hear your LO outgrew it and it got better. I’m leaning towards it’s just how he is and I can’t compare him to our older and we just have to take it one day at a time. Thanks for your reply! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/6-week-old-sleep-help-commiseration#post-2852473 Mon, 22 Oct 2018 01:06:18 +0000 Amorini 2852473@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That’s great that he’s healthy! My DS was very much like your baby. Not a sleepy infant unless it came to nursing or the car. So I broke the rules and nursed to sleep until 8 or 9 months. No sleep training needed once he was ready to sleep through the night (around 1 year). He liked to be held through naps (daycare amazingly obliged) and otherwise just hang out and check out the world. Looking back, he had/has a fast metabolism and likes cuddling so it fits, but it was a very tiring experience trying to figure it out. We didn’t co-sleep but we room-shared until around 8-9 months as well. Early on (like where you’re at now!) I just gave up trying to schedule or find a routine or follow tips or advice that worked for other babies. Once I just took it as it came, we fell into little routines that still changed a bunch over the first 6-8 months. But I could tell we were falling into the new routine by day 3, and that saved my sanity a bit, knowing we found our new normal. Swaddling sometimes worked but it wasn’t magic. Around 3-4 months, we did a wearable blanket (Zippity Zip, which he still wears in the big size) and that helped a lot, but again wasn’t magic. I did let him sleep in the PNP and swing but I have since learned it’s not safe to do so. I think he just liked the coziness like being held! Good luck, mamma! Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/6-week-old-sleep-help-commiseration#post-2852470 Sun, 21 Oct 2018 23:18:30 +0000 bhbee 2852470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My second was a poor sleeper from the start. We also ended up co-sleeping a lot (especially after the first chunk in the crib) but the days got better around 3m I think (he never napped well but he got easier to deal with). Until then I wore him a LOT. And eventually we sleep trained and it helped him self soothe better (we probably waited too long, he was 13m, but still helpful) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/6-week-old-sleep-help-commiseration#post-2852469 Sun, 21 Oct 2018 23:01:29 +0000 LemonJack 2852469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m so sorry! Our first DD was like this and it’s so, so hard. Like @CatchAFallingStar said, bedsharing saved us. It was something I said I would never do, but it was the only way we got any sleep. </p> <p>I don’t remember all of the timing well, but I do know that the worst of it was around the 4-8 week range, and then she gradually became less fussy and easier to console. She was never a great sleeper as a baby or toddler, but it was manageable after she became less fussy.</p> <p>Good luck, mama. ❤️ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/6-week-old-sleep-help-commiseration#post-2852461 Sun, 21 Oct 2018 21:13:41 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 2852461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our first daughter was that way. Bedsharing is the only thing that worked for me. Not the popular choice, but sometimes babies just want/need to be close to their mommy. This isn’t advice, just what worked for me. Good luck! It’s rough. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/6-week-old-sleep-help-commiseration#post-2852456 Sun, 21 Oct 2018 20:39:51 +0000 muffinsmuffins 2852456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS2 is 6 weeks old and is so vastly different from our first son. I’m not sure what I’m looking for from this post but maybe some commiseration or tips/tricks? Sorry it’s long!</p> <p>He gets his best nap of the day in the afternoon, often 2-3 hours in the crib or more if being held. Early night from say 9/10 pm to 1/2 am I can usually get him to sleep 2-3 hour chunks. The rest of the time (4am to 12pm, 5pm to 9 pm) is total crap. Cat naps, crying a lot, who knows what. We are conscious of not keeping him awake too long but it seems to not matter at all. We swaddle, white noise, rock, bounce on the ball, paci, etc for 15 mins only to have him wake up 10 mins after putting him down every time. He does this all morning and early evening long. Sometimes he wants to just sit in his bouncer and kick around and gets mad if we try to put him to sleep even if it’s been 1-1.5 hrs of awake time. It’s been worse this week (6 week spurt?) but has been going on for a week or two before that. We are trying to just go with the flow but it’s starting to wear on us that nothing we try seems to work for any length of time/consistency.</p> <p>I should say he’s gaining weight super well and growing like crazy. DS1 was a sleepy preemie who we had to keep awake to feed so this is uncharted territory. I’ve read a few posts and haven’t really found anything that relates...it seems split between people having their baby on a wonderful schedule and others are going insane, no in between. </p> <p>What worked for you at this age? If this sounds familiar, when did it start to even out for you? </p>