https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 12 May 2026 10:40:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/65-year-old-pregnant-with-quads/page/2#post-2142084 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 12:24:26 +0000 808love 2142084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am biased by personal experience. My 65 year old mom still snowmobiles, enjoys a Harley ride and camping in Alaska, while my 94 year old grandma is still mentally and physically in good shape to fly and live independently. This makes me unafraid for this woman and child's future. Some old people have great mental toughness and some families have such support that it is totally possible. I am also sensitive when judging outliers just because they are out of the norm. I've heard many average aged people say one of the reasons that they had another kid was because their little one wanted a sibling. Not sure that is the actual final deciding factor when it really comes down to it, for this lady or others, but it is a selfless sounding reason. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/65-year-old-pregnant-with-quads/page/2#post-2141726 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 08:31:01 +0000 Chillybear 2141726@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travellingbee: @Foodnerd81: Oh 100% agree.... i would probably have my mother committed if she brought this up to me, now. I think there is way more to the story that what is being reported, whether its mental instability, medical research, celebrity/attention seeking behavior, etc.... I'm just trying to be optimistic and hope that someone is supporting her for the babies' sake because she is not invincible and even if she lives to see them into adulthood putting her at 83-84, she may not have the mental capacity to to make legal or medical decisions for them someone else may have to assume that role. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/65-year-old-pregnant-with-quads/page/2#post-2141712 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 08:23:01 +0000 travellingbee 2141712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: yeah my mom is 63 and in good health (except for some back issues) and when they watched LO for a long weekend, they were run ragged by the end. They needed a good week to recover. I can't even understand this. It seems like the pregnancy alone would be extremely risky for her health. It kind of seems like maybe she craves the publicity?? She made headlines with the last one too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/65-year-old-pregnant-with-quads#post-2141700 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 08:14:05 +0000 Foodnerd81 2141700@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Chillybear: my mom just turned 65. If she asked me if I would be the guardian of children she was trying to have via fertility treatments, I would be very concerned for her mental health and would try to get her to see a therapist, not an RE. Of course, her youngest child is 26, not 9, but she and my dad together are exhausted after taking care of one grandchild for a day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/65-year-old-pregnant-with-quads#post-2141688 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 08:07:48 +0000 twodoghouse 2141688@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As a mother of multiples myself (albeit, HALF the number she is getting here!) I will just say that I hope they are good eaters, good sleepers, and some of those other 13 children are going to be around a long time to help her. I cannot even imagine having four at a time at my age (30), let alone what that'd be like at 65. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/65-year-old-pregnant-with-quads#post-2141683 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 08:05:03 +0000 MrsSCB 2141683@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with PPs that this seems irresponsible. I also think it seems pretty unethical of the clinic or doctor who performed the fertility treatments. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/65-year-old-pregnant-with-quads#post-2141671 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 07:58:53 +0000 Chillybear 2141671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: I both agree and disagree with your response. I do think that the mother should not be having a child to satisfy her youngest child's desire to be an older sibling. As it stated in the article the mother has 7 grandchildren making her youngest an aunt several times over. She could have steered her youngest towards bonding with the younger children in the family, if this pregnancy was truly motivated by her child's desire for a younger sibling. </p> <p>As for the age difference, I was 9 when my only sibling was born and at 20 my parents put it in their will that i would be his legal guardian if something were to happen to them. Now I dont expect this woman to put all 4 babies in care of her 9 year old but i assume that one of the older siblings would be responsible for them if something were to happen to the mother. And I hope this woman was responsible enough to include that person in the discussion before she started the process of becoming pregnant at 65. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/65-year-old-pregnant-with-quads#post-2141652 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 07:41:25 +0000 meredithNYC 2141652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Eh... I try not to be judgmental in these situations, but this is a giant nope to me. Honestly, it sounds to me like there is some kind of mental illness at play here - it's just too weird to have this extreme desire to keep reproducing when the risks are so high AND you already have 13 children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/65-year-old-pregnant-with-quads#post-2141632 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 07:20:30 +0000 looch 2141632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This leaves me wanting more information, honestly...and that makes me uncomfortable. It's as if I have to go through a list of criteria to decide if it's okay or not, and that makes me mad at myself because who am I to judge? Age, method, family structure, finances, etc are all so variable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/65-year-old-pregnant-with-quads#post-2141591 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 06:29:24 +0000 blackbird 2141591@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yellowbird: I echo this thought. So you're having a baby because your 9 year old wants a sibling? OKay then. Is that 9 year old going to raise that baby in 10-15 years? Because it's not an infeasible option! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/65-year-old-pregnant-with-quads#post-2141565 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 04:28:40 +0000 jaguar 2141565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If this was done via fertility treatments, as some articles imply, it makes me feel quite angry at the clinic(s) involved.</p> <p>There are protocols in place for reasons. This is pretty insane.</p> <p>Also.... my IF hat on here, but there are so many women struggling for a child, and then we have articles like this floating around.... it makes me sad how the world works sometimes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/65-year-old-pregnant-with-quads#post-2141543 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 00:49:57 +0000 808love 2141543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think she loves kids, wants kids, is able to raise kids. Any of us might drop dead tomorrow or have a baby with health issues so I don't like playing judge with a crystal ball. There are mature people who are great parents and younger ones who are really not capable and vice versa so who is to say. Even if she does die early, the offspring will not be alone as they have tons of family- brothers and sisters to take care and look out for them. I like the fact mentioned that she is not listening to others' opinions on such a decision. It really is an individual choice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/65-year-old-pregnant-with-quads#post-2141530 Sun, 12 Apr 2015 23:33:45 +0000 AprilFool 2141530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>To follow on from what @Applesandbananas: said in that I assume a 65 year old father would be having a child with a younger woman usually, which means they would hopefully have at least one parent for a good portion of their life. Two 65 year old parents isn't a whole lot of life expectancy for a new child. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/65-year-old-pregnant-with-quads#post-2141527 Sun, 12 Apr 2015 23:19:26 +0000 birdofafeather 2141527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with PPs who said this is reckless and irresponsible. And I think it's irresponsible for the doctors who helped her too. @Mrs. Jacks: there is a huge difference between 40s and 65! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/65-year-old-pregnant-with-quads#post-2141498 Sun, 12 Apr 2015 21:54:19 +0000 Applesandbananas 2141498@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think men having kids without fertility interventions at 65 is completely different than using donated sperm, donated eggs, and fertility medication to get pregnant as a woman at 65. Not to mention, a 65 year old father wouldn't be carrying the pregnancy or going through childbirth and postpartum recovery.</p> <p>Crazy is all I can say. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/65-year-old-pregnant-with-quads#post-2141491 Sun, 12 Apr 2015 21:40:44 +0000 Foodnerd81 2141491@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@catomd00: fair point- I guess it could have been two and they split into identical twins? Is that right? I still think it's not responsible all around but that part may be moot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/65-year-old-pregnant-with-quads#post-2141476 Sun, 12 Apr 2015 21:20:05 +0000 yellowbird 2141476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's weird. I also find it strange her motivation was that her 9year old wanted a sibling...that just makes no sense to me! Maybe something got lost in translation </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/65-year-old-pregnant-with-quads#post-2141471 Sun, 12 Apr 2015 21:16:03 +0000 yoursilverlining 2141471@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is insane. 65 is a totally different ballgame from 40's or even early 50's. I'm all in favor of empowering "older" pregnancies, but 65 is just insane. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/65-year-old-pregnant-with-quads#post-2141469 Sun, 12 Apr 2015 21:04:03 +0000 simplyfelicity 2141469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmmm...I think it's interesting that she waited nearly ten years to have more children because she wanted "playmates" for her daughter. Ten years is a huge deal. I can't help but wonder what her true motivation is, especially since she has already had so many children.<br /> Ultimately, it's her decision and my opinions have no bearing on that but it seems really unwise. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/65-year-old-pregnant-with-quads#post-2141466 Sun, 12 Apr 2015 20:55:07 +0000 Emilia80 2141466@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs.Pinecone316: wow! Just wow! Speechless. sorry but 65????? No words, I better keep them to myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/65-year-old-pregnant-with-quads#post-2141465 Sun, 12 Apr 2015 20:54:48 +0000 Synchronicity 2141465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it seems pretty damn irresponsible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/65-year-old-pregnant-with-quads#post-2141463 Sun, 12 Apr 2015 20:53:02 +0000 loveisstrange 2141463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, Im gonna join the "this is batshit" club. I think it's insane and kind of selfish. And frankly, irresponsible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/65-year-old-pregnant-with-quads#post-2141460 Sun, 12 Apr 2015 20:49:43 +0000 mrsjyw 2141460@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: I think the part that gets me though is that she already has 13 children. I think that's a completely different scenario than a ftm in her 40s/50s. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/65-year-old-pregnant-with-quads#post-2141457 Sun, 12 Apr 2015 20:48:05 +0000 mrsjyw 2141457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely irresponsible in my opinion. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/65-year-old-pregnant-with-quads#post-2141455 Sun, 12 Apr 2015 20:46:07 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 2141455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Who am I to judge? Whatever makes her happy as long as she's aware that the end result could be that she leaves her other kids motherless. </p> <p>There was a 70 year old woman who gave birth to twins a couple years ago.</p> <p>I used to be more judgey about this stuff and then I became a mom in my 40's and know lots of other women doing it. I have one friend who is currently pregnant at 50. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/65-year-old-pregnant-with-quads#post-2141454 Sun, 12 Apr 2015 20:43:09 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 2141454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not gonna be politically correct. It's weird and it's reckless, IMO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/65-year-old-pregnant-with-quads#post-2141450 Sun, 12 Apr 2015 20:36:57 +0000 blackbird 2141450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think this is pretty damn crazy and stupid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/65-year-old-pregnant-with-quads#post-2141414 Sun, 12 Apr 2015 19:52:58 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2141414@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It is her choice and clearly she is doing what she wants, but I do think this is too much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/65-year-old-pregnant-with-quads#post-2141400 Sun, 12 Apr 2015 19:38:18 +0000 anbanan15 2141400@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs.Pinecone316: I wonder if it has something to do with the story getting translated from other languages? Who knows what form of fertility treatment was actually used, but clearly something was used. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/65-year-old-pregnant-with-quads#post-2141398 Sun, 12 Apr 2015 19:35:26 +0000 catomd00 2141398@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: I may have missed it, but did the article specify 4 embryos were implanted? I can't imagine it would be the case, since she said 4 was a surprise...</p> <p>In the end my feelings are, it's her body and her choice. </p>