https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 01:41:27 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/8-month-old-with-really-bad-seperation-anxiety#post-814937 Wed, 29 May 2013 09:48:17 +0000 twinmama 814937@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The intense separation anxiety only lasted about a month here. It's hard though. I read that if you leave the room, you acknowledge it with them, rather than just disappearing, and it helps them learn that you are going and coming back. Sometimes that backfired on me, but overall it helped my kids. Little routines helped too, like if I needed to go put one to sleep, I always did the same thing with the other - jumper, sippy, kiss on the head and I'll be right back. And I just started taking them to the bathroom, kitchen, etc with me and putting them at my feet. And eventually it passed. At 10 months they'll easily be handed off to people they barely know unless they are really hungry or tired. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/8-month-old-with-really-bad-seperation-anxiety#post-814915 Wed, 29 May 2013 09:41:13 +0000 googly-eyes 814915@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are at 8.5 months and going through the same thing except LO also likes daddy. It's hit or miss with others but I noticed she will go to others if we aren't in the room. We are just sort of letting it run its course. She cries but if I have to put her down, I have to do that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/8-month-old-with-really-bad-seperation-anxiety#post-814914 Wed, 29 May 2013 09:41:09 +0000 jmarionsmith 814914@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my almost 9 month old has pretty bad separation anxiety as well. it takes a loooong time for him to warm up to anybody, if he does at all. honestly, i can't stand the thought that he doesn't feel safe so if he freaks out i immediately respond.</p> <p>i'm sure some people think it's better for lo to get used to not being with mommy but they're still little babies and they KNOW mommy is going to keep them safe. personally, i just try to enjoy the extra snuggles. it won't be long when they don't want us to hold them at all.</p> <p>as for the bathroom issues, i've definitely taken lo to the bathroom with me and just let him play with his bath toys while i take care of business! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/8-month-old-with-really-bad-seperation-anxiety#post-814880 Wed, 29 May 2013 09:31:04 +0000 bunnylove08 814880@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We went to see her grandparents this weekend and she was hot and cold with them. I made sure to stay next to her and asked that they did not grab or touch her (let her come to you) and she was okay but there are times she just has a melt down. I'm going to try with the delayed response. Sometimes momma needs to go to the bathroom. I hope this phase will pass soon. </p> <p>any other tips and advise are welcome </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/8-month-old-with-really-bad-seperation-anxiety#post-814859 Wed, 29 May 2013 09:25:22 +0000 Maysprout 814859@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It was a thankfully somewhat shortlived phase for us. Unfortunately it hit right around Christmas when everyone wanted to see her. It was probably lasted about a month. I still tried to hand her off to people but if she got really upset I'd come get her. I just tried to make sure she had lots of things she enjoyed when someone else was around her and that I was interacting with them too before I left. But honestly I think it was just time that made her get over it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/8-month-old-with-really-bad-seperation-anxiety#post-814845 Wed, 29 May 2013 09:22:17 +0000 Weagle 814845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've been through two really bad bouts of separation anxiety. I would respond immediately for about a week, then gradually delay my responses until the phase ended... And that's all it is, a phase! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/8-month-old-with-really-bad-seperation-anxiety#post-814808 Wed, 29 May 2013 09:09:23 +0000 bunnylove08 814808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my DD is a very happy baby. She does not cry when she goes to the babysitter's house will stay with DH when he picks her up after work but when I get home all hell breaks loose. She wails for me, will not let DH hold her or touch her even thought they spent 2 hours playing together. At night she only wants me. Oh and I cannot even leave the room without her crying</p> <p>What can I do to help with separation anxiety? Please help! </p>