https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 19 May 2026 19:00:08 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-challenge-to-stop-complaining-for-21-days#post-1226357 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 09:51:17 +0000 QueensBee 1226357@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Gosh, I complain a lot even though I try to be keep perspective of the fact that I have a pretty good life. 21 days with no complaining is HARD! I think I'm going to try to complain *less* this month but sheesh, some things are just so outrageous you need a little complain! :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-challenge-to-stop-complaining-for-21-days#post-1226331 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 09:43:06 +0000 pui 1226331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBoecksMom: Yeah I was thinking it'd make a great New Years Resolution! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-challenge-to-stop-complaining-for-21-days#post-1224895 Mon, 18 Nov 2013 16:47:42 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1224895@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like this idea - I think I complain too much... but more as a conversation starter... if that makes any sense? I'm willing to try it. It'll be a great jumpstart to a New Year's resolution :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-challenge-to-stop-complaining-for-21-days#post-1224862 Mon, 18 Nov 2013 16:34:57 +0000 Boogs 1224862@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This would be so hard, but would probably be really good for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-challenge-to-stop-complaining-for-21-days#post-1224858 Mon, 18 Nov 2013 16:33:04 +0000 pui 1224858@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@illumina: I don't know lol! My first reaction is that that is still complaining. I guess they'd rather you say something positive that happened or maybe something like "Well, it's almost over now!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-challenge-to-stop-complaining-for-21-days#post-1224204 Mon, 18 Nov 2013 13:44:04 +0000 mrsbookworm 1224204@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I might wind up complaining about not being able to complain, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-challenge-to-stop-complaining-for-21-days#post-1224060 Mon, 18 Nov 2013 13:03:13 +0000 illumina 1224060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pui: I'd like to try this- but I'm sure I wouldn't do well! What happens if you've had a bad day and someone asks how your day was? Is it complaining if you tell them it was bad? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-challenge-to-stop-complaining-for-21-days#post-1223973 Mon, 18 Nov 2013 12:38:45 +0000 Weagle 1223973@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ha. DH and I were just talking about trying to force this on SIL and BIL while we're visiting for Christmas. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-challenge-to-stop-complaining-for-21-days#post-1223854 Mon, 18 Nov 2013 12:06:53 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1223854@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is a really neat idea! I really find my mentality is much better when I focus on positive things and just try to ignore/not dwell on the bad things. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-challenge-to-stop-complaining-for-21-days#post-1223725 Mon, 18 Nov 2013 11:19:31 +0000 Happygal 1223725@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love it and would try! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-challenge-to-stop-complaining-for-21-days#post-1223714 Mon, 18 Nov 2013 11:15:12 +0000 cmomma17 1223714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pui: I love this idea! I actually struggle a lot with negativity and negative thinking. I have used positive affirmations in the past, but I really love this bracelet concept as well.<br /> I am such a huge whiner though! I'm tired, my head hurts, I'm so stressed, I hate my job, wah wah wah. :) </p> <p>If you're up for this challenge I would totally join you! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-challenge-to-stop-complaining-for-21-days#post-1223685 Mon, 18 Nov 2013 11:03:46 +0000 pui 1223685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: I think that does count for this challenge. I guess it could be modified to not count those types of situations, but I think the point is to stop <i>all</i> complaining.</p> <p>On another part of the site it talks about some of the usual reasons we complain and it outlines why it's pointless and could be replaced with something else much more beneficial. For example, your complaining to your DH in that scenario is really more just part of the conversation. By voicing that complaint you're not helping anything. You could say instead "I'm going to take some advil when I get home to help my headache" or "Could you please get a cold cloth for me? I want to lie down to fix my headache". Neither of these is a complaint, it's saying how you are solving the problem. You can see how it's got a much more positive spin than just "my head hurts". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-challenge-to-stop-complaining-for-21-days#post-1223679 Mon, 18 Nov 2013 11:01:21 +0000 Mae 1223679@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hm… I think that I could do this pretty easily EXCEPT as it relates to work. I don't know if it would be healthy for me to bottle all that up haha. Even with that I try to limit my complaining but with my job/boss I feel like if I didn't tell SOMEONE about whatever crazy he was plaguing me with I might explode :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-challenge-to-stop-complaining-for-21-days#post-1223675 Mon, 18 Nov 2013 10:59:56 +0000 sorrycharlie 1223675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Now does it count if you say "this is so stressful," "my head is killing" etc if you're not *whining*? I mean, if you have a headache and notice it I usually touch my head and note that my heads killing me as part of a conversation with dh or something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-challenge-to-stop-complaining-for-21-days#post-1223669 Mon, 18 Nov 2013 10:58:34 +0000 sorrycharlie 1223669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh gosh. This would be SO HARD. I'm willing to try though!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-challenge-to-stop-complaining-for-21-days#post-1223576 Mon, 18 Nov 2013 10:28:09 +0000 pui 1223576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lindsay05: Yeah I am definitely not betting on it being easy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-challenge-to-stop-complaining-for-21-days#post-1223497 Mon, 18 Nov 2013 10:06:16 +0000 looch 1223497@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha, no way could I do this...nor would I want to! Complaining is a sport for me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-challenge-to-stop-complaining-for-21-days#post-1223478 Mon, 18 Nov 2013 10:03:32 +0000 Lindsay05 1223478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are in a deep freeze here so I complain how cold it is probably hourly! This would be very difficult! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-challenge-to-stop-complaining-for-21-days#post-1223471 Mon, 18 Nov 2013 10:01:57 +0000 pui 1223471@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lawbee11: Well the point is you're not out, you just start over. ;) I guess the goal is to make you more aware of just how much you complain about things. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-challenge-to-stop-complaining-for-21-days#post-1223460 Mon, 18 Nov 2013 10:00:43 +0000 lawbee11 1223460@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: LOL! Agree. If "I'm so tired" counts as complaining I'd be out the first day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-challenge-to-stop-complaining-for-21-days#post-1223454 Mon, 18 Nov 2013 09:59:07 +0000 bushelandapeck 1223454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be interested in trying this! I try not to complain too much as it is but I think it is something I could definitely improve upon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-challenge-to-stop-complaining-for-21-days#post-1223444 Mon, 18 Nov 2013 09:57:02 +0000 mrs. wagon 1223444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>oh God. this would be harder for me than not spending any money. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-challenge-to-stop-complaining-for-21-days#post-1223437 Mon, 18 Nov 2013 09:56:18 +0000 pui 1223437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I was randomly browsing the internet yesterday and somehow stumbled upon <a href="http://www.acomplaintfreeworld.org/">this website</a>.</p> <p>To sum it up, the challenge is to stop complaining for 21 days in a row. You wear a bracelet and every time you (or someone else) catch(es) yourself complaining about something you switch the bracelet to the other wrist. The goal is to keep the bracelet on one wrist for 21 days in a row.</p> <p>I find myself complaining a lot. I complain about things big and small all the time. I'm intrigued by this idea. I can't imagine it would be easy at all and I anticipate a lot of mess ups but I want to give it a try!! I bet it could make me a much more positive person overall.</p> <p><i>To "Complain" is defined as "to express pain, grief, or discontent." Surely, it makes sense to express pain, grief or discontent occasionally but most people do so constantly. In so doing, they are talking and thinking about what they do not want in their life and, thereby, attracting more pain, grief and discontent. Instead, think and talk about what you are grateful for. Talk about what you DO want and not what you DON'T want.</i></p> <p>I wonder if I would have to separate myself from Hellobee for a while too, since I also do a lot of complaining on here lol.</p> <p>What do you think? Would you try something like this? </p>