https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 25 Apr 2026 19:02:30 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-child-helps-your-career-if-youre-a-man-nytimes-article#post-1851876 Sat, 06 Sep 2014 18:26:46 +0000 yoursilverlining 1851876@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not surprised at all. There seems to be a wide spread assumption that men with families will work harder, because they have a family to support. Needless to say, the same assumption is hardly ever made about women with families. Such frustrating, outdated ways of thinking. Same with the often-made (even on here) assumption by both women, their partners and employers that mothers will be the ones most likely to take time off when LO is sick, for doctor's appointments, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-child-helps-your-career-if-youre-a-man-nytimes-article#post-1851818 Sat, 06 Sep 2014 17:35:47 +0000 blackbird 1851818@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha ironically, I've been promoted since having E, but DH has not. I got great reviews on how I "didn't skip a beat". I'm grateful my boss isn't a dick about this stuff. When 75% of women are in the work force, I just don't get it. A small percentage rely soley on the husband's income </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-child-helps-your-career-if-youre-a-man-nytimes-article#post-1851792 Sat, 06 Sep 2014 17:08:55 +0000 Sapphiresun 1851792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not surprising at all. </p> <p>I actually have a coworker who was required to attend a job interview for her husband making partner in his company because they wanted a "family man", and had all sorts of questions about what she would do to promote this to their clients. Yes, in 2014....</p> <p>And for sure the "mommy track" is alive and well. My husband and I work together at the same company. If he has to leave early to attend to the baby it's "amazing how great of a dad he is to want to be involved in her life". If I need to leave on time my commitment to my tasks and whether I'm really up to being a working mom is questioned. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-child-helps-your-career-if-youre-a-man-nytimes-article#post-1851791 Sat, 06 Sep 2014 17:07:09 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1851791@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Applesandbananas: I don't think all of it is about flexibility. Maybe the perception of flexibility, but honestly I have two kids and work harder and longer than my guy colleagues as do many moms who are terrified of being mommy tracked or being perceived as slacking. There's a higher bar set for us with a great excuse for less pay... But it's an excuse that doesn't hold water.</p> <p>Studies on academic physicians show that women make less when controlling for all factors including time spent at work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-child-helps-your-career-if-youre-a-man-nytimes-article#post-1851785 Sat, 06 Sep 2014 16:58:51 +0000 Applesandbananas 1851785@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not shocked and in my experience, myself included, mothers have taken pay cuts in exchange for flexibility and other perks that make being a working mother more feasible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-child-helps-your-career-if-youre-a-man-nytimes-article#post-1851775 Sat, 06 Sep 2014 16:40:12 +0000 mrsjazz 1851775@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Some quotes from the article:</p> <p>"One of the worst career moves a woman can make is to have children. Mothers are less likely to be hired for jobs, to be perceived as competent at work or to be paid as much as their male colleagues with the same qualifications."</p> <p>"Ms. Budig found that on average, men’s earnings increased more than 6 percent when they had children (if they lived with them), while women’s decreased 4 percent for each child they had. Her study was based on data from the National Longitudinal Survey of Youth from 1979 to 2006, which tracked people’s labor market activities over time. Childless, unmarried women earn 96 cents for every dollar a man earns, while married mothers earn 76 cents, widening the gap."</p> <p><a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2014/09/07/upshot/a-child-helps-your-career-if-youre-a-man.html?referrer&#038;_r=0&#038;abt=0002&#038;abg=0" rel="nofollow">http://www.nytimes.com/2014/09/07/upshot/a-child-helps-your-career-if-youre-a-man.html?referrer&#038;_r=0&#038;abt=0002&#038;abg=0</a> </p>