https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 22 Apr 2026 18:23:30 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-child-is-a-person-not-a-project-ease-up#post-672112 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 23:22:07 +0000 luckypenny 672112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sobbing (( big exhale )) and full of gratitude and compassion . What a beautiful story </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-child-is-a-person-not-a-project-ease-up#post-672111 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 23:20:38 +0000 mrsjazz 672111@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@scg00387: It's hard to read. I actually started it and stopped it a couple of times because it's so devastating, but I think it's important for me to read it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-child-is-a-person-not-a-project-ease-up#post-672108 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 23:15:54 +0000 mrskc 672108@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm crying reading that. Thank you for sharing. I do my best to try and live in the moment with my son but it can be hard on some days! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-child-is-a-person-not-a-project-ease-up#post-672081 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 22:31:50 +0000 immabeetoo 672081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjazz: I'm not sure when ill be able to handle reading the book... My emotions are on high postpartum! I don't know why but I think somewhat frequently about what if my LO were diagnosed with cancer etc Obviously no one ever expects it or thinks it would happen to their baby... In some twisted way I feel like if I think about it, it won't happen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-child-is-a-person-not-a-project-ease-up#post-672079 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 22:31:27 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 672079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjazz: omg yes... i found the article - <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2011/10/16/opinion/sunday/notes-from-a-dragon-mom.html?_r=2&#038;amp" rel="nofollow">http://www.nytimes.com/2011/10/16/opinion/sunday/notes-from-a-dragon-mom.html?_r=2&#038;amp</a>;</p> <p>it was one of the most beautiful, heart-wrenching pieces i had ever read. i had just given birth to my daughter that year (that's how i remember it was 2 years ago), and i remember promising myself to always be as present as possible with her.</p> <p>thanks for the reminder with this thread... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-child-is-a-person-not-a-project-ease-up#post-672076 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 22:29:41 +0000 mrsjazz 672076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. High Heels: Yeah, she did. She hadn't lost him yet though. I think that was back when she coined the phrase "Dragon Mom." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-child-is-a-person-not-a-project-ease-up#post-672074 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 22:28:38 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 672074@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjazz: did she write an article for the NY times too? i remember reading an article about 2 years ago and i was sobbing. it was about a mom who lost her son to tay-sachs and i could've sworn his name was ronan. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-child-is-a-person-not-a-project-ease-up#post-672022 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 21:33:43 +0000 mrsjazz 672022@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@scg00387: I'm reading Emily's book now. I don't have words to describe how I feel about it yet--raw, emotional, beautiful, sad, guilt--I guess those are some of them. So many lessons to be learned about parenting from those who are parenting without the luxury of thinking about their children's futures. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-child-is-a-person-not-a-project-ease-up#post-672011 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 21:23:15 +0000 immabeetoo 672011@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjazz: I bookmarked this thread to re-read that quote regularly - but I thought I'd share this article if anyone else wanted to read more. <a href="http://www.cnn.com/2013/03/27/living/parenting-emily-rapp/index.html?hpt=hp_c2" rel="nofollow">http://www.cnn.com/2013/03/27/living/parenting-emily-rapp/index.html?hpt=hp_c2</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-child-is-a-person-not-a-project-ease-up#post-619341 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 22:29:53 +0000 immabeetoo 619341@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Beautiful sentiment and good reminder. Terrible tragedy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-child-is-a-person-not-a-project-ease-up#post-619332 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 22:27:06 +0000 googly-eyes 619332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Beautiful article. Being in the moment is something I have really been working on since becoming a mom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-child-is-a-person-not-a-project-ease-up#post-619313 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 22:15:27 +0000 mrsjazz 619313@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Yes, it's hard to be present when there's always stuff to do. I'm trying to learn how to be more present now that I have a child...I feel like time is going to fly by. But my child is alive and well and I want to enjoy all these moments. </p> <p>She wrote another essay about what not to say to a grieving parent that was really good. I'm sorry for her loss, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-child-is-a-person-not-a-project-ease-up#post-619282 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 22:01:25 +0000 Arden 619282@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've heard their story. I bawled through about two hours afterwards.</p> <p>Beautiful quote. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-child-is-a-person-not-a-project-ease-up#post-619280 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 22:01:02 +0000 mrbee 619280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjazz: That was a beautiful article!!</p> <p>I'm working really hard at being more present. It's hard when there are always dishes and chores to do! Our best time is when we read books at bedtime... and when we hang out first time in the morning! My favorite part of the day..,</p> <p>Sorry for your professor's loss... :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-child-is-a-person-not-a-project-ease-up#post-619269 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 21:56:56 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 619269@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Beautiful. Thanks for sharing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-child-is-a-person-not-a-project-ease-up#post-619259 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 21:53:09 +0000 mrsjazz 619259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"What I’d like to say to the parents of healthy children: A child is a person, not a project. Ease up. Chaos will find all of us eventually, but in the moment, how can you be fully present? How can you love your child purely and simply, with no agenda, without a goal, without a net?"</p> <p><a href="http://www.today.com/moms/grieving-moms-advice-rest-us-love-purely-take-it-easy-1C8709317" rel="nofollow">http://www.today.com/moms/grieving-moms-advice-rest-us-love-purely-take-it-easy-1C8709317</a></p> <p>Don't know if any of you have read any of Emily's writing about losing her son to Tay-Sachs. I've been following her blog/story since she started it when her son, Ronan was diagnosed. He died on February 15. Emily has taught me so much about parenting and being in the moment with my LO. </p> <p>(full disclosure, Emily was a professor in my grad school program). </p>