https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 25 Apr 2026 19:01:37 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-friend-just-shared-this-on-fb#post-2762104 Wed, 26 Jul 2017 15:30:15 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2762104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: thanks for the recommendation, just this morning my son was asking me for the millionth time if I have a penis and if our girl dog has a penis and I said "no, girls don't have penises." I thought to myself that's probably not the right answer but I don't know what the right answer is! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-friend-just-shared-this-on-fb#post-2762021 Wed, 26 Jul 2017 11:59:47 +0000 Finfan 2762021@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: thanks for the recommendation. That's sounds really interesting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-friend-just-shared-this-on-fb#post-2761900 Wed, 26 Jul 2017 07:35:13 +0000 erinbaderin 2761900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>On a related note, if anybody is looking for a great podcast, check out How to Be a Girl - a mother of a 7 year old transgender girl (at 4 she told her something had gone wrong in her tummy to make her come out a boy) talking about her experiences raising her daughter. It's fascinating and really makes me think about how I talk about gender to my boys - not so much in the sense of teaching them about transgender people just yet, but more along the lines of what I say when B says "But why is he a boy?" and my instinct is to say "He just is, he was born a boy." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-friend-just-shared-this-on-fb#post-2761877 Wed, 26 Jul 2017 05:42:26 +0000 Adira 2761877@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't really get how any of the advice sexualizes toddlers. I think the Planned Parenthood advice is great! But obviously that article is biased against Planned Parenthood to begin with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-friend-just-shared-this-on-fb#post-2761856 Tue, 25 Jul 2017 22:32:05 +0000 youboots 2761856@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I mean I'm teaching my kid bodily autonomy at 2.5. While I certainly am an ally to the LGBT community I don't really see myself teaching my kid about gender identity as a 3 year old if it does not come up organically. While I don't see anything wrong with anything written this seems really advanced/complex. At 3 I'll be working on kindness/inclusiveness, how to improve her art skills, early literacy. @lawbee11: agreed on that point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-friend-just-shared-this-on-fb#post-2761852 Tue, 25 Jul 2017 21:54:02 +0000 catomd00 2761852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the recommendations are spot on, personally. I am trying to teach my kids to refer to people as they/them/person and not assign a gender identity to them. It's hard though since I'm one person vs the many things they see and hear every day. I just correct my toddler if she says look at that man and say, yes I see that person over there, etc. she is 3 and already talks about how she can't do/wear/play with things because they're for boys. I know she didn't pick that up from anyone who regularly interacts with her. It was really sad and a little scary to be honest, so I have definitely tried to combat that more actively. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-friend-just-shared-this-on-fb#post-2761848 Tue, 25 Jul 2017 21:22:21 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2761848@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aaaand as for your friend, I hope that means she didn't buy pink or blue for any babies. 🙄🙄 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-friend-just-shared-this-on-fb#post-2761846 Tue, 25 Jul 2017 21:19:49 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2761846@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kemma: I admittedly have done very limited reading on this specifically related to preschoolers, thanks for the link. I just briefly skimmed (will read the rest when I have a minute) and nothing seems all that earth shattering in 2017 (but I can see some of my family members rolling their eyes. If my current pregnancy continues and baby is born healthy we'll have two girls and a boy and I have to admit I worry sometimes that if he is gay/trans/whatever, my family will give him an extra hard time because he's supposed to be the precious boy. 🙄) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-friend-just-shared-this-on-fb#post-2761822 Tue, 25 Jul 2017 20:24:26 +0000 skipra 2761822@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What is wrong with telling a preschooler not to masturbate in public? Are we supposed to tell them they will go blind? Lol<br /> "Abortion mill" ugh and I wonder what the people who agree with these sentiments would feel about 7 million additional people in this country that need support/tax payer dollars. I really hate reading crap like this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-friend-just-shared-this-on-fb#post-2761820 Tue, 25 Jul 2017 20:22:35 +0000 lawbee11 2761820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no problem with any of that. And I would not call a toddler playing with his penis in the bathtub masturbation 🙄 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-friend-just-shared-this-on-fb#post-2761816 Tue, 25 Jul 2017 20:06:42 +0000 Kemma 2761816@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2littlepumpkins: I'm in New Zealand and I feel like the advice is pretty consistent with what I've read from other sources!</p> <p>And just for reference, here's the link to the actual website:</p> <p><a href="https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/parents/preschool/how-do-i-talk-with-my-preschooler-about-identity" rel="nofollow">https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/parents/preschool/how-do-i-talk-with-my-preschooler-about-identity</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-friend-just-shared-this-on-fb#post-2761814 Tue, 25 Jul 2017 19:57:55 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2761814@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know if I would get into explaining that not all boys have penises in preschool. Maybe, maybe not. I haven't but it hasn't been an issue at this point. Otherwise.. not all that out there imo! Seems pretty normal? But I'm in CA. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-friend-just-shared-this-on-fb#post-2761810 Tue, 25 Jul 2017 19:47:01 +0000 Kemma 2761810@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>And went on a rant about sexualising toddlers and going to hell if you have an abortion 🙄🙄😳 </p> <p><a href="http://www.dailywire.com/news/18969/planned-parenthood-issues-guidelines-how-talk-pre-amanda-prestigiacomo?utm_source=facebook&#038;utm_medium=social&#038;utm_content=062316-news&#038;utm_campaign=benshapiro" rel="nofollow">http://www.dailywire.com/news/18969/planned-parenthood-issues-guidelines-how-talk-pre-amanda-prestigiacomo?utm_source=facebook&#038;utm_medium=social&#038;utm_content=062316-news&#038;utm_campaign=benshapiro</a></p> <p>Personally I think the advice is actually pretty ok and have no issue with it! The article I linked to is arse (and obviously skewed strongly in one direction) but I have take no issue with what PP has written!</p> <p>Thoughts? </p>