https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 16 Apr 2026 07:17:01 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-stupid-but-desperate-question-about-bedtimes#post-460332 Fri, 21 Dec 2012 13:25:58 +0000 mrs. wagon 460332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumn865: I hope she starts cooperating for you!! I knwo the holidays are tough to keep a schedule but try as hard as you can to give her a chance to fall into a bedtime schedule/routine... and every day that goes by she's getting older and more mature and able to go to sleep and stay asleep better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-stupid-but-desperate-question-about-bedtimes#post-460295 Fri, 21 Dec 2012 13:08:35 +0000 autumn865 460295@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bluebonnet: for the last week or so we did our bedtime things earlier knowing that she would be tired around 7:30 and hopefully learn that this is bedtime and not nap time. But it has been a royal disaster with her ending up completely skipping that sleep and ending up with DH and I trying to get her to bed for hours upon end :( We have a white noise machine keep the lights low and keep things very non-stimulating but she just fights it :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-stupid-but-desperate-question-about-bedtimes#post-460282 Fri, 21 Dec 2012 13:03:36 +0000 autumn865 460282@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: thank you for the hope! For a little bit she started to push her bedtime earlier on her own to 8:30-9ish so hopefully we will start to have that happen again. Also with the holidays and various family things going on this is a tough time for schedules. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-stupid-but-desperate-question-about-bedtimes#post-460168 Fri, 21 Dec 2012 12:00:57 +0000 Bluebonnet 460168@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You mentioned she is really tired at 7:30. Are you trying to put her in the crib then? Or are you starting her bedtime routine then?</p> <p>LO sleeps much better when we get her in her crib before she gets overtired. As soon as she starts yawning, we know she needs to get in her crib ASAP or she'll fight sleep all night.</p> <p>Try putting LO to bed a little earlier. I know it sounds crazy, but I swear it works. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-stupid-but-desperate-question-about-bedtimes#post-460149 Fri, 21 Dec 2012 11:52:22 +0000 sooz 460149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When we made the transition to an earlier sleep time, we did it a little bit at a time...maybe, 15-20 mins earlier every other day. At the same time, we'd also push back his nap times and make sure that his last nap ended at least 2.5 hours before his bedtime. It was hard keeping him up that long and he'd get really cranky, but that was the only way to get him to sleep earlier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-stupid-but-desperate-question-about-bedtimes#post-460099 Fri, 21 Dec 2012 11:23:48 +0000 Freckles 460099@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Here is a helpful post from a while back: <a href="http://www.hellobee.com/2012/09/26/sleep-training-noelle-part-i/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hellobee.com/2012/09/26/sleep-training-noelle-part-i/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-stupid-but-desperate-question-about-bedtimes#post-460065 Fri, 21 Dec 2012 11:02:28 +0000 Freckles 460065@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So is she awake from 8 to 11? Or is she up longer since you're starting the bedtime routine at 8? I think that's a pretty long awake time, and it could be that she's so overtired that it's hard for her to go to sleep. I remember at the 4 month mark, she couldn't stay up longer than 2 hours. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-stupid-but-desperate-question-about-bedtimes#post-459949 Fri, 21 Dec 2012 10:09:42 +0000 mrs. wagon 459949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bao: Honestly, LMW was kind of like this since she was born. She had a stretch of a week or two around 3 months where her sleep was better, then it went to hell again. She's been sleeping well (down for good immediately, no crying wakeups, sleeping through the night) for a little over a week now. She's 22 weeks old now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-stupid-but-desperate-question-about-bedtimes#post-459938 Fri, 21 Dec 2012 10:04:14 +0000 Bao 459938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: oh you give me hope! So how long would you say it lasts? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-stupid-but-desperate-question-about-bedtimes#post-459896 Fri, 21 Dec 2012 09:40:57 +0000 mrs. wagon 459896@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This was us. We had to go back in every night until she was finally down for the night around 9:30 or 10:00pm every night. And then she'd still wake for a feeding at 3 or 4am. We were going out of our minds. One night I was literally in the bedroom with her for six hours straight. Some nights I'd hold her for an hour straight, hoping she'd stay asleep and fall into a deep sleep, but she'd wake screaming in my arms right at that 60 minute point. I swear you could set your watch to her.</p> <p>A few times we "gave up" and would let her stay up (or bring her back down stairs). But eventually she just outgrew it. She did best when we would go somewhere during the day. It really exhausted her and she'd go down easier, have fewer wakeups, and be down for good earlier than the usual 9:30pm. I think when they're in that 4 month regression they just CAN'T sleep unless they are just completely exhausted from being frantic and overtired. It's rough but we got through it... she just turned 5 months and she goes down every night between 6 and 7 (we start the bedtime routine between 5:30 and 6), almost never needs us to go back in, and sleeps through the night. If she wakes earlier than 5:30am (which is rare), she lays there and squwaks for a bit, then falls back asleep on her own. </p> <p>There is light at the end of the tunnel...!!! We were literally EXACTLY where you were just less than a month ago. Just do whatever you need to get through the regression. There were 3 of us to rotate who would go in and rock her back to sleep at her hourly wakings, so we just kept on with the early as possible bedtime and just went back in every 45 or 60 mins. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-stupid-but-desperate-question-about-bedtimes#post-459889 Fri, 21 Dec 2012 09:33:46 +0000 autumn865 459889@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have posted several times about my 16 week old waking every hour and I think she isn't sleeping good because of the four month regression and maybe because she is overtired. We have gotten the advice on here and by friends to move up the baby's bedtime. Which sounds like a good idea but how do you do that???</p> <p>Throughout the day she follows an every 2-3 hour or so cycle of sleep, eat, wake. So we have been trying to move up bedtime to the earlier sleep cycle time. It all sounds good but instead of her going to bed at 7:30 when she is tired, my DH and I rock her and try to put her down THREE to FOUR HOURS until she is in an absolute frenzy and passes out. She then goes on after all that work to wake every hour through out the night.</p> <p>How do you move up a bedtime? We're about to give up and keep doing what we did before and starting bedtime routines around 8 and then bed at 10/11. At least then we got to spend some time together as a family instead of battling all night :( </p>