https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 20 May 2026 13:10:00 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-very-generous-giftdo-i-need-to-get-over-myself#post-466363 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 11:55:13 +0000 Mrs. Train 466363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With baby hand me downs I think it is perfectly acceptable to say no. I think if you just explain that the crib and the stroller where the one thing you were really looking forward to shopping for and getting that most people would be fine with it. Some people really look forward to nursery decor, some strollers, some clothes. I think your friends will understand if you just explain. They ere probably just trying to help. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-very-generous-giftdo-i-need-to-get-over-myself#post-466341 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 11:45:44 +0000 chrispygal 466341@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have you thought about looking into buying a replacement seat for the bugaboo? We were gifted a used Uppa Baby Vista after we had already purchased our stroller and I'm so glad we took it. We purchased the replacement wheels and while the seat looks fine, we could have easily purchased a new seat which is less than $100. Just a thought. You could also accept it and still buy a second stroller. We use both as the Vista is big and deluxe and our other stroller, the Britax B-Agile, is very compact and easy to fold. </p> <p>That being said, I think there is nothing wrong with wanting to pick out the stroller you want. If you find the Bugaboo is close to something you'd like, then I would definitely accept the stroller personally. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-very-generous-giftdo-i-need-to-get-over-myself#post-466340 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 11:45:27 +0000 eeh 466340@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I assure you they're not losing sleep over whether or not you accept their stroller so you two shouldn't either. I would approach it in a self deprecating way and say I know how silly and hormonal it is (IT'S NOT!!!) but I am really looking forward to us buying our stroller together. I'm sure someday I'll look back and laugh but I think we'll pass. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-very-generous-giftdo-i-need-to-get-over-myself#post-466339 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 11:45:23 +0000 Rescuemom10 466339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Dont feel bad. Get what you want.<br /> I too have taken tons of hand me downs. I have one item I was really excited about and wanted a "certain one" (baby swing). Well my best friend offered me her used one which I didnt like or want (I honestly think its ugly). She kind of seemed like "why would you not want it" but seriously...its just not the one I wanted so I passed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-very-generous-giftdo-i-need-to-get-over-myself#post-466306 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 11:30:31 +0000 mrbee 466306@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When we had Charlie, I probably would have turned down the stroller too!</p> <p>Our priorities have shifted recently though, and we're really embracing frugality as a way of life (mostly as a value to pass on to our kids). Given that, I'd probably accept the stroller and put the money aside for books and educational stuff.</p> <p>But it's a very personal decision, and you shouldn't feel bad either way I think! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-very-generous-giftdo-i-need-to-get-over-myself#post-466287 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 11:21:36 +0000 brownie 466287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that you talk with them about it. Let them know you are still investigating strollers and if you want the bugaboo you will let them know. Also, see if there is someone else that may need and pass it along (if it was gifted and not just borrowed). Or sell it on craigslist (joking). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-very-generous-giftdo-i-need-to-get-over-myself#post-466265 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 11:14:37 +0000 ladyfingers 466265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You're not being a brat. There were a few things I was excited about buying new as well. I would just say, "You know, that is such a generous offer but I did tons of research and we already picked out our stroller -- but thanks!" Makes it sound like you pretty much already have one :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-very-generous-giftdo-i-need-to-get-over-myself#post-466256 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 11:10:13 +0000 London Mama 466256@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't worry about it, if I offered a used item to someone I would never get offended if they turned it down and i am guessing you wouldn't either if the roles were reversed?</p> <p>Just politely decline and then go shopping for your dream stroller and dont think twice about it, even if you purchase the exact same model as you were offered. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-very-generous-giftdo-i-need-to-get-over-myself#post-466249 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 11:08:52 +0000 Foodnerd81 466249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would say to shop and pick out what you want. Then if you do decide you want a bugaboo consider taki g theirs ( but don't feel as saying no if it is worn, wrong color, whatever). If you decide something else just tell them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-very-generous-giftdo-i-need-to-get-over-myself#post-466235 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 11:01:00 +0000 hilsy85 466235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>EVen if you do end up getting a bugaboo (aka the same stroller) a 3 year old stroller from a fellow NYC-er has probably seen a lot of use. I would definitely want a new stroller. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-very-generous-giftdo-i-need-to-get-over-myself#post-466224 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 10:58:39 +0000 babynumber1 466224@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had this same thing happen with a high chair, but i went ahead and accepted it. It has been 7 months and I still glare at the high chair. I even secretly plotted to break it to be able to buy a new one. </p> <p>I really wish they hadn't given it to us, but I'm too cheap to buy a new one knowing that we were given a perfectly good one. </p> <p>Don't do it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-very-generous-giftdo-i-need-to-get-over-myself#post-466197 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 10:43:31 +0000 BKCaribBaby 466197@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Trailmix: You do! (wink, wink) :) </p> <p>Thanks, everyone! I feel a little better that I am not totally crazy. DH wants to finally deal with this in the next few days, so I will be reading off your answers to him. :) Thanks again! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-very-generous-giftdo-i-need-to-get-over-myself#post-466155 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 10:01:53 +0000 jedeve 466155@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Unless you are planning on buying the exact same stroller, I wouldn't fret about saying no. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-very-generous-giftdo-i-need-to-get-over-myself#post-466144 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 09:56:54 +0000 Trailmix 466144@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bkcaribbaby Ok, here's an idea: You accept the stroller and then pass it along to us, haha!!<br /> Just kidding, I honestly think if you just tell your friends exactly what you said above (thank you so so much for the generousnoffer but you were really looking forward to picking out the stroller), I doubt they would be in anyway insulted.</p> <p>Also, I realized not too long ago that I know you! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-very-generous-giftdo-i-need-to-get-over-myself#post-466140 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 09:55:29 +0000 Rubies 466140@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You can decline and say that you had already been gifted with a new stroller that you had been eyeing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-very-generous-giftdo-i-need-to-get-over-myself#post-466133 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 09:48:39 +0000 Bao 466133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with everyone, just politely decline and say you have your heart set on another one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-very-generous-giftdo-i-need-to-get-over-myself#post-466124 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 09:42:30 +0000 LuLu Mom 466124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just thank them for the offer but say you have had your eye on one that you are planning on getting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-very-generous-giftdo-i-need-to-get-over-myself#post-466120 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 09:41:00 +0000 Sammyfab 466120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with jojogirl. You don't sound like a selfish brat, and it IS really exciting shopping for new things for your baby. I think if you choose the correct words to decline their offer then no one will take offence. </p> <p>Heck, we didn't accept a free purple bumbo in perfect condition because our LO is a boy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-very-generous-giftdo-i-need-to-get-over-myself#post-466119 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 09:40:51 +0000 MamaMoose 466119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just say "thank you for the generous offer but we are looking forward to picking out a new stroller for our little one". That's not weird or awkward at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-very-generous-giftdo-i-need-to-get-over-myself#post-466118 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 09:39:53 +0000 pelikila 466118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would politely decline the offer. Say something along the lines of "We really appreciate your generous offer and it is so sweet of you to think of us but I've had my heart set on a specific stroller. I am sure there are a lot of people that would really benefit from such a great offer and we can't thank you enough for thinking of us first." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-very-generous-giftdo-i-need-to-get-over-myself#post-466115 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 09:39:43 +0000 Mrs. Pen 466115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's funny because the bugaboo is my dream stroller haha! If you have something else in mind it's not offensive to not accept something free. Just say that you already had another one in mind you were thinking about. Not a big deal! I would think its werd of someone took it personally when you don't accept free handouts :-P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-very-generous-giftdo-i-need-to-get-over-myself#post-466112 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 09:38:06 +0000 JoJoGirl 466112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Meh, I think if you were to say "I can't afford my own but I don't want someone else's second-hand crap, can't someone buy it for us?", I'd tell you to get over yourself. But if you a) want a new one and b) can afford it, go for it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-very-generous-giftdo-i-need-to-get-over-myself#post-466110 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 09:34:25 +0000 BKCaribBaby 466110@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi, all. Warning: This is long...</p> <p>Please let me start out by warning you all that I feel like an ungrateful idiot 1st time Mom as I write this post. I'd be happy to hear some perspective and perhaps a kick in the pants, if necessary. Here's the story:</p> <p>I am pretty low-key when it comes to baby gear. I've already accepted lots of cute used clothing and other used items gladly. If anything, I've had a hard time making up a registry because we hope to acquire things slowly as we live in a small apartment. I'm also hoping to get quite a few things used after the baby is born. </p> <p>With that said, I have only been super excited about three baby gear items we would get new: the crib, the stroller and the baby carrier(s) [NOTE: We are not putting a crib or stroller on our registry]. I guess everyone has their things, and those are my "things" :) Couple friends of ours (DH is very good friends with the DH) have offered us their 3 year-old Bugaboo stroller and any accessories they have. It's in okay condition, and still seems to work fine. Since we live in NYC and we walk a lot, a stroller is a pretty important item for us. </p> <p>The problem? I kind of really wanted to pick out my own stroller because it's one of the few things I was really excited to pick out. I know that there is the money aspect. Bugaboos aren't cheap, and it's an extremely generous offer (which frankly makes me a bit uncomfortable). To be fairly honest, the money isn't necessarily an issue for us. If we wanted to buy a new stroller, Bugaboo or not, we could. </p> <p>I feel like we will look like ungrateful idiots not accepting the stroller. Why not accept something like this and save money, right? Yet much of me doesn't want to accept it. It was one of the few things I was excited to go shop for. I feel like I am in a weird position because these people are friends and because it's a free, expensive item. If we don't accept, it will just look bad. They have been pretty nonchalant about the whole thing, so it's really been DH and me wringing our hands about this. </p> <p>I know most of you would probably accept the stroller. Am I being a brat? Do we need to just accept the stroller, and I just need to get over myself and call it a day? What would you do?</p> <p>Thanks for reading all of this. :) </p>