https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 05 Apr 2026 04:41:56 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-weird-what-if-question#post-308105 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 13:12:10 +0000 MaisyMay 308105@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can answer this!</p> <p>My dad was married before my mom, but his first wife passed away. He had previously purchased several plots for family and his first wife was buried three spots from the end. When he passed away, he was buried next to her. When my mom passes away, she'll be on his other side. The headstone is quite long and shows all 3. My mom has been very open about the whole thing, often saying that if his first wife hadn't passed away, she wouldn't have married my dad and my sister and I wouldn't be here.<br /> <a href="http://www.findagrave.com/cgi-bin/fg.cgi?page=pv&#038;GRid=28119917&#038;PIpi=26791833" rel="nofollow">http://www.findagrave.com/cgi-bin/fg.cgi?page=pv&#038;GRid=28119917&#038;PIpi=26791833</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-weird-what-if-question#post-308087 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 13:02:49 +0000 heffalump 308087@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You all are much nicer then I am. I know that I'll be dead and I shouldn't care..... but I want DH to be with me. I told him that it's not till death do we part, he needs to be with me after we die too. I did give him permission to bury his new wife on the other side of him though :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-weird-what-if-question#post-308005 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 12:26:09 +0000 dagret 308005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH's grandpa just passed away about a month ago, and was cremated. DH's grandma is still living and will be buried. While they were planning he tried to get her to say she'd put his urn in the casket with her. "No way," she said. "I need my own space for once!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-weird-what-if-question#post-307980 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 12:13:24 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 307980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dagret: hahahahhaha....ok NOT funny. But it is. </p> <p>Good question....he AND she should respect the decision and keep him next to the original wife....but maybe second wife can go on the other side. Makes sense...</p> <p>But honestly...when you're dead: you won't care! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-weird-what-if-question#post-307917 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 11:40:20 +0000 Rescuemom10 307917@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My Grandfather was cremated but had his ashes burried. He has some in the grave with my Grandmother and has some in a different location where he will be with my Step Grandmother....kinda weird he is in "two spots"...yeah.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-weird-what-if-question#post-307854 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 11:18:07 +0000 tororojo 307854@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always wondered how this works, with burial situations and widows/widowers...I have no idea what I would want to do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-weird-what-if-question#post-307691 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 10:15:14 +0000 dagret 307691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In truth though, we both want to be cremated, and will probably buy 1 plot to put us both in. Though he wants me to sprinkle his ashes all over creation. (seriously, ski resort here, beach there...) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-weird-what-if-question#post-307687 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 10:14:01 +0000 Running Elley 307687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd say her on the other side? I wouldn't really mind because it makes sense. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-weird-what-if-question#post-307668 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 10:04:46 +0000 mrs. bird 307668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dagret: OMG, I just busted out laughing in the library! </p> <p>If they had kids &amp; we didn't, I'd be ok with them being together so their kids could visit them both. Otherwise, we're getting cremated! He's mine bee-otch! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-weird-what-if-question#post-307626 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 09:48:57 +0000 Mrsbells 307626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldnt really care. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-weird-what-if-question#post-307600 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 09:40:05 +0000 LuLu Mom 307600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know, I guess it would depend on how long we were married before I passed vs how long him and his new wife are married. But I won't know the difference, so I guess it's more for our children's sake? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-weird-what-if-question#post-307581 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 09:31:15 +0000 Cherrybee 307581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh no! I typed that then I saw the "to mantle or not to mantle" thread and nearly spat my drink out over the computer!!! Oh dear.... chuckle! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-weird-what-if-question#post-307578 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 09:29:54 +0000 Cherrybee 307578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rachel: Wow, what a terrible situation. That poor guy. </p> <p>@Looch: Kept on the mantle!!! A-haha!! That made me chuckle!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-weird-what-if-question#post-307569 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 09:27:10 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 307569@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Minnie_Girl: that's my thought too. We both want to be cremated though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-weird-what-if-question#post-307565 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 09:25:29 +0000 sorrycharlie 307565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lol the responses here are making me laugh..I have to agree with the I'm dead, who knows position! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-weird-what-if-question#post-307554 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 09:22:40 +0000 Alivoo01 307554@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rachel: Wow!</p> <p>Like others said previously, since I'm dead, I wouldn't know the difference. Plus, if he remarries and has been with the other woman (that was just odd typing it out!!) for a LONG time, then I wouldn't mind I suppose... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-weird-what-if-question#post-307530 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 09:11:42 +0000 Shutterbug 307530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This happened when my aunt died! She had a partner (sounds weird to say "boyfriend" with adults) for about 10 years and then he died suddenly. She purchased two plots together and one headstone for the two of them. </p> <p>When she died suddenly, she had been with her next partner for over 20 years, and he had no idea about the double plot - in fact, he didn't find out about it until they were in the limo on the way to bury her! The arrangements were all pre-paid and her kids handled it... they had to break it to him and he was so devastated :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-weird-what-if-question#post-307522 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 09:06:15 +0000 mrsjyw 307522@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LOL same thoughts as @andrea -- i won't know the diff~ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-weird-what-if-question#post-307516 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 09:04:06 +0000 looch 307516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, if you pre-purchased your plots, second wife is SOL.</p> <p>No idea what we're doing, I'll probably be cremated and demand to be kept on the mantel. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-weird-what-if-question#post-307513 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 09:03:14 +0000 LemonLong 307513@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband was sealed to his ex-wife in a Mormon ceremony, so I always tease him that if he dies he'll end up with her for eternity anyways. She's remarried too now, so I assume that she put in for an unsealing, but we never got notice of it.</p> <p>If I am dead, I probably won't notice if he's not buried next to me. It would depend on how long he and his new wife were together, like if I died at 35 and he ended up remarrying and spent 40+ years with his new wife, I couldn't fault him that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-weird-what-if-question#post-307509 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 09:00:39 +0000 Cherrybee 307509@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd haunt the b1tch!! Only kidding - I'd be dead anyway so I wouldn't mind. </p> <p>The question is - what would the kids do about it all?? What a tough question! Or - what if second wife is still alive and it's in his will to be buried with first wife. OMG - drama! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-weird-what-if-question#post-307482 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 08:50:29 +0000 MrsBrewer 307482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He won't remarry ;-) I'm in denial. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-weird-what-if-question#post-307435 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 08:19:15 +0000 Minnie_Girl 307435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wife #2 is buried on his other side? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-weird-what-if-question#post-307434 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 08:18:00 +0000 Andrea 307434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I dunno, I am dead! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-weird-what-if-question#post-307414 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 07:48:49 +0000 pelikila 307414@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not an issue for me because I want to be cremated and my husband wants to be buried. We weren't going to be "together" anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-weird-what-if-question#post-307405 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 07:40:42 +0000 dagret 307405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Bitch gets cremated. Problem solved. Just kidding. </p> <p>Kinda. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-weird-what-if-question#post-307401 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 07:39:12 +0000 heffalump 307401@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What if you died before your DH. Then your DH remarried. You had planned to be buried together but his new wife wants to be buried with him. What happens then? </p>