https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 09:20:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ability-to-close-your-own-threads/page/3#post-1050868 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 22:34:54 +0000 tequiero21 1050868@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I say unlimited is good within reason. I don't think u should have to waste time closing threads. I don't mind people having differing opinions, but there are some people out there who come out and say, how dare you have your opinion or observation or whatever? People get catty and I think being able to close it would be great in at least those situations. Also, people post the same questions sometimes, so why not be able to close old threads? I don't think u should have to explain yourself about why you want the thread closed. Maybe have something programmed that detects one user closing out too many threads, although I don't see why anyone would do that. I think a limit like @bluestripped bee mentioned sounds reasonable, if people are worried about all these closed threads. Maybe hostesses can have unlimited since they need to start tons of threads. Some sites automatically close threads if there have been no responses for months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ability-to-close-your-own-threads/page/2#post-1050584 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 19:59:31 +0000 BSB 1050584@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: I can absolutely agree with your statement. I think people can disagree and still be valuable to this site. But rare instances where people can't see other points of view can be very hard for our site. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ability-to-close-your-own-threads/page/2#post-1050537 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 19:39:50 +0000 Boogs 1050537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I couldn't agree more with @Mrs. High Heels. </p> <p>The sheer number of requests for thread closures will be a big job for someone as the site grows, so I'm all for making someone's job easier. At the same time, I don't imagine that this is a feature that would get abused and because of that, I believe the community should be treated as adults who can handle this privilege. I am fully confident in Mr. and Mrs. Bee, and I have no doubt that they would happily reevaluate this topic if it became a problem. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ability-to-close-your-own-threads/page/2#post-1050356 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 17:40:36 +0000 Dapple Grey 1050356@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Kind of random.. but One of the things I really value about HB is that it is not like wedding bee in terms of the community feel. No offense to the WB, but I got a little put off by the whole hostess/moderator policing, and the blurred lines in terms of their abilities, then preferences and interpretations in regards of the TOS. I don't see HB anywhere near this, but sometimes when these threads pop up I feel an uneasy vibe.</p> <p>Anyways, I think its nice to have some adult conversation and having the chance to self regulate. I think its wonderful that we can have the ability to remove sensitive material upon request. Id be down for either option- change or no change, just as long as it doesn't change the community feel! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ability-to-close-your-own-threads/page/2#post-1050300 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 17:09:11 +0000 sunny 1050300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I totally agree with @mrsjazz: about the thread belonging to the community at some point, vs. belonging to an individual poster. I really do like some of the discussions that happen and it bugs me when threads disappear for no reason... especially when I've contributed to them and I'm interested to hear opinions other than my own.</p> <p>I also agree with @Penny Lane: that maybe Hostesses could have the ability to close threads to take the burden off of @mrbee:. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ability-to-close-your-own-threads/page/2#post-1050278 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 16:55:19 +0000 matador84 1050278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't read through pp, but I have mixed feelings on closing threads. I don't think it would be used all that much, but I don't usually HB until after work and I would selfishly be bummed if a whole bunch of threads closed before I could post I guess. BUt, I do think its a nice feature to have if you're "over" a post you started. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ability-to-close-your-own-threads/page/2#post-1050274 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 16:52:42 +0000 mrbee 1050274@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Penny Lane: We're holding off on building a moderator program just yet... but that's almost definitely something we'll add over time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ability-to-close-your-own-threads/page/2#post-1050265 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 16:50:31 +0000 Penny Lane 1050265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: I wonder if it would be possible to give a hostess or two the ability to respond to requests to close threads, instead of just you and Mrs. Bee? That way the responsibility isn't all on you two, but there's still another level to go through before a thread can be closed? Just a thought :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ability-to-close-your-own-threads/page/2#post-1050229 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 16:33:27 +0000 mrsjazz 1050229@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrskc: I do see your point, especially with more personal threads. I guess whoever suggested the possibility of a closing statement with threads would work for the members who are left feeling abruptly shutdown. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ability-to-close-your-own-threads/page/2#post-1050184 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 16:13:15 +0000 mrskc 1050184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjazz: I get that. I guess I'm thinking more from the stand point if you post something about your personal life and you're feeling attacked (not necessarily name calling). I don't see what's wrong with wanting the thread closed. I also think sometimes people close threads when things get off topic (maybe the case with the Miley thread? who knows). I've only had one thread closed and maybe it was silly of me to request it, but I felt a lot of anxiety over the thread. I just couldn't take seeing one more comment on it and I felt relieved when it was closed. And now I'm more careful about threads that I start. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ability-to-close-your-own-threads/page/2#post-1050183 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 16:13:12 +0000 anonysquire 1050183@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: this is the Internet... Not your moms house. People are bound to disagree with you. That doesn't make this community any less supportive. The people who ask to have threads closed always seem to come back. I've often seen threads closed here that did not have any snark comments or anything, just differing opinions which I think is wrong. But by all means, if you can't handle different opinions don't post a controversial question! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ability-to-close-your-own-threads/page/2#post-1050170 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 16:08:00 +0000 anonysquire 1050170@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: thanks for getting me and not blowing my comment out of proportion :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ability-to-close-your-own-threads/page/2#post-1050151 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 15:57:40 +0000 mrbee 1050151@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for all the feedback! I really liked this idea:</p> <p>"If there were the ability to mark off why you want the thread closed without bumping it, it would be great." - Bluestriped Bee</p> <p>"I like the idea of closing your own threads and this may be difficult to code, but I think you should have to write a comment at the end before closing." - Mediagirl</p> <p>Maybe there could be a pulldown or something? I really like that... like someone said, we in the community get attached to threads and so it feels reasonable that if someone closes a thread, it would be great if they let us know why.</p> <p>Plus on a personal level, it might stop people from thinking that I'm closing threads... when it's really our users asking for thread closings!</p> <p>As for the current system working well... I thought it worked ok too and it hasn't seemed like too much work! But traveling overseas has made it more clear to me how much work is involved... so if there's a way we could allow you guys to close your own threads (but with safeguards), then that would be wonderful. Definitely something we want to think through though...</p> <p>We're about to get on a plane to Manila in a few hours, so we will discuss this stuff en route! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ability-to-close-your-own-threads/page/2#post-1050143 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 15:53:15 +0000 mrsjazz 1050143@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrskc: I think there's a difference between someone attacking or name-calling OP and posters just disagreeing or offering countering viewpoints than the OP...which from some recent posts that were closed seem to be the latter.</p> <p>@bluestriped bee: You're right, it is great that we have the option to delete and an OP can delete whatever thread she wants to. It just seems lately that there have been a few threads closed and/or deleted because the OP just didn't like the responses. How do you build and maintain a community when some members seem to only value commentary that validates or is in agreement with their beliefs? But honestly, this is not that serious, I don't know why I'm so gung-ho about it, whatever mrbee &amp; mrsbee decide is fine because I don't run this place. </p> <p>@mrbee: I guess I'm saying we should keep it as is, even though I may not agree with certain policies as they stand. I'm not trying to rock the boat. Maybe if the OP wants a post deleted and you or mrsbee can't get to it right away, than that OP just has to wait! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ability-to-close-your-own-threads/page/2#post-1050140 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 15:52:40 +0000 mrbee 1050140@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I don't mind the extra work of programming a feature like that, but it would be a bummer to do all that work and still end up with a solution with holes in it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ability-to-close-your-own-threads/page/2#post-1050139 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 15:51:52 +0000 MamaMoose 1050139@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: I have to agree with @MsLipGloss:. Certainly the statement by @anonysquire could have been made in a more diplomatic manner, however, her sentiment is correct. I think one of the best parts of this community is that we are able to maintain a supportive environment in spite of different opinions. If you are unwilling to acknowledge any opinion other than your own I don't think this is a place for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ability-to-close-your-own-threads/page/2#post-1050128 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 15:48:07 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1050128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: ok, you stumped me...unless we change how poster replies to the OP are identified. Could you highlight these replies like you have now when the OP replies within the comments section. There would be behind the scenes coding that would allow the highlighted usernames change to AnonyBee. SOL for the instances when users that type the OP username without "correctly" replying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ability-to-close-your-own-threads/page/2#post-1050120 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 15:43:36 +0000 mrbee 1050120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Hmm, what about replies... wouldn't those still be around in the comments on that thread? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ability-to-close-your-own-threads/page/2#post-1050115 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 15:41:02 +0000 BSB 1050115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: Well, as you sigh, I'm shaking my head. You think I'm wrong and I think you're wrong. Guess that's the only thing we can agree on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ability-to-close-your-own-threads/page/2#post-1050108 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 15:38:36 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1050108@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Toot Toot!</p> <p>I posted a great solution IMHO...If an OP would like to close a thread for future comments or delete altogether the user id should be changed to AnonyBee. That user would no longer ve a ssiciated with the post, but v the community can still benefit from the discussion. Call it Ghost Bee Protocol. Boom! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ability-to-close-your-own-threads/page/2#post-1050097 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 15:34:26 +0000 MsLipGloss 1050097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: *sigh* That is the point . . . the OPs requesting threads to be closed because people were posting comments that differed from the OP's opinion/expectation on an issue. We share our differing viewpoints--for the most part--very cordially here. If they can't take the heat . . . . I don't think we need to double-kid-glove-up for anyone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ability-to-close-your-own-threads/page/2#post-1050087 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 15:29:27 +0000 BSB 1050087@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: So all this talk about HB being a great supportive community but yet if you can't take different opinions, you better leave?!? That's the HB community I've grown to love.</p> <p>I don't know why those threads were closed and eventually deleted but MrBee does allow us to delete 3 threads. I think that was very accommodating of MrBee to allow deletions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ability-to-close-your-own-threads/page/2#post-1050081 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 15:25:59 +0000 mrskc 1050081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: I'm with you. I don't see any problem with a poster wanting to close a thread if comments aren't going the way they thought, especially if OP is feeling attacked. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ability-to-close-your-own-threads/page/2#post-1050071 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 15:21:08 +0000 mrskc 1050071@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't really see anything wrong with the current system of asking to have a thread closed. I have not qualms with people wanting to close threads no matter what the reason. People are welcome to start a new thread to discuss the topic. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ability-to-close-your-own-threads/page/2#post-1050058 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 15:17:31 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1050058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't like the idea of closing your own threads. I think the current system works fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ability-to-close-your-own-threads/page/2#post-1050054 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 15:17:08 +0000 babycanuck 1050054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the current system works well </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ability-to-close-your-own-threads/page/2#post-1050051 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 15:15:36 +0000 kjpugs 1050051@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess I don't go into controversial posts too often since I rarely see posts closed. I had to read all the comments here to distinguish between closed and deleted- I think that needs to be clarified. I think you should be able to delete your own post- or I guess close down the comments on it- but I think limited # (or I prefer having to request it) or else I think it would be abused majorly. I also don't see much of a point for closing a thread. I agree with some PP's that at some point it becomes less the OP's thread and more a community discussion, which is why I like the idea of it going through mr/mrs bee. I would be upset if I was involved in a conversation and the thread got closed because of how the OP felt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ability-to-close-your-own-threads/page/2#post-1050040 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 15:11:54 +0000 MsLipGloss 1050040@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: I agree with @Anonysquire (and the pps who stated similar responses albeit slightly more diplomatically). There have been several threads closed lately because (presumably) the OP didn't like the responses and/or was anticipating different responses (I can think of one in particular about finding a receipt for a gun in a farmer's market shopping bag). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ability-to-close-your-own-threads/page/2#post-1050035 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 15:10:04 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1050035@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Yoyo: @mrsjazz: I agree, I think the current system works well and helps users from abusing the system. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ability-to-close-your-own-threads/page/2#post-1050025 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 15:06:51 +0000 BSB 1050025@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: Wow, I just have to say, I'm shocked at your response. "if you can't handle different opinions from your own maybe don't come here?" </p> <p>Just wow! As I pick my jaw off the ground... </p>