https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 26 Apr 2026 03:38:42 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/addressing-aggression-in-young-toddlers#post-2895580 Tue, 27 Aug 2019 13:01:52 +0000 SteelerGirl 2895580@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DesertDreams88: Our daughter just turned 3 and she is just starting to get control of her aggression. We tried everything! But it seems like she just needed time to grow and mature. Just wanted to give you hope that it's still early- and also normal!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/addressing-aggression-in-young-toddlers#post-2895446 Sun, 25 Aug 2019 21:33:38 +0000 DesertDreams88 2895446@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@crazydoglady: Better....ish? Or maybe we just have faster preventative reactions and it doesn't feel as overwhelming now that LO2 is 18m. 10 days of preschool so far and only 1 incident report, so... I don't know if that's good or bad.</p> <p>He straight up bit a kid on the nose and there was no apparent trigger. :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/addressing-aggression-in-young-toddlers#post-2895432 Sun, 25 Aug 2019 17:58:41 +0000 crazydoglady 2895432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DesertDreams88: How are things going now? :goodluck: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/addressing-aggression-in-young-toddlers#post-2895305 Thu, 22 Aug 2019 21:01:14 +0000 periwinklebee 2895305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@foodiebee: Thank you!</p> <p>@DesertDreams88: Thank you, such great advice on these posts! </p> <p>@caitcat: Thank you, LO loves books, I will try this one. Also, and @pinkb: thanks for the helpful other non-verbal strategies to suggest to help him cope with frustration. </p> <p>@jhd: @cake2017: Thank you! They talk a lot about gentle hands at daycare, and maybe something similar could also be applied to biting... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/addressing-aggression-in-young-toddlers#post-2895286 Thu, 22 Aug 2019 16:03:02 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2895286@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DesertDreams88: I could have wrote those all too. My son is 5. Lord help me. Luckily (??) it’s only his siblings. But man it’s exhausting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/addressing-aggression-in-young-toddlers#post-2895285 Thu, 22 Aug 2019 16:01:14 +0000 foodiebee 2895285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Admittedly I don't have experience with this yet, but have you heard of Generation Mindful's Calming Corner? </p> <p><a href="https://genmindful.com/products/time-in-toolkit" rel="nofollow">https://genmindful.com/products/time-in-toolkit</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/addressing-aggression-in-young-toddlers#post-2895277 Thu, 22 Aug 2019 14:16:04 +0000 DesertDreams88 2895277@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p><a href="https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-has-no-guilt-normal-wwyd" rel="nofollow">https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-has-no-guilt-normal-wwyd</a><br /> <a href="https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-energy-spirited-toddlers" rel="nofollow">https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-energy-spirited-toddlers</a><br /> <a href="https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hitting-stage-length" rel="nofollow">https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hitting-stage-length</a><br /> <a href="https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-hitting-newborn-advice-needed" rel="nofollow">https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-hitting-newborn-advice-needed</a><br /> <a href="https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/17m-nonverbal-toddler-biting-pinching-hitting" rel="nofollow">https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/17m-nonverbal-toddler-biting-pinching-hitting</a></p> <p>all from me.... :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/addressing-aggression-in-young-toddlers#post-2895268 Thu, 22 Aug 2019 13:39:40 +0000 caitcat 2895268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We read this book a lot when my older daughter was younger. It's a little more for managing sad/upset/mad feelings than aggression per se...but I loved that it was simple and got through to her when she was really young. A lot of the "feelings" books we read at this stage (she's four and a half now) would have gone waaay over her head any earlier. But this one was a hit from an early age!</p> <p><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Little-Monkey-Calms-Hello-Genius/dp/1479522864/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=calm+down+little+monkey+book&#038;qid=1566498385&#038;s=gateway&#038;sr=8-1" rel="nofollow">https://www.amazon.com/Little-Monkey-Calms-Hello-Genius/dp/1479522864/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=calm+down+little+monkey+book&#038;qid=1566498385&#038;s=gateway&#038;sr=8-1</a></p> <p>Also in the moment she was starting to get aggressive (throwing things, trying to bite herself/me, etc.) we quickly intervened, as calm and composed as we could manage, with the same phrase each time - something like, "No throwing. Let's take a deep breath and...(offer some strategy to use instead)" or "No biting. Let's take a deep breath and...(fill in strategy)." A couple years later now, she's starting to catch herself when she gets riled up and will slowly say to herself, "I"ll take a deep breath, and..." and she chooses one of her own calm down strategies. I really didn't think that day would EVER come back when she was two. :)</p> <p>The biting thing is rough. And it hurts! Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/addressing-aggression-in-young-toddlers#post-2895266 Thu, 22 Aug 2019 13:16:40 +0000 jhd 2895266@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DS2 is a couple months younger. DH has been working on gentle hands with him when he’s not upset so we can reinforce that when he does get upset. They practice touching things gently. And we also loved Daniel Tiger with my older son. Even if he doesn’t get it fully yet the little songs can be so helpful. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/addressing-aggression-in-young-toddlers#post-2895255 Thu, 22 Aug 2019 12:11:15 +0000 cake2017 2895255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@periwinklebee: We have this issue with our 26 month old son. He doesn’t bite but hits or screams when frustrated. I validate his feelings and stay consistent with timeout. It works most of the time and he will go back and say gentle hands because we say that too- or hitting hurts. </p> <p>I’m interested to see what others post though cause it is not easy.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/addressing-aggression-in-young-toddlers#post-2895254 Thu, 22 Aug 2019 11:50:10 +0000 pinkb 2895254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love the Daniel Tiger episode for this. My kids have always really responded well to his teachings.</p> <p>DD when she was little was non verbal for awhile and we would give her the options of clapping or stomping when she was mad. Or even yelling. We would just remind her of those options in the moment. She would bite and pinch others or herself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/addressing-aggression-in-young-toddlers#post-2895252 Thu, 22 Aug 2019 11:31:26 +0000 periwinklebee 2895252@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At 19 months, my LO has started to display some aggressive behaviors when he gets angry. On several occasions, he has scratched/clawed at DH or myself when he was upset. This morning, he managed to get ahold of my wallet and didn't want to give it back, and when I took it back he bit me. He's been bitten twice by other kids at daycare who've wanted a toy, etc he was using, and I don't want him to pick up this behavior. </p> <p>How do you address aggressive behavior by your toddler? Suggestions on podcasts/books/blog posts would also be greatly appreciated! </p>