https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 09 May 2026 23:18:38 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-for-how-to-handle-other-peoples-pushy-kids#post-2923601 Sat, 01 May 2021 18:36:36 +0000 foodiebee 2923601@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@luckygirl: Yes, agreed, definitely would love for them to work it out without my involvement! I like the idea of modeling with my son via our playtime.</p> <p>@Mrs. Carrot: @erinbaderin: @LadyDi: Oh, yes, I wasn't meaning to imply intentional meanness. These first two visits have been unplanned, but we'll definitely bring our own toys next time and see how it goes. And I agree the other boy has learned to hold his own with his older two brothers! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-for-how-to-handle-other-peoples-pushy-kids#post-2923598 Fri, 30 Apr 2021 14:20:04 +0000 LadyDi 2923598@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @Mrs. Carrot: this is developmentally appropriate behavior for an almost two year old, rather than being "pushy." I was going to suggest the same thing, to bring some of your own toys. Generally I feel like kids are always interested in other kids' toys more than their own so I wouldn't be surprised if your neighbor ends up playing with your son's things. </p> <p>Also, speaking as a mom with a not very verbal 22 month old boy with two older brothers, he had to learn very quickly to defend what he wants to play with and snatch back what's his. I do wish one of the parents would step in and try to encourage sharing though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-for-how-to-handle-other-peoples-pushy-kids#post-2923597 Fri, 30 Apr 2021 14:01:08 +0000 erinbaderin 2923597@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Carrot: This was going to be my suggestion as well - encourage your son to bring his own toys over to play with. It's too bad that the boy's parents aren't stepping in but on the other hand, it seems like the other boy is also only two. I think when your son comes to you the best way to respond is maybe "I understand, but it seems like (boy) wants to use his ball right now - let's go get your ball." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-for-how-to-handle-other-peoples-pushy-kids#post-2923595 Fri, 30 Apr 2021 12:44:24 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2923595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Playing a bit of devil's advocate here, if the smaller boy is 2/around 2, they don't yet have a good understanding of sharing and playing with others, so I assume that's the territorial/"mine" age-appropriate behavior you're seeing, not any intentional meanness. And I think this is also common among the youngest kids, who often feel left out themselves. So I'd recommend bringing some of your own toys so that your son can play with them side by side rather than feeling like he's being left out when the toys are taken away, and when something does get taken away from him, explain to him that the other boy may not be ready to share his things and he can play with something else. It's never fun to see this but ultimately it's on the other boy's parents to teach him how to share and the best you can do is approach it from a place of understanding and setting up your son for success. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-for-how-to-handle-other-peoples-pushy-kids#post-2923592 Fri, 30 Apr 2021 10:33:10 +0000 luckygirl 2923592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We tried to teach our son how to say "You can use it when I'm done," or to ask "can I use it when you're done?" We encouraged but didn't force sharing. </p> <p>If it was me, I would try not to be directly involved since as long as the kiddos aren't coming to blows or hitting one another, I would love for them to figure out how to work it out. </p> <p>It sound like your son has good language skills so you could also try playing with him separately and pretend to take a ball away from him. Then teach him to say something like "I'm playing with the ball, you can use it when I'm done." Or practice playing with him to go up to you (pretending to be another kid) and ask if he can play with the ball. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-for-how-to-handle-other-peoples-pushy-kids#post-2923590 Fri, 30 Apr 2021 09:56:11 +0000 foodiebee 2923590@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wasn't really sure how to phrase the title of the post but I know there are parents here who might have some advice on this! Our 22mo DS has just now started interacting with the other kids in our neighborhood (due to covid and being too little). A house down the street from us has three boys, one very close to our son's age and two who are in elementary school. The older boys are very good with our son and happy to share their toys and invite him to throw the ball with them, etc. The younger boy, though, is not. He is not mean to my son, but if my son walks up to something, say a ball, to play with it, the boy will rush over and take it away. My son just quietly hands it over and takes a step back and watches him walk away with the ball with this super sad look on his face. It's heartbreaking! The boy does this with almost anything my son touches, so it happens a lot. The other parents are outside supervising too and see this, but will only stop the older boys and remind them to be attentive around the little boys, but do nothing to stop their youngest from taking things from my son, even if my son has been playing with it for a bit when their son decides he wants it.</p> <p>To be fair, these are not my son's toys. These are all these three boys' things. We are in their front yard playing, not at our house. The other boy is not very verbal from the time I've spent with him, and he is used to pushing his way around his brothers and getting his way with them as the youngest. </p> <p>So my question is, how do I best approach this situation? I want my son to learn to navigate situations confidently. Right now he seems very passive and quiet when these events happen. He will come to me and say "I play with ball? I want to play with the ball" when the ball is taken from him, and I don't know how I'm supposed to respond. It is the other kid's ball. He also didn't care about it until my son touched it. Right now I'm trying to simply redirect him to another toy and hope the boy leaves him alone. </p> <p>Even with this happening, my son is eager to play with "my friends" when he sees them outside. He is enthralled with all the toys these boys have--bikes and a basketball hoop and balls. He receives glowing reports from his Montessori school about his interactions with his classmates. So I guess really this is about how I can best support him during situations like this. Advice?</p> <p>ETA All we adults are vaccinated! And yes, we're nervous about DS being around the other kiddos, but he was so desperate to see them we gave in. Ah, covid anxiety... </p>