https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 14 Apr 2026 07:19:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-needed-nice-way-to-tell-a-friend-to-leave-me-alone#post-2842264 Wed, 29 Aug 2018 06:04:33 +0000 youboots 2842264@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think your latest response was perfect. It gives her some space and time to reflect after some of conflict/out of sync way the relationship has become.</p> <p>I highly recommend therapy. I am very sorry for your loss. While we are all here for you nothing replaces a third party professional. I went to therapy for 4 years and it’s been very positive- I just graduated. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-needed-nice-way-to-tell-a-friend-to-leave-me-alone#post-2842246 Tue, 28 Aug 2018 20:55:37 +0000 Amorini 2842246@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: I just wanted to extend my condolences for your loss. :heart: I lost my little brother almost a year ago and it just leaves you in a different place. I never understood it until I went through it. Loss and grief just put us in a different stratosphere compared to those around us who haven’t had major losses. That kind of friend would not have been someone I could have dealt with in the early days. I have let people back in as time went on and at my own timing. I agree that not making any big friend-changing decisions is a good call. I also hope that you kind find some grief counseling support. There are really good counselors out there who can be easy to work with. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-needed-nice-way-to-tell-a-friend-to-leave-me-alone#post-2842235 Tue, 28 Aug 2018 19:56:22 +0000 irene 2842235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mirage: Thank you dear, I completely agree. Yes I can totally relate to what you went through. Now thinking about it, I think I had a lot of anger in me that I wasn't even aware of when my mom passed away. Hopefully time will heal and all bad things inside of me will fade away eventually. </p> <p>I did send my friend a short text, which was buried in one of my responses above and most ladies here thought it was appropriate. I hope she got it and is really going to stay away. </p> <p>Thank you again all xoxoxo :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-needed-nice-way-to-tell-a-friend-to-leave-me-alone#post-2842098 Mon, 27 Aug 2018 23:34:20 +0000 Mirage 2842098@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Okay so, I have two different sides to this. I have been in your shoes (my father didn’t pass away but our relationship was rocky and parents divorced when I was young, after mom passed away my relationship ship with him dissapeared).</p> <p>I wouldn’t make any drastic decisions right now. I would not send that email. If you aren’t comfortable seeing her I would send her a brief text saying that you aren’t in the right mind frame right now after your mother’s passing but you will reach out when you are. And leave it at that. </p> <p>When my mom passed away I hated the world. I felt isolated, lonely and so so sad. Then I took it out on the people that I thought should have been more present before and after. The reality is that although your life is in a turmoil, they don’t understand. So you are better off taking a step back, but not walking away from the friendship completely. You may change your mind, and now is not the time to make those drastic decisions. Maybe the reason she is reaching out more is because she is worried about you. Sometimes events like this can bring friends back together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-needed-nice-way-to-tell-a-friend-to-leave-me-alone#post-2842080 Mon, 27 Aug 2018 20:09:08 +0000 irene 2842080@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: @muffinsmuffins: @Silva: @crazydoglady: @snowjewelz: @BadgerMom: @Mrsbells: @Mrs. Lemon-Lime: @Littlebit7: Thank you all - I just sent the text message. She replied "OK. No apology needed. Hang in there." So I guess/hope she got it.</p> <p>@pachamama: I don't know. I definitely liked her before 2018. She is (was) a very good friend, and even that our friendship shifted lately she is not a bad person. Her downfall is she does tend to cancel / ditch on people. That's just who she is. I take it better prior to my mom's passing. But now I am not OK emotionally to potentially get ditched / left behind. It's like those trust exercises, you fall backwards and you expect someone to catch you. With her there is a chance she might not be there. It is not on big things but on small things (eg. play dates and what not). I just can not handle falling at the moment. And like @snowjewelz: said, I am not sure what it is, she used to be more sensitive to things like this (ie. my mom's passing), but I just don't feel she cared as much as she would have been before. If she would have reached out passively with a card I think it might be different, but it didn't happen. I don't know. I could be overthinking. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-needed-nice-way-to-tell-a-friend-to-leave-me-alone#post-2842078 Mon, 27 Aug 2018 20:02:31 +0000 jhd 2842078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m so sorry for your loss and all that you are going through. I think you’ve gotten some great advice here regarding how to ask your friend for some space.</p> <p> I just wanted to add that there are grief groups in my community. I wonder if something like this would be helpful for you to connect with others who are going through a similar situation. And if meeting with a therapist is too much to think of since you have to coordinate with insurance maybe this would be another idea to consider. In my area some are connected with churches but others are not. </p> <p>Sending hugs and lots of well wishes. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-needed-nice-way-to-tell-a-friend-to-leave-me-alone#post-2842076 Mon, 27 Aug 2018 19:57:34 +0000 SweetiePie 2842076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First, I’m very sorry for your loss. It’s something I can’t imagine.<br /> I think your latest response to her is Perfect. It’s short and to the point but worded nicely.<br /> If she pushes I would say again “I really am reeling from the death of my mom and I think that the way I need to process it is some time to mysel and with my nuclear family”. And then I really would just ignore any attempts after that. Because If she keeps pushing for plans she clearly doesn’t respect your wishes.<br /> She may just txt and ask how you are and that I think would be OK and probably nice to hear. But if she asks for more plans ✌🏼Bye.</p> <p>FWIW I’m same as you. When I grieve or have a hard time I want to be alone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-needed-nice-way-to-tell-a-friend-to-leave-me-alone#post-2842074 Mon, 27 Aug 2018 19:32:24 +0000 Littlebit7 2842074@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am sorry for your loss and sorry you are going through all of this. Please please seek the help of a grief counselor. Dealing with loss isn’t easy, but sometimes a third party helps. You will need support to get through this (and you will get through it). Hugs to you. Your last response you crafted sounds appropriate, and most importantly, it’s the truth. Heal your self first and if the relationship can be saved, it will heal also with time (and some time apart will likely be a good thing). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-needed-nice-way-to-tell-a-friend-to-leave-me-alone#post-2842060 Mon, 27 Aug 2018 15:25:30 +0000 pachamama 2842060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: Let me ask, do you like her? Do you want to still have a relationship with her? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-needed-nice-way-to-tell-a-friend-to-leave-me-alone#post-2842034 Mon, 27 Aug 2018 13:33:48 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2842034@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: I’m so sorry for your loss and the heartbreak you’re going through. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-needed-nice-way-to-tell-a-friend-to-leave-me-alone#post-2842008 Mon, 27 Aug 2018 12:23:29 +0000 Mrsbells 2842008@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: it doesnt sound like she even realizes that you feel that way about her. I would text and say no to apple picking and that you have a lot going on now and will reach out when you arev ready to hang out. In my mind thats a nice way to say dont call me I'll call you </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-needed-nice-way-to-tell-a-friend-to-leave-me-alone#post-2841999 Mon, 27 Aug 2018 11:32:01 +0000 BadgerMom 2841999@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: I think your latest response is perfect. And actually I think you have a good chance of her taking it ok. You've had two less that stellar interactions with her now (previous ice show post, and dinner) where she could have easily written you off and she's still reaching out to you. I think that is a good sign that if and when you're ready she will still be there as a friend in some capacity. But now is your time to heal and figure things out, many hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-needed-nice-way-to-tell-a-friend-to-leave-me-alone#post-2841973 Mon, 27 Aug 2018 10:00:08 +0000 snowjewelz 2841973@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry for your loss, and my heart breaks for you when you are describing that loneliness of being the only one left. I am thinking of you, and definitely agree that grief counseling will help you work through more of this. </p> <p>Re: your friend, first of all, I will say that I am so passive and non-confrontational that I will prob just say no to apple picking and not reach out. I think based on what transpired before, it's not that bad for you to "ghost" her. I think it's fine for her to have moved on from the friendship, but it seemed like she didn't even really care that your mom passed away and that part irked me. I think whatever you say to her now, she'll probably not take it well (given her track record). I am sorry you are dealing with the double loss of parent(s) and a friendship :crying: Big hugs to you :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-needed-nice-way-to-tell-a-friend-to-leave-me-alone#post-2841956 Mon, 27 Aug 2018 09:14:08 +0000 crazydoglady 2841956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: I think you reworded it perfectly. "The please do not contact me" line was simply because she has ignored your requests in the past. The way I read your most recent text is that you want space in general not just her...and maybe that's true. But you would like to be friends again when you are ready. </p> <p>Like I said, it's all about intention and it's ok for you to not know just yet. I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-needed-nice-way-to-tell-a-friend-to-leave-me-alone#post-2841946 Mon, 27 Aug 2018 08:05:40 +0000 Silva 2841946@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think its fine to ask for space from your friend in a kind way.</p> <p>I would strongly encourage you to reach out to a therapist. Ask the questions you need to about billing, but make it a priority to see someone. There are a couple comments in what you have written that are really pinging my depression radar. At only one month into your grieving process I certainly wouldn't push a diagnosis like this, but getting a therapist on board now could help you manage the grief process and have support in case it does turn into a more clinical depression.<br /> The loss of your mother is a major one, and you deserve support in getting through it. A therapist is a great person to play that role for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-needed-nice-way-to-tell-a-friend-to-leave-me-alone#post-2841939 Mon, 27 Aug 2018 07:47:29 +0000 muffinsmuffins 2841939@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: I think that response is great </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-needed-nice-way-to-tell-a-friend-to-leave-me-alone#post-2841938 Mon, 27 Aug 2018 07:38:53 +0000 Adira 2841938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: I think your latest response sounds good. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-needed-nice-way-to-tell-a-friend-to-leave-me-alone#post-2841936 Mon, 27 Aug 2018 07:35:00 +0000 irene 2841936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@muffinsmuffins: Sigh. I would have appreciated a card.</p> <p>Do you think the new short response I came up with is OK? (please see above) As in, is it clear that please do not contact me until i am ready, or do i need more explicit wording...? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-needed-nice-way-to-tell-a-friend-to-leave-me-alone#post-2841935 Mon, 27 Aug 2018 07:21:02 +0000 muffinsmuffins 2841935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: while it’s not the same thing, friends of ours had a late miscarriage a few years ago and I got a text telling me about it and also that they needed some time and would reach out when they were ready. I totally respected that and didn’t push. We dropped off a card and some food at their door without seeing them and just gave them time. They came back around a couple months later and all was well. If I was your friend, and knowing the loss you’ve experienced, I would feel horrible and want to help but also respect that you told me you need some time and leave if. If she pushes you, you may need to be more direct or firm as in please don’t contact me. If I saw you in a casual setting I would likely just say hello and how are you and not push as well. I don’t think you need to feel awkward, especially when you leave it more vague and more about this difficult time than the specific issues you have with her. I would even prepare something if you run into her: hi, I’m doing ok but still need some time to myself, thanks for asking. And just don’t feel you need to explain more. Good luck. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-needed-nice-way-to-tell-a-friend-to-leave-me-alone#post-2841934 Mon, 27 Aug 2018 07:15:21 +0000 irene 2841934@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How about this:</p> <p>"Thank you for thinking about us. I am going through a hard time still and I need some space. Please make plans without me. I am so sorry. I will reach out when/if I am ready. "</p> <p>Is that clear enough that I would like to be left alone for at least a few months? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-needed-nice-way-to-tell-a-friend-to-leave-me-alone#post-2841933 Mon, 27 Aug 2018 07:00:30 +0000 irene 2841933@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@crazydoglady: Thanks for your honesty :happy: Good thing I posted instead of just sending! I thought "ask that you not contact me during this time" is a little harsh though. You are right, I really haven't decided. I am not in the right state of mind. She has actually been a really good friend until things started to fade. I used to handle it better when I got "stood up", but not right now. Hence I need time. And I understand that it may end the friendship.</p> <p>@Hypatia: I really did try ghosting her, but then 2 weeks later she asked me to do things again, and I feel bad to ignore her. RE: Her inviting me to apple picking - I don't know. That's what we did last year (or two) together. She also "invited" me to spend mother's day together earlier in the year (that's what we did for the past mother days), only that she didn't like the activity we (or I) picked and didn't say it, until the day of the event she just texted me and said she couldn't come because she was organizing the room with her DS. </p> <p>@lamariniere: Thank you dear. I lost my dad 20+ years ago. While that was hard, this is nothing like it-- how I felt I am completely alone on this planet as the people who brought me here were all gone. And thank you so much for your feedback! </p> <p>@muffinsmuffins: Thanks! I like your response. And you are right about not getting into it. I'll take some time later today to think of a reply. The thing is, about a month ago when she asked me to dinner or what not, I did send a short text saying I am hurt, and I needed some time. She said OK, and left me alone for....2 weeks. I just don't know the exact wording so she actually does leave me out of her plans for an indefinite time without hurting her feelings.</p> <p>The tricky part too is, we do have common mom friends and for that small group we do occasionally do get-togethers. The last thing I want is to be awkward when such gathering happens. I just want to step back from the friendship while remain cordial when seeing the group of ladies occasionally, and I don't know how to go about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-needed-nice-way-to-tell-a-friend-to-leave-me-alone#post-2841932 Mon, 27 Aug 2018 06:38:03 +0000 muffinsmuffins 2841932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also wouldn’t send the email. I think you just don’t need to get into it especially when you’re going through a difficult time. If you did And if she sends you a big long response then it just drags it all on more. I would send something like what was said above via text. Just say you’re having a hard time lately and need some space and you’ll reach out to her if/when you’re ready. That you need time to process it on your own with your family. This leaves the ball in your court for you to decide at a later time to bring her back into your life if you so choose. </p> <p>You just don’t need anymore drama in your life at this time so just be simple and don’t overly explain it. You might feel guilty for not elaborating but it’s not the time. You need to just deal with yourself and grieve and not have extra pressure. I’m sorry for your loss and agree you should try to see a counsellor. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-needed-nice-way-to-tell-a-friend-to-leave-me-alone#post-2841924 Mon, 27 Aug 2018 03:16:05 +0000 lamariniere 2841924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry you are going through such a hard time. I lost my mom 10 years ago, and it was a very, very difficult time (my long term bf also broke up with me the same month). I can understand your feelings of wanting to push everyone away and deal on your own. We all grieve differently for death, loss of friends, life changes, etc, so please be kind to yourself. :heart: </p> <p>I think @crazydoglady: has the right idea about asking for space. You can then use the time (or not) to decide if/when you want to continue your friendship. I also would not send the email as is, simply because I don't think you need to go too deep justifying yourself right now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-needed-nice-way-to-tell-a-friend-to-leave-me-alone#post-2841921 Mon, 27 Aug 2018 00:38:50 +0000 Hypatia 2841921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@crazydoglady: I agree with all of this. And I would emphasize that no matter how you word it, there's a 70% chance she's going to take it as the end of your friendship. Which might be okay, given your history, but definitely prepare yourself for that possible outcome. </p> <p>I think a slightly more neutral solution is to not answer her texts at all. There's still a chance she won't want to rekindle the relationship later because you ghosted her, but you might be able to fall back on the (valid) excuse that you were still in the grieving process and needed space (which you've told her). That is, if you decide to be friends. </p> <p>But I would also keep in mind that it's possible she invited you to apple picking because she's trying to be a good friend and help distract you from your pain. While it would be nice if she respected your request for space, the gesture may be sincere and with your welfare in mind. You can see how, if that is the case, getting rebuffed would have extra sting from her point of view. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-needed-nice-way-to-tell-a-friend-to-leave-me-alone#post-2841920 Mon, 27 Aug 2018 00:27:23 +0000 crazydoglady 2841920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly? I would not send that email. I feel like you still haven't decided whether or not you want her in your life because you are digging up the past and talking about hanging out in the future. That's not fair to your friend. You need to decide once and for all what you want and if you don't know yet, that's ok, but that letter reads as wishy-washy, bitter, and self-seeking (which I don't think is your intention.) </p> <p>If you don't want to be her friend, send her the text I suggested before. I am recommending text since that is how you communicate most often. </p> <p>If you need time to decide, I would send something like:</p> <p>"I feel my life being pulled in a different direction and I just wanted to tell you how much I have valued you. At this time, I need space from our friendship and ask that you not contact me during this time." </p> <p>I added the last part since it sounds like she hasn't respected your need for.space in the past.</p> <p>But be fully.prepared that she might decide to be done even if you aren't sure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-needed-nice-way-to-tell-a-friend-to-leave-me-alone#post-2841919 Sun, 26 Aug 2018 23:50:43 +0000 irene 2841919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@avivoca: Thanks -- good point about grief counselor... is it the same as a regular therapist? I am scared to go to my therapist because the billing is beyond confusing. They kept sending me a bill and when I called to pay them they said they are still waiting for insurance to respond. Then why send me a bill?! Anyhoo.</p> <p> @crazydoglady: Thank you so much for the article, yes it is helpful.</p> <p>I was drafting a text, but it became a letter. And now I don't know if I should send a multiple-part text or an email! But I kinda don't want to send email as we seldom communicate via email. This is what I wrote (see below) - what do you think? Or do you think I talked too much?</p> <p>Hi ____,</p> <p>Thank you for thinking about us. </p> <p>I felt that both us and our kids had grown in different directions. It was especially apparent earlier in the year. Then there was what happened to me in summer. It pushed me over the edge and beyond. There were too many not-so-good changes for me this year. It was too much, and all very hurtful and difficult for me to handle and process. </p> <p>I do need a few months or more to readjust. During this time, I will not be able to devote any time to our friendship at all. I need to be left alone and start fresh to hopefully heal. Besides, it is unfair to you as I am not in a place where I can be a good friend. It will eventually hurt you to a point of no repair. No one deserves it and it is definitely not my intent. I hope you can kindly understand. </p> <p>Moving forward, I would still love to remain cordial, and eventually I hope to see you and *our common friends* together when it comes time for the kids’ birthdays parties and such. Hopefully I’d be better by then. Months later if *your DS* asks for *my DS* and vice versa, I’d love to drop him off for a play date / sleep over and vice versa, if you want.</p> <p>Thank you so much for your friendship and support for the past years, all the memories we’ve created for us and our kids. I could not have done this without you. If I did not terribly offend you there is no need to reply to this message. I wish you all the best. Xoxo </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-needed-nice-way-to-tell-a-friend-to-leave-me-alone#post-2841918 Sun, 26 Aug 2018 22:37:53 +0000 crazydoglady 2841918@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I found the following from a Buzzfeed article which (despite it being from Buzzfeed) seemed really helpful. </p> <p>Text your friend and say something like:<br /> "I feel my life being pulled in a different direction and I just wanted to tell you how much I have valued our friendship. I'm not able to devote the time to it anymore." </p> <p><a href="https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.buzzfeed.com/amphtml/annaborges/why-dont-they-write-songs-about-this" rel="nofollow">https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.buzzfeed.com/amphtml/annaborges/why-dont-they-write-songs-about-this</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-needed-nice-way-to-tell-a-friend-to-leave-me-alone#post-2841916 Sun, 26 Aug 2018 22:12:30 +0000 avivoca 2841916@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First, I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine your pain and heartbreak right now. Second, I think it’s probably fair to ask her to give you some space while you grieve the loss of your mother. I read your last thread, and it seems like she is trying to make amends, but if you aren’t interested in continuing the friendship, it might be kinder to just tell her instead of hoping she will leave you alone. I also think that if you are not, you should see a grief counselor. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-needed-nice-way-to-tell-a-friend-to-leave-me-alone#post-2841909 Sun, 26 Aug 2018 21:21:34 +0000 irene 2841909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First of all, please, no judgement and please be kind. </p> <p>I have posted previously (refer to <a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friendship-honest-or-fade-away" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friendship-honest-or-fade-away</a> if interested). </p> <p>I have (had) a very good mom friend since DSes' birth. We did almost everything together for the first 5 years of our boys' lives. </p> <p>Until earlier this year, I felt that we have grown apart. Our DSs (both 6 yo boys) goes to different schools and have different friends, activities. My friend has found a new friend that has basically replaced me, and a new social circle. We used to spend 80% of time with our kids together, until February to early June we only saw each other once every 1-2 months. Between February to early June, I was ditched or stood up by her 50% of the time, and for the handful of times we saw each other, we were mostly only doing what she wanted to do. I felt distasteful and hurt about this, and felt the friendship has run its course and wanted to move on. </p> <p>Then my mom got sick in May, and she passed away last month. I was away for most of the summer to tend to these matters. I am an only child. My dad passed away years ago, and she was my only parent left. I was reading what @MrBee: wrote about his mother's death ( <a href="http://www.hellobee.com/2017/09/11/my-final-parent/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hellobee.com/2017/09/11/my-final-parent/</a> ), and how it was the loneliest feeling. I can not identify to it more. This level of loneliness is incomprehensible. Even though now I have my own little family DS and DH, I felt like I am the only person left in the world. </p> <p>Since I came back, I became even more bitter and resentful to my friend. She reached out to me for little things like dinner, or seeing her new puppy and what not, which I turned her down. DH guilted me into answering her text, and we did go out to dinner 2 weeks ago. I thought I'd at least be able to be cordial and pretend nothing happened. But no.... I was cold, mean, I wasn't engaging in any conversations, I wasn't even giving her eye contact. I felt very bad afterwards. I didn't reach out to apologize, she also didn't reach out to me. I thought for sure this will end our friendship. I was sad but I was glad.</p> <p>Then just now, she texted me again and said she'd like to go to apple picking with us. ....?</p> <p>I've been trying to understand what exactly is wrong with me. I am not doing well at all mentally. I am wondering if subconsciously I can not handle both my mom and my friend left / was leaving me, and that's why subconsciously I am trying so desperately to start fresh and to leave her first. Or maybe I am scared to continue to be friends with her, because at this moment, I can not handle being stood up. It will break me (as if I am not already broken).</p> <p>I wanted to say OK let's go apple picking, but then I am a little afraid I'd behave as poorly as I did at dinner 2 weeks ago. No one deserved to be treated like that. Or like I said, I am really afraid we'll set a date, and she just change on me / didn't show up last minute because "something came up". I am afraid to be "left".</p> <p>I feel that maybe I should tell her politely to leave me alone for a few months at least. I have once texted her that I needed some time, but she didn't seem to get it (or she thinks 2 weeks is time). I don't know how else to communicate that I need to be left alone (for a long time) in order that we can still remotely be friends, or even acquaintances, in the future. </p> <p>That was the story. Please be kind and please (try to) withhold your judgement. What would you suggest I should do? </p>