https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 27 May 2026 09:04:42 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-or-comparisons#post-428324 Sun, 02 Dec 2012 18:42:15 +0000 shopaholic 428324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: @Crumbs: Thanks ladies! Yeah, I feel pretty stupid complaining because I think I got off pretty easy when it comes to in-laws actually. But I think a good vent here and there is needed after a few days spent all together. Thanks ladies! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-or-comparisons#post-428313 Sun, 02 Dec 2012 18:27:44 +0000 SugarplumsMom 428313@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@shopaholic: She sounds like someone I know. I would be annoyed too and I don't think guys are much help when it comes to these things - they just don't get it, IMO. As for your rant, post away! My philosophy is: if someone's not being nice, you have the right to get it off your chest! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-or-comparisons#post-428286 Sun, 02 Dec 2012 17:59:40 +0000 hilsy85 428286@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh my gosh! She sounds...special. I'm sorry you have to deal with that :( It sounds like she's one of those people who always has to one up, like @T-Mom said. I would definitely be annoyed by all her comments...unfortunately, when it's family, there's not much you can do, eh? Just try and smile politely and nod, and then vent away when you get away from her </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-or-comparisons#post-428273 Sun, 02 Dec 2012 17:50:30 +0000 shopaholic 428273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@London Mama: Thanks and yup, I felt pretty childish after posting this, but can't seem to edit or remove it. Talked about it a bit with DH last night and he thinks I just take her "the best" comments too literally and that his sister just doesn't filter any of her thoughts or comments and doesn't mean anything by it. But then again, I know being pregnant makes me more sensitive and irritable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-or-comparisons#post-427609 Sun, 02 Dec 2012 06:22:29 +0000 London Mama 427609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL is like that and I think it's a combo of wanting to give good natured advice and making clear that she is a more experienced mother. I just let it go, life's too short to get worked up over what the in-laws say! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-or-comparisons#post-427541 Sun, 02 Dec 2012 01:57:17 +0000 T-Mom 427541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She sounds like a one upper and maybe also has a chip on her shoulder.. It's hard but I usually just bite my tongue with ppl like that especially in laws. Maybe if you adopt the attitude of having pity on her it will help. Ppl like this are usually miserable! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-or-comparisons#post-427519 Sun, 02 Dec 2012 01:03:46 +0000 shopaholic 427519@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jennimac: You are probably right with the "always knows what to do" type of thinking. She's not unhappy and she never seems outright competitive. It just gets hard to take though when it's one thing after another... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-or-comparisons#post-427510 Sun, 02 Dec 2012 00:47:39 +0000 singingbee 427510@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think she sounds like the type of person who is never happy or she always knows what to do. Frankly, it bugged me and I'm not related to her nor am I pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-or-comparisons#post-427508 Sun, 02 Dec 2012 00:44:19 +0000 shopaholic 427508@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I know that being pregnant is making me a little more irritable, but I'm just a little miffed about my SIL recently.<br /> I already posted once about all her hand-me-downs which I took (and then later she said "Oh I was so surprised you even took all that old stuff!") but I swear since even before we were TTC she has NEVER had anything nice to say about us having kids and doesn't seem too excited about her first niece (she had a niece and nephews from her ex-husband, but DH is her only sibling). DH said it's b/c she already has 2 kids of her own, why would she be excited for us?<br /> i.e. She always says (when her sons are being naughty or crazy) "oh just you wait and see how crazy it is" and "I hope your kids aren't crazy like mine for your sake" and tonight she was all "oh good luck once you have #2!" Last night she was saying how crazy we were for taking our LO on a family trip when she will be 3 months old. </p> <p>Then, she asked me what stroller I ended up getting and wanted to see it online. When I was showing her, she kept saying "oh yeah, like that Phil &amp; Teds kind", "it's nice, but so big", "if you use the buggy board, you'll get so annoyed", etc.<br /> I was telling her how I got a Moby wrap (from someone on HB) and the Ergo and we were going to use those on our trip and she started regaling to me how HER rockin' baby sling was "The Best" and had to show it to me. In fact, things often go this way. Her "xyz" is "The Best!" while I usually try to be more humble about things. Another i.e., I brought up Lemon Bars to the vacation home this weekend and I hadn't tried it yet before serving it as we were in a rush to get out of the house. So, I, trying to be humble said, "oh IDK how good they are. They might be kind of over-cooked and the lemons I bought weren't that juicy..." to which she countered, "Oh I made THE BEST lemon bars last week from our meyer lemon tree which has the best lemons!"<br /> Even at dinner they were asking me some stuff about my registry and she kept telling me what I don't need etc. I said, our babies will probably be very different sized since her ex-DH was 6'4" caucasian, and DH and I are both shorter than both of them. Then she had to remind me that she only gained 20lbs w/DS#2 (something I always have to hear about) and that he was still 8+ lbs, so I'll probably have a baby that can't wear NB size for more than a month like her son. </p> <p>This is kind of common for her, and I usually let these things roll off my back since I usually don't try to think it's any kind of competitiveness, but maybe being pregnant is making me more sensitive. What do you think? You think most of it is "advice" or is she like always trying to compare?<br /> Sorry &amp; thanks for letting me rant and vent... </p>