https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 23 May 2026 10:38:31 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/age-appropriate-consequences#post-2308201 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 20:24:55 +0000 matador84 2308201@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>TIme out is almost always a successful consequence for us. I don't have to use it a lot, but when I do it is full removal to the bedroom and he can't come out until I get him. Anywhere from 5-10 minutes. He doesn't have toys in there but he can sit and read a book. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/age-appropriate-consequences#post-2308101 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 19:10:40 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2308101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never know when it's too delayed of a consequence. Like if she's not listening or getting ready for bed is it ok to loose TV time the following night? Or should she loose something from that nights bed routine (I hate to use books as punishment). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/age-appropriate-consequences#post-2308090 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 19:04:09 +0000 PinkElephant 2308090@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have you watched that "Positive Parenting" seminar that is going around? It talks about keeping consequences relevant (basically what @sorrycharlie: is saying)....but I agree that's really difficult. </p> <p>So it really depends on the behavior - if my 3 year old is playing with her food and not eating, I'll tell her she can't have dessert (and will give her sister dessert while she has to sit at the table). Or if she can't share a toy/throws a toy/snatches a toy after being reminded, I'll put that toy in time out.</p> <p>Unfortunately those consequences are backfiring at the moment...she'll just march over to me with a toy she doesn't want to share and ask me to take it away, or tell me she doesn't want dessert anyway. SIGH </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/age-appropriate-consequences#post-2308064 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 18:44:01 +0000 sorrycharlie 2308064@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do whatever is relative to what's going on - ignoring me when it's time to clean a toy (after counting), I take it. I try to keep it easy for her to understand and I always do it immediately because I feel like it holds more weight (as opposed to later, when she's behaving, totally confusing her by taking something). </p> <p>The non negotiable is hitting. Right in time out. I've only had to do that once though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/age-appropriate-consequences#post-2308055 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 18:39:33 +0000 Bao 2308055@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm looking for some ideas on what are some age appropriate consequences for a 3 year old. I will sometimes take certain toys away but more often than that I will take movie night away, or snack away, something along those lines. I sometimes end up feeling bad afterwards and wondering to myself if I was too harsh on her. She is very stubborn and not allowing her to do certain things seems to work *best* although it's still not the most successful.</p> <p>Do you have consequences for your LO? What are they? Do you stay firm with them? </p>