https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 20 Apr 2026 14:47:11 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alcohol-and-not-telling-anyone-youre-ttcpregnant-yet#post-1661054 Tue, 27 May 2014 16:16:02 +0000 Raindrop 1661054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha this thread is great. I have already set myself up with my friend that I am a money tracker person, drinks are so not worth the cost for me. I think if I did drink more... I think I can use the excuse of trying to save money by not buying drinks for a bigger expense later this year. (vacation... new furniture... ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alcohol-and-not-telling-anyone-youre-ttcpregnant-yet#post-1661044 Tue, 27 May 2014 16:10:29 +0000 Snowdrop 1661044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wonderstruck: good idea, restaurant meals with the waitress coming to the table for drinks is the only situation I think I don't have covered. I have told my best friend so she can help me hide it on girl's nights.<br /> @pui: Haha this is what we get for being drinkers! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alcohol-and-not-telling-anyone-youre-ttcpregnant-yet#post-1661028 Tue, 27 May 2014 16:03:22 +0000 pui 1661028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lol funny this is popping up!</p> <p>You know what apparently gave away I was pregnant once I actually was? I asked my DH for water at a party. Yep. When I did announce everyone said they knew because of that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alcohol-and-not-telling-anyone-youre-ttcpregnant-yet#post-1661004 Tue, 27 May 2014 15:53:02 +0000 wonderstruck 1661004@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A friend went through this awhile back (we knew but no one else did), and he would go get drinks for the table and would order a mocktail for his wife and just pretend it was real. You could even get up to go to the bathroom and secretly find your waitress and fill her in so she could help! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alcohol-and-not-telling-anyone-youre-ttcpregnant-yet#post-1661002 Tue, 27 May 2014 15:51:28 +0000 Snowdrop 1661002@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Had my first taste of this on Sunday, we went to the pub and the an was I would ask DH for alcoholic drinks and he would get me the non alcohol version, I think it worked but I did not account for how often the other men offer to buy you a drink when it's their round, or my friend asking to taste my lime and soda (she didn't notice). Phew. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alcohol-and-not-telling-anyone-youre-ttcpregnant-yet#post-1660990 Tue, 27 May 2014 15:47:12 +0000 Mommy Finger 1660990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a friend who would bring a few bottles of apple cider with her to a party but she had already opened the bottles at home and replaced them with sparkling NA cider and recapped them. This was before ciders became popular so there was a low risk of someone taking a bottle :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alcohol-and-not-telling-anyone-youre-ttcpregnant-yet#post-1660940 Tue, 27 May 2014 15:27:35 +0000 MrsKMM 1660940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Funny to come across this... About a year ago my best friend said she would know I was pregnant if I didn't order a drink when we went out. Since I don't want that to be how anyone finds out, I started being the one who didn't order drinks every time a group of is went out, to sort of ease my way into making it less obvious. Nobody has really said anything yet. Another good way to get out of it is to say you're trying to save money - drinks really are expensive! DH &amp; I are in the home buying process and soon want to NTNP, so I can say that we're saving $ by not getting alcohol. My only problem is my MIL's house... It's sort of expected that you accept a glass of wine when you get there... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alcohol-and-not-telling-anyone-youre-ttcpregnant-yet#post-736787 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 11:20:33 +0000 Ocean girl 736787@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Similar to @Modern Daisy, I would get DH to make my "drink" if we were at a house party.</p> <p> If you are having people into your home, you can also have DH 'ahem "empty" a beer for you and then fill up the bottle with ginger ale (double bonus for looking like beer as well as helping with nausea)! I did this at family Christmas parties and it worked like a charm! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alcohol-and-not-telling-anyone-youre-ttcpregnant-yet#post-736699 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 10:51:03 +0000 Lindsay05 736699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I find it rude when people ask that. I would love to tell people 'no, but we've been trying and it's been stressful but thanks for asking and bringing it up'. But i'm too nice of person to say anything snarky! I went through it with LO at my BFF's wedding I was six weeks pregnant and NO ONE knew yet. I just shrugged off those questions. I was given free booze all night (at the head table) and I just picked up the glass and put it back down. It's amazing how people can be tricked lol. I'm thinking next time around if anyone asks I will just respond honestly and say 'well we are family planning and trying to be a bit healthier'. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alcohol-and-not-telling-anyone-youre-ttcpregnant-yet#post-736686 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 10:47:59 +0000 Smurfette 736686@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH ordered me a couple virgin drinks at the bar so it helped hide it. When we started TTC, I started not drinking as much when out with friends. I told them I gave it up during the week, so that helped some. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alcohol-and-not-telling-anyone-youre-ttcpregnant-yet#post-736675 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 10:44:18 +0000 Pirouette 736675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have to say this is one of the most stressful things I have to deal with (first world problems? LOL). I drank while TTC, so it wasn't that bad, but my friends are all big drinkers, and i LOVE wine and never turn it down. plus it's harder to disguise (i can't order a cocktail, because i NEVER drink them) so it's really hard to make excuses. I've used the UTI excuse a few times (that's the one thing people don't question, it literally HURTS to drink alcohol with a UTI). but i can't have a month long UTI. i've been trying to be a little less social, which i feel bad about but it's kinda inevitable at this point. I just hate lying!</p> <p>I'm going to a bachelorette party this weekend and that will be interesting! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alcohol-and-not-telling-anyone-youre-ttcpregnant-yet#post-736635 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 10:34:19 +0000 Cara M. 17 736635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pui: I am a terrible liar also. I'm sure we will get a lot of "I knew it!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alcohol-and-not-telling-anyone-youre-ttcpregnant-yet#post-736598 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 10:27:10 +0000 Modern Daisy 736598@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wrote a post about this too! I also am a big drinker, so passing on alcohol would have been a dead giveaway. And DH and I were adamant about keeping the pregnancy a secret until the first trimester was completely over. So what I did, since I had many social events that I couldn't avoid, was I would always order a drink, but I wouldn't drink any. I would pretend to take sips here and there then DH would ask for 'a taste' and basically chug half of it in one gulp, facing away from anyone we were with. I also once called a restaurant ahead of time, described what I was wearing and told them to make mine a virgin but not to blow my cover. Every method we used totally worked adn no one caught on at all! Oh and if we were at someone's house, DH would 'make me a drink' and it would just be club soda and ice. </p> <p>Tricky and stressful, but totally worth it for our peace of mind. Oh and I also totally drank during the TWW, I had no intention of holding back since I didn't know how long it would take for me to get pregnant. Every time I announced my pregnancy people would do the math and be shocked and say "Didn't you have a martini the last time I was with you?" and I would have to remind them that you can't even find out you're pregnant until you are about 4 or 5 weeks along, so at that point I didn't know. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alcohol-and-not-telling-anyone-youre-ttcpregnant-yet#post-736476 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 09:58:46 +0000 Anagram 736476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine was pretty easy, because I'd just been diagnosed with GERD about 8 months before I got preg, and I had to quite drinking totally (along with quitting all sodas, coffee, tea, and acidic foods) for 4-6 months. So I'd just started drinking lightly for about 2 months, so I told them the alcohol was making my GERD flare up again, and I was laying off for a while. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alcohol-and-not-telling-anyone-youre-ttcpregnant-yet#post-736468 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 09:56:22 +0000 heffalump 736468@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pui: I always told people that too. I would say that DH and I just got married and we want to enjoy married life for awhile..... meanwhile we TTC right after our honeymoon. But I ended up having a miscarriage so I'm glad I didn't tell people.</p> <p>Now I tell people the truth, which is that we need LO to grow up and be a little more independent because my health sucks when I'm pregnant so it will be hard to take care of her. But that will still be my excuse even when I do start TTC again. </p> <p>None of their business so I don't mind lying :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alcohol-and-not-telling-anyone-youre-ttcpregnant-yet#post-736454 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 09:52:30 +0000 bunnylove08 736454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You could always go to the bar buy your drink there. Walk over to the table so your friends think you're already drinking. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alcohol-and-not-telling-anyone-youre-ttcpregnant-yet#post-736453 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 09:52:26 +0000 nana87 736453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: oh for sure! I'd try to tell her beforehand. she just became an aunt recently after her sister struggled with fertility for a couple years, so luckily she's really sensitive about this--which is one of the main reasons I've confided in her that we're trying </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alcohol-and-not-telling-anyone-youre-ttcpregnant-yet#post-736449 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 09:51:46 +0000 Foodnerd81 736449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pui: Yeah, it's definitely wasteful if you order by the glass, but it works really well if you split a bottle. Just pour a small glass and it's less noticeable. If anyone notices it's not getting much lower you could always say you don't really like it. When I did it, it was a BYOB/W place and I poured, so I only wasted half a glass. But we had a friend who was newly pregnant at a wedding we went to and no one suspected a thing. She had a glass of champagne in hand in certain pictures and throughout the night, but turns out she never actually drank any of it. Totally fooled. :)</p> <p>@nana87: Yeah... sounds like you would have to tell the bday girl. Even then, you run the risk of her getting drunk and blurting it out either way. But, what can you do? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alcohol-and-not-telling-anyone-youre-ttcpregnant-yet#post-736443 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 09:50:48 +0000 blackbird 736443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't mind my friends knowing if I'm pregnant, but I once ordered a margarita at happy hour, asked the waitress to make it virgin, and tricked everybody! These were people I did NOT want knowing I was pregnant yet. </p> <p>At a family get together, I said I had worked out that morning and was too dehydrated to have a beer, so I guzzled lots and lots of water in front of them. That worked, too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alcohol-and-not-telling-anyone-youre-ttcpregnant-yet#post-736440 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 09:50:10 +0000 nana87 736440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>oh and I also totally watch to see if certain friends are drinking or not to tell if they're pregnant, but I definitely never say anything to them! dh and I have definitely been right before in the guessing :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alcohol-and-not-telling-anyone-youre-ttcpregnant-yet#post-736439 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 09:50:07 +0000 pui 736439@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: It's funny because part of my ploy to get people off my case is acting like I am totally not ready for kids. When people ask me if we're thinking of kids soon I reply like "Oh geez, I don't know. We haven't thought about it. It's a pretty busy time for us now, ect" even though we are actively TTC lol. However, like I said I am a pretty poor liar. Not sure how much of it people are buying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alcohol-and-not-telling-anyone-youre-ttcpregnant-yet#post-736437 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 09:49:39 +0000 heffalump 736437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@nana87: Watch out telling people when they're drinking.... when I was pregnant in my first trimester and not telling people yet my cousin's visited and have a few drinks with my dad. The next thing I know he's telling them I'm pregnant! I was not happy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alcohol-and-not-telling-anyone-youre-ttcpregnant-yet#post-736435 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 09:49:21 +0000 MrsSCB 736435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pui: Haha, then my only worry would be people asking to have a sip of my drink... but you could always say you're getting over a cold or something. Or just let them and be like, "Wow, isn't this drink so weak?!" lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alcohol-and-not-telling-anyone-youre-ttcpregnant-yet#post-736429 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 09:47:51 +0000 heffalump 736429@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: Yes! I just went to a party over the weekend where I had a discussion with my mom on the way because I was hoping a friend that recently got married would get pregnant soon so we would have kids similar in age. But the first thing the girl did was walk in and grab a beer.... and then kept on drinking all night. And then she talked about how my LO made her realize she doesn't think she can handle a toddler. I think it's safe to say she's not pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alcohol-and-not-telling-anyone-youre-ttcpregnant-yet#post-736423 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 09:47:02 +0000 nana87 736423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was just thinking about this! if I happen to get pregnant this cycle, I'll be like 6 weeks along at my bff's birthday party which she's planning as a whisky distillery tour and bar crawl...so it'll be super obvious if I'm not drinking! and I've told her that we're going to be trying this spring so she'll definitely know... I might have to tell her before then, even though I'd rather wait a little longer, just so she doesn't blurt it out to random people! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alcohol-and-not-telling-anyone-youre-ttcpregnant-yet#post-736421 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 09:46:57 +0000 pui 736421@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsSCB: That's a good idea too lol!! I could totally do that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alcohol-and-not-telling-anyone-youre-ttcpregnant-yet#post-736419 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 09:46:49 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 736419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>what about that you have a head ache? i have this brilliant plan that when i find out I'm preg I will start laying the ground work that I've been having head aches and the doctor is getting me to cut certain things to see if it helps, alcohol being one of them. I'll let you know in a couple years if it works ;) haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alcohol-and-not-telling-anyone-youre-ttcpregnant-yet#post-736417 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 09:46:29 +0000 pui 736417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: Hmmm a little wasteful, but yeah I could do that. Maybe I could even have DH drink some of it while they're in the bathroom or something lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alcohol-and-not-telling-anyone-youre-ttcpregnant-yet#post-736411 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 09:45:27 +0000 MrsSCB 736411@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This might be a little over the top, haha, but I am almost always early when meeting my friends and I could see myself arriving early on purpose to order something that looks alcoholic at the bar (like cranberry juice and soda with a lime or something). Then I could bring it to the table with me when everyone else arrived and wouldn't have to order something in front of friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alcohol-and-not-telling-anyone-youre-ttcpregnant-yet#post-736410 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 09:45:11 +0000 Foodnerd81 736410@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: Oh I totally have watched people to see if they order drinks or not! But I would never say anything even if I saw them popping prenatal vitamins, their news, share it when they want to. Of course, I'd go home and tell DH all about it, but that's it :) </p>