https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 03 May 2026 04:55:33 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alpha-dads-businessweek-article#post-847312 Tue, 11 Jun 2013 10:25:44 +0000 yoursilverlining 847312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's awesome if this trend continues, because I think it will help open more pathways for both men and women to work more flexible schedules and spend more time with family.</p> <p>I think a lot of the issues around work-life balance are "norms" imposed by society. It's perfectly acceptable for women to say they have always dreamed about staying home, but when you ask (even on here) about if their husbands would like to stay home, there is a lot of "lol no" like that isn't an equally valid thing for men to have wanted since they were little. Ditto on asking about mannies, many women say they would think a male nanny might be sexually attracted to their baby, which again stigmatizes men who want to caregive as "weird" or secret pervs.</p> <p>I have never felt any guilt about returning to work, but used to be asked on a weekly (daily when inforst returned to work) if I was sad I didn't stay home. The only guilt I felt was guilt for not feeling guilt. So, while Im sure many women feel guilty working, I think I lot don't - but the norm apparently is that we should feel terrible and guilty about the choice to work. I'm not sure how much guilt is real, versus manufactured/assumed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alpha-dads-businessweek-article#post-847248 Tue, 11 Jun 2013 10:13:13 +0000 looch 847248@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know about anyone else, but work/life balance is not something that I strive to achieve. It's just not realistic that I could spend the time that I currently do at work and have any possible way to spend the time with my son that he requires. It's a tradeoff and I tell everyone the same thing. You can have it all, it just depends on what "it" is. </p> <p>My husband is excellent at prioritizing, he does a lot of stuff remotely and he plans like madman so that we can leave at 4 pm three days a week (to sit in traffic for 45 minutes) but we're still home for dinner at least 3 nights a week. He puts doctor appointments on his calendar and he takes equal amounts of time off to care for our son when he's sick...actually, he might take more because he's a full time employee and I am a contractor (I don't get paid if I don't work). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alpha-dads-businessweek-article#post-847135 Tue, 11 Jun 2013 09:54:35 +0000 immabeetoo 847135@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@corilyns: @Mrs. Pen: if you read it, what'd you think?</p> <p>@Dandelion: I agree. If all moms are continuously reminded and told that all moms are guilty... I think it will just reinforce any pre-existing guilt! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alpha-dads-businessweek-article#post-839893 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 12:55:22 +0000 Mrs. Pen 839893@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm commenting so I remember to read this when I get off of work! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alpha-dads-businessweek-article#post-839874 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 12:50:21 +0000 MrsMed 839874@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't wait to read this, DH and I were discussing work/life balance last night ( our baby is due in October) And basically we're discussing MY work life balance because my job is insane and I tend to work long hours and I make a fraction of what he makes. I know he'll be very involved (he works shorter hours and is home earlier) but it's kinda weird that I'm the one making the adjustments. This is going to be an interesting journey. I sent him the article to read. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alpha-dads-businessweek-article#post-839762 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 12:22:38 +0000 Dandelion 839762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with you, I don't like how they say they can handle it better.</p> <p>I also don't like how they pretty much say that all women feel guilty about working. I'm sure they do, but the "self-flagellation" comment was a bit overboard.</p> <p>But, all in all, it's good. More men should be aware of needing to be with their family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/alpha-dads-businessweek-article#post-835024 Thu, 06 Jun 2013 08:39:31 +0000 immabeetoo 835024@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p><a href="http://www.businessweek.com/articles/2013-05-30/alpha-dads-men-get-serious-about-work-life-balance" rel="nofollow">http://www.businessweek.com/articles/2013-05-30/alpha-dads-men-get-serious-about-work-life-balance</a></p> <p>Anyone else read this? I really don't like the tone in parts like "men might actually be better at handling women’s issues than women" (gag) but I DO like the trend (if it is one) of it being more socially acceptable for fathers to value family time. DH would love to stay at home if my career path would make it financially feasible... once we have LO#2 I'm hoping he can have an even more flexible schedule or work a reduced schedule while I go back to work.</p> <p>Any thoughts on the article? </p>