https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 19 Apr 2026 08:36:27 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-insecure-about-my-postpartum-weightand-baby-isnt-here-yet#post-756703 Thu, 02 May 2013 12:39:58 +0000 vnvdvci 756703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would say you need to come to terms with this before you give birth, because it won't get better afterwards when you have the new sagginess to deal with. I'd just only come to a "meh" attitude with my pregnant body by the time I delivered and afterwards had a private meltdown when I saw my body in the mirror. I'd gained over 50 lbs and knew it definitely wasn't all baby, but seeing it was still a shock.</p> <p>So...yeah. I coped by being as proactive as I could, even if it was a little obsessive. Laid out workout plans for postpartum, bought a belly binder, etc. BTW, I don't know if this is the belly binder or genetics, but 1 1/2 weeks out from birth my belly's actually pretty flat! Even if it wasn't, I'd still use it for the "held together" feeling. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-insecure-about-my-postpartum-weightand-baby-isnt-here-yet#post-756655 Thu, 02 May 2013 12:31:21 +0000 maybebaby 756655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lawbee11: Sigh. Thank you, I really appreciate it. When I look at side by side shots of me now vs. me around 22 weeks, I can really see it in my face. Hoping giving birth during nice weather will encourage lots of outdoor activity! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-insecure-about-my-postpartum-weightand-baby-isnt-here-yet#post-756564 Thu, 02 May 2013 12:13:13 +0000 lawbee11 756564@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@maybebaby: What?! You do NOT look like you've gained 43lbs!! I hope I hold my weight as well as you do! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-insecure-about-my-postpartum-weightand-baby-isnt-here-yet#post-756558 Thu, 02 May 2013 12:12:07 +0000 blackbird 756558@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Your friends are like, one in a million. I have to keep reminding myself that I'm not even a month post partum but it is frustrating. Once I can work out again, I think I will feel like I am taking control. It's just something you have to accept and remind yourself it takes TIME. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-insecure-about-my-postpartum-weightand-baby-isnt-here-yet#post-756387 Thu, 02 May 2013 11:08:41 +0000 maybebaby 756387@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh. At 37 weeks I am up 43 lbs and feeling really self-conscious. I am very anxious about PP weight, esp. it being summer and having weddings and beach trips planned. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-insecure-about-my-postpartum-weightand-baby-isnt-here-yet#post-756228 Thu, 02 May 2013 10:03:12 +0000 Amelieisme 756228@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: First off, you aren't seeing these women nude which is all the difference in the world. You can hide a lot with clothing. It seems strange to me in general to brag about being able to wear a bikini, which makes me think your friend is just trying to make others envious so I choose to discount her as a reliable source!<br /> Secondly, I can empathize with you! I was soooo worried about my post-pregnancy body while I was pregnant. I know its vain, but I was. AND I gained like 45 lb too! My body just wanted to do that no matter what I did (I exercised, ate well (sort of). I was depressed after LO was born with the extra weight and had to work to lose it, but it came off! I was back to pre-preg weight and looking like myself at 4 months pp. I know that's not a week and it sounds like a lot of time on the front end, but it really isn't so long in retrospect. At 9 months now, I'm very happy with my body. You will be fine! And I've seen your pics... you are beautiful and I bet you are prettier than those other girls even with a little extra baby weight on you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-insecure-about-my-postpartum-weightand-baby-isnt-here-yet#post-756199 Thu, 02 May 2013 09:49:03 +0000 cascademom 756199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I gained back my pregnancy with breastfeeding, a busy schedule, and not eating well enough. I ate tons of burgers, etc. to keep my milk up. Only now at 8 months pp, I'm going back to salads and working on my flabby stomach. Since we're weaning, I'm also enjoying more caffeine and tea which seems to help me with the weight too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-insecure-about-my-postpartum-weightand-baby-isnt-here-yet#post-756169 Thu, 02 May 2013 09:33:59 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 756169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Don't stress over it now. Everyone is different. You WILL lose the weight. DH thinks all women should look like Kelly Rippa post baby...I don't even look like her pre-baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-insecure-about-my-postpartum-weightand-baby-isnt-here-yet#post-756028 Thu, 02 May 2013 08:31:16 +0000 Mrsbells 756028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just kept telling myself the "9 months on, 9 months off rule" It is a bit of pressure because you dont know if you will keep gaining weight or if you will lose the weight really easily. I dont think anyone expects you to lose it all right away though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-insecure-about-my-postpartum-weightand-baby-isnt-here-yet#post-756016 Thu, 02 May 2013 08:27:40 +0000 Bookish 756016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, I'm 29 weeks and I'm already dreading having to take the weight off. :( I have already gained 30lbs, and it didn't seem to matter if I worked out, ate more, ate less, whatever, I just gained! My thighs are making me so sad right now... I don't think I'll ever be back in a bikini EVER. That being said... I do have a DH who is crazy about me and loves my body, and I just need to focus on getting LO here.</p> <p>Definitely sucks having these feelings though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-insecure-about-my-postpartum-weightand-baby-isnt-here-yet#post-755995 Thu, 02 May 2013 08:15:43 +0000 mrsmate 755995@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was way too busy w DD to even think about PP weight. It is hard work taking care of a newborn, a lot of weight will come off with no effort, esp if you breastfeed. Honestly, it never even came up in conversation with DH, we were both so tired.</p> <p>The year I had DD we knew 20 other FTMs, and the only one who had weight concerns was one who ended up having DC2 15mo later. Relax. Like @regberadaisy: I call BS on this friend also. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-insecure-about-my-postpartum-weightand-baby-isnt-here-yet#post-755971 Thu, 02 May 2013 08:04:48 +0000 Smurfette 755971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: Seriously, I would see a news feed post about cute baby Rushdie then your weight loss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-insecure-about-my-postpartum-weightand-baby-isnt-here-yet#post-755968 Thu, 02 May 2013 08:02:19 +0000 LulaBee 755968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Still have 8 pounds to go at 9 months PP. It is what it is, what's important is your baby and your health... at least that's what I keep telling myself. I know that when I compare myself to other new moms who have lost weight quickly, I just feel BAD about myself. And life is too short for that. My daughter doesn't care what I weigh or how I look in my clothes, she cares that I love her and am present with her. I want to try and set a good example, model good behavior for her sake- us ladies have it hard enough already with unrealistic expectations about our bodies. Let's just be kind to ourselves and not judge.</p> <p>That's how I feel in theory. Realistically, I'm upset that I still weigh "so much", and that this belly is still so big. But I'm trying to find the beauty in it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-insecure-about-my-postpartum-weightand-baby-isnt-here-yet#post-755947 Thu, 02 May 2013 07:45:28 +0000 LindsayInNY 755947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There are two girls I follow on Facebook, both who recently had babies and are *very* into weight lifting. They've both been posting post-partum body updates so people know what is realistic to expect. One just had LO #3 and the other just had LO #2. The one who had LO #2 gained a lot with her first, not sure how much with her second though. I can't tell if this is the right facebook link but her name is Natalie Hodson - <a href="http://www.facebook.com/NatalieHodsonOfficial" rel="nofollow">http://www.facebook.com/NatalieHodsonOfficial</a> Here's her blog - she just worked out for the first time 6 weeks PP and has 25 lbs to lose - <a href="http://nataliehodson.com/blog/category/natalies-notes/blog/" rel="nofollow">http://nataliehodson.com/blog/category/natalies-notes/blog/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-insecure-about-my-postpartum-weightand-baby-isnt-here-yet#post-755935 Thu, 02 May 2013 07:35:48 +0000 regberadaisy 755935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: I call bull$hit on the friend's wife who was back to prepartum size FOUR days after delivery. Your tummy does not shrink down that fast! Though I was pre-pregnancy weight faster than most it took a few more months past that for my hips and chest width to shrink back down.</p> <p>I just don't think it's physically possible for your body to shrink back in four days! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-insecure-about-my-postpartum-weightand-baby-isnt-here-yet#post-755930 Thu, 02 May 2013 07:31:58 +0000 JoJoGirl 755930@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>YES! I'm going through this now for sure as the last couple of weeks exponential growth is hitting me hard. I'm having a really hard time picturing how I'm going to look pp and not much i can do about it at this point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-insecure-about-my-postpartum-weightand-baby-isnt-here-yet#post-755899 Thu, 02 May 2013 07:07:09 +0000 MsLipGloss 755899@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: I also wanted to add that your friend posting about her pp weight just 4 days after delivery makes me sad . . . Sad that a woman would feel so compelled to meet some perceived expectation regarding her appearance that she would blog about it, instead of blogging about, say, her baby's tushie. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-insecure-about-my-postpartum-weightand-baby-isnt-here-yet#post-755894 Thu, 02 May 2013 07:05:56 +0000 kml636 755894@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have been there! Don't worry. Somewhere towards the end I remember looking at my thighs and just wanting to cry! I ended up gaining 38 lbs. The good news is with breastfeeding, etc, I really did lose 30 lbs without trying. Those last 8 are requiring the treadmill :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-insecure-about-my-postpartum-weightand-baby-isnt-here-yet#post-755891 Thu, 02 May 2013 07:03:34 +0000 MsLipGloss 755891@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: Comparison is the thief of joy. </p> <p>Everybody feels like this before giving birth. You're talking to someone who is 5'7" and weighed 130 pre-pg, and who worked very hard to maintain it! I also gained 60 pounds during pregnancy, despite eating really pretty healthy. The weight didn't come right off for me, but it is coming off. And while I am not at my pre-pg weight (yet! I am just now 8 mos pp), I have my shape back . . . and, just like @RainbowSprinkles mentioned, everyone says I look great. </p> <p>Don't let this steal your joy. Don't. Don't focus on it. Focus on being *present* during your pregnancy, enjoying every kick and roll, and savoring every precious second that you get to keep your LO all to yourself. Very soon, you will be expected to share. </p> <p>Oh, and by the way, those women are totally Fembots! :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-insecure-about-my-postpartum-weightand-baby-isnt-here-yet#post-755878 Thu, 02 May 2013 06:53:25 +0000 heffalump 755878@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a couple of friends like that too. One looked like a supermodel literally the second she popped the baby out, and the other was in her prepregnancy clothes looking awesome less then a week after giving birth. The first friend is just naturally thin and lucky, the other worked her tushy off at the gym and ate so so healthy..... and she had a teeny tiny baby. She took her maternity pictures at 7 months and it looked like me at 4 months. </p> <p>Meanwhile it took me 17 months to lose all the baby weight. I obviously wasn't happy about it.... but now that it's gone I'm happy. And all along I knew it would happen sometime. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-insecure-about-my-postpartum-weightand-baby-isnt-here-yet#post-755868 Thu, 02 May 2013 06:42:02 +0000 LazyLightning 755868@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Was your friend's wife overweight in the first place? (I ask because I think people who had a bit less to gain in the first place, tend to get down to their pre-preg weight faster than if you had more to gain.) Anyway yeah you're not alone. I know it's going to take me several months to lose this weight. People ay it will just melt off but in my case it's 50+ lbs. I don't see it melting off. Maybe 20 or so will if I'm lucky. The rest is going to be a challenge. Like others have said, with my sickness I only eat carbs. I was sick from week 6 to week 18, and it started up again about week 32. So yeah. Weight gain happened and unfortunately I did what I had to do to survive, ya know? Ultimately everyone's different but it'll be OK! And for the interim... there's spanx! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-insecure-about-my-postpartum-weightand-baby-isnt-here-yet#post-755845 Thu, 02 May 2013 06:01:08 +0000 Mrs D 755845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: you are definitely not alone here with your feelings. Of our friends who have had babies all of DH's friends wives have bounced right back - now granted they were in good shape pre baby too. My friends have been a little more realistic in their pp body changes.</p> <p>AFM - I am terrified of this. I have always struggled with my weight and am so nervous how it will be afterwards. I am planning to BF and hoping that will help me get to a point where I only have 10 or so lbs to loose on my own but I am giving myself until Christmas to get there before stressing (LO is due end of Aug - so thats almost 4 mos).</p> <p>I have also been so nervous during this pregnancy - I had terrible MS early on and was only able to eat carbs (my bodies arch rival) so I gained 8 lbs in my first tri. I'm at 23 weeks now and up about 16 or 17lbs already. :( Hoping to keep it to 30 total through light working out and eating healthy now that I am feeling better. </p> <p>I guess I dont have much advice - just wanted you to know I totally know what you are feeling and am right there with you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-insecure-about-my-postpartum-weightand-baby-isnt-here-yet#post-755811 Thu, 02 May 2013 04:04:37 +0000 Smurfette 755811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You never know how your body is going to react. I gained around 43 lbs with my pregnant and was really worried about losing the weight. But with BF, it just melted away. I even made a comment to DH about how shocked I was that my tummy was so much smaller then I thought it would be. He even agreed cause I had talked during pregnancy about how it take can awhile. I didn't weigh myself at home earlier but at my 6 weeks PP checkup, I was 8 lbs over my beginning weight. Probably would be lower if R liked the car seat better and we could have gone on more walks but thankfully she is doing better now so we can. Well that and I have developed a sweet tooth PP. Love my some chocolate cookies now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-insecure-about-my-postpartum-weightand-baby-isnt-here-yet#post-755748 Wed, 01 May 2013 23:23:25 +0000 Boheme 755748@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: @yoursilverlining: Haha! There was a sign up sheet to bring both of them meals and DH asked if I wanted to participate... I said only if I could bring them cheeseburgers and milkshakes :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-insecure-about-my-postpartum-weightand-baby-isnt-here-yet#post-755743 Wed, 01 May 2013 23:18:49 +0000 littlepenguin 755743@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll echo what has been said and that losing weight like that is definitely not the norm. Like you I was really worried about losing my baby weight. I gained about a third of my pre pregnancy weight. 3 months after my son being born the scale says I'm at my pregnancy weight but it must be redistributed because I still don't fit in my normal pants. My advice eat healthy (especially if you breast feeding) after recovery do small activities (I would take baby on walks in the stroller) and most importantly trust your body. Your body has spent 9 months taking care of you and baby it knows what it needs to recover. </p> <p>Enjoy the remainder of your pregnancy and I wish you a joyful arrival of your baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-insecure-about-my-postpartum-weightand-baby-isnt-here-yet#post-755734 Wed, 01 May 2013 23:03:42 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 755734@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Blog posts like that are sooooo not an accurate representation of reality. It took me nine months to get my pp body back....and you know what? People always told me how good I looked even before it came off. It is like everyone totally gave me grace. I just had a baby for crying out loud!<br /> Don't be so hard on yourself. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-insecure-about-my-postpartum-weightand-baby-isnt-here-yet#post-755725 Wed, 01 May 2013 22:51:29 +0000 yoursilverlining 755725@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah.....sigh. I don't have much advice except to say being back to your pp weight and body days after giving birth is NOT the norm; not even close!!!! And that bishes like that should just keep their bikini-buying traps shut about it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-insecure-about-my-postpartum-weightand-baby-isnt-here-yet#post-755720 Wed, 01 May 2013 22:45:30 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 755720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, that's really hard. I say, ditch those friends and make friends with some really big girls;) just kidding...kind of.<br /> I don't know what to tell you other than, this is your pregnancy: enjoy it!!! And you will be on cloud 9 when baby gets here and it'll take awhile to even realize you are whatever size.<br /> For me, I thought like you: I was 26w pregnant and already googling post partum workout plans.<br /> I brought a belly binder (bellefit) to the hospital and wore it immediately after birth (ok ...as soon as they let me shower) and that helped a TON!!! I didn't look pregnant. And then I did nothing but bf and (not sleep) and my weight came off. At about 4m Pp, I started walking in the treadmill and doing abs. By 6m I was back in business, at 6.5m I am running a bit and doing abs more often and I feel awesome. You can do it, it might be slow (or fast!) but you will get there. And seriously who the hell cares if you don't get *there*? You will be so happy: it won't matter a whole lot. Please enjoy your pregnancy!<br /> Oh and I walked an hour a day my last 5w of pregnancy and lost weight!! Ha .turns out I was eating for like...3-4, not 2. I was glad I finally got the hint, albeit it so late in the game. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-insecure-about-my-postpartum-weightand-baby-isnt-here-yet#post-755699 Wed, 01 May 2013 22:26:44 +0000 Boheme 755699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH's friend's wife posted a blog earlier about how she's so happy that she's back to her postpartum weight and size 4 days (DAYS!) after baby - and that she's already ordering bikinis for the summer because she'll be able to wear them sooner than she expected. Pair that with a friend of mine who had a baby two weeks ago and looks like nothing ever happened... and I had a great big depressed sob session earlier. I have no idea why this is bothering me so much. I guess because I know I'm going to have to fight like hell to get back to my pre-baby weight...I'm one of those people who was super careful during pregnancy and STILL gained like crazy. I also don't want DH to think their situations are normal and that I'll be back to my old size when the baby is a week old. I don't want that pressure. </p> <p>Did anybody else feel like this before they even gave birth? </p>