https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 29 Apr 2026 03:21:22 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-sick-of-ttc#post-43069 Thu, 29 Dec 2011 06:33:07 +0000 ladyfingers 43069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsLMA omg yes. I was talking to a friend the other day who said (lovingly, but truthfully) that I can't be comfortable unless I'm planning something. It sounds so sad in a way :-( But we just got married in November so I toooootttally know what you mean. It's not quite so bad because I refuse to craft/decorate/buy anything until I'm ACTUALLY pregnant. But in terms of the sly Internet research at work, yeah. For the first month, it was homes. Now it's TTC. God I hope they ever read my logs ;-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-sick-of-ttc#post-42884 Wed, 28 Dec 2011 17:37:27 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 42884@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Having my husband involved really helps keep me sane. When AF shows up he keeps me from getting too upset by reminding me that it will happen when it is meant to and stuff like that. After a few months we started charting and this month I started OPKs. I feel better doing those things because I don't stress about missing the fertile window. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-sick-of-ttc#post-42883 Wed, 28 Dec 2011 17:34:52 +0000 jrenee 42883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You don't know how much I needed to read this post today. We are in cycle 4 of TTC, I haven't been able to get out of my head this past week and am having some irrational feelings of "this is never gonna happen", which rationally I know isn't true, definitely trying to take it one step at a time. I know it will happen when my body is ready, so patience patience patience. The only thing that I can handle are the OPK strips, I know myself and charting temp, etc would just drive me crazy. My advice would be to have fun trying for the next couple of months before you get to wrapped in the stress of it all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-sick-of-ttc#post-42874 Wed, 28 Dec 2011 17:20:16 +0000 Mrs.VW 42874@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsLMA: I personally thought OPKs made me MORE crazy! :) I guess if I did use them in the future it would be the expensive digital ones. The strips just leave WAY too much to the imagination ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-sick-of-ttc#post-42863 Wed, 28 Dec 2011 17:09:39 +0000 cyneswith 42863@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm on cycle 2 as well (in the TWW). I decided from the beginning that charting would just stress me out, and I would just listen to my body. (Easy for me to say - I have rather clear pre/post ovulation signs.) If cycle 3 comes and goes, I might use OPKs for three months and switch to every other day instead of almost every day. My friends' advice (all have multiple kids) is just to have fun, "practice" a lot, and find other stuff to do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-sick-of-ttc#post-42843 Wed, 28 Dec 2011 16:31:41 +0000 MrsLMA 42843@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're in cycle 2 and I know how you feel. We're just recently married and I feel like every minute that went in to planning the wedding is now being spent thinking about getting pregnant.<br /> I charted and used OPKs the first month and decided that I'm not going to do that again for a couple months. </p> <p>It's hard, but I do feel less pressure this month than I did last month. If you make a goal not to chart or temp or anything try to stick with it- then reward yourself with something when you make it! </p> <p>Last, remember to have fun! DH is much happier this month now that I'm not all "its time, its time" and we're going with the flow more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-sick-of-ttc#post-42831 Wed, 28 Dec 2011 16:16:23 +0000 ladyfingers 42831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks! This helps. It's all stuff I know but I just can't drop the rock :) I haven't been telling DH mostly because I'm embarrassed -- weird, right? I told him when I went off the pill that I wasn't going to go all crazy and chart and shit. That took, um, about a week to go out the window. When I started freaking out because I was looking at three days worth of temperatures going, I HAVEN'T OVULATED YET, that I needed to calm the eff down.</p> <p>@Fancypants I'm glad you posted! Google might be the worst thing to happen to me, ever. I was googling earlier because my pulse seemed fast and I read somewhere that some girl's pulse got faster once she implanted. So that became the obsessive Googling marathon of the day. Ugh. What will I be like once I'm already pregnant -- or worse, with a kid? ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-sick-of-ttc#post-42789 Wed, 28 Dec 2011 15:21:25 +0000 Mrs.VW 42789@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are on our 5th cycle and I was the same way you are. I felt a ton of pressure for it to happen that first month, I'm not sure why. It actually has gotten a little better for me each month. I just ASSUMED we'd get pregnant the first month so just remember, and I know it sucks, but it can take any where from 6-12 months so don't stress about this first month. I think it's great you're charting. For me, at least it helped me to know that I was in fact ovulating bc I was the same as you, convinced it wouldn't happen for us. Hang in there!! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-sick-of-ttc#post-42747 Wed, 28 Dec 2011 14:56:22 +0000 DillonLion 42747@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Same boat! We are in the really really really early stages of trying (as in, just figured out like a week ago that everything was in order and we were going to give it a real go) but I am really trying hard not to get like hyper obsessed with everything. It is a challenge!! You are definitely not alone. </p> <p>For now, I'm not even remotely considering charting b/c I know it is going to make me even more crazy. I know how long my cycle is and when a good time frame would be to BD, and trying not to stress out any more than necessary. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-sick-of-ttc#post-42741 Wed, 28 Dec 2011 14:53:35 +0000 MrsLilybugg 42741@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ladyfingers, I know exactly what you mean about feeling like you're going crazy already. My first cycle TTC (and we're on our second cycle right now) I drove myself to the brink of insanity. I went through so many emotions: hopefulness, excitement when I swore everything I was feeling was a symptom, despair when I swore that I was doing all this for nothing because I'll never get pregnant, ever... you name it. There is no grounds whatsoever right now for me to have felt that way. It's just my nature of freaking-out and being a pessimist when it comes to good things happening to me I guess. Who knows. I decided I really needed to step away mentally from it all, unhealthy! They say that stress inhibits the process and maybe if all of the charting, temping, etc is stressing you out, like the PP said maybe step away for a few months. You may not even need to do that, yaknow?<br /> I'm not sure what made me stop freaking out about it. I guess I thought, it'll happen when it happens and all the freaking out in the world won't change it. Also, the fact that our cat passed away last week really made freaking out over the TTC process less a priority in my mind right now, coping with that grief. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-sick-of-ttc#post-42655 Wed, 28 Dec 2011 13:54:21 +0000 MamaMoose 42655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Give that this is your first cycle you have no reason to believe that you will have a hard time getting pregnant. Given that information if I were you I would quit temping and charting your CM and just let things happen naturally. Track your period so you know how long your cycle is so you can tell when your body regulates after the BC (this can take a few months). Once you're regular again give it a few months of trying without going crazy. Just have a lot of sex in the middle of your cycle : ) If that doesn't work after a while, then start getting serious about charting. You're only hurting yourself by stressing out before you even have a reason to worry yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-sick-of-ttc#post-42653 Wed, 28 Dec 2011 13:49:22 +0000 Andrea 42653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it would help if you included DH in on the process? We were lucky to get pregnant quickly so I did not have to stress out too much but DH was in on my stresses so that definitely helped. If he doesn't want to know ALL the details then that is fine, but at least you can clue him. Parenting is such a joint process that I think it should start from TTC. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-sick-of-ttc#post-42631 Wed, 28 Dec 2011 13:22:37 +0000 fancypants 42631@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a total lurker but I had to step in and say something to you, because I'm glad I'm not alone! I've been driving myself MAD about the whole thing, we're on the 4th cycle TTC now, and I've gotten a little more crazy about it each month. I almost have a sigh of relief when AF comes, because then I know I can at least relax for a couple weeks waiting to O.</p> <p>I will say that I also don't really share my obsessiveness with my husband either, for a few reasons. At the beginning I told him when I had a positive OPK and that it was "time," which ended up freaking him out and took all the fun out of it for him. But also, I just feel like it's TMI for him usually, he doesn't want to know what my cervix is up to. And I can't blame him.</p> <p>I'm also obsessed with all the boards and stalk them regularly but never speak up (until now). And the things I google are ridiculous. I don't have any good advice about how to chill out, because I'm clearly not doing it. Just wanted to let you know you're not alone :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/already-sick-of-ttc#post-42618 Wed, 28 Dec 2011 13:07:28 +0000 ladyfingers 42618@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>And we've barely started. We're on our first post-BC cycle, and I am already so obsessed with temperature taking and checking CM and using OPKs that I am driving myself UP THE WALL. Which is awful, because my body and cycle are so out of whack that probably nothing I'm charting makes any sense. I worry what I'll be like on cycle 3, 5, 12, 20, if it takes us any longer than THIS MONTH. I tend to worry a lot and live in the future, and wanting to be pregnant SO BAD isn't always good for my mental health. I mean, seriously. We have barely started trying and I'm already freaking out that I won't be able to get pregnant. Ever.</p> <p>So... while trying to TTC, did you have a really hard time early on trying to keep your mind from spinning out of control? How did you live more in the moment? I know it must get difficult the longer it takes but... any tricks to calm your mind? And keep from driving DH insane? Full disclosure: He doesn't know I'm doing any of this temping, CM, charting stuff. :/ </p>