https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 27 Jul 2026 21:50:46 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-awful#post-1526988 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 16:08:39 +0000 LindsayInNY 1526988@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Crystal: He doesn't really make me stress. At this point, I've given up on trying to make it an every-time occurrence. I don't really mind? Maybe because I don't know any different? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-awful#post-1524682 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 02:09:57 +0000 anonysquire 1524682@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Silva: I shouldn't have said I fake it everytime. More like I never orgasm. So I lay there like a noodle everytime. Fun, fun. Again, honestly I do not care. I like sex for the closeness and because he gets off. I can handle myself if you know what I mean. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-awful#post-1524680 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 02:05:48 +0000 Crystal 1524680@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LindsayInNY: how do you relax when he's making you stress about getting there? Or is that just in my case? Lol</p> <p>@HolisticMama: @Danizaur: @Radish: @LindsayInNY: I'm with you ladies. Maybe we should start a club? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-awful#post-1524661 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 00:29:28 +0000 Glitter 1524661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't fake it but I've been tempted to. I rarely orgasm from penetration alone and DH often takes it personally. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-awful#post-1524395 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 20:35:09 +0000 LindsayInNY 1524395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: @HolisticMama: @Radish: I'm with you ladies. </p> <p>It doesn't happen through sex alone for me. I hit a level 8 or 9 and that's it. Oral and self done work. It's always been this way, it's not DH or anything. He says I need to relax my mind. Honestly, if you don't know what you're "'missing out on" then you're not missing anything. I still enjoy sex just a much!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-awful#post-1524034 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 18:28:26 +0000 artsyfartsy 1524034@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kiddosc: I can't stand to have my clitoris stimulated for more than a minute. It's too much and makes me uncomfortable so oral is kind of pointless and not satisfying. I've tried many many many occasions. Penetration of some sort is really the only thing that gets me going. I still very much enjoy sex with my husband. </p> <p>Also masturbation never did anything for me. I'm one of those rare women who don't do it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-awful#post-1523996 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 18:06:26 +0000 Radish 1523996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: @HolisticMama: Same. </p> <p>@kiddosc: I honestly have no idea how to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-awful#post-1523950 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 17:40:33 +0000 Snowdrop 1523950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HolisticMama: It's very rare for a woman to orgasm through penetration, if I didn't get a little help down there, there is no way I would ever manage. Even when people do manage through penetration, it's often a position with lots of clitoral stimulation. What a great project for your 30's! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-awful#post-1523178 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 13:59:53 +0000 Chocoholic 1523178@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't ever faked it, I think DH would know and would feel like I was lying to him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-awful#post-1522896 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 13:13:40 +0000 kiddosc 1522896@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm really surprised there are so many ladies faking it. What's the point in faking it?</p> <p>I've only very very rarely reached orgasm through penetration alone. But I orgasm through oral sex and with manual stimulation of the clitoris. DH makes sure that if he gets "his", I get "mine"... it makes sex so much more enjoyable. For those of you ladies who've never orgasmed, have you tried to do it through masturbation? Finding out what you like and what makes you reach climax is the first step to teaching your partner how to do it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-awful#post-1522731 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 12:43:48 +0000 MaryM 1522731@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Usually I'll fake enjoyment if I can tell that's helping him enjoy it more. </p> <p>But if it's not obvious to him if I "finished" (his word choice) then sometimes he'll ask. And I won't lie about it if he asks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-awful#post-1522705 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 12:37:35 +0000 LovelyPlum 1522705@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Fronkinzankinsbride: HA! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-awful#post-1522347 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 10:55:29 +0000 whenoceansrise 1522347@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>hahaha. We got married in May and didn't have sex with eachother until we were married- it took a lot of practice for us. DH hasn't been able to get me to orgasm by penetration alone- usually only orally. I thought there was something wrong with me because it was so easy for him to orgasm and it took a lot of work for me and I had to be super turned on. I've never faked an orgasm- he knows I still enjoy it but sometimes I just don't care enough to try so hard. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-awful#post-1522345 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 10:54:41 +0000 Happygal 1522345@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CatchAFallingStar: if you are feeling guilty, you should listen to that and have a conversation with your husband. Maybe letting him know that just a quickie sometimes is okay will actually help him to feel better about things! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-awful#post-1522335 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 10:51:40 +0000 wonderstruck 1522335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Never, I think my DH would be really hurt. But I can't O during sex anyways, I need other kinds of action to make that happen. But if DH is trying and it's just not happening, I just tell him and focus on him instead. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-awful#post-1522310 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 10:44:02 +0000 pui 1522310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do kinda embellish my enjoyment, but I don't fake an orgasm. I don't orgasm from sex alone and DH knows this. Doesn't seem to bother him lol! I don't have as high a sex drive as him anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-awful#post-1522291 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 10:40:27 +0000 HolisticMama 1522291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm with @Danizaur. I don't think I've ever had an orgasm. I just turned 30...so maybe I will find it in this decade?</p> <p>I consciously make happy/sexy/satisfied noises during love making, but I don't feel like it's lying. I think it makes sex more enjoyable for both of us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-awful#post-1521614 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 06:46:51 +0000 Miss Sarah 1521614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bhbee: I agree, I think it's really a difficult task for DH during TTC. He can't just "lay there and take it," and sometimes, it's too much pressure for him. So when he is into it, even if I'm not, I am sure to let him know that I enjoy it. We've been together for almost 10 years, even before TTC, we openly talked about how not every session is going to end in an orgasm for me, but that doesn't mean I don't like it or want him to enjoy himself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-awful#post-1521608 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 06:42:39 +0000 bhbee 1521608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At this point I usually let DH subtly know whether the session is one I can "enjoy" or not. Usually for me that directly corresponds to whether it's too late and I'm exhausted. We've been doing this long enough to be pretty open about it not always being fun. I definitely have amped up my reaction to help him along sometimes ... I think it's really hard to be in their position where it's not optional during ttc! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-awful#post-1521604 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 06:33:37 +0000 Miss Sarah 1521604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Crystal: Lol!! I did this once last week too! It was past O and I usually don't get as "into" it after O, so preseed it was! ;-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-awful#post-1521559 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 04:46:15 +0000 Silva 1521559@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: This bums me out :sad: why do you bother faking it?</p> <p>@CatchAFallingStar: I never faked, but definitely didn't make it every time during TTC. My husband probably wouldn't have either, if that was possible! We did Every day and it ended up being like 10 days- we were just trying to get the job done.<br /> Sometimes you have an off day and it's not going to happen. I don't bother faking though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-awful#post-1521548 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 03:58:37 +0000 anonysquire 1521548@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CatchAFallingStar: no. I've told my husband before he needs to not be in such a hurry and worry about my needs just like I worry about his. And still we play the silly 1 pump chump games. Meh, I'm over it. Honestly I'm just happy when I get any action! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-awful#post-1521542 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 03:07:37 +0000 artsyfartsy 1521542@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Everytime. I don't think I've ever actually had a real one in my life. I've had a couple times where I thought I maybe have, but if it was it was very underwhelming compared to what I've heard it's like!</p> <p>I still enjoy it with my husband. I feel guilty when I think about it, so I just try not to think about it. Lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-awful#post-1521531 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 02:37:53 +0000 Mrs tartan 1521531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Crystal: hilarious! </p> <p>Yes of course we have, by the end our ttc journey we were going for quality over quantity though which means I actually enjoyed myself a bit more. In the first 7 months I probably faked about 80% haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-awful#post-1521523 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 01:48:09 +0000 Crystal 1521523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess this is a safe place to admit that I've been injecting preseed all week without telling my husband? He just thinks I'm really enjoying myself, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-awful#post-1521518 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 01:27:45 +0000 Snowdrop 1521518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Occasionally if there is no way it is gonna happen. Most of the times I manage no problem though. I know its bad but its easier than the whole its not you its me explanation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-awful#post-1521513 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 01:10:38 +0000 Fronkinzankinsbride 1521513@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've embellished my enjoyment but never an orgasm and never with my wife. It would make me sad if she faked orgasms so I wouldn't want to do that to her. </p> <p>I've always let my partner know that an orgasm isn't my only goal. </p> <p>I don't have to sleep with men though so I Don't blame yall. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-awful#post-1521501 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 00:36:23 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 1521501@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsHansen82: Yeah, DH always waits for me, too... I get kind of worn out and just can't keep at it for 30+ minutes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-awful#post-1521499 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 00:33:02 +0000 turquoisemama 1521499@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Most of the time, no, but TTC is so tiring sometimes. He always waits for me, so when I want to be done OCASSIONALLY, yes, I will. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-awful#post-1521497 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 00:30:56 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 1521497@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dc yoga bee: haha! totally </p>