https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 22 Apr 2026 06:24:09 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-crazy-8/page/2#post-2173737 Sun, 10 May 2015 22:48:28 +0000 irene 2173737@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not crazy.</p> <p>I sense that there are some previous "condition" with you and your in-laws. Not crazy because I can see that happening with me and my FIL. Haha.</p> <p>Hugs to you!!! Happymothers day and happy birthday~ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-crazy-8/page/2#post-2173675 Sun, 10 May 2015 20:58:17 +0000 Anagram 2173675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ElbieKay: now that you've mentioned it, we never spent Mother's Day with grandparents when I was growing up, either. Probably because we lived far away, but I also know my mom didn't send elaborate gifts---maybe a card, if that.</p> <p>I'm just glad my family is not into these things, because reading these posts always stress me out, haha. I'd hate to spend an entire day trying to fit in time with each side if the family, arranged around my LOs schedule.</p> <p>As it was, I had a perfect Mother's Day--biking to brunch with DH and LO, then a nap, then another long family bike ride along the river, and some TV time after LO went to bed--bliss!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-crazy-8/page/2#post-2173545 Sun, 10 May 2015 17:26:43 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2173545@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that how you spend Mother's Day and your birthday is a personal choice. If you want to give away roses to every mom you know, then that's cool. If you want to cocoon yourself inside your home, then that's cool too! If you normally cocoon yourself, but decide to be social this year, then it's your prerogative and no one should make you feel bad for 1) changing your normal routine or 2) cocooning yourself all those years. </p> <p>@bunnylove08: To answer your question: not the slightest! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-crazy-8/page/2#post-2173402 Sun, 10 May 2015 12:09:53 +0000 ElbieKay 2173402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Chiming in late to say that (1) I generally dislike Hallmark holidays (2) we never saw my grandparents on Mother's Day when I was growing up, so I never thought of it as a holiday for extended family and (3) I usually feel a bit stifled around my parents and it feels like things are always on their terms. </p> <p>Last year my mom invited us over to celebrate my first Mother's Day, so I had to deal with getting out the door with my 2mo. And then she invited her friend -- who I don't really like -- over to meet the baby.</p> <p>This year we had a family wedding on Friday and had brunch with my parents and my MIL on Saturday morning. So we stayed home on Mother's Day. I slept in and went to yoga, and I am going to spend a lazy afternoon with my husband and my son which is exactly how I want to spend the day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-crazy-8/page/2#post-2173317 Sun, 10 May 2015 09:19:55 +0000 bunnylove08 2173317@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well here's an update. MIL bailed last minute (told dh)She said FIL is coming home late yesterday from a drum core performance so they will not make it. She texts me wishing a happy Mother's Day and says its a good thing we canceled because FIL is very sick. </p> <p>SIL said she wasn't coming on Friday. </p> <p>so now I get to spend the day with my family </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-crazy-8/page/2#post-2169866 Thu, 07 May 2015 06:14:46 +0000 rachiecakes 2169866@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's okay to want to celebrate you :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-crazy-8/page/2#post-2169849 Thu, 07 May 2015 05:59:41 +0000 bunnylove08 2169849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Madison43: I didn't think it was going go cause such a stir. I wanted to just be talked off the ledge :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-crazy-8/page/2#post-2169848 Thu, 07 May 2015 05:58:18 +0000 bunnylove08 2169848@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rainbow Sprinkles: would your answer be different if you spent every weekend driving to see them and spending time with them? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-crazy-8/page/2#post-2169759 Wed, 06 May 2015 22:52:29 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 2169759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I PERSONALLY think your response was a bit much. I would be happy that family thought of me and wanted to include me in their day. I don't know, although I'm a mom and appreciate the sentiment, I also really enjoy honoring the moms who came before me and all they've done, so I would be willing to drive a bit in order to spend the day with family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-crazy-8/page/2#post-2169704 Wed, 06 May 2015 21:17:59 +0000 bunnylove08 2169704@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@AprilFool: thank you for finding the words I couldn't. I don't think that it's Mother's Day that is bothering me but my actual birthday.</p> <p>I hope I get to enjoy it too </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-crazy-8/page/2#post-2169376 Wed, 06 May 2015 16:35:58 +0000 AprilFool 2169376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I understand not feeling like a priority on Mothers day. Sometimes you just want people to say to you 'it's your day too what would you like to do?' I'm glad your DH is on your side and hope you get to enjoy your weekend. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-crazy-8/page/2#post-2169291 Wed, 06 May 2015 16:01:07 +0000 Keybee 2169291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's a hard situation. I think that it's totally OK to want a calm and intimate Mother's Day/Birthday weekend. It's nice to spend time with extended family, but sometimes it's nice to spend time with your little family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-crazy-8/page/2#post-2169162 Wed, 06 May 2015 15:03:46 +0000 anonysquire 2169162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Madison43: my mom is the bomb :) bffs for life! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-crazy-8/page/2#post-2169157 Wed, 06 May 2015 15:01:32 +0000 Madison43 2169157@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: that's such a nice sentiment about your mom!</p> <p>I never thought a mother's day thread would get so intense! Honestly, I think how you feel about this question and everyone's responses depends completely on what type of relationship you have with your family or IL's. I'm not super duper close with my mom - I'll call her and send flowers because that's what you do - but because I don't have the same level of appreciation for my parents that others do, I'm not really going out of my way to make it a special day. I have no negative feelings about it, just eh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-crazy-8/page/2#post-2169136 Wed, 06 May 2015 14:51:21 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2169136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: my answer to your question was :meh: , the rest was tmi to leave up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-crazy-8#post-2169111 Wed, 06 May 2015 14:35:50 +0000 anonysquire 2169111@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: why did you erase the rest of your comment? And you asked if she shows her mom appreciation 364 days so I turned the question around. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-crazy-8#post-2169005 Wed, 06 May 2015 13:56:45 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2169005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: my husband? :meh: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-crazy-8#post-2168983 Wed, 06 May 2015 13:32:21 +0000 anonysquire 2168983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For me, there will never be a day that I celebrate my husband's mom. But if I put my mom in this situation, I'd bend over backwards to make her happy. And maybe it's dependent on how we were raised, but I feel like I owe my mom everything. She wants the family over to her house? Ya I'll be there all day. Forget celebrating myself, I get to spend everyday with my babes and that's celebration enough. Who knows how many years I have left with my mom, but I'm going to celebrate her every chance I get. And yes I appreciate her and celebrate her all year, we live 5 houses away from eachother and see eachother all week. But it doesn't change things. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-crazy-8#post-2168979 Wed, 06 May 2015 13:28:36 +0000 anonysquire 2168979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: doesn't your husband show you appreciation the other 364 days of the year? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-crazy-8#post-2168927 Wed, 06 May 2015 12:29:02 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2168927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pinkcupcake: that's good to feel Mother's Day as a stress free holiday. #mommyissues I can't wait until I have a legit reason to just send a card and give her a call for this greeting card holiday. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-crazy-8#post-2168902 Wed, 06 May 2015 12:18:11 +0000 pinkcupcake 2168902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I don't see it as being a bother. I enjoy celebrating Mother's Day w/the important moms in my life. And yep, I show her appreciation 364 days out of the year, as does my husband to me (and hopefully Lo when she gets older). If you go with that argument, Mother's Day - or any day celebrating someone - isn't necessary since we have everyday to show our love and gratitude. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-crazy-8#post-2168897 Wed, 06 May 2015 12:14:06 +0000 MrsMccarthy 2168897@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This would bug me too! You deserve to enjoy your day! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-crazy-8#post-2168895 Wed, 06 May 2015 12:11:02 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2168895@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pinkcupcake: don't you show your mom appreciation and celebrate her the other 364 days out of the year? I don't understand why another mother, even your own or your partner's, still gets to monopolize your time on this day if you don't feel like being bothered. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-crazy-8#post-2168883 Wed, 06 May 2015 12:04:50 +0000 Truth Bombs 2168883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@catomd00: I think saying you have a bad relationship with your mother is a totally different ball game than saying "now that I'm a mother, Mother's Day is only about me". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-crazy-8#post-2168853 Wed, 06 May 2015 11:42:19 +0000 catomd00 2168853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: not everyone has a close, positive relationship with their mother or mother in law. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-crazy-8#post-2168811 Wed, 06 May 2015 11:00:57 +0000 bunnylove08 2168811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@youboots: happy early birthday! Thank you for your condolences </p> <p>Its tough because I want to also spend time with my sister and aunt who live in the same neighborhood as me and if I go out to spend time with MIL and SIL then its a whole day and I do not get to spend time with my family. I feel that yes it is a national holiday that celebrates mothers but my weekends are usually spent with MIL, FIL and now BIL and SIL so i think I should have a pass to say no I cannot make it and spend it with my sister and aunt (I've done this every year since my mother passed away). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-crazy-8#post-2168790 Wed, 06 May 2015 10:39:19 +0000 youboots 2168790@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Eh, since I share a birthday weekend with you, I can totally relate. My MIL loves getting everyone together and celebrates every holiday. I love her but she can be a bit demanding when it comes to holidays (she was born on Christmas) Anyways, I think it's ok to take the weekend off every few years to spend time with just your little family. Last year I was in Vegas for my 30th (the day before Mother's Day last year) and we sent cards and made calls. No one around here cares. Personally I would not pull a FTM card, but I would call an it's my birthday card from time to time.</p> <p>So sorry for the loss of your Mom I'm sure this makes everything more difficult on a weekend that already has a lot going on.</p> <p>I know driving is no fun- but I vote do something fun in the morning then just do it. Next year plan a little getaway for your birthday ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-crazy-8#post-2168733 Wed, 06 May 2015 10:04:31 +0000 pinkcupcake 2168733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: I totally agree with you. I really , really dislike the "ok now I'm a mom so it's all about me" attitude. My mom has done more for me in the past 30-some years (yikes!) that I've been alive. I am so thankful to be able to honor and show her love and appreciation. She is not my mother any less (or any less deserving of celebration) now that I am a mom as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-crazy-8#post-2168722 Wed, 06 May 2015 09:58:34 +0000 Maysprout 2168722@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: when I was upset about having to host my husband had been away for a month and we were trying to make trips to see him. I had a lo and was pregnant with lo2 and trying to finish up a couple papers for deadlines while solo parenting. Our house was in a state and we were given 24 hr notice of a visit. DH was finally coming home and I just needed time to relax for a day. Instead I got 2 hrs of sleep because I had to clean and cook. At this period in our lives we are just busier than our retired parents. We make a good effort for them to see the kids but it's a logistical headache to juggle everything around a day when traveling is involved. We make plans that better fit with schedules. it could be done but I'd rather my husband get me flowers to plant and take a walk with him and the kids and not worry about cleaning or traveling. Sure it's selfish but I'm ok with that at times. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-crazy-8#post-2168719 Wed, 06 May 2015 09:56:42 +0000 bunnylove08 2168719@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: The confusion happened when MIL suggested a restaurant when I told them our place was too small for a sit down meal. MIL suggested to DH that her and FIL would come to us. Which is fine by me. </p> <p>I'm upset that SIL did not mention any of this and she should not have MIL look like the bad person shooting down ideas. SIL also wants our family to be closer since having her LO. I get it, we have seen them every weekend at their place, would it hurt for them to come and see us. Maybe she can say, hey I dont feel comfortable coming to the restaurant with LO but we can meet at your place for dessert. </p>