https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 09 Apr 2026 03:24:26 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-lame-for-already-dreading-the-pregnancy-comments#post-19551 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 16:11:26 +0000 SouthPaw 19551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't worry about what others say =) Stick to what you and your hubby have planned and make it a joke between you two when people say off the wall comments! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-lame-for-already-dreading-the-pregnancy-comments#post-19476 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 14:32:33 +0000 MrsLilybugg 19476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MediaGirl: that is CRAZY! Ha ha! "gee, sorry I didn't fit into your perfect time line lady". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-lame-for-already-dreading-the-pregnancy-comments#post-19470 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 14:29:21 +0000 MrsLilybugg 19470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>MrBee, you are so right!! :) Thank you!!!</p> <p>@CarrieKnitsCake: yes, we definitely have a strong relationship already. We had been sharing a home and life together for three years, and our wedding day in July was more of an official formality/confirmation to our friends and family that yes, we have been and will always be serious about our commitment. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-lame-for-already-dreading-the-pregnancy-comments#post-19461 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 14:13:54 +0000 oliviaoblivia 19461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: hilarious! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-lame-for-already-dreading-the-pregnancy-comments#post-19450 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 13:53:06 +0000 looch 19450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: I think I did laugh. Then he gave me an extra helping of whatever he was serving that day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-lame-for-already-dreading-the-pregnancy-comments#post-19445 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 13:49:04 +0000 mediagirl 19445@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: That just made me laugh. "What happened there." Seriously, I think I would have laughed at him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-lame-for-already-dreading-the-pregnancy-comments#post-19444 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 13:47:25 +0000 looch 19444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never got any comments, except one, now that I think of it, from the guy at the pizza counter at our work cafeteria. He took one look at my belly and asked "what happened there?"</p> <p>I attribute it to the fact that English wasn't his first language, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-lame-for-already-dreading-the-pregnancy-comments#post-19439 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 13:38:28 +0000 mrskc 19439@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: That exact same thing happened to me except it was the receptionist at the dentist's office! We'd only been married for 9 months at the time. So rude. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-lame-for-already-dreading-the-pregnancy-comments#post-19438 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 13:36:06 +0000 mrbee 19438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Comments like these will be good news... it will mean you are pregnant!! :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-lame-for-already-dreading-the-pregnancy-comments#post-19432 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 13:32:02 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 19432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No matter what the situation, there will be comments... so I wouldn't worry about it. When I announced my second pregnancy my mom said "what, already... are you serious, but that means I won't have that much time to spend with Mavrick" </p> <p>um.... odd, but whatever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-lame-for-already-dreading-the-pregnancy-comments#post-19382 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 12:52:20 +0000 carrieknitscake 19382@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: We're TTC and married about the same time you were. I think that the two years gives it a bit of a buffer from those "already, fast" comments. </p> <p>I will say that I'm surprised when some couples get pregnant right after getting married. For me, it seems fast because I couldn't envision trying and being pregnant until a couple years into our marriage. I also just hope that those couples that get pregnant right away have a solid relationship to handle the stress of babies, etc. It seems like a lot to take right after a big event of a wedding and adjusting to married life. </p> <p>I say this as I was with my husband for 5 years on the day we married. As of last month, we've been together 7 years and married two of them. We're just a little slower on the life plan changes than some. Add to the trying right now, three cycles down and not our time yet to be pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-lame-for-already-dreading-the-pregnancy-comments#post-19355 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 12:20:12 +0000 cyndistar3 19355@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got pregnant a few weeks after the wedding, the thing I hear all the time is "wow that was fast" or "well, you two don't waste any time do you?" So I say yea or no no we don't because I really don't care, I am super excitef to have another baby and no one can take it away from me :)</p> <p>Eta: oh yea then theres the "are you excited?" question... NO! I am pissed because were having a baby... Of course im excited you idiot... I swear thats peoples way of asking if you planned it or not lol... *end rant* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-lame-for-already-dreading-the-pregnancy-comments#post-19351 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 12:14:47 +0000 heffalump 19351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A friend asked me if I was happy. I had just miscarried and I was preggo again,and he knew how hard it all was for me. And then he had the nerve to very seriously ask me if I was happy. And in a "really? Why would you be happy about that? " tone.</p> <p>We are at different stages in life, he would not be happy to become a dad. But he should still try to understand my point of view! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-lame-for-already-dreading-the-pregnancy-comments#post-19338 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 11:57:17 +0000 mediagirl 19338@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Funny you mention this. I told someone the other day I was pg (because I was almost throwing up in her garbage can) and she said to me, "How long have you been married?" (First odd question). I said a year. She said, "Oh wow, that was fast!" ...Really? So, I responded with, "Well, we were together for 8 years before we got married." To which she responded, "Well, I guess it's about time then, huh?</p> <p>Really???? Like there is a time frame on how long you should be together/married/etc before getting pregnant! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-lame-for-already-dreading-the-pregnancy-comments#post-19337 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 11:56:57 +0000 MrsLilybugg 19337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Winniebee, you may be on to something with me in that maybe people will "see it coming" too. Two of my closest friends have just had babies, so naturally I come next. Hopefully I won't get ackward comments! Gosh, your friend must have felt really badly pressing the issue after they found out about your M/C. That's why i think the "were you trying" is so intrusive! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-lame-for-already-dreading-the-pregnancy-comments#post-19335 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 11:54:07 +0000 MrsLilybugg 19335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Charlie, I totally laughed at my desk with your comeback! And I agree with what you were saying about having the love in your hearts and money in your pockets. Some people are so hung up about us owning a property first. (We rent right now). But if I wait for everything to line up first, a baby might never happen!<br /> Bells, you are so right. There is always someone saying something. I need to learn to toughen my skin and not let things irk me as much as they do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-lame-for-already-dreading-the-pregnancy-comments#post-19332 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 11:50:19 +0000 winniebee 19332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Surprisingly, the comments have not been that awkward! We have been married for 2 years and together for 10 and my friends have pretty much all had babies in the past year. So, I feel like people are/were expecting it. </p> <p>Though yesterday a friend asked "were you trying for awhile?" To which I responded, yes, and had a miscarriage back in May so we are really ready. I figured honesty is good in the face of a sorta rude question. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-lame-for-already-dreading-the-pregnancy-comments#post-19329 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 11:49:21 +0000 sorrycharlie 19329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>ugh, you aren't the only one. thus why we aren't telling anyone we're ttc until we have a bun in the oven. </p> <p>we're young (23) and having been together 4+ years (living together for almost all of it), we've "only" been married 4 months. we aren't rich, don't own a home, don't drive brand-new luxury vehicles, but have enough love in our hearts and money in our pockets to have a happy family.</p> <p>we know we're ready, and family will obviously be happy, but don't want anyone trying to talk us out of it. </p> <p>as far as, "were you trying?'' "are you trying to get pregnant?" etc, I shoot back (and will shoot back!), "well, we are a married couple. how's your sex life?" unless it's an elderly person or a child, then I smile and say it's a private topic. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-lame-for-already-dreading-the-pregnancy-comments#post-19327 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 11:48:03 +0000 Mrsbells 19327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>People are always going to have things to say so as long as you are happy with the timing of the pregancy I would just ignore any comments. My husband and I got pregant within a month of getting married, but that doesnt bother us at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-lame-for-already-dreading-the-pregnancy-comments#post-19323 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 11:40:22 +0000 MrsLilybugg 19323@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Husband and I have JUST started TTC (after many, many years of me wanting to while we were dating but waiting to be officially married). Actually, I would have been fine doing so beforehand, but my family/friends would have given us grief! I'm dreading the comments for when I do hopefully become pregnant. What I can already hear:</p> <p>- "Wow, that was fast!" We married in July, living together 3 yrs prior however. Many people have said "enjoy your marriage first" to the point where I definitely have been keeping the fact that we're TTC secret to avoid judgement. I'm 33!<br /> - "So quick!" (variation of above)<br /> - "Were you trying?" I've been brainstorming answers to such a personal question which I KNOW will come from work people.</p> <p>What comments have you dealt with or are dreading? Any good replies to these comments? </p>