https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Apr 2026 12:41:08 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-overreacting#post-593661 Tue, 26 Feb 2013 10:07:50 +0000 MrsLilybugg 593661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: thanks :) And it's true - if roles were reversed she wouldn't like that</p> <p>Well thanks everyone it helped to get this off my chest and see both sides. the whole time DH was saying she was just worried about me, which I can see now. But at the same time, I get bristly if I hear negative things re my giving my family a ride home. Hopefully she doesn't do this again!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-overreacting#post-592507 Mon, 25 Feb 2013 16:19:50 +0000 Crisark 592507@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Eh, I can see it on both sides.<br /> It really just sounds like she doesn't want you to have to go out of your way. Whether you are cool with it or not. Not necessarily that she's talking crap on your family.<br /> Idk, I understand but I really think it's just something to blow off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-overreacting#post-592485 Mon, 25 Feb 2013 16:11:03 +0000 hellobeeboston 592485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsLilybugg: yeah, I hear ya. It's great that you get along (mostly) it really just seems like she's trying to help you out, and doesn't realize she's driving you nuts.... ha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-overreacting#post-592480 Mon, 25 Feb 2013 16:09:34 +0000 heffalump 592480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmmm..... I wonder what she would think if it were the other way around and she was the one who needed the ride. Would she want to take the bus?!</p> <p>Yay for DH for sticking up for you! I would just try to let it go, as hard as it is. It's always just easier to not pick fights with family though. But I think it's awesome that you go out of your way for your family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-overreacting#post-592478 Mon, 25 Feb 2013 16:08:56 +0000 MrsLilybugg 592478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsbells: @runnerd: thanks! This has been festering in my mind since Christmas Eve!!!! I need to be better about "brushing it off". I hope there's not another instance because I might just snap though :p </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-overreacting#post-592476 Mon, 25 Feb 2013 16:07:21 +0000 MrsLilybugg 592476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hellobeeboston: I KNOW!!! OMG I don't even want to THINK about when I have the baby hahahah. Heck, maybe I'll just stop driving all together to avoid drama.</p> <p>Yea, my instinct is also to "brush it off", because really she IS great. My DH says he thinks she's just trying to protect me, but when it comes to anyone saying anything about my family I get all momma bear lol. And technically, it's not really saying bad stuff ABOUT them. Sigh. I'm too sensitive </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-overreacting#post-592472 Mon, 25 Feb 2013 16:06:57 +0000 mlm2934 592472@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There are just certain repeated comments that will drive a person crazy because you know the train of thought behind the comment - so I completely understand why you feel this way!! They are "harmless" comments that one day cause you to crack and snap badly at a person! :) it's only natural that you worry about negative impressions she has of your family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-overreacting#post-592470 Mon, 25 Feb 2013 16:06:44 +0000 Mrsbells 592470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah I see how it would be annoying if she says it all the time but I would also just brush it off as not a big deal </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-overreacting#post-592465 Mon, 25 Feb 2013 16:04:18 +0000 hellobeeboston 592465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>hmm, sounds annoying but i guess I would just brush it off. it seems like she might just be trying to "be on your side" -- even though you told her you don't mind. I don't know why it would bother her if it doesn't bother you at all and you volunteer. </p> <p>i would just brush her off... that' what I do to my MIL. haha.... </p> <p>man, what is she going to say when you have the baby?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-overreacting#post-592453 Mon, 25 Feb 2013 15:59:10 +0000 MrsLilybugg 592453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I grew up in an inner city, and my mom and sister/nephew still live there. My sister has had knee surgery, and still can’t fully walk and take public transportation. They do not have a car because the city has an extensive transportation system (albeit full of people mean to pregnant ladies, lol), and for jobs they’ve worked at a nearby hospital. Target runs etc. are always with me, but never at their bequest but because I drag my sis/nephew along with me. </p> <p>OK that is the back story.</p> <p>DH and I moved to a city about FIFTEEN MINUTES away. 15 minutes. Whenever my MIL has an event at her house, I want my mom, sis, and nephew there too! So I pick them up, and drop them off. No biggie – they are close, and don’t have a car.</p> <p>Yet, MIL seems to think it’s OK to judge this! “Oh, I hate that they make you drive them everywhere”. Errm, excuse me? It’s choice! I could easily NOT invite them, but I WANT to, and I’m not going to force my mom on a bus if I can easily get her. I’ve been ignoring this, but it’s reaching a breaking point. Christmas Eve for example. I usually spend it first in Boston with my family, then we drive back to MIL’s for a XMAS eve party that goes on all night. This year, I wanted everyone together. So, my other sister (who has a car) picked them up. I was going to drop them off afterward. It turns out that my other sister said “don’t worry, I’ll take them home too.” Yay, right? Except the next morning, MIL started to say “I am so glad your sister dropped them off. I hate that you’re expected to drive them everywhere”. AGAIN WITH THAT. I was already hormonal and that just made me tear up. I was so angry the entire Xmas morning. </p> <p>Over the weekend we went to an event for my other sister in which my dad gave them a ride to (he lives elsewhere), but had to leave early. I gladly would have taken them home, except someone else offered. In the car with MIL and DH on my way to drop her off at home (the irony…), you guessed it: “Well, I’m so glad they got a ride. I hope they didn’t expect you to drive them home.”<br /> I could SCREAM!!!</p> <p>I said “Well, they never EXPECT it. It’s just something I do. I’m not sticking my nephew on a bus”…. Thankfully my DH jumped in and started joking about how mean of me that would be, if I stuck them on a bus, and I’m hoping that cemented in her mind how any alternative to my driving them home, 15 minutes away, would be awful. I hate that she is judging my family for not owning a car in inner city Boston. And I already know that to avoid this BS next Christmas, I will just spend Xmas Eve with my family in Boston instead of trying the whole “together thing”.</p> <p>Am I overreacting cause of hormones? Or is this as rude and judgmental as I feel it is?</p> <p>I feel I should add that even though it sounds otherwise, I really do love my MIL. It's just, some things get under my skin... </p>