https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 17:19:43 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-suppose-to-buy-a-gift-as-well#post-1148549 Mon, 14 Oct 2013 09:12:23 +0000 2PeasinaPod 1148549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would also get a small gift...a few books for the baby or an outfit like someone else suggested.</p> <p>Since this is your 3rd baby, I don't think it's weird at all that she didn't offer to throw you a shower. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-suppose-to-buy-a-gift-as-well#post-1148505 Mon, 14 Oct 2013 08:58:42 +0000 MamaBehr 1148505@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dolphin: That's what I have always thought too, but here in TX I have only been invited to showers for second or third children! Which is part of the reason I offered to throw this friend a shower. This is my third baby and someone offered (I didn't even bring it up) to throw a shower for me. I felt super (and still feel) weird about it, but my friends down here didn't know me when I had my first or second, so they keep telling me this is their first shower for me :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-suppose-to-buy-a-gift-as-well#post-1148156 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 22:14:12 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1148156@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Your gift is the shower, but I have always noticed the hostesses give gifts too. </p> <p>I don't think showers are reciprocal, so no I don't think it's weird that she is not a hostess for your shower. Showers are given by people who *want* to host. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-suppose-to-buy-a-gift-as-well#post-1148129 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 21:48:14 +0000 dolphin 1148129@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always thought showers are only for baby #1? I always get a gift even if I'm hosting shower. It is weird that she hasn't offered to help with yours though. So I think in your case, the shower is more than enough and no gift is fine! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-suppose-to-buy-a-gift-as-well#post-1148116 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 21:29:59 +0000 MamaMoose 1148116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you should get a small gift. I just co-hosted my SIL's shower and also bought her her stroller. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-suppose-to-buy-a-gift-as-well#post-1148038 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 20:29:22 +0000 ALV91711 1148038@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would get a small gift, but I wouldn't say you have to. </p> <p>It is strange she hasn't offered, but she may just have too much going on or not feel up to it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-suppose-to-buy-a-gift-as-well#post-1148034 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 20:27:31 +0000 regberadaisy 1148034@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaBehr: I would have until you told me she is not involved at all in your shower. Then I think what you're doing is more than enough. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-suppose-to-buy-a-gift-as-well#post-1148026 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 20:25:27 +0000 SweetMamaM 1148026@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Your gift is the shower and yeah, I think it's a little bit weird that she hasn't even really offered to help with yours. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-suppose-to-buy-a-gift-as-well#post-1147967 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 19:55:14 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1147967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No gift. You're hosting her shower for one, and two, it is her second child.</p> <p>I *would* take flowers to the hpspital when I visit though and food to her home. I always do that aside from the shower gift.</p> <p>P.s: I don't think t is weird; she may have a lot on her plate right now. It would be nice if she were involved, but I wouldn't be offended. She may think your friends have it under control. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-suppose-to-buy-a-gift-as-well#post-1147964 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 19:54:10 +0000 swedishfish 1147964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Your gift is definitely the shower. I guess you could get a cute, CHEAP outfit for the baby if you want to though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-suppose-to-buy-a-gift-as-well#post-1147960 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 19:52:45 +0000 autumnlove 1147960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would buy a small gift...maybe an outfit or some books! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-suppose-to-buy-a-gift-as-well#post-1147957 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 19:50:36 +0000 MamaBehr 1147957@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm throwing a shower for a friend who is due one week before me. This is her second baby, she isn't registering anywhere, and doesn't need anything big. Am I suppose to buy a gift? </p> <p>ps is it weird that she isn't at all involved in throwing me a shower? Like didn't even ask me if she could be involved.... </p> <p>THANKS!! </p>