https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 07:18:15 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-the-only-one-who-feels-weird-about-facebook/page/2#post-561263 Mon, 11 Feb 2013 23:36:54 +0000 wheres_c 561263@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We created a private family group and requested that photos only be shared there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-the-only-one-who-feels-weird-about-facebook/page/2#post-560987 Mon, 11 Feb 2013 19:35:06 +0000 Boheme 560987@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: I will have to figure out how to do that! I would like to delete my Facebook, but I kind of like to have it to monitor what my MIL and DH's aunt are posting. Your friend's solution sounds like a good idea! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-the-only-one-who-feels-weird-about-facebook/page/2#post-560983 Mon, 11 Feb 2013 19:30:58 +0000 blackbird 560983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A friend of mine set up her FB so that only family members can see photos of her baby and photos cannot be shared or tagged without permission. I suppose someone could save the photo and re upload it, though. She added me as a cousin so I could see baby photos but it did severely limit who sees photos of her kid! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-the-only-one-who-feels-weird-about-facebook/page/2#post-560979 Mon, 11 Feb 2013 19:28:48 +0000 Bao 560979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsH: found it, thanks so much!! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-the-only-one-who-feels-weird-about-facebook/page/2#post-560973 Mon, 11 Feb 2013 19:24:43 +0000 MrsH 560973@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bao: under privacy settings there is a whole group of timeline and tagging options. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-the-only-one-who-feels-weird-about-facebook/page/2#post-560898 Mon, 11 Feb 2013 18:26:04 +0000 Mrs. Superhero 560898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I still use facebook, but I don't post photos. I'll post links to blog posts or flickr albums if I want to share. I don't like that they make you feel like it's safe and private and then constantly change the privacy settings. I just got annoyed and pulled all my photos (and I had a ton). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-the-only-one-who-feels-weird-about-facebook/page/2#post-560892 Mon, 11 Feb 2013 18:22:46 +0000 Bao 560892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsH: do you know how? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-the-only-one-who-feels-weird-about-facebook/page/2#post-560836 Mon, 11 Feb 2013 17:40:13 +0000 sarac 560836@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lots of people feel this way - you're not along AT ALL. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-the-only-one-who-feels-weird-about-facebook#post-560795 Mon, 11 Feb 2013 17:21:40 +0000 MrsH 560795@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bao: you can set it so you can approve the tags. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-the-only-one-who-feels-weird-about-facebook#post-560664 Mon, 11 Feb 2013 16:24:45 +0000 LC 560664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, true about tagging, it'll show up on their profile. To avoid that I have mine set so I have to approve when people tag themselves in my photos and I just deny everyone. Probably makes me a jerk, but it's the only way to somewhat control who sees it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-the-only-one-who-feels-weird-about-facebook#post-560662 Mon, 11 Feb 2013 16:23:18 +0000 Bao 560662@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cascademom: I tag DH which is fine, but I just get annoyed when everyone and their brother tags themselves too.. it's weird lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-the-only-one-who-feels-weird-about-facebook#post-560643 Mon, 11 Feb 2013 16:15:16 +0000 cascademom 560643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bao: I know when I tag my husband on photos, they show up in his profile. Then, MIL "likes" them, therefore has access to them. I believe tagging them puts it on their profile, so then their friends can see it and like it as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-the-only-one-who-feels-weird-about-facebook#post-560638 Mon, 11 Feb 2013 16:12:53 +0000 Bao 560638@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LC: This is so great to hear!!</p> <p>I'm not too picky about my LO's photos, but what I hate is when someone like MIL, great aunt, whoever really, tags themselves in my photos of her, that drives me crazy because I have no idea who is seeing these photos, I wonder if the tagging option is the same as the share option...as far as settings about who and who can not see it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-the-only-one-who-feels-weird-about-facebook#post-560636 Mon, 11 Feb 2013 16:12:27 +0000 cascademom 560636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: These are instances where boundary discussions are key. Make it very clear that this is your first child. You call the shots. You're glad that they're excited for you both, but you are in control of the social media announcements. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-the-only-one-who-feels-weird-about-facebook#post-560632 Mon, 11 Feb 2013 16:11:06 +0000 cascademom 560632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: We luckily were able to announce the birth of our child ourselves. DH was the only one with me at the hospital and he took pictures. He practically forgot to as our son was born. </p> <p>We made it very clear to them to not post anything until after we do. I closed my wall on Monday thinking that I would have a week of annoying "Are you in labor yet?" Instead, I went into labor that night and had to figure out how to open up my wall again. Since then, I'm extremely careful to who gets to see whatever information I post. I also blocked my MIL on Twitter. She's really horrible about abusing any knowledge of our family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-the-only-one-who-feels-weird-about-facebook#post-560627 Mon, 11 Feb 2013 16:08:27 +0000 Boheme 560627@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cascademom: We will be doing the same with #2! We don't want any non-immediate family visitors at the hospital, so I've asked our families to chill on an announcement before we make it ourselves...but since she announced my pregnancy, I'm not holding my breath that she won't announce LO's birth. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-the-only-one-who-feels-weird-about-facebook#post-560618 Mon, 11 Feb 2013 16:05:36 +0000 Boheme 560618@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cascademom: omg. That is my worst fear. I've already informed both our families that DH will be the only one with a camera in the delivery room, and if they take ANY pics of me in the hospital or announce our baby's birth before we feel comfortable doing so, they are pretty much excommunicated. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-the-only-one-who-feels-weird-about-facebook#post-560612 Mon, 11 Feb 2013 16:03:51 +0000 cascademom 560612@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: Hugs sweetie! The night before we were going to announce our pregnancy on FB, my MIL announced before us to her 50 or so friends. I've got 10 x as many, but it was still inappropriate for her to do so. When I got close to having LO, she posted something as well. DH finally told her to knock it off. For our eventual LO #2, she'll know when FB knows. I can't believe that she announced before we did with our news. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-the-only-one-who-feels-weird-about-facebook#post-560611 Mon, 11 Feb 2013 16:03:27 +0000 Adira 560611@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LC: That's good to know!! I was actually just looking at one of my friend's pages and realized that most of her posts don't even have the Share button! It looks like the only ones that do are either because she shared them from somewhere else or they are public! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-the-only-one-who-feels-weird-about-facebook#post-560602 Mon, 11 Feb 2013 16:00:06 +0000 LC 560602@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Haha, it seems to work that way (though I still don't post much because I don't trust facebook). I accidentally had an album set to public and when my MIL shared it all her friends commented on it, but when she shared an album that I had set to just my friends no one commented on it. So I'm guessing it works! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-the-only-one-who-feels-weird-about-facebook#post-560598 Mon, 11 Feb 2013 15:57:00 +0000 Adira 560598@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@adnama: I will definitely have to test this!! Thank you!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-the-only-one-who-feels-weird-about-facebook#post-560593 Mon, 11 Feb 2013 15:55:22 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 560593@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: oh gosh. thats sooo annoying! i have mine set so if I'm tagged, I have to approve it before it will show up on my wall. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-the-only-one-who-feels-weird-about-facebook#post-560592 Mon, 11 Feb 2013 15:54:32 +0000 Boheme 560592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@adnama: Eek! I would hate that. My MIL is a big over-sharer anyway. I did NOT want my pregnancy on Facebook, so of course she posts a pic of me and DH when I was only 10 weeks and captioned it "The parents to be!" and tagged us. That's why I'm already freaking out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-the-only-one-who-feels-weird-about-facebook#post-560591 Mon, 11 Feb 2013 15:54:12 +0000 cascademom 560591@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Leialou: I just friended someone from high school the other day on FB. She recently had a baby. One of the pics posted was an immediate postpartum pic. I cringed so much for her and her LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-the-only-one-who-feels-weird-about-facebook#post-560585 Mon, 11 Feb 2013 15:52:42 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 560585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I think i read that too! To test it, get a family member to share something of yours. Then get them to view their profile as someone that doesn't have you as a friend, and what was shared *shouldn't* be shown! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-the-only-one-who-feels-weird-about-facebook#post-560577 Mon, 11 Feb 2013 15:50:32 +0000 heffalump 560577@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm pretty picky about my facebook friends and clean out my friends list regularly. If i'm not actually friends with you, there's no need to have you on there. </p> <p>I love being able to share pictures of my LO on there, it's an easy way for me to share pictures of her with friends and family who live out of town and don't get to see her often. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-the-only-one-who-feels-weird-about-facebook#post-560576 Mon, 11 Feb 2013 15:49:58 +0000 littlecasita1122 560576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LC: I have my photos set to Friends Only and my mom and MIL share my photos allllll the time. Their friends comment on the pictures and I'm not friends with them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-the-only-one-who-feels-weird-about-facebook#post-560571 Mon, 11 Feb 2013 15:48:56 +0000 cascademom 560571@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LC: That's why I won't even tag my husband in my Instagram pics of LO because she would do something like. I guess I'm bad, but I have rigid settings for people who I know will overshare my information. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-the-only-one-who-feels-weird-about-facebook#post-560570 Mon, 11 Feb 2013 15:46:49 +0000 MsLipGloss 560570@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I rarely use FB and (personally) think it has gotten waaaay out of hand. I don't post pics on FB, and have made it clear to my relatives that they are not supposed to post any pictures of my LO on FB. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/am-i-the-only-one-who-feels-weird-about-facebook#post-560569 Mon, 11 Feb 2013 15:46:40 +0000 cascademom 560569@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: Not out of line at all. I created a Shutterfly share site, password protected and all ability to share the pictures turned off. I did that mainly because my MIL has lifted my pictures in the past without my permission. I didn't want her doing that to our family pics. In terms of Facebook, I only post the occasional Instagram pics of my LO. I have my FB photo settings locked pretty tightly as well. I would suggest create groups on FB and only share albums with those groups for better privacy. </p>