https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Jul 2026 10:21:56 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-eye-for-an-eye#post-1618012 Wed, 07 May 2014 01:54:17 +0000 lamariniere 1618012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In theory I am against it. </p> <p>However, there is a kid at the playground who is always really rough and pushing my kid and other kids around. Yesterday I witnessed this boy try to scratch my son in the face near his eyes. His mother usually sees and never does anything at all. I would never actually say it, but I want to tell my son that he can hit back if this kid is hurting him. Instead, I've told my son that the boy is not very nice and he doesn't have to play with him if he doesn't want to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-eye-for-an-eye#post-1618002 Wed, 07 May 2014 01:04:53 +0000 googly-eyes 1618002@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't encourage a child to hurt another child. However if, say, my LO bit someone and they bit her back, I'd just file that under "natural consequences." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-eye-for-an-eye#post-1617997 Wed, 07 May 2014 00:49:36 +0000 immabeetoo 1617997@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: &amp; @MoonMoon already said my thoughts. I rarely say never, especially in regards to parenting, but I would never do that. @Rockies11: that makes me queasy :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-eye-for-an-eye#post-1617883 Tue, 06 May 2014 22:05:43 +0000 Greentea 1617883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MoonMoon: I agree! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-eye-for-an-eye#post-1617881 Tue, 06 May 2014 22:05:03 +0000 Greentea 1617881@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rockies11: that is really fucked up and abusive. I think that is horrible of her to make you do that. I am sorry you went through that.</p> <p>@luckypenny: I don't think it is healthy to make you bite her. It doesn't even make sense. Even for an adult that seems like twisted thinking. I agree with @yoursilverlining:... but I can't imagine acting that way as an adult- revenge is not a part of healthy relationships. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-eye-for-an-eye#post-1617872 Tue, 06 May 2014 21:54:51 +0000 luckypenny 1617872@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rockies11: oh no! Thatsounds awful! :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-eye-for-an-eye#post-1617722 Tue, 06 May 2014 20:36:54 +0000 yoursilverlining 1617722@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rockies11: :crying: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-eye-for-an-eye#post-1617715 Tue, 06 May 2014 20:34:15 +0000 MoonMoon 1617715@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rockies11: that is so upsetting :(</p> <p>I don't believe in retributive justice, because I don't want to live in a culture of revenge/violence. So I wouldn't teach that to my kid, either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-eye-for-an-eye#post-1617667 Tue, 06 May 2014 20:15:22 +0000 Rockies11 1617667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't believe in it partly because I don't think that revenge is really a concept I want to teach my kids, but also because I have a horrible memory as a child of being forced my my mom to bite my sister. I didn't want to but she threatened to spank me if I didn't bite my sister, so I did, and it apparently wasn't hard enough so she made me do it again. I cried the whole time and I still remember the sensation of biting her. And she still bit people after that, so it didn't work either. I think younger kids bite because they feel powerless, and that's an issue that should be addressed by positive parenting, not inflicting pain and further powerlessness. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-eye-for-an-eye#post-1617656 Tue, 06 May 2014 20:11:09 +0000 yoursilverlining 1617656@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>NO. Children are children; they don't reason like adults. I don't think it's a lesson, it's just them getting bitten by someone they love and trust. No thank you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-eye-for-an-eye#post-1617640 Tue, 06 May 2014 20:08:17 +0000 cyndistar3 1617640@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: Exactly this. We had to resort to biting my oldest lo back (it only took once) but I would never want someone else biting my child :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-eye-for-an-eye#post-1617610 Tue, 06 May 2014 19:58:45 +0000 Silva 1617610@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, the rest of the saying is where the truth lies for me....<br /> I'm sure it "works" sometimes, but it isn't a method I would choose. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-eye-for-an-eye#post-1617603 Tue, 06 May 2014 19:57:36 +0000 swedishfish 1617603@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you can stand up for yourself without resorting to an eye for an eye most of the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-eye-for-an-eye#post-1617602 Tue, 06 May 2014 19:57:31 +0000 MamaMoose 1617602@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it was inappropriate for your sister to ask YOU to bite her daughter. If biting becomes a serious issue for us I would be willing to consider the biting back technique but I would NEVER ask or let anyone else to bite my kid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-eye-for-an-eye#post-1617597 Tue, 06 May 2014 19:56:46 +0000 Grace 1617597@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sure it works, but I don't like it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-eye-for-an-eye#post-1617593 Tue, 06 May 2014 19:56:02 +0000 matador84 1617593@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't always. I used to work in a school where there were a lot of fights, some provoked, some not. I can't necessarily sit here and say if you're getting your ass beat you shouldn't fight back. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-eye-for-an-eye#post-1617579 Tue, 06 May 2014 19:53:55 +0000 luckypenny 1617579@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was just thinking about an incident from childhood and wanted to know what the bees thought:</p> <p>When I was 6 my niece, who was 3 at the time, bite me in the stomach while I was putting crayons away and even drew blood(!). Her mom told me to bite her right back. She never bit anyone again. I don't remember this happening or how I felt at the time so I'm not sure if I completely agree or disagree with my sister's decision. </p> <p>Do you believe in an "eye for an eye" in some cases? Or is this total crazy talk? </p>