https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 07 Apr 2026 12:10:30 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-infant-crib-sleeping-wwyd#post-2721401 Fri, 07 Apr 2017 09:04:24 +0000 gilmoregirl 2721401@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@IRunForFun: that's awesome! Any longer stretch helps. The other thing about the monitor - you'll prob need something different when she starts rolling because my older baby was allllll over his crib and it would drive me bonkers I'd the monitor kept popping on for that. I'm not monitor knowledgeable though cause we barely use one so feel free to ignore me ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-infant-crib-sleeping-wwyd#post-2721400 Fri, 07 Apr 2017 09:00:53 +0000 snowjewelz 2721400@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@IRunForFun: That's really great! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-infant-crib-sleeping-wwyd#post-2721399 Fri, 07 Apr 2017 08:59:01 +0000 IRunForFun 2721399@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: Yes haha! It's like a fine balance between going to her too soon and not letting her learn to self soothe and not going to her soon enough resulting in her being an overtired mess. </p> <p>@gilmoregirl: Yeah I have to investigate the monitor settings! I think maybe I can change the level of noise/movement it registers so it doesn't go on as easily and only would if she was being super loud...</p> <p>That being said at least she did a stretch of a little over 4 hours in the crib last night, only stirring briefly a few times. So I'm relatively happy with that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-infant-crib-sleeping-wwyd#post-2721391 Fri, 07 Apr 2017 08:51:38 +0000 gilmoregirl 2721391@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm tempted to say I'd leave her but I know that I'd actually stare at the monitor and obsess. (And I have two :silly: ) </p> <p>I'd suggest a couple things - see how long she lasts and whether a bit longer lets her go to sleep on her own. Maybe she needs 45 mins or something (and she might also start crying which tells you what you need to<br /> Know as well). I'd also try to find a different monitor setting - can you do audio only? I have found I prefer that this time because then I go to him if he's crying and that's all. And your plan to work out agreed upon times with your husband is a good one - do it in advance because no one's ever at their best in the heat of the moment (which I'm sure you know). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-infant-crib-sleeping-wwyd#post-2721389 Fri, 07 Apr 2017 08:50:21 +0000 snowjewelz 2721389@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@IRunForFun: Haha I did just this last night! She really, really wanted to suck her hands so I let her hands out and she was so happy. But after like 15-20 min she was still doing that with no signs of getting sleepy so I was like alright... Time to sleep haha. </p> <p>I totally understand where you're coming from. I feel the same way. She wakes up at 7:30 so I wouldn't want her to not sleep till let's say, 9:30 or something. I think going forward I'll nurse her quicker and let her to her thing earlier so it gives her ample of time to self soothe. But for me personally, if it was getting too late, I'd still go help her. </p> <p>And this is my view point coming from never sleep training DD1 and feeling like she ended up alright, hah! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-infant-crib-sleeping-wwyd#post-2721373 Fri, 07 Apr 2017 08:36:01 +0000 IRunForFun 2721373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Madison43: I think this is what I'm most worried about. If she is just laying there awake for a long time she's going to be exhausted the next day! I do usually give her 15 to 30 mins to see if she'll resettle. Maybe I just need to talk to DH and set some guidelines like, if she's only been in the crib x amount of time we don't go to her, and we give her x amount of time to settle before we go to her... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-infant-crib-sleeping-wwyd#post-2721321 Fri, 07 Apr 2017 07:28:15 +0000 erinbaderin 2721321@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I totally know how you feel, I am so tempted to do the same thing. But if she's trying to soothe herself back to sleep I think you should let her, as long as she's happy. It's a skill you'll be really happy she has when she's a little bit bigger. Plus even if she's not asleep she's looking around, she's taking in the world, and she's learning how to entertain herself, which are also valuable skills. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-infant-crib-sleeping-wwyd#post-2721312 Fri, 07 Apr 2017 06:54:07 +0000 Smurfette 2721312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would let her lay there. She might put herself back to sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-infant-crib-sleeping-wwyd#post-2721302 Fri, 07 Apr 2017 06:25:39 +0000 Madison43 2721302@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm going to go against the grain here. This was how my first daughter was. She loved being in her crib so never cried when she was in there...BUT she also wasn't sleeping. Just looking around. We used to joke that if we didn't have a video monitor we would have thought she was the best napper ever when in fact she could lay in her crib for a hour plus just hanging out being happy. So that's a long way of saying, I would give her a chance to fall back asleep but I would and did intervene if she wasn't sleeping after 30 mins or so. For what it's worth, I didn't ever have to sleep train her. She's 3.5 now and still loves her bed :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-infant-crib-sleeping-wwyd#post-2721300 Fri, 07 Apr 2017 06:13:09 +0000 Truth Bombs 2721300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with those saying that by going to her before she's even upset, you're going to train her to expect you to come in the minute she wakes up. As long as she's not upset, let her be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-infant-crib-sleeping-wwyd#post-2721265 Thu, 06 Apr 2017 22:57:18 +0000 Dahlia 2721265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wish I had let DD be more often. I would jump up and stick a boob in her mouth so fast when she peeped, I think sometimes *I* might have woken her up! She was a terrible terrible sleeper for a long time, and I think at least part of it was because I went to her too quickly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-infant-crib-sleeping-wwyd#post-2721208 Thu, 06 Apr 2017 21:08:18 +0000 lioneyes 2721208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I personally would leave her be, I think the most important tool for creating good sleep habits is teaching a baby how to self soothe. DS has always been a great sleeper and now at 2.5, he takes a bit to fall asleep and often wakes up at night, as people do... but he is content to hang out and put himself back to sleep. Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-infant-crib-sleeping-wwyd#post-2721203 Thu, 06 Apr 2017 21:04:26 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 2721203@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She'll let you know if she needs you! I think I was too quick to respond to DD sometimes and it led to me needing to sleep train her at 10 months. I never really gave her a chance to learn to settle herself prior to then. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-infant-crib-sleeping-wwyd#post-2721180 Thu, 06 Apr 2017 20:44:51 +0000 IRunForFun 2721180@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gotkimchi: @travellingbee: Haha OK well I don't feel soooo bad then. </p> <p>@MsMini: Yeah, I'm just so crazy I'm like "But what if she just doesn't cry and lays there starving all night?" Which is ridiculous because she cries all freakin day so... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-infant-crib-sleeping-wwyd#post-2721177 Thu, 06 Apr 2017 20:42:16 +0000 MsMini 2721177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely wait until they let you know they need you before you jump in for the rescue! They cry to communicate, your LO knows how to get your attention 😉 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-infant-crib-sleeping-wwyd#post-2721175 Thu, 06 Apr 2017 20:38:20 +0000 travellingbee 2721175@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gotkimchi: :) totally! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-infant-crib-sleeping-wwyd#post-2721169 Thu, 06 Apr 2017 20:35:09 +0000 gotkimchi 2721169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@IRunForFun: only because that sounds like something I would have said with my first lol!!! Now I'm just like zzzzzzzzzzz I'll hear them if they need me </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-infant-crib-sleeping-wwyd#post-2721156 Thu, 06 Apr 2017 20:28:49 +0000 IRunForFun 2721156@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gotkimchi: Yes, my first, is it obvious? :silly: </p> <p>@gotkimchi: @gingerbebe: @travellingbee: @Mrs. Sunshine: Thank you! It's helpful to hear I'm being overly paranoid about it. I just feel so badly when she's laying there awake. </p> <p>@travellingbee: So the monitor we have has a "peep" mode where if there's not a certain level of noise or if there's no movement detected it goes to "sleep". When it detects noise or movement it pops on. So when she moves her head back and forth repeatedly and sucks her fist (surprisingly loud sucking noise!!) it pops on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-infant-crib-sleeping-wwyd#post-2721153 Thu, 06 Apr 2017 20:24:31 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2721153@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would leave her if she isn't fussing. But you are her mommy and if you're happy/fine with going in to soothe her when you do, then I think it's perfectly fine and you are not setting her up for "bad" sleep habits in the future or anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-infant-crib-sleeping-wwyd#post-2721150 Thu, 06 Apr 2017 20:23:42 +0000 travellingbee 2721150@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If she isn't crying I would assume she isn't upset...? Both my kids cried hysterically every time they've woken up so I've never experienced that but I don't think I'd worry is she isn't crying. How do you even know she wakes up if she isn't making noise? You just happen to look at the monitor? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-infant-crib-sleeping-wwyd#post-2721149 Thu, 06 Apr 2017 20:22:59 +0000 gingerbebe 2721149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, I agree with your husband. If the baby is not crying and sucking on her hand she's learning to soothe herself. If she's upset or hungry she will cry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-infant-crib-sleeping-wwyd#post-2721148 Thu, 06 Apr 2017 20:20:00 +0000 gotkimchi 2721148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I live by the motto if they're "happy" leave them so I would totally leave her unless she starts crying. Is this your first? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-infant-crib-sleeping-wwyd#post-2721145 Thu, 06 Apr 2017 20:16:42 +0000 IRunForFun 2721145@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DD is 11 weeks old and up until last week would only sleep in bed with me. I tried her in various other places and she might stay asleep for a few minutes to up to 30 minutes but never longer. Last week we started trying to put her in her crib for naps to varying degrees of success - sometimes she wouldn't sleep at all, other times she'd do 20 minutes, a few times she did an hour. </p> <p>Then we started trying her in the crib for at least a stretch at night and the first night she slept 5 hours - her longest stretch ever, anywhere! She repeated it the next 2 nights. But then she started doing a shorter and shorter stretch each night, until tonight she woke 45 minutes after going down. </p> <p>The thing is, she doesn't cry when she wakes up. She just kind of turns her head from side to side repeatedly and sucks on her fist. Sometimes I've waited to see if she'll fall back asleep, and sometimes she has. Other times she hasn't and then I go in and either nurse or rock her back to sleep or bring her into bed with me if she's too fussy or wide awake.</p> <p>The thing is my husband and I disagree about when I should go in to her. He thinks as long as she isn't crying I should just leave her. But if it's been 15 to 20 minutes and she isn't resettling, she's so young I feel like I should help her back to sleep so that she DOES sleep and doesn't get overtired. She isn't crying, but leaving her alone to try to settle herself feels akin to "crying it out" to me. </p> <p>Tonight when she woke after 45 minutes and didn't seem to be settling back down I asked DH to go pat her back or rock her and he said no. That we should leave her to work it out. An argument ensued when I went to settle her shortly after. </p> <p>What do you think? Is it still like crying it out if there's no crying? Is 11 weeks too young to let her try to soothe herself? </p>