https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 05 May 2026 03:16:00 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-ode-to-c-section-mothers#post-616485 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 07:18:24 +0000 LulaBee 616485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am still dealing with feeling like a failure for having a C-section 7 months PP. My daughter is healthy and thriving, and I am forever grateful for that, but I am mourning the loss of the birth I didn't have. It is really helpful for me to read articles like this- they help me to heal and realize that I'm not a failure as a woman.<br /> @Bluewolverine- I was induced and didn't dilate past a 5 after 17 hours of hard labor too (despite doc saying my cervix was "ripe"). Here's hoping it does next time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-ode-to-c-section-mothers#post-616470 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 06:49:00 +0000 BananaPancakes 616470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love the Skeptical OB. I read this article a while ago and it did help change my mindset of feeling cheated out of birth. This article and a comment somewhere else on the web that really opened my eyes. </p> <p>The woman basically said that she (like me) had a hard time moving past the fact that she had a c section, when she starting thinking about how selfish it was of her to think that way. By the grace of God, she was born in a country where she had excellent health care and in which a csection was actually an option that could save her life. In large portions of the world, there are millions of women who don't have that option, and who face the real potential, that if there are medical complications during birth, it's very possible they could both die. And here I am upset that I didn't get my "perfect birth experience." It really put it into perspective for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-ode-to-c-section-mothers#post-616353 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 00:18:01 +0000 travelgirl1 616353@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aw, I love this! A was breech and I had a c-section and I saw it that I was a whimp for being secretly glad I could avoid labour (I was sooo scared of it). That's a nice take on it. Go, c-section mamas,we rock! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-ode-to-c-section-mothers#post-616347 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 00:13:02 +0000 MsMini 616347@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am glad to see this article! Thank you for sharing it hummusgirl!<br /> There is far too much c-section shaming out there (and in the bee sadly). I think that people should feel pride and joy in their birth experience, no matter what it is. I hope the culture around birth begins to be more accepting and understanding of c-section Mamas in the future! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-ode-to-c-section-mothers#post-616314 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 23:25:33 +0000 BlueWolverine 616314@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Love this. Thank you.</p> <p>I don't feel ashamed of my c-section, but sometimes I definitely feel like both I and Baby A were cheated out of the birth experience. I wouldn't change any of the decisions I made - if I could change anything, I would make my effing cervix dilate (I never made it past 3 cm after about 18 hours of induction). Baby A and I are both safe and sound thanks to a wonderful doctor, but it is a little sad sometimes.</p> <p>PS - Hook Em! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-ode-to-c-section-mothers#post-616306 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 23:19:51 +0000 LittleFox 616306@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Great post. I never thought of it that way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-ode-to-c-section-mothers#post-616295 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 23:13:28 +0000 plantains 616295@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What an amazing article. I ad a c-section after 21 hours of hard labour. I feel pretty good about it because the goal was to get my baby ere safely, and we succeeded. I don't particularly feel the need to try or a VBAC next time, I have no problem having another c-section. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-ode-to-c-section-mothers#post-616294 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 23:11:59 +0000 red_seattle 616294@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>wonderful to read. A great perspective. Like the others here-- I hope one day to internalize that way of thinking. I want so badly to do VBAC next time around, in part, because I'm a little ashamed of my c-section... even though I know I did the right thing for my son, given the situation he was clearly in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-ode-to-c-section-mothers#post-616293 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 23:11:33 +0000 mrsmenow 616293@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Good article. The blog itsself is interesting:/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-ode-to-c-section-mothers#post-616283 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 23:05:42 +0000 MarieJ 616283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That article was very uplifting, at least for me. My water broke when I was 34w3d and when they started the induction process on a Tuesday night (2 days later), I had only progressed to a tight 3 cm by Wednesday night. When my doc said c-section, I cried like a baby, but I knew it was best. Although I didn't do it naturally, I did it. We are both safe &amp; healthy and I feel just as proud as a woman that did it naturally! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-ode-to-c-section-mothers#post-616272 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 23:00:05 +0000 pastemoo 616272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hummusgirl: Thank you for this. I hope that one day I believe it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-ode-to-c-section-mothers#post-616208 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 22:33:48 +0000 wheres_c 616208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for sharing. I feel like a failure for not being able to deliver my baby naturally......but I was willing to do whatever it took for him to be delivered healthy, even if that included my worst nightmare of being cut open. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-ode-to-c-section-mothers#post-616119 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 21:58:37 +0000 blackbird 616119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nice article! </p> <p>I wish there wasn't so much broohaw over how you have the baby. Baby's ok, moms ok? That is all that matters, nobody should beat themselves up over HOW that baby comes out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-ode-to-c-section-mothers#post-616117 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 21:58:08 +0000 GrapeCrush 616117@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Love this! I have never been 'ashamed' of my csection, because I did in that moment what I thought was best to make sure my baby made it into this world safely and healthy. But I can understand why many moms feel as if they failed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-ode-to-c-section-mothers#post-616082 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 21:43:34 +0000 googly-eyes 616082@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Applause!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-ode-to-c-section-mothers#post-616072 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 21:39:19 +0000 aprk 616072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is such an interesting perspective! Thanks for sharing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/an-ode-to-c-section-mothers#post-616050 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 21:27:51 +0000 hummusgirl 616050@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I came across this and thought it might be helpful to the c-section mamas out there. I'm not one of them but have much respect for anyone who goes through it! </p> <p><a href="http://www.skepticalob.com/2013/01/an-ode-to-c-section-mothers.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.skepticalob.com/2013/01/an-ode-to-c-section-mothers.html</a> </p>