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Hellobee Boards Topic: And this is why I hate Facebook. https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 18:12:38 +0000 JamieLee on "And this is why I hate Facebook." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/and-this-is-why-i-hate-facebook/page/2#post-678484 Fri, 29 Mar 2013 22:03:52 +0000 JamieLee 678484@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Ugh...my SIL started posting stuff about how she's going to be an aunt and babysitting her niece on social media before we announced our pregnancy to most everyone in person, let alone on Facebook. I didn't announce on FB till about 17 weeks due to a previous loss, and she was posting stuff back when I was 10 weeks...I will have to have a talking to with her, my cousin, and my aunts...they are my biggest concerns. Neither of DHs parents or my dad have FB so no worries there... Regarding the death announcement, I did post something about my mom's passing on FB, but it was after everyone like family and good friends were told and it was more so I didn't have to keep getting ahold of other people...I was pretty emotionally drained. But I think that's different than a cousin or someone posting immediately. JoyfulKiwi on "And this is why I hate Facebook." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/and-this-is-why-i-hate-facebook/page/2#post-678013 Fri, 29 Mar 2013 15:45:31 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 678013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @grizz: my MIL is the same! We said no photos on FB of our son unless they ask and we say ok. MIL has posted numerous albums that are just full of our nephew & we're not comfortable with that. She complained & said she'd "try to remember". A month ago I posted a photo and she shared it without asking. DH was livid. She didn't seem to understand why, but again said she'd "try to remember". We decided if she does it again, we'll block her from seeing any posts we make with LO in it. I think if she posted a picture(s) without asking. DH would report her to Facebook! Mrs. High Heels on "And this is why I hate Facebook." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/and-this-is-why-i-hate-facebook/page/2#post-677343 Fri, 29 Mar 2013 10:16:45 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 677343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ not cool!! BKCaribBaby on "And this is why I hate Facebook." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/and-this-is-why-i-hate-facebook/page/2#post-677130 Fri, 29 Mar 2013 09:05:12 +0000 BKCaribBaby 677130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Folks, this just happened to me, and I am beyond pissed, especially since I didn't even announce my pregnancy on my own Facebook profile. My SIL announced the birth of our child on hers. Other than family we have no one as common Facebook friends so now all if these people who I don't know have been informed this before my child was even 24 hours old. If you are thinking about doing this, please don't. Allow the parents their time to make a decision about how THEIR news is shared and in what manner. heffalump on "And this is why I hate Facebook." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/and-this-is-why-i-hate-facebook#post-656707 Thu, 21 Mar 2013 07:52:37 +0000 heffalump 656707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My sister found out my grandpa passed away through facebook. My cousin posted it before anybody called her. Awful! I didn't mind that people posted LO's birth on facebook though. I was too busy to do it. Dandelion on "And this is why I hate Facebook." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/and-this-is-why-i-hate-facebook#post-656633 Thu, 21 Mar 2013 06:59:42 +0000 Dandelion 656633@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Ugh, it's so annoying that in the world we live with, we have to warn people not to share our news on facebook for us. Before I went into labor, I had to tell people "don't say anything until I do on facebook" and after we lost her, I had to be adamant about nothing on facebook until I had time to write an official post about it. I hated that I even had to tell people that. MarieJ on "And this is why I hate Facebook." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/and-this-is-why-i-hate-facebook#post-656625 Thu, 21 Mar 2013 06:55:22 +0000 MarieJ 656625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ That's beyond rude! Mrs. Lemon-Lime on "And this is why I hate Facebook." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/and-this-is-why-i-hate-facebook#post-656621 Thu, 21 Mar 2013 06:52:28 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 656621@https://boards.hellobee.com/ By the time DH and I have a baby our FB will like be disabled, but I still don't want my FIL or any of hub's post-heavy friends posting pics. Arrival news, I'm okay with, but pics NO! lomom on "And this is why I hate Facebook." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/and-this-is-why-i-hate-facebook#post-656600 Thu, 21 Mar 2013 06:15:23 +0000 lomom 656600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I've struggled with whether or not to say something to my ILs and have decided against it. In the grand scheme of things, them announcing before me, while rude and frustrating beyond belief, isn't important. LO arriving safely and us finally getting to meet the little boy we already love so much is the important part. I just have to remind myself of that... Over and over again lol. It's also more important that we tell them over the phone than them hearing on Facebook so we will (and by we, I mean DH, I'm not calling anyone lol, I'll be too busy staring at my beautiful son!) call them then post. And honestly, it might be a few days before I get around to it, I'll be a little preoccupied I'm sure ;) Sweet T on "And this is why I hate Facebook." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/and-this-is-why-i-hate-facebook#post-656570 Thu, 21 Mar 2013 03:45:35 +0000 Sweet T 656570@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Ugh. I hate facebook so much for reasons like this! I had someone congratulate us on FB before we announced LO's birth. I know they were just being nice but I was really peeved over it. Smurfette on "And this is why I hate Facebook." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/and-this-is-why-i-hate-facebook#post-655636 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 16:26:46 +0000 Smurfette 655636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I sent a message to my family asking them when we text about her arrival to please not put anything on FB till we do for this reason. Another reason why we waited three hours to text anyone after she was born. So we had time to text our friends. tororojo on "And this is why I hate Facebook." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/and-this-is-why-i-hate-facebook#post-655582 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 16:08:37 +0000 tororojo 655582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I would be SO PISSED if I were your cousin! One reason we didn't tell extended family right away. :) LuLu Mom on "And this is why I hate Facebook." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/and-this-is-why-i-hate-facebook#post-654868 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 12:45:49 +0000 LuLu Mom 654868@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I made it very clear to our families not to say anything until we made the announcement. LO was born at 11:14 pm and was sent to the NICU so we didn't make the announcement until the next morning due to absolute exhaustion. I then gave the okay for my sisters, mom, ect. to post what they wanted. cheert16 on "And this is why I hate Facebook." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/and-this-is-why-i-hate-facebook#post-654860 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 12:44:25 +0000 cheert16 654860@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I was literally just thinking about this, this morning! I need to send a message to a couple of Dh;s family members asking them to respect our wishes and not post anything untill we say its ok- but i am so nervous to say something! I figured since I wouldnt see everyone before LO is born I could just send an e-mail- what do you ladies think? Is that ok? And what should i say? rawrasaur on "And this is why I hate Facebook." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/and-this-is-why-i-hate-facebook#post-654850 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 12:39:45 +0000 rawrasaur 654850@https://boards.hellobee.com/ How obnoxious. Mrs. Jump Rope on "And this is why I hate Facebook." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/and-this-is-why-i-hate-facebook#post-654584 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 11:41:27 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 654584@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Ugh! That's horrible!! I hate FB for the same reasons. My brothers best friend was diagnosed with cancer in his early 20s and sadly lost his battle days before Christmas this year. I was checking Facebook before heading to bed, and saw that someone posted on FB and tagged my brothers friend, saying how greatly he'd be missed. That's right, a death announcement, on Facebook. He LITERALLY had just passed away. Most of his family didn't know, and I know my brother didn't. It was this horrible mess of tryin to get a hold of him (he didn't answer) then my mom so we could try to get a hold of my brother so he didn't find out his best friend died through Facebook. We later learned that some of friends extended family members found out the same way. Ugh!!! I will never ever understand what goes through people's minds. MrsKoala on "And this is why I hate Facebook." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/and-this-is-why-i-hate-facebook#post-654581 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 11:40:23 +0000 MrsKoala 654581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ How awful!! We are totally the same as you. No facebook information until we can make the announcement ourselves. BelugaBean on "And this is why I hate Facebook." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/and-this-is-why-i-hate-facebook#post-654563 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 11:37:55 +0000 BelugaBean 654563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @.twist.: People don't really get mad at someone who's 39 weeks pregnant. We just said that we would like to announce on Facebook ourselves and when we choose to (it only took us a few hours but still). We also asked that they not share pictures until we had shared a few. Everyone was fine with it and seemed to understand. We only had immediate family at the hospital though. Mrs. Champagne on "And this is why I hate Facebook." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/and-this-is-why-i-hate-facebook#post-654554 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 11:34:59 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 654554@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @grizz: omg I would be livid!! I also can't believe your MIL posted about you being pregnant! Id be so upset. autumnlove on "And this is why I hate Facebook." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/and-this-is-why-i-hate-facebook#post-654546 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 11:31:45 +0000 autumnlove 654546@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My BIL did this when LO was born but he deleted us as friends so I guess we won't have the same problem for Baby 2. .twist. on "And this is why I hate Facebook." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/and-this-is-why-i-hate-facebook#post-654514 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 11:25:16 +0000 .twist. 654514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @grizz: ah! Yea, I can see where people might find it less exciting about not ever posting, but I totally get why you're doing it! We have so much family overseas that it's really nice to be able to share with facebook. However, I've tried to make my facebook as private as possibly and same with my husbands and MIL & FIL. :D Boheme on "And this is why I hate Facebook." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/and-this-is-why-i-hate-facebook#post-654503 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 11:23:33 +0000 Boheme 654503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @.twist.: Ah, and I even replied wrong! I replied in the sense that we've asked our family and friends not to post our baby on FB ever. As far as announcing the baby's birth goes, everyone understood that without a fuss at all. They all agreed it was only fair that we get to announce our news ourselves! .twist. on "And this is why I hate Facebook." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/and-this-is-why-i-hate-facebook#post-654479 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 11:20:14 +0000 .twist. 654479@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @grizz: Ah! Thanks, that's good to hear. I know of a few people in my family who would definitely go and post things before we did so that's why I'd like to make it clear that it's something WE will do, not for THEM to do. Thankfully my parents hardly understand facebook so that shouldn't be a problem! pregnantbee on "And this is why I hate Facebook." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/and-this-is-why-i-hate-facebook#post-654475 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 11:18:30 +0000 pregnantbee 654475@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @grizz: People are so rude! It amazes me that people think something like this is totally ok to do. Boheme on "And this is why I hate Facebook." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/and-this-is-why-i-hate-facebook#post-654462 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 11:16:13 +0000 Boheme 654462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @.twist.: We've already told everyone how we feel about it. My parents and BIL took it fine, and my sister said it was weird but she understands due to my husband's job. We've had a few friends whine, but ultimately they get it. FIL doesn't really know what FB is (lol), but MIL pouted and said we were "no fun" and that we are taking away her chance to share her new grandbaby with all her friends. Almost everyone took it surprisingly well, honestly! Boheme on "And this is why I hate Facebook." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/and-this-is-why-i-hate-facebook#post-654449 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 11:12:51 +0000 Boheme 654449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ MIL has been schooled about our feelings about FB, so we'll see if she complies. She's the one I have my eye on... I can totally see her posting and then saying "Sorry, I got excited and forgot!" even though we all know darn well she didn't forget. She did that when I was only 9 weeks pregnant and weren't telling anyone yet. .twist. on "And this is why I hate Facebook." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/and-this-is-why-i-hate-facebook#post-654446 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 11:12:23 +0000 .twist. 654446@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @LaughLines: I 100% agree with you. I see it all over social media sites also! So weird to me. Life is one big popularity contest. *sigh* @BelugaBean: How did the people respond when you told them? I'm thinking about doing this but I'm kind of a people pleaser and worry I'll come off as a big bitch? ladyfingers on "And this is why I hate Facebook." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/and-this-is-why-i-hate-facebook#post-654442 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 11:11:31 +0000 ladyfingers 654442@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Ugh! So rude and annoying. Boheme on "And this is why I hate Facebook." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/and-this-is-why-i-hate-facebook#post-654435 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 11:10:30 +0000 Boheme 654435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @LaughLines: I totally agree! Especially because these two cousins aren't close at all. And when we announced, one of my friends from high school made a status about it and tagged both me and my husband - my husband has met her twice, and she and I have maybe 3 mutual friends on Facebook so I feel like she did it to appear "in the know" about someone's news. I guarantee no one on her newsfeed cared that I was pregnant. BelugaBean on "And this is why I hate Facebook." https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/and-this-is-why-i-hate-facebook#post-654434 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 11:09:34 +0000 BelugaBean 654434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We specifically asked everyone that came to the hospital not to post anything and made it known we'd be angry. We wanted to announce it and post a picture when we were ready. That would have made me so angry!