https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Apr 2026 18:31:08 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/announcing-pregnancy-etiquette-question/page/2#post-2290862 Mon, 14 Sep 2015 20:07:05 +0000 BSB 2290862@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have been pretty open with our IF journey on FB so a lot of our friends have supported us. So when we were successful with IVF, we announced it on Facebook. We live across the country from our friends and family so it was FB or text. We did text/call our close friends and family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/announcing-pregnancy-etiquette-question/page/2#post-2290632 Mon, 14 Sep 2015 14:29:40 +0000 Lilbear 2290632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We decided we aren't going to do a Facebook or text announcement. We are just going to wait until our friend gathering at 4 months to share the news in person. (I will just have to dress creatively at our other friend gatherings leading up to the neutral gathering at 4 months!) Thank you all so much for your feedback and insight. It was greatly appreciated! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/announcing-pregnancy-etiquette-question/page/2#post-2286181 Tue, 08 Sep 2015 21:59:14 +0000 daniellemybelle 2286181@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We called or texted good friends before posting on Facebook. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/announcing-pregnancy-etiquette-question/page/2#post-2286088 Tue, 08 Sep 2015 19:41:21 +0000 Lilbear 2286088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlejoy: that's a great idea! Thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/announcing-pregnancy-etiquette-question/page/2#post-2286081 Tue, 08 Sep 2015 19:36:41 +0000 Lilbear 2286081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ms.line: My Facebook is only my close circle of friends and some family members, so I guess I think of posting to Facebook as similar to sending a mass text. I also figure that with both approaches, they are going to receive the message on their phone, so I don't really see it as being that different. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/announcing-pregnancy-etiquette-question/page/2#post-2286070 Tue, 08 Sep 2015 19:30:17 +0000 littlejoy 2286070@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sending a text that says something like, "I know texts can be impersonal, but I really wanted you to know before we announced on Facebook!!" -- That makes it known that you appreciate their friendship ... And, I would only text close friends that you know you can't see in person before the FB announcement. My two cents. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/announcing-pregnancy-etiquette-question/page/2#post-2286069 Tue, 08 Sep 2015 19:27:40 +0000 ms.line 2286069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lilbear: Just wondering why you think texts are so impersonal. They are certainly more removed than an in-person announcement, but they're still a personal message sent 1-to-1 that enables a private exchange. If my close friends found out that I was pregnant through an mass posting to 300+ people, they'd probably be annoyed. But you know obviously know your friends, better - maybe they wouldn't mind!</p> <p>ETA: My husband drunkenly blurted out that I was pregnant to one of my dear friends AT her wedding! I was mortified, but she has reassured me a hundred times since that she was so excited to hear the news and it made her day even happier. I still not sure I'd do it again, but I don't think it would so inappropriate to tell people at the kiddie bday parties if you had a low-key approach. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/announcing-pregnancy-etiquette-question/page/2#post-2286065 Tue, 08 Sep 2015 19:20:35 +0000 Lilbear 2286065@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you so much for all of the feedback ladies! I'm still not sure about how we are going to handle this. I kind of feel that texts are equally as impersonal as a Facebook post, and I do agree with a few of the previous posters in that nobody really cares about your pregnancy as much as you and your immediate family members. The way my belly has been popping out lately, we won't be able to keep it a secret for much longer! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/announcing-pregnancy-etiquette-question/page/2#post-2286001 Tue, 08 Sep 2015 17:26:04 +0000 brady80 2286001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I sent a text to my girlfriends with a pic of my daughter in a big sister shirt. my husband told his friends sporadically...I think some still don't know and I'm 22 weeks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/announcing-pregnancy-etiquette-question#post-2285802 Tue, 08 Sep 2015 14:22:12 +0000 BandDmommy 2285802@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: same </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/announcing-pregnancy-etiquette-question#post-2285801 Tue, 08 Sep 2015 14:20:59 +0000 BandDmommy 2285801@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm in the camp that no one really cares, with exception of family, so I announced on social media to my friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/announcing-pregnancy-etiquette-question#post-2285769 Tue, 08 Sep 2015 13:59:47 +0000 Mrs.KMM 2285769@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We told our closest friends in person or on the phone. But then it was a FB announcement for everyone else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/announcing-pregnancy-etiquette-question#post-2285486 Tue, 08 Sep 2015 09:48:38 +0000 Keybee 2285486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We announced on social media. I felt it was the most efficient and some people I wasn't planning on seeing for a bit. I felt a little bad, a couple of close friends commented on not being told more personally, but it was just fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/announcing-pregnancy-etiquette-question#post-2285448 Tue, 08 Sep 2015 09:17:19 +0000 Bubbles 2285448@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We told family in person where possible, and for geographically distant family and friends we sent a group email with a cute pic of DS holding the scan pictures. I know my close friends would have been really upset to find out on Facebook - although I am hoping not to announce on FB until 20 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/announcing-pregnancy-etiquette-question#post-2285430 Tue, 08 Sep 2015 08:58:36 +0000 MaryM 2285430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't see the issue with sharing at other events as long as you're telling people personally and not taking a mic or making a huge announcement to everyone there or something. </p> <p>I told two college friends at the wedding of one of them. We hadn't announced publicly yet, and I was obviously either pregnant or very fat, so I told the bride in the receiving line and our other friend as soon as I saw her at the reception. They were both happy and it wasn't a huge deal. </p> <p>A lot of friends we just told as we saw them. We had a few couples over or met people for dinner or whatever... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/announcing-pregnancy-etiquette-question#post-2285415 Tue, 08 Sep 2015 08:48:03 +0000 Alivoo01 2285415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd tell them via text/email/phone call if you can't in person before posting on FB. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/announcing-pregnancy-etiquette-question#post-2285400 Tue, 08 Sep 2015 08:37:58 +0000 snowjewelz 2285400@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I told most people I'm close to before; maybe some people in the end were not happy to have found out via FB but I wouldn't have known! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/announcing-pregnancy-etiquette-question#post-2285395 Tue, 08 Sep 2015 08:36:07 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2285395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thats a tough spot. I can see why you dont want to overshadow someone but also dont want to announce on FB.</p> <p>I agree that a phone call to those you can get in touch with and/or a text to those that are harder to reach may be more appropriate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/announcing-pregnancy-etiquette-question#post-2285362 Tue, 08 Sep 2015 08:04:15 +0000 LuLu Mom 2285362@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Close friends (those you talk to on a regular basis) I think should be told via phone/text/person. I would be bummed if one of my best friends announced it on FB before telling me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/announcing-pregnancy-etiquette-question#post-2285356 Tue, 08 Sep 2015 08:00:09 +0000 BadgerMom 2285356@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were in a similar situation and sent out a text saying "See you in June!" with the ultrasound picture. For us it seemed more personal than Facebook. But I guess we never really did a big Facebook announcement. I don't know. I just think I would be hurt if I found out about a real friend's pregnancy on FB... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/announcing-pregnancy-etiquette-question#post-2285324 Tue, 08 Sep 2015 06:41:41 +0000 Adira 2285324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I texted/e-mailed my close friends to tell them. Much more personal than a FB announcement that would announce to all my FB friends and not just the close ones. I didn't announce on FB until 20 weeks and most everyone knew by then. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/announcing-pregnancy-etiquette-question#post-2285273 Tue, 08 Sep 2015 00:11:23 +0000 MrsRcCar 2285273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We told close family and friends by 8 weeks with N. Nothing went public on Facebook until after the 20 week scan. </p> <p>We told family between 6-8 weeks with E due to me being super sick. Nothing went public on Facebook until 18-20 weeks. I figure the important people already knew. Why bother announcing it any sooner. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/announcing-pregnancy-etiquette-question#post-2285268 Mon, 07 Sep 2015 23:38:16 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2285268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think your close friends should be told in person or even phone or text but FB is ok for the others. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/announcing-pregnancy-etiquette-question#post-2285264 Mon, 07 Sep 2015 23:23:16 +0000 lamariniere 2285264@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We told all close friends in person, by phone or email before doing the "public" announcement for LO1. We never announced publicly with LO2, but anyone who we felt needed to know was informed by 16 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/announcing-pregnancy-etiquette-question#post-2285236 Mon, 07 Sep 2015 21:48:43 +0000 sleepybear 2285236@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think if it's a person you'd be upset learning that they were pregnant via Facebook you should send a text or meet up and tell them in person. Otherwise, I think Facebook is fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/announcing-pregnancy-etiquette-question#post-2285178 Mon, 07 Sep 2015 20:10:33 +0000 mrs.shinerbock 2285178@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would call or email anyone close that you can't tell in person before you announce on FB. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/announcing-pregnancy-etiquette-question#post-2285162 Mon, 07 Sep 2015 19:46:55 +0000 ChiCalGoBee 2285162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't announce on FB so I only told in person/called/texted. You do whatever makes you happy, though! Congratulations! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/announcing-pregnancy-etiquette-question#post-2285138 Mon, 07 Sep 2015 19:16:41 +0000 Mrs D 2285138@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think Facebook is fine for a general announcement however I think close friends should at least be given a heads up via text/email/phonecall </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/announcing-pregnancy-etiquette-question#post-2285044 Mon, 07 Sep 2015 17:41:01 +0000 reverie 2285044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I"ve been telling people as I see them here and there (I'm cool with telling close friends early once I had a heartbeat at 8 weeks). There are a handful of people I wont see before I plan to announce so I texted them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/announcing-pregnancy-etiquette-question#post-2285026 Mon, 07 Sep 2015 17:01:02 +0000 PawPrints 2285026@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely assumed close friends would be hurt to find out on FB. I tried to tell them all in person, and got most of them by inviting them to a gathering that we organized. If I couldn't get someone in person, I at least made a point of telling them over Google chat so there could be a conversation.</p> <p>But I don't think it's a big deal. In your situation maybe try to have a few people over to tell them? Everyone else is probably okay to find out on fb. </p>