https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 04 Jun 2026 21:49:20 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/annoying-or-no#post-2688033 Fri, 27 Jan 2017 11:52:52 +0000 gingerbebe 2688033@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes that would annoy me. A lot. DS can entertain himself for a bit but we live in a single story house and I would be annoyed if my husband left him on a separate level alone. </p> <p>But perhaps you can assign tasks.</p> <p>Before our second was born I told DH he is in charge of DS in the MOTN and in the mornings. I still pack the daycare bags the night before and pack DS' lunch, but DH is in charge of getting him up and dressed in the AM and getting him to daycare. Daycare provides breakfast as long as DS is there by a certain time so if he's lollygagging on the phone in the morning, he's going to have to feed him breakfast. On weekends, DH gets DS up and handles breakfast. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/annoying-or-no#post-2688003 Fri, 27 Jan 2017 11:23:48 +0000 Freckles 2688003@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think if it impacted me where i had to take DD to daycare, i would be beyond irritated that he wasn't getting her ready. But i see it as his problem for being late. :P </p> <p>MY DS is 2 years old, and is able to come find us if needed. DH had to get ready and he gave him the option of coming upstairs or playing downstairs and DS chose to play downstairs by himself (DD and i had already left). Maybe i'm just a delinquent parent? :meh: :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/annoying-or-no#post-2687979 Fri, 27 Jan 2017 10:55:17 +0000 Ajsmommy 2687979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: I agree. I don't think it's a huge problem.. I was just wanting to get other opinions. I think the part that I don't like the most is that she ends up downstairs by herself sometimes (although it's not for long)... But as you mention she is very self sufficient and obviously somewhat used to it. We are very lucky that she can self entertain for extended periods.... I often think that as I am making dinner at night!!! She has a very good imagination so she can really get going for a while :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/annoying-or-no#post-2687967 Fri, 27 Jan 2017 10:39:01 +0000 Charm54 2687967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That wouldn't bother me </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/annoying-or-no#post-2687961 Fri, 27 Jan 2017 10:28:43 +0000 irene 2687961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: I see.... maybe he did "time" it and he knows that he only needs this amount of time to get ready and out of the house, and didn't want to get up too early or he'll be hanging out downstairs doing nothing for 10 minutes? And kudos to your DD for being able to self entertain for all this time, even alone downstairs for 10 minutes! </p> <p>I can see how that can get annoying but I personally don't think it is a big deal... If your DD wasn't OK I'd see that as a problem but she seems to be fine too. Three is an OK age to be left alone for 10 minutes I think. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/annoying-or-no#post-2687856 Fri, 27 Jan 2017 06:36:02 +0000 Ajsmommy 2687856@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: after I shower I get ready at a vanity in the master bedroom. So dh could go shower /shave while I'm doing hair/make up /get dressed. Dd is camped out on our bed for most of this time...she just relaxes on our bed or watches TV or brings toys /goes to her room to get toys during this time </p> <p>So no we wouldn't all be in the bathroom. And dh doesn't really "actively" watch dd, but he doesn't really have to either bc im there </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/annoying-or-no#post-2687374 Thu, 26 Jan 2017 14:46:36 +0000 irene 2687374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No it doesn't bother me.... he keeps your DD company when you were getting ready so she doesn't come bother you? If he gets ready together with you then your DD would follow everyone into the bathroom...? And when you are ready to take over, he will get ready. It seems to make sense?</p> <p>The only thing that bothers me a bit was there is a 5-10 minute time where he is not coming down and she is alone. And I must say she is so independent, wouldn't she start whining when she is left alone for 5-10 minutes? My 5 year old would lol. If you work it as a routine, your DD is OK then I am guessing I'd be ok.</p> <p>Or did you want him to get her dressed and fed while you are showering and getting ready? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/annoying-or-no#post-2687347 Thu, 26 Jan 2017 14:32:25 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2687347@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the only thing that would bother me is her being alone downstairs for 5-10 minutes. Not that we don't leave our 4 year old alone in a different room in the house, but my thought is that he's ignoring her in your bed while he's on his phone, and he's choosing FB time over a little morning time with her. That's the part that would bug me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/annoying-or-no#post-2687324 Thu, 26 Jan 2017 14:18:49 +0000 Mama Bird 2687324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, sounds annoying. I'm the one that gets up later in my family, and DH is on my case about it all the time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/annoying-or-no#post-2687318 Thu, 26 Jan 2017 14:11:26 +0000 Boogs 2687318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm like your husband, so I wouldn't bug me. And when someone is watching a kid so I can get ready without interruption, it's a treat! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/annoying-or-no#post-2687096 Thu, 26 Jan 2017 10:21:21 +0000 My Only Sunshine 2687096@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: Can your DD eat on your bed while DH gets ready? I work part-time and on the days I work, DD eats all or part of her breakfast on our bed (things like a Nutrigrain bar, dry cheerios, blueberries, an apple, etc.) and watches a show while we both get ready/pack lunch/putter around/whatever. </p> <p>Three starts to be the age where I'm fine with a kid being on a different floor as long as they know they can come upstairs, but it's not my ideal for every morning. I know my daughter just wants to be with us, even if we're just brushing our teeth and getting dressed.</p> <p>The part I would be annoyed by is the mindless phone scrolling while a kid is awake, although I'm pretty firm on limiting our phone time around kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/annoying-or-no#post-2687093 Thu, 26 Jan 2017 10:17:35 +0000 Anagram 2687093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That would annoy me. I have to leave for work by 6:45 am, and my husband doesn't leave till 8am. I wakeup at 5:35-45, and he wakes up with the kids which tends to be 6am (it's rare that both of them sleep past that and DH gets up when the first kid gets up).</p> <p>DH is 100% on morning duty while I get ready. He gets the girls up, does morning potty for older LO and changes younger LOs diaper, he makes them breakfast, etc. SOMETIMES I have time leftover where I am ready but have a few minutes and then I pitch in--we make all beds in the morning and do a quick sweep clean up so we do that together right before I leave.</p> <p>Today, I am at a teacher training instead of at my school and it didn't start till 8:30 am so I got to stay home until 7:30 am. To today we both got up with the girls and both took turns getting dressed and watching kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/annoying-or-no#post-2687076 Thu, 26 Jan 2017 09:56:49 +0000 snowjewelz 2687076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@josina: Well you're pregnant right now! That's a pass to do whatever you want, haha. Because it's true... Once baby is here then we have to tackle one on one and no one gets a break! </p> <p>I'd be annoyed just b/c I like to be efficient. Looking at the phone is def a major pet peeve of mine to begin with! I (fortunately..?) have to put away my phone most of the day anyway since DD1 will whine for it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/annoying-or-no#post-2687045 Thu, 26 Jan 2017 09:28:01 +0000 josina 2687045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm like your husband ;) DS gets up super early, usually 5:30 so he hangs out with Dad while I sleep in, and then he'll bring him in to me when he leaves at 6:20. We cuddle in bed till 6:40 when I shower. So technically DS has free rein during my 5 minute shower but big sis (14) is also home to keep an eye on him.<br /> With baby 2 on the way I'm going to have to give up my extra time in bed I think and start getting ready while DH is still home. Blech, I'm not a morning person. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/annoying-or-no#post-2687036 Thu, 26 Jan 2017 09:21:02 +0000 azjax 2687036@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: the only part of that I would find troublesome is your daughter being left unattended on another floor. What if she starts choking and he can't hear/respond because he u is upstairs? If he wants to lie in, fine, but your DDs safety has to be a priority and it seems there is room for him to improve the level of care he is giving. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/annoying-or-no#post-2687006 Thu, 26 Jan 2017 08:45:56 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2687006@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Totally! This is how my DH on church mornings (only day of the week we both need to get ready within the same time frame) and it drives me bananas. Especially because he gets pretty annoyed when I'm not done in the bathroom when he is finally ready to take a shower (not sure why he won't just get in while I finish up!). I've learned to let it go because getting mad didn't change it but yes, I would be very annoyed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/annoying-or-no#post-2686999 Thu, 26 Jan 2017 08:38:37 +0000 Ajsmommy 2686999@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: yeah, this morning I just mentioned how if the roles were reversed I'd be up and getting ready so that I'd be ready to attend to DD when "he" left (if roles were reversed)... of course he took it badly and said I was complaining about something that didn't matter and wasn't an issue. Which I guess he is right.... It's not a bother to me to take her down or get her set up, that's not my issue. I just honestly feel like he could be more "pro active" in the morning and then she wouldn't be alone for as long or at all... but it's not like a huge deal to me. It just came up this morning bc I was thinking about how'd I'd do it differently and I verbalized it.. :shocked: </p> <p>@T.H.O.U.: you're right.. it's no big deal.. just a difference in how we do things... LOL. I am more like you, well as soon as DD is up. I'm like well might as well get up and get going.</p> <p>@skipra: hey! if you get up MOTN then you have a right to want to lay in bed IMO. LOL. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/annoying-or-no#post-2686989 Thu, 26 Jan 2017 08:29:43 +0000 skipra 2686989@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: I am totally your husband in this situation. I am sure it drives him crazy but I just can't get out of bed in the morning! I blame it on being up with the baby several times during the night but he will sometimes get up with the older kids if they wake MOTN. If he complained I would try harder! So maybe just ask him to do whatever would be better for the routine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/annoying-or-no#post-2686982 Thu, 26 Jan 2017 08:23:40 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2686982@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is the same way. He wants to just lay in bed forever. I'm like, if I'm awake I might as well start the day. </p> <p>But what you described wouldn't terribly bother me. I assume he's essentially "watching her" while you are getting ready which is nice. So really the extra part youre doing is taking her down to get fed etc. If that is a burden on you, you could always ask him to come get her situated with you and then he could go back up to shower/shave </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/annoying-or-no#post-2686980 Thu, 26 Jan 2017 08:21:59 +0000 SweetiePie 2686980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: maybe you could suggest that if he wants to lay around he can do it downstairs on the couch after he gets her food and situated. Then he could bring her to your room while he gets ready. So just switching it around. That way you don't have to rush and do it and she's not unattended. This would work for us since dining space and living space are combined. </p> <p>If he is doing daycare drop off and has to get himself to work, I wouldn't be worried about when he gets ready. That's his problem not mine. I'd only be mad if it was somehow making you late or if your daughter was in school and he was making her late, then I'd be mad. </p> <p>If he complains that they are late, have you ever suggested he gets in the shower as soon as you're out? Maybe the next time he complains, if you frame it as "just try this and see how it works" vs complaining that you think he should be getting ready sooner out of the blue, he'll be more compliant. I know my DH doesn't respond well to me criticizing or just suddenly complaining about something he had no idea I was annoyed with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/annoying-or-no#post-2686964 Thu, 26 Jan 2017 07:42:07 +0000 Ajsmommy 2686964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@peachykeen: same!! he does daycare drop off and some times he complains they are late! LOL... </p> <p>mind you though that this scenario doesn't always happen. DD sometimes sleeps past when I leave. So on those days, I leave then DH gets showered and shaved and sometimes he can even eat breakfast etc before she wakes up. So I understand that some days it works for him.. but on the days when she's up I just wish he'd get some PEP in his STEP and "alter his routine" to better fit her/me... but ... well... he's a MAN.... afterall... oy </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/annoying-or-no#post-2686958 Thu, 26 Jan 2017 07:34:29 +0000 looch 2686958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: Yes, that would bug me. I don't like to have my child eating unattended, what if there was choking?</p> <p>One of us gets up first, it's usually my husband. He gets ready, but not dressed. Then I go and get ready. I go and wake up my son and then my husband gets dressed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/annoying-or-no#post-2686953 Thu, 26 Jan 2017 07:24:39 +0000 peachykeen 2686953@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH is the same way, except he actually wakes up 20 min after me and does the same thing. It annoys me because then I end up having to get DD dressed and downstairs for no good reason. He also used to complain that they needed to get out of the house faster (he drops her at daycare in the morning). I was like well... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/annoying-or-no#post-2686942 Thu, 26 Jan 2017 06:50:40 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2686942@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: yeah, if only! :silly: I'm not terribly efficient, so him showering and shaving while you do and your daughter is in bed totally escaped me. Maybe him too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/annoying-or-no#post-2686938 Thu, 26 Jan 2017 06:44:14 +0000 Ajsmommy 2686938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: the fact that he could be getting ready while I am.... He could shower and shave etc. Then he'd be ready to go down when I am. </p> <p>I don't like her being alone when it's not really necessary.</p> <p>All he has to do is get outta bed! Lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/annoying-or-no#post-2686937 Thu, 26 Jan 2017 06:39:32 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2686937@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Which part? </p> <p>You getting her out of bed, when you are the one that gets ready first?</p> <p>You making her breakfast/ turning on the TV when you would much rather walk out of the house?</p> <p>When she is unsupervised for 5-10 minutes on a different floor than your husband?</p> <p>I would probably be annoyed. Where I see the remedy is while you shower he could make/ feed her breakfast. Then, when he showers perhaps she can hang out in your room and watch TV. What would you like to see happen? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/annoying-or-no#post-2686935 Thu, 26 Jan 2017 06:32:37 +0000 Ajsmommy 2686935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This scenario happens a few mornings a week. Dd, dh and I all wake up at the same time. I go get dd bring her into our bed and proceed to get ready.... Shower, hair, make up and get dressed. This entire time dh stays in bed on his phone (fb/email). By the time I'm done and ready to leave then he gets up to start his routine. </p> <p>Dd then asks to go downstairs with me.... So I take her down and get her situated (drink, snack, TV). Then I leave. Dh still upstarts getting ready. . He presumably comes down in 5-10 mins. And dd is ok to go up the stairs on her own if needed.</p> <p>Would this irritate/annoy you??</p> <p>Dd is 3. </p>