https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 28 Apr 2026 16:51:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-spin-off-what-dodid-you-shame-for/page/3#post-2727007 Thu, 20 Apr 2017 17:08:59 +0000 Iced Tea 2727007@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I certainly judge people who are anti-science and let those views put people at risk (not just anti-vaxxers, but that's the major one). </p> <p>I also judge homes that are totally covered up in toys (or clutter approaching hoarding status). I feel like we own a lot of toys, but there's no reason why they all need to be out at the same time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-spin-off-what-dodid-you-shame-for/page/3#post-2726630 Thu, 20 Apr 2017 09:19:37 +0000 Twolittlemen 2726630@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am such a hardcore judger-<br /> Carseat safety- There is a mom at my son's daycare that has her infant bucket in the front seat!!!!</p> <p>Routinely feeding kids junk. There was a kid in my son's 2-3 year old class that ate a yogurt with mini m&amp;ms and a poptart for breakfast every morning.<br /> I hate this even more if the "excuse" is "but he/she is so skinny it doesn't matter". First of all, I feel like they are saying its ok for their child but they would judge someone who fed a heavier child the same thing and also YOU are teaching your child how to eat, they might not always be skinny and that's the only way they know how to eat. Also, don't we all KNOW "skinny fat" is an actual thing!</p> <p>People who bring kids out to nice places late at night. So, you're out of town and want to try a new restaurant, bring your kids at 5 pm. At 8/9 pm I don't want to see families at nice restaurants. I am paying a sitter an outrageous amount to watch my 2 kids so I can have a nice night with my husband. If I have to listen to your kid cry/whine/run around I am going to be judging/side-eyeing you HARDCORE</p> <p>Also, people that don't vaccinate, believe in the flu shot, believe in fluoride, pretty much anything that is backed up with science... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-spin-off-what-dodid-you-shame-for/page/3#post-2726566 Thu, 20 Apr 2017 07:37:18 +0000 erinbaderin 2726566@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@daniellemybelle: Ha! Yeah, that's more information than you probably need to put on an online review. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-spin-off-what-dodid-you-shame-for/page/3#post-2726534 Thu, 20 Apr 2017 00:32:25 +0000 daniellemybelle 2726534@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: That's funny - it makes me think of this review on a probiotic. I didn't really judge the comment but thought, "Wow, okay..."!</p> <p>"These work great for my granddaughter who has had digestive issues since she was born, caused my her mother's meth use while she was pregnant. She hasn't had any problems with eating any baby food or formula ever since I've been giving them to her." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-spin-off-what-dodid-you-shame-for/page/3#post-2725814 Tue, 18 Apr 2017 13:23:23 +0000 gingerbebe 2725814@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I judged someone recently who is super antigovernment and chose to opt out of Obamacare, only to get pregnant and go on Medicaid for a high risk pregnancy. Because of a health issue they knew they had their whole life. :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-spin-off-what-dodid-you-shame-for/page/2#post-2725791 Tue, 18 Apr 2017 12:46:27 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2725791@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@petitenoisette: I never know whether to be impressed that people got their toddlers to sit through a movie, or tsk tsk at it, lol. My 4 year old still hasn't been to a movie in part because her attention span just isn't that long! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-spin-off-what-dodid-you-shame-for/page/2#post-2725784 Tue, 18 Apr 2017 12:32:50 +0000 gingerbebe 2725784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: that's terrible. I mean it's true Down syndrome folks have metabolic issues that get aggravated as they age and you don't want to risk diabetes and what not, so I think she's probably concerned in a legit way but that's a terrible way to handle it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-spin-off-what-dodid-you-shame-for/page/2#post-2725745 Tue, 18 Apr 2017 11:59:57 +0000 ElbieKay 2725745@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I judge screentime. I am too addicted to my phone and don't want the same thing to happen to my kid.</p> <p>I try really hard to use screentime only as a last resort, or if we've had a busy day and it's clear that my son could use a little down time. I got into some arguments with my husband because he was using videos as a bribe. I mostly got him to stop, and now it's under much more control.</p> <p>I have used screens in a restaurant with my 3yo exactly once, when I was somewhat desperate. I would rather keep him home or make him learn how to behave at the table. We take him out for weekend brunch pretty frequently. It's a nice place but there are usually lots of kids there, and when the weather is nice we sit outside.</p> <p>We have friends with a child the same age as my son, and they always pull out screens when we are at a restaurant together. I hate it but I let her do it because it's the only way her kid will behave.</p> <p>I also judge junky convenience food like sugary yogurt. Faux healthy is not healthy. Please buy real food.</p> <p>I am really terrible at making my 3yo put his toys away though. I need to start a campaign for that but it's going to be ugly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-spin-off-what-dodid-you-shame-for/page/2#post-2725744 Tue, 18 Apr 2017 11:59:04 +0000 MrsSCB 2725744@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LCTBQE: Ughhh so frustrating, especially since you really need above 90 percent for herd immunity to work best. I'm writing up something for work about this and I know it's going to make me mad, ha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-spin-off-what-dodid-you-shame-for/page/2#post-2725707 Tue, 18 Apr 2017 11:09:52 +0000 JessyMess 2725707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@petitenoisette: To piggy back on parents escalating situations with their children: Parents who yell at their already upset children, like that will calm them down. I'm a grownup and I get upset if someone yells at me to calm down, why would a kiddo be any different? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-spin-off-what-dodid-you-shame-for/page/2#post-2725646 Tue, 18 Apr 2017 09:19:27 +0000 erinbaderin 2725646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This weekend at my in-laws for Easter my husband's aunt started talking about how her teenage daughter (who has Down's Syndrome) is a young lady now, and doesn't have the metabolism of a little kid, and needs to start watching what she eats, and they're trying to get her to cut down to two meals a day (!!!) and skip breakfast, she doesn't know any teenagers who eat three meals a day, and you shouldn't eat in the morning unless you feel really hungry. All this while her daughter is sitting next to her eating her dinner! And she's talking about how she needs to eat healthier food and smaller portions and I'm thinking "Lady, YOU PUT THE FOOD ON HER PLATE!" I didn't say anything but I judged her pretty hard. (I DID say something about her and her grown-man brother's habit of showing up at their 80 year old mother's house just in time for dinner, going outside to smoke as soon as the meal is over while everybody else cleans up, and then coming back inside just in time for dessert. So rude.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-spin-off-what-dodid-you-shame-for/page/2#post-2725639 Tue, 18 Apr 2017 09:09:21 +0000 littlebug 2725639@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@petitenoisette: Ugh, my MIL makes a HUGE deal out of what my kids are/aren't eating and it drives me absolutely freaking insane. She was trying to guilt-trip my son into eating this weekend and I wanted to punch her! On other other hand, she was laughing about how much my daughter was eating and just kept feeding her, even though A will literally eat herself sick and we kept saying she's had enough. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-spin-off-what-dodid-you-shame-for/page/2#post-2725629 Tue, 18 Apr 2017 09:01:54 +0000 petitenoisette 2725629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>People who sort of brag about/publicize how much tv their kids watch, especially those under 2. I'd never say anything to anyone and I know you do what you gotta do but it seems like some people make zero effort to avoid or limit screen time for their kids. </p> <p>Parents who overreact and escalate situations with their children. Like making a big deal about how much their child is eating (or isn't) at a holiday meal... no recent experience there 😜 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-spin-off-what-dodid-you-shame-for/page/2#post-2725596 Tue, 18 Apr 2017 08:04:49 +0000 LCTBQE 2725596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsSCB: my brother's kids are zoned for a very rich, close-in elementary school in Austin--this is a *public* school--and he told me only 65% of the school is vaccinated. unbelievable. I also hear The Woodlands and some of the other suburbs north of you are getting pretty bad. I'm trying to wrap my head around the demographic, but it kind of seems like wealthy wannabe hippies that think it's trendy? I just hope it doesn't take another outbreak that kills a bunch of babies and children with compromised immune systems before Texas gets laws into place like California's. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-spin-off-what-dodid-you-shame-for/page/2#post-2725566 Tue, 18 Apr 2017 07:14:52 +0000 MrsSCB 2725566@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LCTBQE: six?! Yikes. Austin is getting bad as well. I just read an article talking about a private school in Austin where 40 percent are not fully vaccinated. 40 percent!! :shocked: </p> <p>@littlejoy: @caterw: @Littlebit7: drives me crazy and makes me very nervous. Measles is no joke! And what a privileged position it is to say "no, thanks." Parents in other countries would do anything to be able to protect their kids from these diseases. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-spin-off-what-dodid-you-shame-for/page/2#post-2725560 Tue, 18 Apr 2017 06:52:03 +0000 Littlebit7 2725560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsSCB: no, not alone. See my comment above<br /> @erinbaderin: omg. Wtf. </p> <p>And just to clarify, I haven't ever actually said anything to parents who don't vax or flip their kids forward facing as infants. Only internal side eye and judging. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-spin-off-what-dodid-you-shame-for/page/2#post-2725559 Tue, 18 Apr 2017 06:29:19 +0000 caterw 2725559@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsSCB: oh you are NOT alone. Why oh why oh why would anyone expose their child to fatal diseases? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-spin-off-what-dodid-you-shame-for/page/2#post-2725493 Mon, 17 Apr 2017 21:24:46 +0000 LCTBQE 2725493@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsSCB: nope, you're not alone--I and every one of my friends/family are absolutely disgusted with parents who won't vaccinate. I chose our pediatrician when I was pregnant by calling SIX different practices and asking the receptionist what their policy was. I finally found one who required all vaccines and wouldn't work with delayed schedules and shit, but it was a real effort. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-spin-off-what-dodid-you-shame-for/page/2#post-2725460 Mon, 17 Apr 2017 20:22:48 +0000 Ajsmommy 2725460@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Before kids I judged people's whose houses were over run with kids toys. Like in the living room and dining room etc.</p> <p>Now, hello my house!! Toys toys toys everywhere!! My husbands Co worker was her and called it Disney world.... :shocked:</p> <p>Eta: I also judge a friend who's daughter is so picky with food that she literally never eats a balanced meal or what they have. She's a pre teen now and still basically eats pizza, chicken nuggets and Mac n cheese FOR EVERY MEAL. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-spin-off-what-dodid-you-shame-for/page/2#post-2725457 Mon, 17 Apr 2017 20:10:34 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2725457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@birdofafeather: @littlejoy: we've had some falls but nothing to the head. Hm. It just seems so slow and close to the ground with the scooter! We'll see maybe I will get more strict. But honestly if someone said that to me at the park I would be offput given how normal it seems to be. (Totally appropriate on this thread, but since we're talking about shaming on this thread.) But it would be safer, that's true. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-spin-off-what-dodid-you-shame-for/page/2#post-2725453 Mon, 17 Apr 2017 20:01:03 +0000 Mrs. Oreo 2725453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't shame parents, but I do judge. :bummed: It mostly happens at work since I'm a peds nurse. I come across a lot of parents who just won't control their kids, to the point where the doctor has to say something during the visit. </p> <p>And kids who are dirty/smelly, but their parents have the latest smartphone and brag about their material things. Like, give your child a bath. Please! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-spin-off-what-dodid-you-shame-for/page/2#post-2725451 Mon, 17 Apr 2017 19:59:13 +0000 erinbaderin 2725451@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Most recently I've been judging the person who left this review on a baby swing I was researching:</p> <p>My nine month old son loves this swing, he loves to be outdoors and the fresh air helps him sleep! Also if you smoke and you cant put your baby down to go outside, you can bring him with you and put him in the swing! Of course you would walk away to smoke but it is great for a smoker. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-spin-off-what-dodid-you-shame-for/page/2#post-2725411 Mon, 17 Apr 2017 18:46:59 +0000 youboots 2725411@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mostly just kids being wild/loud while generally unsupervised in public. I get that kids are different but people should know the limits around their abilities to act socially acceptable at the library/restaurants etc. Dude, I get if they are having a bad day but take them home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-spin-off-what-dodid-you-shame-for/page/2#post-2725399 Mon, 17 Apr 2017 18:33:23 +0000 Littlebit7 2725399@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Car seat safety and vaccines. I give major side eye to parents who chose to ignore the findings of published scientific evidence and research. It boggles my mind that people will do organic XYZ, fret over whether or not to give a multivitamin and analyze almost every other aspect of their kid's lives (which I do as well) but flip their kid forward facing at 1 and/or not vaccinate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-spin-off-what-dodid-you-shame-for/page/2#post-2725398 Mon, 17 Apr 2017 18:28:58 +0000 littlejoy 2725398@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsSCB: I hate giving vaccines (the process of injecting chemicals into my child), but my kid is vaccinated, because science. We followed the schedule our doc recommended, and I felt really good about that. I am sure some people judged me for only giving 1-2 vaccines at a time, but it worked for us, and made me feel at ease about reactions, etc. </p> <p>I honestly do judge/question the one friend I have who hasn't EVER vaccinated her kiddo and never will. I don't think she's a bad mom at all (I think she's made an informed choice that fits with her family), but it's more that I truly can't understand how it must feel when her kid gets sick. I would be FREAKED out that every fever was a sign of meningitis or something like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-spin-off-what-dodid-you-shame-for/page/2#post-2725394 Mon, 17 Apr 2017 18:23:10 +0000 littlejoy 2725394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@birdofafeather: @2littlepumpkins: Totally agree!!! My LO cracked her helmet (!!!) after falling off her scooter. She didn't even have a scrape on her body, but I cannot imagine what kind of head injury that would have been. We just wear them as an example, and there's no scooter or bike without a helmet. It's the law here as well, but I constantly see FB and Instagram posts of my acquaintance's kids (and the adults) without helmets. It pings my heart a bit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-spin-off-what-dodid-you-shame-for/page/2#post-2725369 Mon, 17 Apr 2017 17:35:46 +0000 mrs.kiwi 2725369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't say anything to anyone except to my own sister haha. I think she lets her kid get away with way too much and she always excuses her behavior. My mom tries to say something (my mom is super nice) and my sister always defends her daughter and says how "good" she is. I don't know.. I really don't think that's good for the child.. As a teacher it was easy to see how blinded parents can be to their own child's faults/not-good traits and behavior.. It's not good for the child long run... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-spin-off-what-dodid-you-shame-for/page/2#post-2725304 Mon, 17 Apr 2017 15:29:52 +0000 MrsSCB 2725304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Apparently I'm alone in this, or at least alone in admitting it :silly: but not vaccinating is my number one. Unless there's a valid medical reason of course. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-spin-off-what-dodid-you-shame-for/page/2#post-2725302 Mon, 17 Apr 2017 15:25:09 +0000 sarac 2725302@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am horrified by people who give their children caffeine. Just, why??????? Talk about setting them up for bad habits later. I'm also really horrified by rude, thankless children. Politeness is super important to me and my family and it shows - my kids are polite as hell. And not because they're perfect little snowflakes - because they're well aware that that's the only way to act. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-spin-off-what-dodid-you-shame-for/page/2#post-2725280 Mon, 17 Apr 2017 14:50:22 +0000 peaches1038 2725280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I give side eye for no bedtime (or super late) as well as safety issues: unsafe babywearing, car seats and helmets, etc and spanking. </p>