https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 24 May 2026 00:09:18 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-way-of-thinking-about-how-many-children-you-want/page/2#post-875107 Fri, 21 Jun 2013 16:52:30 +0000 sunny 875107@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@zippylef: I think about it that way too. I think that's my #1 reason for wanting a second--so that my LO has someone to lean on once we are gone. </p> <p>I come from a family with 3 kids (2 siblings) and as much as I'd love to have 3-5 of my own, I don't think I could survive raising that many :-( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-way-of-thinking-about-how-many-children-you-want#post-875098 Fri, 21 Jun 2013 16:44:24 +0000 doodlepoodle 875098@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Running Elley: @TurtleDoves: um...y'all are crazy! Lol! As much as I love big holidays I'm with @mediagirl: we just invite friends! ;-) I don't need my hoo-hoo going through labor that many times! :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-way-of-thinking-about-how-many-children-you-want#post-875018 Fri, 21 Jun 2013 16:09:26 +0000 FarmWifeGina 875018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Although, here's something to consider if you want big family holidays: on top of being able to afford to raise a bunch of kids, make sure you can afford a big-ish house for when the grandkids come along. Or, at least a house with a big open basement for them to tear around in.<br /> Farmer Man comes from a family of 9 kids and so far *only* 4 of those kids have SOs and 3 have kids. There are only 6 grandkids so far, the oldest ones are 4, and that house is busting at the seams when we're all together, it's CRAY-CRAY!<br /> There are 10 kids in my family, but only 3 married and 5 (soon to be 7) grandkids, but I can't tell you anything about what it's like to get together for holidays because we literally have never all spent a holiday together. Which is fine with me, I'd much rather hang with DH's family, as much as they drove me a little nuts sometimes. But it just goes to show that big, jolly family reunions vary from family to family. Let's just say that my family is a *bit* more dysfunctional than Farmer Man's. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-way-of-thinking-about-how-many-children-you-want#post-874922 Fri, 21 Jun 2013 15:32:04 +0000 cascademom 874922@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Interesting point of view. It's already mass chaos when all of the cousins get together: 3 boys (LO included) and 1 girl for my parents' grandchildren plus spouses. I definitely want to add another to the bunch. I don't know if I want more than 2. When DH and I were talking about TTC again and timing, the thought of two in college for a brief period of time versus all of college was another thing to consider as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-way-of-thinking-about-how-many-children-you-want#post-874902 Fri, 21 Jun 2013 15:27:06 +0000 chopsuey 874902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Big families can be fun, but they can also be a major pita! My grandma had 10 kids! Of the 10 (2 died early), 4 have serious issues! It's also harder to get everyone together once they start getting married and starting families of their own.<br /> Dh has 4 siblings and it's so hard to get everyone together for the holidays. Hasn't happened at all since we've been married! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-way-of-thinking-about-how-many-children-you-want#post-874868 Fri, 21 Jun 2013 15:09:02 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 874868@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@zippylef: i think about it this way too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-way-of-thinking-about-how-many-children-you-want#post-874858 Fri, 21 Jun 2013 15:06:30 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 874858@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think about the grown child and that's why I just want one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-way-of-thinking-about-how-many-children-you-want#post-874841 Fri, 21 Jun 2013 15:02:39 +0000 loveisstrange 874841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think of it as who I want my children to have when we're gone. I definitely dont want just 1. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-way-of-thinking-about-how-many-children-you-want#post-874835 Fri, 21 Jun 2013 15:01:10 +0000 twinmama 874835@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>But remember when the kids are grown they will most likely have spouses and their own kids at that table too! And our family always has friend s at the table too :) So I think we're still ok with two. Childhood is long enough, and I don't want to be outnumbered! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-way-of-thinking-about-how-many-children-you-want#post-874834 Fri, 21 Jun 2013 15:00:32 +0000 SleepyMonkey 874834@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i've always wanted 3, but going through the newborn months made me re-think that to 2...haha some days it was 1. anyway, thats a good way to think about it! thinking about 3 again :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-way-of-thinking-about-how-many-children-you-want#post-874827 Fri, 21 Jun 2013 14:58:30 +0000 mediagirl 874827@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>But this is only good if you enjoy big, noisy, family gatherings! My husband and I both get overwhelmed by big gatherings so, this doesn't work so well for us. I do like the thought of more than 3 of us at the thanksgiving table but figure if we want more than 3,we'll just do what we do every year, invite our friends who dot have family in town to have dinner with us. :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-way-of-thinking-about-how-many-children-you-want#post-874818 Fri, 21 Jun 2013 14:55:33 +0000 runsyellowlites 874818@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I remember the moment I shifted to this way of thinking! For the longest I was fine with 2 max... Enough to give DH a bio child &amp; G to have a sibling. Then we were watching Family Stone (one of my favorite holiday movies ever) and I realized how much I'd prefer more to have all the kids back for family functions so now I want atleast 3, probably 4, maaaaybe 5. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-way-of-thinking-about-how-many-children-you-want#post-874802 Fri, 21 Jun 2013 14:51:35 +0000 MamaBehr 874802@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This makes me want 4-5 kids. I want a huge crazy Thanksgiving table, but being pregnant with the third while trying to chase the other two around, I am DONE! We will be done after this baby. I can't do another first trimester.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-way-of-thinking-about-how-many-children-you-want#post-874799 Fri, 21 Jun 2013 14:51:21 +0000 Mrs. Pen 874799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JessKas: yeah that's probably my biggest worry. We definitely couldn't afford to feed and clothe that many children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-way-of-thinking-about-how-many-children-you-want#post-874798 Fri, 21 Jun 2013 14:51:00 +0000 MrsF 874798@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I heard this somewhere a few weeks ago and it really changed my perspective. I still don't think I'd want more than 3 (DH) wants 4, but it made me feel a little differently about the newborn stage. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-way-of-thinking-about-how-many-children-you-want#post-874797 Fri, 21 Jun 2013 14:50:56 +0000 sarac 874797@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, this specific thinking pushes me towards more. I'd like a big family in theory, but after having one, I'd almost be happy to call it good. But I realize that this very needy phase is short in comparison to the long life I'll hopefully have with them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-way-of-thinking-about-how-many-children-you-want#post-874784 Fri, 21 Jun 2013 14:46:28 +0000 JessKas 874784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's how I think about it, and it makes me want 3-4! The financial implications of that many kids holds my husband back though. We'll see! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-way-of-thinking-about-how-many-children-you-want#post-874753 Fri, 21 Jun 2013 14:33:28 +0000 Mrs. Pen 874753@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Running Elley: hahah my DH would love a small tribe ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-way-of-thinking-about-how-many-children-you-want#post-874751 Fri, 21 Jun 2013 14:33:27 +0000 duckduckkristen 874751@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's how we think of it! I come from a large family so we want the same for our family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-way-of-thinking-about-how-many-children-you-want#post-874749 Fri, 21 Jun 2013 14:31:42 +0000 Running Elley 874749@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: Aw that's exactly what I envision for our family!!! That's how it is with DH's side (he's one of 6) and holidays are amazing.</p> <p>@TurtleDoves: We'll be having 4-5 too... even though I'm not sure that DH would be opposed to trying for like 10 of them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-way-of-thinking-about-how-many-children-you-want#post-874747 Fri, 21 Jun 2013 14:30:52 +0000 autumnlove 874747@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I better get cracking..I want a lot more! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-way-of-thinking-about-how-many-children-you-want#post-874738 Fri, 21 Jun 2013 14:27:50 +0000 ALV91711 874738@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've never thought of it that way. That makes me want half a dozen, but in reality it will be 2 or 3. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-way-of-thinking-about-how-many-children-you-want#post-874737 Fri, 21 Jun 2013 14:27:28 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 874737@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Running Elley: lol!</p> <p>That's why we want 4-5:) I want to have big holidays and grand kids and I want to see my kids graduate high school and get married and all that:)) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-way-of-thinking-about-how-many-children-you-want#post-874735 Fri, 21 Jun 2013 14:26:18 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 874735@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When i think of that way, I think I would like 10-12. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-way-of-thinking-about-how-many-children-you-want#post-874732 Fri, 21 Jun 2013 14:25:51 +0000 Mrs. Pen 874732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Running Elley: @rachiecakes: @hilsy85: same!! My parents had six kids, now with the three oldest married all with kids if their own- our holidays are full of people! And I wouldn't change a thing! I love it so much... And in that sense it makes me want just as many. But the newborn phase scared me so much. Birth was traumatic, and not getting sleep for a year was really hard. I told DH I wish I could skip the first year with the next kid(s).</p> <p>@Andrea: hahaa so true. My mom said after the fourth, the weight stuck. Sadly she hasn't ever been able to get rid of it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-way-of-thinking-about-how-many-children-you-want#post-874722 Fri, 21 Jun 2013 14:20:57 +0000 Running Elley 874722@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ahhh I'd never thought of this way before. Now I want like....5 billion. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-way-of-thinking-about-how-many-children-you-want#post-874719 Fri, 21 Jun 2013 14:17:56 +0000 rachiecakes 874719@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>waah, I want like a million :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-way-of-thinking-about-how-many-children-you-want#post-874717 Fri, 21 Jun 2013 14:15:56 +0000 Weagle 874717@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's how I think about it. A friend of ours with 4 kids and one on the way, said they think they are just now starting to reap the parenting benefits with their oldest (9-10 years old). He's really fun and plays board games with them and has really thoughtful conversations. And that's why they decided to go for #5. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-way-of-thinking-about-how-many-children-you-want#post-874691 Fri, 21 Jun 2013 14:05:07 +0000 Dandelion 874691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is cool. Yeah, the baby stage is fleeting. Right now, my kid is almost 6 and I would rather put a pause button on him now, rather than when he was a baby. Babies are cute, but kindergarten kids are so much fun! I would love to be in this stage again at least one more time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-way-of-thinking-about-how-many-children-you-want#post-874689 Fri, 21 Jun 2013 14:02:58 +0000 Foodnerd81 874689@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My family is big and big family dinners, with only my siblings, spouses, and parents, are 11 people-- before the next generation of babies are added in! I love it. But I also want to put my kids through school, so that limits the number a little more.<br /> I'm open to two or three, DH is stuck on 2 and right now that's fine with me. </p>