https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 03 May 2026 11:58:57 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anxiety-and-pregnancy#post-2887312 Sat, 08 Jun 2019 09:44:53 +0000 periwinklebee 2887312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jaguar: c'mon time, fly by!!!! :goodluck: :goodluck: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anxiety-and-pregnancy#post-2887297 Sat, 08 Jun 2019 06:25:12 +0000 pachamama 2887297@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jaguar: Jaguar, I have been following you for so long. Congratulations on number 3!! so happy for you. I also had a similar issue with HCG which really set my pregnancy off to be full of anxiety...you can actually dig that back and find my post if you're interested.<br /> It seems for me the more pregnancies, the more stress! I even go to a therapist because the anxiety was all-consuming. She basically told me, accept the anxiety. How could you not feel unbelievably stressed!? She encouraged me to just embrace it and understand it's normal. She was basically like, just get through these weeks. It made me feel a lot better. Sometimes traumatic events like yours can set it off even worse. But hang in there. Stay busy and resign yourself to it if that makes sense..., there's really nothing you can do which also was a solace to me. I hope this helps! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anxiety-and-pregnancy#post-2887292 Sat, 08 Jun 2019 01:11:59 +0000 jaguar 2887292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@periwinklebee: I think it's 1-2 weeks, because of biz days. Very nervous!</p> <p>@ALV91711: Thanks lovely</p> <p>@skinnycow: Home stretch now mama xxx </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anxiety-and-pregnancy#post-2887157 Fri, 07 Jun 2019 11:16:44 +0000 skinnycow 2887157@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've only had one loss but I've really struggled with anxiety/fear this pregnancy. I'm 38 weeks pregnant and I don't think my fear will completely go away until baby is safely in my arms. I don't have any great ideas but sending good thoughts your way :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anxiety-and-pregnancy#post-2887155 Fri, 07 Jun 2019 11:05:18 +0000 ALV91711 2887155@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No advice, just want to send sticky thoughts and love your way. :heart: :goodluck: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anxiety-and-pregnancy#post-2887109 Fri, 07 Jun 2019 08:20:15 +0000 periwinklebee 2887109@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jaguar: I'm so glad that your doctor will give an extra scan for peace of mind. </p> <p>Am I remembering right that you are in Australia? How long will the NIPT take to come back? Will you be able to get your draw when they do the ultrasound? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anxiety-and-pregnancy#post-2887092 Fri, 07 Jun 2019 02:09:52 +0000 jaguar 2887092@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks so much guys, everyone weighing in has really helped. How I wish I could pee on a stick, see a baby on a scan and know they'll come home in 9 months time.</p> <p>I'm definitely taking on board the 'today I'm pregnant' mantra.... my OB is going to scan me at 10 weeks to just give me some peace of mind, and then it's a waiting game. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anxiety-and-pregnancy#post-2886979 Thu, 06 Jun 2019 13:53:08 +0000 karenbme 2886979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry you're going through this! Pregnancy after loss is so hard. I'm 15 weeks right now with my fourth pregnancy (still working on baby #1) and also on restricted activity due to bleeding and a short cervix. The things that have helped me are having a doppler at home (not recommended by doctors since you can't consistently find the heartbeat until ~12 weeks, but worked for me at 9 weeks) and talking about the things I'm worried about with a few close friends. It's hard to talk about it with DH because he's just as scared as I am, but having others that I can really vent to is super helpful. I'm not sure if you've told anyone about the pregnancy, but if you haven't it might help.</p> <p>Also, for what it's worth, about 1% of the time NIPT doesn't work. It was not anything I'd heard of until it happened to me, and sent me into a little bit of a tail spin. The doctors were pushing to just redraw my blood, but I read that if it fails once there's a decent chance (at least 10%, possibly as high as 50%) that it will fail again, so I pushed for nuchal translucency instead because that would definitely give an answer even if it was a risk pool rather than a yes/no. Yours will probably be fine--like I said, only a 1% chance of failure--but I didn't want you to be blind sided like I was because it sounds like you're hanging a lot on the NIPT. </p> <p>I know that time is probably moving really slowly for you right now (it is for me, too), but I really hope that you get a happy, healthy baby at the end of this process. If you've seen a heartbeat you've already made it over one of the biggest hurdles! :heart: :heart: :goodluck: :goodluck: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anxiety-and-pregnancy#post-2886951 Thu, 06 Jun 2019 10:10:05 +0000 periwinklebee 2886951@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry you are going through this. :heart: </p> <p>I think what helped me most after a couple of losses, beyond staying busy, is to just basically assume there's a good chance that it won't work out and accept that from the beginning. I didn't do IVF, though, and I'm sure it made it much easier to take this approach. Then the focus is just on surviving the physical yuck of pregnancy, either to the point where things don't work out or until they do. I also had a pregnancy with a large SCH where I was on modified bed rest, and losing exercise as a coping mechanism sucked but I tried to replace exercise with some meditation. </p> <p>The other thing that helped is recognizing that miscarriage is not the worst outcome. It sounds trite, but things can always be worse (stillbirth, severe health problems for the mother or baby, etc). Miscarriage almost always occurs when there is something medically very wrong with the baby due to genetic abnormalities, and it's the kindest thing to save more health risks and suffering for both baby and mama. I think this maybe helped in having the confidence to know I can handle a loss in the unfortunate event that it happens. </p> <p>And finally, don't hesitate to talk to your provider, as others have said... </p> <p>I really hope that the time flies by for you :goodluck: :goodluck: :goodluck: Keeping all my fingers crossed :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anxiety-and-pregnancy#post-2886949 Thu, 06 Jun 2019 09:38:11 +0000 Shantuck 2886949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry you are going through this again. We were in the same October 2016 birth group and I remember you going through a similar stressful situation. I have had 3 miscarriages (2 before my 2nd child and 1 after) and all I really could do was focus on keeping busy. There is nothing you can do to change the outcome other than what you are likely already doing (taking good care of your body by eating well, etc.). Are you able to walk or do yoga or meditation? I've also used acupuncture to help me manage anxiety, which was also really helpful to me. Try to think positively and keep putting one foot in front of the other. You've got this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anxiety-and-pregnancy#post-2886948 Thu, 06 Jun 2019 09:15:31 +0000 Pollywog 2886948@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you know what helped? Having a healthy baby in my arms. I had a mmc at 9 weeks and then a cp. When I got my next sticky baby nothing helped. I was anxious and was convinced something would go wrong. I was a wreck.</p> <p>But then he was born and he's happy and healthy. And 3 years later the anxiety is gone. So I recommend just trying to focus on your other two and know there's nothing you can control about this pregnancy. So instead of stressing about it, you can focus on what you can control-- your other kids, the pile of laundry, eating healthy... Putting the pregnancy out of mind is way easier said than done, but really helps.</p> <p>Hugs and congratulations! I'm crossing my fingers for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anxiety-and-pregnancy#post-2886946 Thu, 06 Jun 2019 09:09:30 +0000 graceandjoy 2886946@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sending you so much sticky vibes :goodluck: :goodluck: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anxiety-and-pregnancy#post-2886931 Thu, 06 Jun 2019 08:07:11 +0000 foodiebee 2886931@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>While I did not have anxiety because of a loss during this pregnancy, I really struggled with first-trimester prenatal anxiety. I found that whenever I felt myself sinking into a low point, I'd turn on the Headspace app and try to work myself through it. At the time, I didn't understand what was going on or I would have been much more proactive about treating it, but I would recommend Headspace if you need something to help calm you in moments. They have pregnancy specific audio you can listen to. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anxiety-and-pregnancy#post-2886925 Thu, 06 Jun 2019 07:26:01 +0000 bhbee 2886925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs! :heart: </p> <p>I had such a hard time after my MMC. It did get a little better after the NIPT results. Agree with distraction and one day at a time. Also mention it to your providers - my ob gave me a quick extra scan when I did my NIPT bloodwork because it was right around the time of my last loss and she knew I was nervous. I also found journaling really helpful - I just made entries in a private blog. Writing freely about my worries helped them seem less important I think. Hang in there!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anxiety-and-pregnancy#post-2886924 Thu, 06 Jun 2019 07:05:30 +0000 cyoung 2886924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Now I only had one miscarriage and it was a chemical but I still understand the worry. This pregnancy has its struggles with bleeding and them saying it wasn't viable at the ER. We found out at our 8 week appointment she was viable and healthy. The big thing for me that helped is telling my self to take it one day at a time. "I'm pregnant today...I'll worry about tomorrow, tomorrow."<br /> Now I'm 31 weeks (am having a few issues) but she is healthy and doing great. It's just me that's. struggling </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anxiety-and-pregnancy#post-2886914 Wed, 05 Jun 2019 23:36:46 +0000 jaguar 2886914@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CatchAFallingStar: Exercise is my big thing, but because of all the bleeding, I'm supposed to be restricting activity - so I'm missing that outlet. I can't wait for the all clear to go back to that!</p> <p>@Kemma: I still can't believe this FET actually worked - scared to get excited about it but I'm itching to scream it from the rooftops at the same time! &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anxiety-and-pregnancy#post-2886905 Wed, 05 Jun 2019 22:36:32 +0000 Kemma 2886905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No advice but congratulations on #3! I hope it all goes smoothly from here on out ❤️ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anxiety-and-pregnancy#post-2886898 Wed, 05 Jun 2019 21:55:18 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 2886898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I absolutely understand your fears and anxiety. When I was pregnant both times with my daughters, I was incredibly nervous and anxious about each and every cramp, spotting, each ultrasound and appointment... I googled countless things and was terrified before every appointment. And that was before I had ever lost a pregnancy! You have the right to feel these things, so first of all, don’t beat yourself up for having the anxiety and worry that you have.</p> <p>That being said, finding something to distract you and bring joy to your life in some other way would be helpful. Maybe start a prenatal yoga or barre class? Maybe start knitting or some other time consuming, hands-on and rewarding project? </p> <p>You might also consider seeing a therapist. I know I’m going to when I get pregnant again. There’s no way I can handle the worry after losing my last pregnancy. I’ll be terrified again and I know I’ll need help. </p> <p>Anyway, I hope this helps in some way.</p> <p> :heart: :heart: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anxiety-and-pregnancy#post-2886882 Wed, 05 Jun 2019 20:20:07 +0000 jaguar 2886882@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So.... I'm pregnant with #3, another IVF miracle baby. We had a rocky start to this pregnancy, with not so great hcg rises, lowish progesterone, supplements, and several terrifying bouts of bleeding/clotting/gushes, so getting through each day at a time has been a struggle.</p> <p>I'm 9 weeks now, and I feel super anxious. We're getting to the point where I've had a missed miscarriage before, I'm doing NIPT testing in the next few weeks, and I'm so scared to be excited and confident for this baby - I just keep waiting for bad news.</p> <p>How did you pass the time/try to de-stress during the scary first trimester? I feel like so much is riding on this baby that the pressure is on... I remember feeling anxious during my last pregnancy too (after multiple losses) but this one is just next level scary. </p>