https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 20:26:52 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-bees-have-a-bad-childhood-and-plan-to-break-the-cycle#post-73555 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 10:23:35 +0000 Modern Daisy 73555@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My Mom has undiagnosed bipolar disorder and was a SAHM my whole life and I think that was very tough on her. She did a lot of things right that I will do with my own children, but she definitely used beating as a form of discipline which I will not do. I know it's tempting to smack your kids when they throw a tantrum or do something wrong, but that's really just the parent taking out anger on a defenseless child. </p> <p>Since she was so harsh on me, I have social anxiety and it took me a long time to come out of my shell. Also, we didn't have a good relationship until my mid 20's so we missed out on all that bonding time. </p> <p>Don't get me wrong, I defnitely believe in punishment and benign neglect and all that jazz, but I just think beating is a little too harsh and I've seen the long term effects first-hand. So I will definitely learn from that and work hard to instill confidence in my own children while teaching them who's boss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-bees-have-a-bad-childhood-and-plan-to-break-the-cycle#post-73539 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 09:53:15 +0000 Cchoi4 73539@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents fought a lot when I was a child. They finally got divorced when I was 8. Divorce complicates a lot of things for children - holidays, birthdays, being careful not to talk about one parent to the other, etc etc. That said, my parents were immigrants and under a lot of stress. I don't blame them now, but do wish my childhood was a little less traumatic. I definitely do NOT plan on getting a divorce or acting the way my parents did when they got one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-bees-have-a-bad-childhood-and-plan-to-break-the-cycle#post-21721 Thu, 24 Nov 2011 18:05:43 +0000 MissKitten 21721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mother grew up in a very abusive household (she ran away from home 3 times before she was 15) but I had the most amazing childhood. It just makes me even more determined to be as good a mother to my children as she was to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-bees-have-a-bad-childhood-and-plan-to-break-the-cycle#post-19901 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 23:17:30 +0000 Mrs. D 19901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The only part of my childhood I have been afraid of passing on is also Divorce. I had a great, although lower-middle class, above the poverty line, childhood. It took me awhile to not be afraid of that, I love and trust my husband, but you grow up thinking that it was your fault (hey, I was five!), it's hard to get past, especially when neither parent remarried. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-bees-have-a-bad-childhood-and-plan-to-break-the-cycle#post-19705 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 20:03:55 +0000 VanessaC15 19705@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was raised without a father for the majority of my life. I am so glad I can provide my (future) children with 2 parents who will be active in their lives. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-bees-have-a-bad-childhood-and-plan-to-break-the-cycle#post-19678 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 19:31:47 +0000 MH.Abroad 19678@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was not raised in an abusive home, but I certainly intend to do things very differently than my parents did. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-bees-have-a-bad-childhood-and-plan-to-break-the-cycle#post-19646 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 18:53:57 +0000 mrs.earrings 19646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mother grew up in a very dysfunctional/abusive family (mainly from her dad) and promised herself that she wouldnt put her own family through that. So she married my father, who is completely different from her own father, and together with him created a very happy family environment. So it can be done! Mum always says "to break the chain of abuse someone has to be strong enough to turn around, face it, and move forward in a new direction." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-bees-have-a-bad-childhood-and-plan-to-break-the-cycle#post-19639 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 18:40:56 +0000 cyndistar3 19639@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't remember my childhood at all. Hopefully she will. One thing I remember is that my parents never took me anywhere and that is one thing I will change. We do things as a family all the time and I love it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-bees-have-a-bad-childhood-and-plan-to-break-the-cycle#post-19596 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 17:23:42 +0000 loveablebee 19596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks ladies! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-bees-have-a-bad-childhood-and-plan-to-break-the-cycle#post-19594 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 17:19:54 +0000 runsyellowlites 19594@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom grew up in a physically &amp; sexually abusive home and definitely made sure we didn't grow up like that, but there were still alot of issues she hadn't dealt with until after we were already grown... so do all you can to get YOU healthy and that will definitely help you in healthy parenting. =)</p> <p>Both DH and my parents divorced so that's definitely a trend both of us have already claimed broken &amp; our kids will NEVER have to deal with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-bees-have-a-bad-childhood-and-plan-to-break-the-cycle#post-19592 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 17:12:41 +0000 DillonLion 19592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was not in an abusive home, but my mother was. And she didn't pass it down to me at all. She was a great mom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-bees-have-a-bad-childhood-and-plan-to-break-the-cycle#post-19590 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 17:10:12 +0000 loveablebee 19590@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As an abused child, I plan on being an awesome mom! I plan to read lots of parenting books and keep my environment a very healthy place for my future children. I will never yell or hit my children. I plan to break the cycle of abuse and allow it to end with my parents. Anyone else? </p>