https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 02 May 2026 00:10:42 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-ivf-moms-considering-doing-or-already-did-it-again-for-baby-2-or-3-or-more#post-2086788 Thu, 26 Feb 2015 13:18:13 +0000 raintreebee 2086788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@brady80: omg, I forgot about the logistics. Let's just hope egg retrieval and transfer happen on a day we have childcare! Sounds like we may both be doing a fresh cycle around the he same time so we can be buddies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-ivf-moms-considering-doing-or-already-did-it-again-for-baby-2-or-3-or-more#post-2086517 Thu, 26 Feb 2015 11:18:24 +0000 brady80 2086517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Same boat. We have a DD, 19 months and we started meeting with our RE when she was 13 months, after I weaned. We had three embryos and did two FET that were not successful. We will hopefully be doing a fresh cycle in April. I haven't let myself think about what we will do if that doesn't work. In some ways it is easier the second time because you know there can be success. Logistically, it's much harder. I work full time and already feel stretched beyond my ability. Throw in some early morning appointments, hormones and the emotional roller coaster of IVF, and I sometimes feel like I just can't do it. We really want another child, so for now I am getting through this. Good luck with whatever you decide to do. FWIW: we found meeting with our RE helpful in thinking about a plan. It doesn't mean you have to jump right in right away, but it helped us put our toe back in the water! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-ivf-moms-considering-doing-or-already-did-it-again-for-baby-2-or-3-or-more#post-2086458 Thu, 26 Feb 2015 10:54:57 +0000 BSB 2086458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: If we had twins, I think there is a chance that we might want a 3rd. Any remaining embryos would be kept or donated to research. Though, I think I have to warm the DH up to possibly putting them up to be donated to another couple. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-ivf-moms-considering-doing-or-already-did-it-again-for-baby-2-or-3-or-more#post-2086430 Thu, 26 Feb 2015 10:37:03 +0000 tequiero21 2086430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If we only had one from ivf, we would have done it again maybe 9mo pp? Not that I would have been in any hurry to get shots, really hated that part, and all the blood work. But I would have wanted to get it over with. Wouldn't want my kids too far apart, especially since there's no guarantee to get pregnant. Plus, I'm old. </p> <p>I think you are at a good age to retrieve the eggs, even if you don't do the transfer. Under 36 is what they like. </p> <p>If I were u, I'd do the retrieval and freeze the good embryo and use it when u r ready. That way, your body recuperates and so does your mind.</p> <p>Unfortunately, we discarded all the embryos. I would love to help out families in need, and I'm really sad we discarded them, but ultimately, we didn't want biological children out there and us not be a part of their lives. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-ivf-moms-considering-doing-or-already-did-it-again-for-baby-2-or-3-or-more#post-2085998 Wed, 25 Feb 2015 22:33:19 +0000 SweetiePie 2085998@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sarahnicole218: Good luck with your first round! Hoping that you do have beginners luck!</p> <p>@sweetooth: Thanks for just validating a lot of my thoughts, it helps! And that's a good idea to just schedule a consult with my RE. He might give me an idea I hadn't even considered. Great point about having to get all of those tests and stuff done again, maybe I could at least get that out of the way!</p> <p>@raintreebee: Sorry that any of us have to be thinking about any of this. Keep us posted on your process! xoxo</p> <p>@twodoghouse: Haha, love the "two for one" reference. You always crack me up! I still cannot fathom two at once, but I guess it would've solved this "to IVF or not to IVF" question. I definitely would be done if we had twins! </p> <p>@Mrs. Jacks: Yes, I was thinking about @leialou when I wrote that as well! I know that someone out there is probably praying for a healthy embryo, so that makes me think "why wouldn't I do that???" I doubt I'd even have extras but I feel like everything has to be considered. </p> <p>@GreenThumb: Good luck with your final frosty(ies?)! I hope you don't have to go down the path of another fresh cycle! </p> <p>@bluestriped bee: If you do have twins, will you still want more? If not, what will you do with the 5 embryos, if you don't mind my asking? That's amazing you have so many! </p> <p>@kentuckygirl: Stray away! ;-) Its still relevant and related to the idea of IVF a 2nd time!<br /> I hope you and your husband can come to an agreement that you are both happy with! Another downside of IVF...you can't just go off the pill and trick your husband into an "oops!" ;-) Bad joke, but seriously...there is nothing "oops" about IVF, it is so planned and really stressful! </p> <p>@Mrs.Pinecone316: So exciting for your first :-) You'll have to come back and update this thread after he/she gets here! </p> <p>@jaguar: That makes sense! I can see pros and cons to doing it now and to waiting. And it just goes to show that you never know how things will actually pan out. I'm sorry they didn't turn out how you envisioned them. IF just plain sucks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-ivf-moms-considering-doing-or-already-did-it-again-for-baby-2-or-3-or-more#post-2085666 Wed, 25 Feb 2015 18:44:10 +0000 jaguar 2085666@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: We wanted to start pretty close together because having siblings in age was our goal. Obviously that hasn't happened for us, which is really upsetting, but yeah...that was the goal. Plus, it was easier lugging a small baby to appts, compared to a cranky toddler. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-ivf-moms-considering-doing-or-already-did-it-again-for-baby-2-or-3-or-more#post-2085648 Wed, 25 Feb 2015 18:28:52 +0000 Mrs.Pinecone316 2085648@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am due in April with our 1st from IVF but we have already talked about our plans for #2. I think we would start trying naturally around 9ish months for a few months and if nothing happens (which is likely) we will do a FET since we have 3 frosties. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-ivf-moms-considering-doing-or-already-did-it-again-for-baby-2-or-3-or-more#post-2085514 Wed, 25 Feb 2015 16:50:00 +0000 kentuckygirl 2085514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi! This whole topic is on my mind constantly. My situation strays a little from your orignal topic, but i hope you don't mind me sharing my thoughts. </p> <p>I have always wanted more than one child. We met in our mid-thirties, got married a few years later, then it took almost 2 years to conceive LO through IVF. I was 38 when LO was born. I would like to TTC now for a second LO, but now DH is saying he's not sure. He's not completely ruled out a second child, but is very hesitant and seems to be against doing IVF a second time. I am now 39 with DOR. We don't have time to spare. There are some personal and some financial reasons for his feelings as we paid out of pocket for IVF.</p> <p>I worry that if I push him to definitely TTC again, that I will be instantly caught up in the emotional roller coaster that is IF. I worry I won't be able to conceive without IVF, so is there a point to even trying unless he will consider IVF. I worry about the increased risk of Down's and other genetic issues (we won't do PIGD, even if we do IVF). But I am so eager to have a second child, it is almost at a level of desparation. I have been trying to convince myself I am okay with only one child because I am afraid of the emotions I will face in dealing with IF again. But I just can't get past my desire to have another child and give my son a sibling. </p> <p>@SweetiePie: Coming back to your questions of when and your situation... I have a different perspective because I am the one who wants to try NOW! I know that is more your DH's position and you are hesitant. Can you give yourself a month to not think about it? Or set some date in the next few months to discuss it again? </p> <p>Finally, I totally know what you mean about how different it is to TTC #2 when you dealt with IF / had to use IVF to conceive #1. I just want to be "normal," and especially when it comes to having fun and enjoying TTC.</p> <p>Hugs to all!</p> <p>ETA: We only got three eggs, two fertilized and transferred, leading to one baby. So we have no frosties. Those numbers make me worry we may not have success, even if I can convince DH to do IVF again. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-ivf-moms-considering-doing-or-already-did-it-again-for-baby-2-or-3-or-more#post-2084927 Wed, 25 Feb 2015 13:02:49 +0000 BSB 2084927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm currently pregnant with our first (&amp; potentially second... twins). If we wanted more children, I would consider doing another FET (transfer 1) with the 5 embryos we have frozen. I don't know if I could afford another IVF cycle if those 5 doesn't work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-ivf-moms-considering-doing-or-already-did-it-again-for-baby-2-or-3-or-more#post-2084893 Wed, 25 Feb 2015 12:56:38 +0000 GreenThumb 2084893@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DD (from an FET) is now 20 months old. We started trying for #2 when she was 13 months old and have been through 2 failed FETs (1 CP, 1 BFN). And now are giving FET one more try in April before deciding if we are going to go through a fresh cycle again… or not pursue it any further. It is really tough emotionally. I thought a lot of the pain would be over after LO #1 was born, but in a way it is even harder to go through this all over again because I really want a sibling for her. Age is a factor for us: DH just turned 40 and I will be 37 next month. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-ivf-moms-considering-doing-or-already-did-it-again-for-baby-2-or-3-or-more#post-2084397 Wed, 25 Feb 2015 09:17:09 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 2084397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: one of my good friends was in your boat. With a normal embryo, she actually had a great success rate. She knew she wanted her kids to be about 2 years apart and she started the process again when her son was about to turn one. She was late 30's and didn't have extra time.</p> <p>She didn't have any healthy embryos to freeze, so she didn't have to go down that road, bit hopefully someone who did donate and Leialou will weigh in about that topic :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-ivf-moms-considering-doing-or-already-did-it-again-for-baby-2-or-3-or-more#post-2084369 Wed, 25 Feb 2015 09:03:07 +0000 twodoghouse 2084369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We got the two for one "bargain" so we are done, but if we had only had one baby the first go, we would have done it again because our hope was to have two kids. We had one embryo frozen, so we would have gone that route first. If it hadn't worked, we would have gone through another fresh cycle. I responded well to meds and my IVF went well/quick so I think I could have done it again. I'm not sure how many times we would have tried it from a financial standpoint though. We would have hoped for a 2-3 year age difference. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-ivf-moms-considering-doing-or-already-did-it-again-for-baby-2-or-3-or-more#post-2084352 Wed, 25 Feb 2015 08:51:34 +0000 raintreebee 2084352@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for starting this. I was just thinking about starting something similar. LO is 13 months, and we conceived him after 3 IUIs and 3 IVFs (two fresh, one frozen). We've just done one failed round of TI. We were travelling so missed the IUI window. I am likely going to be gone during the next window, but I think we are just going to jump into IVF in March/April since I will be 37 soon. I think I can handle the process, depending on how many rounds it takes. But it certainly is depressing that a second isn't guaranteed by any means. It's hard to see bees talking about how many kids they want or child spacing or oops pregnancies. It just feels so lonely. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-ivf-moms-considering-doing-or-already-did-it-again-for-baby-2-or-3-or-more#post-2084323 Wed, 25 Feb 2015 08:32:11 +0000 sweetooth 2084323@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did not do IVF to have my baby, but I did do IUI with injectibles. And now I am over 20 weeks pregnant with my second child, after IUI and injectibles again. We tried on our own for a few months with no luck, but then I just wanted to know if we could actually get pregnant again. And after chatting with all of the helpful IF women here on HB, I decided to make the consultation appointment around 8 months pp. </p> <p>You are thinking of all the right things. Life. Work. Enjoyment of your first bundle of joy. Your age. Etc. Maybe if you are interested in a more detailed conversation you could schedule an appointment with your RE? One of the eye openers for me was that going back also required a new round of testing. I had more bloodwork, another saline sonogram, everything had to be checked out before we started to make sure my insides looked good after birth. So even if you do start the process, it won't be instant. </p> <p>But yes, it is draining. It's still emotional. Every feeling I had before came flooding back. The only helpful thing was looking at my son and knowing that if I could continue to be strong, I might have a chance at another cute face smiling at me :)</p> <p>I was 35 when I had my first baby, and I'll be 36 when I have my second. Age was definitely a factor for me too.</p> <p>And don't even get me started on work...that really is a hard thing to factor in. Looking for a new job, etc. Maybe make some lists and map it out, and talk it through with your husband so he realizes it's more than just "let's hop back in to IVF again!" - There's so much more to it. (I know you know this...) Consider if you want to have more than 1 child under the age of two. And the costs associated with two in diapers. Or two in daycare. Lots of things to consider. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-ivf-moms-considering-doing-or-already-did-it-again-for-baby-2-or-3-or-more#post-2084299 Wed, 25 Feb 2015 08:05:32 +0000 Miss Sarah 2084299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're still trying for our first, and we are currently in our first round of IVF and I'm handling it fine so far, so I would definitely go through it again for a second. I'm hoping I have beginner's luck and we have some embies to freeze, but I would absolutely do another fresh cycle and I wouldn't wait too long I don't think. I'm 29, it's taken 2 years so far to TTC #1 and we always wanted 3-4 kids!</p> <p>Good luck with your decision! :goodluck: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-ivf-moms-considering-doing-or-already-did-it-again-for-baby-2-or-3-or-more#post-2084275 Wed, 25 Feb 2015 07:30:27 +0000 SweetiePie 2084275@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@shutterbug: :heart: I still think about you and I just know you'll be in my shoes soon enough :happy: I have to pop into the ivf thread more often! I actually did last night and reading about the menopur and ganirelix and all of that kind of made my heart race and I just dread the thought of doing it again. And I inly did it one round!!! I cannot FATHOM doing several rounds. You are a strong woman!<br /> ETA: I am 33, I'll be 34 when my son turns 1. I went into labor on my birthday ;-)<br /> Another concern of mine is how many to freeze, should I be so lucky to have more than 1. While we're unsure of wanting another, I am pretty positive I don't want more than two! My odds of the transfer being successful are pretty high once we have a chromosomally sound embryo. But still no guarantee. So I don't know how many retrievals I should do if I am lucky and get 1 first round. Or what if I get two. I would still only transfer one. The 2nd one, I wouldn't have be heart to destroy because I make so few good ones! But I really don't want another. So would I donate it? It's hard to imagine us having another bio child out there somewhere, but hard to imagine just discarding it when it's perfect and someone else could be praying desperately for it. Maybe I'll start another thread about that - I wonder if any of our fellow IVF'ers have donated embryos. </p> <p>@jaguar: :heart: I can't imagine. I didn't even think about having to hide the emotions from my LO. It can be so sad and lonely sometimes.<br /> How/why did you decide to start again when your LO was 6 months? My husband said 6 months as well, his thinking being that it could take 6 months or more to even get a good embryo. But it also makes me a little mad. I mean, he's not pressuring me and I can say no. But I also feel sometimes like he's so...flippant? Like "oh yeah just start the ivf process again" like its no big deal. So easy for him to say! He doesn't even give me the shots! </p> <p>I also would (I think) like to go back to work. I was thinking I'd go back when my son is a year old, if not sooner (actually if my old employer would take me back now Id go. If that doesn't work out Id like to look for a new employer around the year mark). But let's say I get a good embryo, even the first round. I'd still probably want to wait till he's a year to actually transfer it...so that seems silly to go back to work for a few months. Or, maybe not. I don't know! So much to think about.<br /> And some days I can't even fathom having another. i mean, at nearly 6 months we are just getting out of the trenches. Don't I want to just enjoy it for a while? Enjoy it getting a little easier and more fun without the stress of ivf and possibly being pregnant and then a 2nd child. </p> <p>That's the hard thing (one of them) about ivf. People who can try naturally can say "oh let's just pull the goalie and see what happens". They can easily take a month off or change their mind entirely one month to the next. IVF is a COMMITMENT. It has to be planned and thought out and sometimes I wish for the casualness and "fun" of just trying. I miss when we could just try and it was exciting and fun.<br /> Agh...end rant :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-ivf-moms-considering-doing-or-already-did-it-again-for-baby-2-or-3-or-more#post-2084268 Wed, 25 Feb 2015 06:58:40 +0000 Shutterbug 2084268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm still working on my first :) but if I were in your shoes, I think I might start the process sooner rather than later and maybe freeze the viable embryo(s) until you're ready to have a second. Especially if you're over 30 (how old are you?) I can't believe your LO is already almost half a year old! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-ivf-moms-considering-doing-or-already-did-it-again-for-baby-2-or-3-or-more#post-2084194 Tue, 24 Feb 2015 23:10:43 +0000 jaguar 2084194@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're in this boat right now, and I'm not going to lie, IT SUCKS.</p> <p>We started trying when Georgia was 6 months old... and she's almost 2, and we're still trying. (With IVF, that is.) It's draining, and it's hard to keep feelings at bay without your child seeing you go through it. </p> <p>Here anytime you need a chat, if you decide to go forward. It's a tough road. x </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-ivf-moms-considering-doing-or-already-did-it-again-for-baby-2-or-3-or-more#post-2084178 Tue, 24 Feb 2015 22:46:41 +0000 SweetiePie 2084178@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not really looking for advice or anything. Just wondering if anyone is/was in the same boat as me. </p> <p>We did IVF, it was successful, we have a 5.5 month old boy. I'm now starting to wonder if/when I want to do it again.<br /> We absolutely must do IVF w/PGD - trying naturally isn't an option.<br /> So the thought of having another (on top of typical "do I want more than one" thoughts) is really daunting. Going through IVF again - ugh. My husband wants to start ASAP since it might not go as well the 2nd time around. If it were up to him we'd already have an appointment to get started! At least with retrievals, since getting a viable embryo is the part we are worried about.<br /> But I just can't imagine doing it again, a year-ish after the first time, this time with an LO to care for. Yikes. </p> <p>I think I want another...maybe...sorta....kinda? But I just don't know what the timing should be. Anyone with similar thoughts?</p> <p>If anyone DID do this already, what was your timing and what was the experience like, doing it again with an LO already? </p>