https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 20 Apr 2026 04:17:46 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-jewish-moms-going-team-green#post-367119 Tue, 30 Oct 2012 06:58:12 +0000 JoJoGirl 367119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Baby Boy Mom: Sounds simple enough! :)</p> <p>@blackbird: Lololol. &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-jewish-moms-going-team-green#post-366926 Mon, 29 Oct 2012 20:58:35 +0000 blackbird 366926@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>zomg you're killing me. FIND OUT!!!! AHHHHH. The moms totally get final say!!! :) </p> <p>*totally selfish reason here, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-jewish-moms-going-team-green#post-366577 Mon, 29 Oct 2012 15:42:24 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 366577@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't, but we couldn't really plan anything beforehand anyway. All we got was the phone number of the mohel. After we got home from the hospital DH called him and the people we wanted to invite. Day before he went out and got paper goods. Morning of he went to Costco and got food and both our mothers put it all together. If you have it at your home like us, it's really not that big of a deal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-jewish-moms-going-team-green#post-366513 Mon, 29 Oct 2012 15:03:31 +0000 JoJoGirl 366513@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You guys are all so awesome. My DH will thank you when I finally agree to Team Green. :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-jewish-moms-going-team-green#post-366506 Mon, 29 Oct 2012 15:00:38 +0000 Pink Champagne 366506@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is Jewish (although I am not), and we did find out, but I think you are perfectly fine to stay Team Green if that's what you want. Here's the thing- I had my baby almost 4 weeks early. We had a week to get ready for the Bris, and it was fine- almost 75 people showed up, and it was on a Wednesday evening! So, it's definitely possible to get things thrown together in 8 days!</p> <p>What we did is pick a Mohel ahead of time to let them know we were interested in his services, and like PP said, we just called his office from the hospital to let them know LO was born and set up the Bris date and time.</p> <p>I don't think it's unreasonable to put the parents in charge of actually putting together the Bris. You're going to be new parents and exhausted- you don't need to worry about organizing a party. Maybe make a big list of things you need, so that when your parents fly in, all they will have to do is run to Costco or the grocery store/deli and pick up everything. All you really need is a location for the ceremony, and depending on time of day, light refreshments- your Mohel might only be available at 2 pm for your Bris, so you wouldn't need to plan a big meal. </p> <p>Oh, and have all of your email addresses/phone numbers ready a month before the due date. MIL did this, so all she had to do was fill in the date/time of the Bris and hit send on an Evite. I think Evites are kind of tacky for special occasions like this, but it's really the easiest way to let people know ASAP about the Bris, and so I had to overlook that for timing's sake. :)</p> <p>That should get you organized about as much as you possibly could be... even if LO is a girl, you'll have all the information you'll need if you want to do a baby naming at a later date :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-jewish-moms-going-team-green#post-366468 Mon, 29 Oct 2012 14:36:51 +0000 lolabee 366468@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mazel Tov!! We're Team Green and Jewish! To be honest, I think it is stressing out my MIL more than my DH or I. She asked if she could call the radiologist to find out the gender - just for her to know! lol</p> <p>Anyways, we contacted our Mohel to let him know when we're expecting and that we're team green. He didn't seem concerned at all, just asked us to call him as soon as the baby was born if it is a he. Thankfully my MIL will do most of the planning if there is a Bris, although we will do some pre-planning. Location is picked (MIL's house so nice and easy), basic kiddush luncheon, flowers, list of guests etc. Just having the "big" decisions made has put my mind at ease, I think having done that it will be fairly simple to put together.</p> <p>I hope that helps a bit! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-jewish-moms-going-team-green#post-366352 Mon, 29 Oct 2012 13:21:53 +0000 MrsBeachyBaby 366352@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were Team Green! Our little one is 17 days new today! He had to stay in the hospital longer then we expected (2 extra nights). He was born on a Friday and on Sunday we started calling Mohels, we had nothing set up. Found one we liked and planned a time with him for that Friday. Our LO's Bris was perfect. We had 45 people there, invited a lot more, but with it being a Friday morning, a little difficult for all to make it. </p> <p>Hubby and I ran a few errands the day before and LO stayed in the car with hubby and I ran in to get balloons and table clothes and the supplies listed on the Mohels site. My MIL and SIL took care of ordering the food and were able to hire a waitress for a minimal cost, which was so great to have, we didnt have to do any cleaning up. </p> <p>It worked out so well all in all. I watched the whole thing and got a little teary eyed, but surprisingly did not cry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-jewish-moms-going-team-green#post-366326 Mon, 29 Oct 2012 13:07:16 +0000 heffalump 366326@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't go team green for our first, but we will for our second. I had my way for the first and next time I'm letting DH get his way. </p> <p>Honestly I don't know what we'll do for the bris if we do have a boy. We don't have any mohels in our area anyway..... I'd have to ask the rabbi what to do. I'm not worried about setting up a last minute party, my mom would be in charge and her friends would be happy to help. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-jewish-moms-going-team-green#post-366293 Mon, 29 Oct 2012 12:45:00 +0000 JoJoGirl 366293@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs.Someone: :-)</p> <p>@Smurfette: We'll see if we can hold out!!</p> <p>@MamaMoose: Fair enough. If DH is willing to take over the planning though, I might take him up on it :) Due to the by-nature last minute planning regardless (due to being unsure of the exact date), they are usually pretty simple - platters of food from the grocery store, guests show up, mom is exhausted. :)</p> <p>@pregnantbee: This is SO HELPFUL. Thanks so much. We got into a bit of an argument this morning when we were talking about it because DH said 'we'll just have it here, keep it small, i'll go get food and arrange the mohel. Done.' and I was having this nightmare scenario of me all haggard and our house a total mess and having people over. Plus our place is only 1200 sq ft across 2 levels so feels a bit cramped for a big event. But you're right doing it here means I just need to get myself in the shower and let DH take care of the rest. :)</p> <p> @JessiBee: True we might do something either way! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-jewish-moms-going-team-green#post-366247 Mon, 29 Oct 2012 12:21:32 +0000 spaniellove 366247@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hummusgirl: That's the person I've considered using if we ever had a bris! I'm so glad to know that someone on here has gone with her and had a good experience. (We've since decided that we're not going to circumcise if we have a boy, but it's still good to have this info in case we change our minds.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-jewish-moms-going-team-green#post-366212 Mon, 29 Oct 2012 12:06:46 +0000 JessiBee 366212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been to several bris ceremonies for team green babies, and they all worked out just fine. On the flip side, we aren't team green, but aren't telling anyone IRL (except immediate family) about the gender of the baby. That said, we have said all along that we're planning to do either a bris or a formal naming ceremony on that 8th day regardless of whether it's a boy or girl, so now I can go ahead and plan (when we're closer) without people reading into it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-jewish-moms-going-team-green#post-366149 Mon, 29 Oct 2012 11:45:13 +0000 pregnantbee 366149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: We're Jewish and were Team Green! I say go for it! Yes, sometimes it drove me crazy not knowing if we had to plan a ceremony on short notice. However, we found a highly recommended mohel in our area and contacted him well ahead of time to ask if he could perform a bris or baby naming ceremony if for a girl. All we had to do was fill out a little form so that we would be on his calendar near my due date. Once we got our surprise BOY, we called him to let him know we will definitely need his services for a bris. To make it less complicated, we planned to have it at our house.</p> <p>We then scheduled the day and time, and I sent an email out to a small group of local friends, since both families live out of town. Our families wouldn't be able to make it on such short notice, but our mohel was cool with our bringing them in via Skype, believe it or not!</p> <p>A couple days before the bris, I sent my husband out to buy food that would still be good the morning of the bris (juice, fruit platter, and paper plates, cups, utensils, etc.) The morning of the bris, I sent him out to get bagels, cream cheese, coffee. I asked a friend to bring some challah.</p> <p>It worked out great. We didn't have to leave the house -- it would have been so challenging with such a new baby. It was a beautiful intimate ceremony. Friends helped set up the food, so my husband and I didn't really have to do anything the day of except be there for our son.</p> <p>Please let me know if you have any questions about our experience. I'm more than happy to share. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-jewish-moms-going-team-green#post-366126 Mon, 29 Oct 2012 11:37:16 +0000 MamaMoose 366126@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are team green. But if I was Jewish... I think I would want to know. I just wouldn't want to spend time and energy planning something that wasn't necessary... but I also wouldn't want to leave it to the last minute and then try to rush the planning. For us the circ will be done by our ped and we would need a ped anyway and he does rounds in the hospital every day so no matter if we have a boy or girl he'll be there. So for us there is no advance planning needed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-jewish-moms-going-team-green#post-366119 Mon, 29 Oct 2012 11:35:02 +0000 Smurfette 366119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No advice on the bris part but if you can find out this early, and don't you have more will power then I ever would!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-jewish-moms-going-team-green#post-366109 Mon, 29 Oct 2012 11:29:24 +0000 Mrs.Someone 366109@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl - I'm sure they do in most cases! Of the 3 I've been to in the last few years, the only mom that didn't cry (and watched intently) was the one who knew ahead of time that it was a boy. Though she finds those sorts of things interesting to watch. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-jewish-moms-going-team-green#post-366095 Mon, 29 Oct 2012 11:22:49 +0000 JoJoGirl 366095@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs.Someone: haha :) Fair enough! I've been to my fair share of brises (??) and the mom cries regardless of how much notice she has. :-D But good point to consider! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-jewish-moms-going-team-green#post-366094 Mon, 29 Oct 2012 11:22:03 +0000 JoJoGirl 366094@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hummusgirl: This is perfect. Thank you SO much!! We're in Boston and also reform, so whatever works. Both sets of parents live far away so will have to fly in, but would probably plan to anyway. And you're right they can certainly help out with planning too. Thanks again and mazel tov to you too :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-jewish-moms-going-team-green#post-366088 Mon, 29 Oct 2012 11:20:03 +0000 Mrs.Someone 366088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I haven't been in this situation yet myself, but I was at a bris a few weeks ago and watching my friend (the mother) cry was enough to convince me that I'd want to find out and have more time to get used to the idea! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-jewish-moms-going-team-green#post-366087 Mon, 29 Oct 2012 11:19:36 +0000 hummusgirl 366087@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did this exact thing and it was wonderful! Being Team Green was fun. Our bris was a very small affair - just my parents, his dad and 5 of our nearest and dearest, but I think you could easily have more people without too much more work. </p> <p>I found a mohel (actually a mohelet - I LOVED that it was a woman! but we're Reform). I told her I may or may not need her services and she was totally cool with that. I found out all about the process, cost, etc. a couple months before my due date and then put my husband in charge of calling her when the baby was born if we needed her services. We scheduled the bris for 8 days later. My parents had come to town a few days before so I put them in charge of gathering everything we needed including stuff for the bris itself and some flowers and food. You could do most of this in advance - considering you're thinking about it at 10 weeks you sound like a planner! </p> <p>Here's the website for my mohelet with the supplies she suggested (and if you're in the NYC/NJ area I highly recommend her): <a href="http://birthtobris.com/britmilahpreparation.html" rel="nofollow">http://birthtobris.com/britmilahpreparation.html</a> </p> <p>It all worked out really well and I'm so glad we didn't find out beforehand because I loved being surprised. Good luck and mazel tov! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-jewish-moms-going-team-green#post-366075 Mon, 29 Oct 2012 11:16:19 +0000 JoJoGirl 366075@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Shutterbug: Hahahahah. I want to find out too! I can't believe they'll know in 2 weeks what it is!! My mom said this morning, "Can the nurse just tell me?" hahaha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-jewish-moms-going-team-green#post-366069 Mon, 29 Oct 2012 11:14:07 +0000 Shutterbug 366069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Totally selfishly I want you to find out! But I'm not Jewish, or a mom, so that's the extent of my advice :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-jewish-moms-going-team-green#post-366029 Mon, 29 Oct 2012 11:02:51 +0000 JoJoGirl 366029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi all! So Sandy didn't hold us back from going in this morning for some tests we need to have run. While we were there, the genetic counselor said we can go ahead and do the materni-T21 test (blood test for trisomy 13, 18, and 21) instead of waiting to do it on the same day as our integrated scan in 2 weeks, as we had planned! We'll still have the scan then but will already have definitive results on those 3 diseases, which is great.</p> <p>Now the fun part: genetic testing means we can find out the gender NOW (I'm 10w2d)!! Holy moly! We are still in negotiations and because we haven't made up our mind, told her not to tell us.</p> <p>In the back and forth with DH about finding out, I think my biggest concern is planning a bris without knowing if it's a boy or a girl! He said he'll take care of the arrangements but I'm still nervous about having to do everything last minute, etc. It's always *sort of* that way anyway since you don't know exactly what day the baby will come.. but still. Anyone had a bris and gone Team Green? How did it turn out? </p>