https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 03 Apr 2026 23:00:55 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-new-fears-about-a-second-time-mom#post-1363485 Tue, 21 Jan 2014 10:06:05 +0000 doodlepoodle 1363485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All of the above. It's a lot more intimidating for me...I almost hope we don't TTC and we just have an 'oops' so we can't plan for the fears. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-new-fears-about-a-second-time-mom#post-1363472 Tue, 21 Jan 2014 10:03:34 +0000 prettylizy 1363472@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Some fears crop up here and there, but they usually pass. For a while I was really worried about having a year off with an infant and a toddler, but DD is just getting so darn awesome and indpendant lately I'm much less worried. I do sometimes think I'm going to miss being our happy little three person family though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-new-fears-about-a-second-time-mom#post-1363396 Tue, 21 Jan 2014 09:36:32 +0000 erwoo 1363396@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't. I was too busy with my then 2 y.o. that I hardly had time to think how crazy it would be. I love the really good days though. Like today my youngest wanted to give his big brother a hug and I saw that and had to go in for a group hug. It was so sweet! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-new-fears-about-a-second-time-mom#post-1363387 Tue, 21 Jan 2014 09:34:10 +0000 Alivoo01 1363387@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wedding twinsie, those are my exact fears also with TTC #2!! DS was an "easy" baby and he was awesome to me during my pregnancy (I LOVED being pregnant). I hear #2 is usually opposite of your first so I'm freaking out!!!</p> <p>Easy pregnancy -&gt; Hard pregnancy<br /> Easy baby -&gt; difficult baby</p> <p>Ahhhhhh!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-new-fears-about-a-second-time-mom#post-1363167 Tue, 21 Jan 2014 06:59:15 +0000 SugarplumsMom 1363167@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup, and we haven't even decided to. To keep sane, we literally wrote down a date when we'll think about it -- not start TTC, just think about it :silly: </p> <p>But these are my worries and what makes me second guess IF we even want to try for another:</p> <p>1. Higher chances for genetic defects because of my age.<br /> 2. Can I even handle 2?<br /> 3. What if they don't get along?<br /> 4. Pregnancy with a toddler.<br /> 5. Pregnancy in general. I'm older, will it be worse?<br /> 6. Birth and all the possible complications that can occur.<br /> 7. Having zero free time.<br /> 8. Getting used to being completely sleep deprived again.<br /> 9. Newborn days! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-new-fears-about-a-second-time-mom#post-1363156 Tue, 21 Jan 2014 06:28:55 +0000 Andrea 1363156@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsMccarthy: :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-new-fears-about-a-second-time-mom#post-1362909 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 21:47:40 +0000 Pepper 1362909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yesssss. We aren't even close to ttc yet and I'm already unsure about how I'll handle two at once. Also, I worry about DS not getting enough attention or not spending enough time with him as an only child. I also have no idea how I'll handle being pregnant and feeling like crap while taking care of DS! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-new-fears-about-a-second-time-mom#post-1362905 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 21:42:37 +0000 dolphin 1362905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, everything you said. DH asked me the other day "isn't it going to be STRESSFUL with 2??" And I told him yes, but I'm 100 percent sure I want another one because I've always envisioned our life with two, so minus well do it sooner rather than later...because it doesn't get easier if we wait longer anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-new-fears-about-a-second-time-mom#post-1362751 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 20:34:22 +0000 MamaChin 1362751@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Everything you said!! Plus I solo most of the week and LO#1 has been having nap issues for two months and I'm afraid it won't settle down in time for LO#2's arrival in March. Plus worrying about labor (first one was super easy, praying for the same) and breastfeeding with a 16 month old who is used to having all my attention. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-new-fears-about-a-second-time-mom#post-1362555 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 18:53:22 +0000 chopsuey 1362555@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>was worried about soloing with 2 as well, but it's not bad! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-new-fears-about-a-second-time-mom#post-1362531 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 18:40:58 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1362531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: this is so reassuring to hear! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-new-fears-about-a-second-time-mom#post-1362486 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 18:21:59 +0000 Andrea 1362486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was worried about how to solo parent 2, but it hasn't been bad! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-new-fears-about-a-second-time-mom#post-1362141 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 16:04:01 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1362141@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes very nervous about all of this but also excited for my son to have a sibling to share his childhood with. My mother said the first six months can be rough but after that they start to interact and entertain each other and it can be reat special. I hope he isn't too jealous because he will be over 2 years old when his sib comes. I also hope that my husband won't give me or my son a hard time if he wants to continue to nurse through my pregnancy and beyond. If I am able to I would love to do so and I feel like it would make me feel less bad for our son. My husband has already been really pushing for me to wean our 16 month old and I afternoon weaned him as a compromise. I hope it won't be an issue. </p> <p>I also worry about the stress of TTC every month with my husband particularly if this next baby takes a while. I hate giving the feeling that he is a stud horse who has to DTD on demand. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-new-fears-about-a-second-time-mom#post-1362100 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 15:43:45 +0000 googly-eyes 1362100@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All the way!! Plus, I will be working with the next one if we make our planned move. I've only been a WOHM very briefly so I worry about that, and about daycare making them sick all the time. Plus about affording daycare at all! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-new-fears-about-a-second-time-mom#post-1362096 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 15:41:35 +0000 LuLu Mom 1362096@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjyw: Ditto. To everything you said above. These are all my fears for sure with a couple more added: </p> <p>1. That new LO will have the same medical issues at DD &amp; we will have to watch him/her suffer too, although I will be much more assertive with the 2nd one &amp; take straight to specialist. </p> <p>2. Financial costs, we are fine moneywise, but of course it's an added cost to the budget with additional daycare, food, ect.! </p> <p>3. Space issues in our house, 4 people + 1 furbaby in our current house could be a tight fit. </p> <p>4. Knowing if this is our last child or not, or if if we will agree (right now I want 2 he wants 3?) </p> <p>5. Having this next one be my potentially my last pregnancy, it seems so sad and it's not even here yet! </p> <p>6. Having a tough pregnancy again, I was miserable for the first 18+ weeks, and the last 6 weeks...I hope it's easier because I don't' want to be a sick mess in my last months with just DD. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-new-fears-about-a-second-time-mom#post-1362078 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 15:35:05 +0000 lemondrop 1362078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All of the above! Mostly I know we'll just go with the flow and be ok. </p> <p>This second pregnancy has been crap-tastic, but it has gone much faster that the first time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-new-fears-about-a-second-time-mom#post-1362050 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 15:27:59 +0000 Mamasig 1362050@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I mainly just worry about sleep and the logistics of taking care of two when DH is on nights.</p> <p>Luckily, this second pregnancy has been pretty easy so far. Prior to getting pregnant, I did worry about that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-new-fears-about-a-second-time-mom#post-1362045 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 15:26:11 +0000 Lindsay05 1362045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had them all! Right now my biggest struggle is getting over the guilt of sharing LO#1 with her sister. Even though she is taking it like a trooper and is her normal self, I still feel the guilt! </p> <p>The first night home, I was anxious about the sleep and MOTN wakeups but I LO#2 is a great sleeper and that has made us so much calmer which I think in turn rubs off on her. So far (fingers crossed), the transition has been easier than I thought it would be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-new-fears-about-a-second-time-mom#post-1362040 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 15:24:39 +0000 Boogs 1362040@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm worried about all that! Plus, solo parenting when DH works, how to handle a toddler with morning sickness, how to figure lit sleep schedules, how to figure out 2 kids sharing a room, beinh away from LO for the first time ever while I'm in the hospital. how LO will really feel about not being an only child anymore...I want him to feel just as loved, just so many worries! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-new-fears-about-a-second-time-mom#post-1362038 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 15:23:28 +0000 regberadaisy 1362038@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not really. I know whatever it is we'll get through it. </p> <p>I'm confident we have more than enough love to go around! </p> <p>The one thing I do fear is if #2 is as horrific of a sleeper as #1. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-new-fears-about-a-second-time-mom#post-1362034 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 15:21:26 +0000 Smurfette 1362034@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I worry about TTC again with DH traveling<br /> Will it be too soon for R and adjusting to a sibling<br /> How I will handle no sleep again<br /> Solo parenting 2 LOs </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-new-fears-about-a-second-time-mom#post-1362023 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 15:14:35 +0000 Radish 1362023@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I mostly just worry about sleep. Will they sleep at the same time. What if LO#2 needs to be held to sleep. How will I manage to get enough sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-new-fears-about-a-second-time-mom#post-1362019 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 15:11:16 +0000 winniebee 1362019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mostly I'm just worried about being on bed rest again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-new-fears-about-a-second-time-mom#post-1362018 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 15:11:07 +0000 Kimberlybee 1362018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Everything you listed minus fur babies since we don't have any pets. I also worry about childcare arrangements for 2 and the recovery period from a C-section. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-new-fears-about-a-second-time-mom#post-1361995 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 14:58:15 +0000 Mrsbells 1361995@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I worry about complications after my c-section. The first time around it was easy to say I was hoping for a smooth unmedicated birth, but now a second c-section terrifies me and also a vbac terrifies me!</p> <p>I also worry about time management with two kids </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-new-fears-about-a-second-time-mom#post-1361993 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 14:58:07 +0000 mrsjyw 1361993@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yellowbird: i'm LITERALLY in the same boat. i have a girls trip in may, so we won't have the serious convo about it til at least after that. but then i also dont want to wait TOO long because i want them to be 2-3 years apart. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-new-fears-about-a-second-time-mom#post-1361987 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 14:56:19 +0000 yellowbird 1361987@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, I have so much anxiety over this that I waver on even wanting to try for #2. I know I want a bigger family but I'm scared of how it will all work out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-new-fears-about-a-second-time-mom#post-1361982 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 14:54:44 +0000 SAHM0811 1361982@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In some ways it's more nerve-wrecking the 2nd time around since you know more about what you're in for exactly! Totally normal! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-new-fears-about-a-second-time-mom#post-1361936 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 14:41:01 +0000 cascademom 1361936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, these are all of my fears for #2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-new-fears-about-a-second-time-mom#post-1361928 Mon, 20 Jan 2014 14:38:30 +0000 autumnlove 1361928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had the same thoughts before I got pregnant and during my entire pregnancy! </p>