https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 25 Apr 2026 18:16:12 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-other-early-20s-gals-around#post-44530 Sat, 31 Dec 2011 22:08:11 +0000 MH.Abroad 44530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think we may win "Youngest Couple"! :)<br /> We are both 21, been married for six months.<br /> We have very little money, but we also have no debt. I know it would be easier if we had a little more money, but we will NEVER have a lot of money because of the type of work we do (we work overseas with non-profits doing charity work). So why wait for years when we plan on being in the same situation then as we are now?<br /> That said, we are forcing ourselves to wait until March to start TTC because we are changing job postings, and we don't want to deal with an international move (even though we are very used to them) while pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-other-early-20s-gals-around#post-44527 Sat, 31 Dec 2011 21:09:46 +0000 Clementine 44527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm 30, but I wouldn't say that I have my dream career and tons of money in the bank. Do what feels right for you! I don't think I'm ready for this baby, but to be honest who is 100% ready for anything in life. You just do your best. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-other-early-20s-gals-around#post-43888 Thu, 29 Dec 2011 21:52:11 +0000 photojane 43888@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we're in exactly the same boat! we're both 23, too. we're not going to own a home for a long time, i'm sure. i'm a photographer, and he's got a job in radio, so we're definitely not making a whole lot -- especially in comparison to the ladies on the bee. i definitely feel in the minority here sometimes, so i'm glad i'm not alone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-other-early-20s-gals-around#post-43848 Thu, 29 Dec 2011 20:45:35 +0000 sorrycharlie 43848@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yay, so many bees! I need to go get my laptop to reply, since I'm on my iPhone and it keeps autocorrecting &gt;.&lt; :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-other-early-20s-gals-around#post-43847 Thu, 29 Dec 2011 20:45:23 +0000 rawrasaur 43847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am almost 24 and my husband is almost 25. We are kind of in a weird NTNT phase of ttc. We have income coming in from both of us and no debt, so we are set other than DH finishing his PhD. We are currently renting, but that is because we will only be here for another 2.5 years. We plan on buying a house when we move to our new location. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-other-early-20s-gals-around#post-43795 Thu, 29 Dec 2011 18:34:06 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 43795@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Me! I'm 23, and though DH and I have been married for a year and a half, the responses to our TTC have been mixed. I was told today that I will be a completely different person by the time I hit my late twenties, so having a baby now would 'trap' me into a certain lifestyle. Other people are super supportive. The main problem we are having is getting doctors, etc to take us seriously. We've been TTC for about a year now, and we're getting told to wait it out because we're so young. Shouldn't that be cause for concern? We ARE healthy, so the fact we aren't getting pregnant doesn't make sense. </p> <p>Sorry for the rant, haha. Sometimes I think it might be easier to be a late twenties/early thirties bee in the TTC process. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-other-early-20s-gals-around#post-43779 Thu, 29 Dec 2011 17:57:56 +0000 Penny Lane 43779@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Me, me! I'm 22. </p> <p>I married an older guy (11 years older than me) and we're in a stable place financially - plenty of savings but we're still not settled in one place. We're actually moving to China in a couple of weeks for his job!</p> <p>But, because hubs is older he's not keen on the idea of waiting to have babies so we're trying now and will just go along with whatever happens whenever it happens! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-other-early-20s-gals-around#post-43754 Thu, 29 Dec 2011 17:25:18 +0000 Navy_Mommy 43754@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm 23, will be 24 when DS arrives. Hubs is 30.</p> <p>He's career Navy, so we probably won't own a home for another decade when he retires. Moving every three years (give or take) doesn't really make it easy to own a home!</p> <p>We're financially stable and more than ready to have kids. I think my family probably thinks I'm a bit young, but no one around me does. It's very common for military couples to have kids young. Hubs is an odd-ball at 30 with no kids yet! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-other-early-20s-gals-around#post-43753 Thu, 29 Dec 2011 17:24:58 +0000 Beyond2 43753@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband and I are 24 and renting so that I can stay home once we have a baby. We're in very similar positions :) We have been going crazy to pay off all debt and have substantial savings before that time, but that said we are currently TTC. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-other-early-20s-gals-around#post-43752 Thu, 29 Dec 2011 17:24:52 +0000 CameronsMomma 43752@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm 21 and my husband is 23, almost 24. We got married after finding out we were pregnant but have been together for about 5 years now anyways.</p> <p>Props for doing what you feel is right for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-other-early-20s-gals-around#post-43725 Thu, 29 Dec 2011 16:30:51 +0000 cheesetomywhine 43725@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're young! I'm 22 and DH is 25. I graduate with my BA in May and right now I stay home (yay vacation!) Oh and we will have to pay off my student loans sometime in late 2012. We do own a home, though my FIL lives with us! Some people probably think we're to young to start a family, but it is what we both wanted.<br /> @sorrycharlie- Our lives are kind of similar, including where we live :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-other-early-20s-gals-around#post-43649 Thu, 29 Dec 2011 15:34:04 +0000 Rosie Girl 43649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am 24, and DH is 26. He will turn 27 right before DD is born, and I will turn 25 right after she is born. I had DS right before I turned 21. </p> <p>We are both happy that we are "young" parents and are ready for our second! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-other-early-20s-gals-around#post-43606 Thu, 29 Dec 2011 15:04:47 +0000 Mrsbells 43606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rock n Roll: totally agree!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-other-early-20s-gals-around#post-43604 Thu, 29 Dec 2011 15:03:26 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 43604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm 23. I graduated from college this past May, and I just started working two weeks ago. But my husband is 30, has been out of college for six years, and has a really great job. I wasn't even going to go to work at all when I graduated, but TTC has taken us longer than we anticipated and I got bored. We recently bought a home, but we would have TTC even while renting. It wasn't something that we felt necessary.</p> <p>I think @rock n roll makes a good point. Life isn't a competition (even though it can feel that way) and everyone is ready for different things at different times.</p> <p>I'm glad to know that there are other early 20s gals on here. :)</p> <p>If I had married someone my own age my head would have told me to wait a little longer in life before having kids, but I know my heart would have felt the same way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-other-early-20s-gals-around#post-43585 Thu, 29 Dec 2011 14:49:06 +0000 Rock n Roll 43585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm in my late 20s now, but I was 25 when I got pregnant with my first child. We only had about $1,000 in savings, didn't own a house (and still don't) and didn't have rock star jobs either. But life goes on. things change, and we're happy with what we have now (which, despite having a child, is much more than we had then.)</p> <p>There's nothing wrong with renting with children if it makes more sense for your financial position now. And if you feel ready emotionally, and have at least enough money to live comfortably and provide for a family financially, then that's about as ready as you can be. </p> <p>Sometimes you just have to remember that it's your life. There is no competition- it's all about what makes you happy (until you have your kids- then it's all about what makes them happy!) Just because you have a different plan than your friends doesn't make one better than another, it just means different things make you happy and you have different priorities. Embrace yours, don't worry about theirs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-other-early-20s-gals-around#post-43527 Thu, 29 Dec 2011 14:01:59 +0000 loveisstrange 43527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH just turned 24 at the beginning of December and I'll be 24 in February.</p> <p>As for us, DH is in the Air Force. I have 4 classes left until my bachelor's in Theatre is complete. We do own a home, but it's because his father died and DH inherited it, not because we bought it. We actually don't even live in it because it's in St. Louis and we're stationed overseas in the UK. We do okay though. I don't work and we are still financially stable. We are decently responsible about our budget and live well within our means.</p> <p>We weren't necessarily ready to have kids since this one was a bit of a surprise, but I know that we'll be fine. DH has always said that he wanted to be a young father and wanted to be done having kids by the time he hit 30, so our timeline just started a teeny bit early. Being in the military lifestyle, I actually feel like I'm one of the older first-time moms. Military families tend to start really young. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-other-early-20s-gals-around#post-43227 Thu, 29 Dec 2011 10:33:57 +0000 sorrycharlie 43227@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@eeh: DH works his butt off, and I feel so bad not contributing since I'm still in school. I'll be able to get a job come April or May, thankfully! I totally shoulda gone for an older man, but for some reason..I always went younger, HAHA. DH is only 6 months younger, so not too bad :)</p> <p>@lovelife: that's what I keep telling myself, that we'll be happy no matter what.. it's so hard when all our friends (who are so NOT ready for kids any time this decade!) are talking buying houses, having 10s of 1000s in savings, buying new cars, etc. it makes me (dh could not care less) feel like i'm in a competition. but we just have different priorities, I think - its weird to get used to! I wish i had some friends around town that were in a similar situation as us, might be easier!</p> <p>@Mrs. Yoyo: you're so sweet. I think sometimes, like I wrote on the other thread, I lose perspective of ages on here since we're all mostly known by name and avatar! it's helpful to try to remember that everyone was young and not necessarily rich at some point, but that we'll get there ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-other-early-20s-gals-around#post-43221 Thu, 29 Dec 2011 10:29:42 +0000 MaisyMay 43221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>*Raises hand and waves!</p> <p>I am 25 and Hubs is 24. We rent a home, are the first of our siblings to get married, and desperately want a family. One thing I like about HB is that people form a fairly diverse group, but yeah, we are towards the minority. It just means we can gain from their experience :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-other-early-20s-gals-around#post-43220 Thu, 29 Dec 2011 10:29:32 +0000 lilteacherbee 43220@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm 22 and DH is 23 :) We got married in June and we've been together almost 6 years.</p> <p>We both have degrees in education and have student loans. I'm starting online grad school to get my Master's in Early Childhood Education (I'm a preschool teacher!). I live in the South so we typically get married/have kids at a younger age, but still, a lot of my close friends (who aren't married) tell me over and over to not have kids yet. I read in a thread the other day that they are projecting their wants/lifestyle onto me and I'm trying not to be sensitive about it, but its so annoying!</p> <p>I'm glad to see some more early-20's in here! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-other-early-20s-gals-around#post-43213 Thu, 29 Dec 2011 10:26:00 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 43213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>While I just turned the big 3-0, I have to say that being ready is completely different for everyone. Kudos to you for just going for it. Having a house and a fat savings account and all that stuff is *not* necessary. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-other-early-20s-gals-around#post-43206 Thu, 29 Dec 2011 10:23:29 +0000 polkadots 43206@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: I hear you! I'm actually younger than you! DH is 24 and I am 21. I find that since we are young, we have no other friends who are married or have LOs and thats why I need the bee for advice! I do have one friend with an LO but she lives back home and I don't get to see her often. We found out about LO 9 months before our wedding, but honestly I don't think we would have waited much longer after being married. We moved our wedding day up and now we are settled in with our DD. I wouldn't want it any other way, I couldn't imagine life without her. We don't have tons of money but we adjust to how we live so I can stay home with her. We make enough to pay our bills and for now thats good enough... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-other-early-20s-gals-around#post-43196 Thu, 29 Dec 2011 10:19:09 +0000 eeh 43196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm also fairly young. I'm 23 (24 in June) and married. We do own a home and actually just bought a new one so we're selling our current one. We're in a different situation financially though thanks to no student loans and my husband has been at his career already for 7 years. He's 5 years older than I am so he's been working much longer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-other-early-20s-gals-around#post-43190 Thu, 29 Dec 2011 10:15:05 +0000 sorrycharlie 43190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know that we're a little outnumbered here. Sometimes reading some of the threads makes me feel like I should wait another 5-10 years before hanging out on the bee ;) I don't mean that in a bad way, just that I can't really relate to owning a home, having tons of money, etc.</p> <p>DH and I are 23..he'll be a licensed electrician this summer, and I'll have my MA in may in marriage and family therapy. we decided to have a baby while we are renting, so we can afford for me to stay home. we'll be encountering student loans (45k) for me a year from now, and are working our bums off paying down some poorly spent credit card debt.</p> <p>we *could* wait another 10 years, and own a home and have much, much more money in savings, but we just don't want to wait that long. all we ever hear from family is how we should own a home before having a baby, wait until we're older, etc etc, and it is extremely disheartening.</p> <p>I was just hoping there were some other bees in similar shoes that could relate? </p>