https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 10 May 2026 23:51:21 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-single-moms-here/page/2#post-859651 Fri, 14 Jun 2013 21:51:45 +0000 bpcmarj 859651@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Although I solo parent most of the time due to my husband's work schedule, I could never compare myself to a single Mom. My husband makes sure all of our needs are met financially. I can't imagine what it woulf be like to try and do both of those things alone. I give SO much credit to single parents who literally have to do EVERYTHING on their own. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-single-moms-here/page/2#post-859647 Fri, 14 Jun 2013 21:48:38 +0000 matador84 859647@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I classify myself as a solo mom, because I still have the help of DH's income even though I only see him 5-6 days out of the month. It is definitely exhausting a lot of the time, but we have a good quality of life because of the benefit of our two incomes. Much love to all the single mamas! It's not easy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-single-moms-here/page/2#post-859638 Fri, 14 Jun 2013 21:39:20 +0000 doodlepoodle 859638@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsMamaBear: oh I didn't know this :-( much love to you strong mama!! </p> <p>@runsyellowlites: I knew G and you were on your own, I admire you and all single parents for being so strong and dedicated to parenting! It's a tough gig and you kick ass! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-single-moms-here/page/2#post-859530 Fri, 14 Jun 2013 20:05:40 +0000 blackbird 859530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@msmamabear, I'm so sorry you're finding yourself in the situation you're in. Kudos for not putting up with that and keeping your DD in that situation. I hope you guys can adjust well this summer! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-single-moms-here/page/2#post-859479 Fri, 14 Jun 2013 19:34:49 +0000 Boogs 859479@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsMamaBear: Aww I'm so very sorry! Good for you for not putting up with crap, and thankfully you still have your home so things don't change too much for your LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-single-moms-here/page/2#post-859462 Fri, 14 Jun 2013 19:23:20 +0000 MsMamaBear 859462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runsyellowlites: Thank you. Hopefully I don't have to set up all the visits. I'm praying there is a good man in my future. I'm sure I didn't go through all this just to end up being alone. I know the prefect for me man is waiting for me. :)</p> <p>@rattles: I'm in awe of myself.LOL It's only been 3 weeks, but it's been like a lifetime. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-single-moms-here/page/2#post-855991 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 17:15:28 +0000 rattles 855991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsMamaBear: I'm definitely thinking of you!</p> <p>I'm not a single mom, but my roommate in law school was. She and I were classmates and roommates while her LO was 2-5. Even seeing it up close, I have no idea how she did it. And now as a mom myself, I'm even more in awe. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-single-moms-here/page/2#post-855969 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 17:02:47 +0000 runsyellowlites 855969@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsMamaBear: That's good to know! I hope so too! I know that on his own G's bio-dad would've never really been in his life. I facilitated all their visitation for years &amp; now really regret it b/c I just couldn't keep it up and now G is old enough so know his dad &amp; know he chooses to not see him. I know every situation is different though &amp; I really truly hope yours turns out different! In the end I know that G can never blame me &amp; is well aware why he doesn't see his dad. It's tough, but it is manageable &amp; I hope that one day you'll have another DH that can love you &amp; your lo like you both deserve... they *do* exist. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-single-moms-here/page/2#post-855959 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 16:56:28 +0000 Lindsay05 855959@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Seriously...all you single parents out there... You make me feel so guilty on a daily basis! I have had so many days where I thought I couldn't do it anymore. And I had a husband by my side. I dont know how you do it but you are my freakin hero! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-single-moms-here/page/2#post-855890 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 16:32:14 +0000 MsMamaBear 855890@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: @BabyBoecksMom: @autumnlove: @shopaholic: @Mrs. High Heels: @prettylizy: @FutureMrsMcK: @plantains: Wow, thanks ladies. Y'all got me teary over here. :) I haven't told many people outside of close friends and family, so it's nice to hear people give support. I'm dealing with it well, and it's nice to know people are thinking about us. We'll make it through this little bump. :) </p> <p>@runsyellowlites: Thanks! I have family support and my friends are checking in on us and making sure I get time out of the house, so it's going ok. She is adjusting well, I just hope he does like he says he will with visits. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-single-moms-here/page/2#post-855631 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 15:17:52 +0000 plantains 855631@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsMamaBear: Big, big hug. You are incredible for having the strength to stand up for what you are worth. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-single-moms-here/page/2#post-855607 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 15:10:23 +0000 78h2o 855607@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm married, but I do feel sort of like a single parents at times. My DH helps when he can, but pretty much all responsibility for our LO falls on me right now because he is severely depressed. However, he does help pay the bills and he helps around the house to some extent. Being a single parent without any additional financial support would be really difficult. One of my best friends is in that situation and I don't know how she does it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-single-moms-here/page/2#post-855585 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 15:04:03 +0000 lovehoneybee 855585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsMamaBear: I'm so sorry to hear this. Big hugs Mama! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-single-moms-here/page/2#post-855580 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 15:03:11 +0000 prettylizy 855580@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsMamaBear: (((HUGS))) to you mama! Good for you for standing up for yourself and your LO. Whenever you need us, we're all here for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-single-moms-here/page/2#post-855550 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 14:55:58 +0000 runsyellowlites 855550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsMamaBear: I'm so sorry! My situation was different, but it still resulted in the difficulties of it being just G &amp; I (with alot of family help in moral support). I'm glad you have some time to adjust with your lo! You're a wonderful mommy &amp; I hope your family dynamics end up better than ours... If you ever need anything please do let me know! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-single-moms-here/page/2#post-855536 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 14:53:34 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 855536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsMamaBear: i'm so sorry you're going through this... :( we're here for you, especially during this difficult time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-single-moms-here/page/2#post-855490 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 14:44:48 +0000 shopaholic 855490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. High Heels: Ditto! </p> <p>Major props! And Single Dads too! DH's god-brother is a single dad (though not until the LO was about 4 I think). But man - I can't imagine single dads of infants. Bow down!</p> <p>@MsMamaBear: Sorry you are going through this. My SIL went through that last year. {hugs} </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-single-moms-here/page/2#post-855473 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 14:42:26 +0000 autumnlove 855473@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsMamaBear: I am so sorry you are going through this! :-( thinking of you and your DD. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-single-moms-here/page/2#post-855427 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 14:30:35 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 855427@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsMamaBear: Major kudos to you!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-single-moms-here/page/2#post-855248 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 13:56:19 +0000 regberadaisy 855248@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsMamaBear: I'm so sorry. Big hugs to you! You can do it!<br /> @runsyellowlites: was for a while too. She might be a good sounding board for you since she's been there. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-single-moms-here#post-855240 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 13:54:44 +0000 Honeybee 855240@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsMamaBear: I am so sorry you're going through this right now. Good for you for standing up for yourself, though! Your LO (DD, right?) is lucky to have such a strong mom! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-single-moms-here#post-853784 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 08:51:00 +0000 MsMamaBear 853784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess I'm the lone single mom here. lol I'm only recently one as someone decided to do some things with another woman and I recently found out. It's been hard, but thankfully I'm out for the summer, so we can adjust to this without work getting in the way making it harder. I was raised in a 2 parent home, so this is something new to me. I just thank God this is my house, not our house. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-single-moms-here#post-789535 Thu, 16 May 2013 21:42:05 +0000 runsyellowlites 789535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: I think there are always going to be those that are clearly delusional &amp; try and make themselves worse off than they really are. Definitely leaves a bad taste in my mouth. Blegh!</p> <p>@regberadaisy: Some states do alimony, whereas Texas doesn't, so that could be in that too. Our set up is 20% for the first child &amp; an added 10% for every child following. G's bio-dad has actually called me a money grubbing *#@**# on more than one occasion and he's only required to pay 200 a month AND I've only seen payments that have been intercepted through the IRS and once when his accounts were frozen, that's ~5k in the last SEVEN years. I must admit I laughed on the inside for a couple weeks when he called me about his account being frozen asking me to call the attorney general to get them to lift it. bwahahaha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-single-moms-here#post-789508 Thu, 16 May 2013 21:34:44 +0000 regberadaisy 789508@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runsyellowlites: I'm glad you're not offended bc I do think you're amazing! There def is a gray area. But I think of BIL's case. He gets the girls every other weekend. But whenever the ex does not feel like "dealing" with them she calls him up and he goes pick them up from school, take them for the night or whatnot. So in their case they def do more "co-parenting" than your ex did. So in their case I do not view either of them as a single parent. </p> <p>And just curious but every divorcee I've ever known said the wife gets practically 50% of their tale home pay. But I know it's more for each child and they all have 2 kids.</p> <p>@.twist.: this is EXACTLY how BIL'ex wife is!!<br /> And not to mention when BIL and his girls stayed with us for 2 weeks we bought 90% of the groceries and I parented them more than he did. Roll eyes </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-single-moms-here#post-788563 Thu, 16 May 2013 19:17:56 +0000 .twist. 788563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runsyellowlites: oh yea, I really didn't intend to offend anyone, I think solo parenting for any length of time is a challenge. My views on the "definition" of single parent come from my personal experiences and the abuse of the term I've seen women use. Anyone that would talk to my husbands ex would assume she is the worse case scenario single parent, but what they don't know is that we buy the majority of groceries and clothing for the boys on top of child support. Not to mention we are practically at her beck and call if she's ever in a bind or just needs a break. But she would never admit that to anyone and I don't think she actually knows what it's like to struggle like some single parents do. My mom was a single mom for a lot of years before she met my dad and she struggled. So my definition is based on my personal experiences. The line, as @Foodnerd81: mentioned is arbitrary. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-single-moms-here#post-788449 Thu, 16 May 2013 19:01:36 +0000 littlek 788449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom was single parent for 9 years until she met my dad. And one of my good friends is a single mom. I don't know how they do/did it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-single-moms-here#post-788423 Thu, 16 May 2013 18:58:42 +0000 runsyellowlites 788423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: oh totally not at all! I added a clarification to my comment. :)</p> <p>Idk what I would say if G's bio-dad would've been in the picture that much.... Most likely not "single parent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-single-moms-here#post-788418 Thu, 16 May 2013 18:58:06 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 788418@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjazz: same.<br /> Single moms are special...seriously, God gives them some sort of powers. Bless them!</p> <p>My mom was the "real-deal single mom" like worst case scenario. My dad went to prison, we had zero financial support, emotional or physical. She was our one and only! </p> <p>My mom did remarry but we were raised up an good by then! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-single-moms-here#post-788416 Thu, 16 May 2013 18:58:02 +0000 Boogs 788416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not a single parent. I solo parent half of the time and I couldn't imagine how hard it is to do it full time. Huge kudos to single parents everywhere. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-single-moms-here#post-788366 Thu, 16 May 2013 18:52:02 +0000 Foodnerd81 788366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runsyellowlites: I hope I didn't come across as demeaning at all! I have just wondered if or where people would draw that line. It's an arbitrary line anyway, but I would agree that anyone who is making the bulk of the parenting decisions on their own, with or without financial support, is single parenting. </p> <p>I was more thinking of friends I have who really are parenting together but separate-- like a divorced couple who have the kids 3 or 4 days a week each-- even though they each have them on their own, I don't know if they consider it single parenting? I don't know what they call it and I wouldn't call them wrong for whatever they say. </p>