https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 21 Apr 2026 01:34:35 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-unmarried-bees-with-kids-out-there#post-693642 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 08:51:40 +0000 wheres_c 693642@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jaclyn: that's great! It's good that his company is involved and supportive. Mine is fairly large so they were hands off. Even though my SOs plan will cover me, it's cost prohibitive to do so. It sounds like his company is going to take care of all those details though.</p> <p>I can't really think of anything else. It all went pretty smoothly. I think the only person who realized we weren't married was the person at the registration desk. Everyone else just kept calling him my husband, and we never bothered to correct them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-unmarried-bees-with-kids-out-there#post-693614 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 08:44:42 +0000 jaclyn 693614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wheres_c, thanks so much for the advice! my fiance's company is keen to get the US business up and running and for my fiance to run it, so we've been very lucky that they've made sure my insurance is sorted even though we're not married, including ensuring the birth centre i've selected is covered.</p> <p>good to know about the emergency care. i'll have to make sure we have a chat about that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-unmarried-bees-with-kids-out-there#post-693575 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 08:33:06 +0000 Revel 693575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also engaged and also due in June! We haven't encountered any problems due to being currently unmarried. We plan on baby have FI's last time, as early as possible. I was unfamiliar that the use mother's maiden in the hospital, very interesting! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-unmarried-bees-with-kids-out-there#post-693500 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 08:08:00 +0000 wheres_c 693500@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: oh, even if you are married? Didnt know that... Good to know.<br /> My partners family was upset when they saw the label on the crib, thinking that we had chosen my last name for the baby and didnt believe me when I said it was hospital policy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-unmarried-bees-with-kids-out-there#post-693483 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 08:02:49 +0000 looch 693483@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Are you American? Are you coming in on an assignment? If you're coming in on an assignment, see if you can get Home Terms in your contract, which is basically insurance coverage similar to what you have in yout home country. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-unmarried-bees-with-kids-out-there#post-693469 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 07:54:39 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 693469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wheres_c: some hospitals in the US label babies with mother's maiden name at delivery. My daughters both had mom's maiden (in 2 different states). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-unmarried-bees-with-kids-out-there#post-693443 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 07:44:04 +0000 wheres_c 693443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hey! I'm an unmarried British Bee living in the US! Where are you moving to?We had also originally planned to go back to England for the birth.</p> <p>Basically, even with insurance, there is usually a portion that you will need to pay out of pocket. For my c section delivery, I paid $5000, my out of pocket max and the insurance paid $30000. No NHS here!<br /> If you are not married, any decisions regarding your emergency care will default to your parents unless you sign a medical power of attorney, giving your partner the right to make decisions regarding your care....this means do not resuscitate, etc. it's a good idea to talk this over in advance so everyone is on the same page. Once I signed mine, and he was in the delivery room with me, he wasnt treated any different than if we were married, and when the c section was decided, he was in the operating room with me. He was also allowed to spend the night on a pull out bed in my room.</p> <p>The baby automatically will be labeled with your last name throughout the paperwork and in the hospital. When the birth certificate is created, you have the option of using whichever name then. We went with my partners last name, so all official documents such as passport and birth certificate have my sons first name with my partners last name.<br /> Insurance billing is an issue if you have different insurance to your son, but it sounds like this is not the case. It was with us.</p> <p>Not every company provides insurance benefits to unmarried partners, although with the gay rights movement in this country, more companies are starting to offer domestic partner benefits. You should confirm with his company that they do cover unmarried partners. Usually you have to show proof that you've been living together for at least 2 years. Bank statements and utility bills.</p> <p>Trying to think if there is anything else I'm missing. Let me know if you have any other questions, and welcome! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-unmarried-bees-with-kids-out-there#post-693359 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 05:23:22 +0000 jaclyn 693359@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My fiancé and I got engaged a little over a year ago. We live in London but we're moving back to the US in the next week or so and I'm due in June.</p> <p>We decided last year that starting a family was more of a priority for us than getting married. We had anticipated having the baby here in the UK but his company is relocating us to the US so now I'm wondering if there are any issues with us not being married that I should be anticipating, besides insurance which his company is sorting. </p>