https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Apr 2026 15:06:01 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-an-md-or-go-to-one-they-know#post-2712676 Sun, 19 Mar 2017 17:02:54 +0000 catomd00 2712676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't because ideally I hope my children have a long relationship with their Ped and I think it's fine for the younger years, but as they get older I think it would be weird for all and compromise the trusting relationship the two of them should have. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-an-md-or-go-to-one-they-know#post-2712554 Sun, 19 Mar 2017 08:27:48 +0000 Foodnerd81 2712554@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Silva: that's a r ally good point about the kids feeling comfortable with the doctor as they get older, if you see them socially too. </p> <p>I have a good friend who is a pediatrician but lives far away, so we couldn't see her as our doc, though I have often wished I could. But I would be worried about overstepping and basically bugging her too much. I'll text her with questions about the kids health when I don't want to go right to our doctor. So I'd be worried about basically being unfair to her. But it's never been an option for me anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-an-md-or-go-to-one-they-know#post-2712494 Sat, 18 Mar 2017 21:00:34 +0000 Silva 2712494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband is a pediatrician and a lot of his partners take their kids to the practice. We don't, I'm uncomfortable with my kids seeing their doctor socially- mostly because when they get older I hope that they can really feel safe with their doctor and not worry about confidentiality.</p> <p>We do know our pediatrician socially a little (small community) but it's a different practice and we don't hang out with him</p> <p>Some friends did just choose my husbands practice, but a different provider as their primary. Everyone seems fine with it. I think it's up to you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-an-md-or-go-to-one-they-know#post-2712478 Sat, 18 Mar 2017 18:59:42 +0000 MenagerieMama 2712478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a doctor and would rather not take care of family or friends. There would be no hard feelings either way. I actually was taking my daughter to a clinic where the docs there ended up being my colleagues when I changed jobs and after a little while I switched her doctor because it was just a bit awkward and I feel much better getting to be just the mom at the visits! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-an-md-or-go-to-one-they-know#post-2712336 Sat, 18 Mar 2017 08:00:29 +0000 winniebee 2712336@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband is ortho surgeon and he personally doesn't like operating on friends or family. If something goes wrong, it could ruin a relationship. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-an-md-or-go-to-one-they-know#post-2712277 Fri, 17 Mar 2017 21:08:47 +0000 Cole 2712277@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd avoid it personally, maybe I'd consider seeing someone in her practice though knowing we might see her for a sick visit. I've had too many experiences with people having this gut feeling that there was an issue with their kids and having their ped brush it off, they really had to fight hard and in both cases in thinking of their child has a very rare diagnosis. In that situation I would far rather go head to head with someone else and recruit my friend to have my back. The odds of this coming up are obviously extremely low but I wouldn't want to risk a friendship over it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-an-md-or-go-to-one-they-know#post-2712268 Fri, 17 Mar 2017 20:50:03 +0000 sapphire 2712268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a doctor and would prefer not to take care of friends or family. I don't think your friend will be at all offended. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-an-md-or-go-to-one-they-know#post-2712190 Fri, 17 Mar 2017 15:55:15 +0000 PinkElephant 2712190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also, I was surprised as a FTM how often (a) my boob/nipple were out and being examined in the pediatrician's office in the early days and (b) how many personal questions about my own health/delivery I was asked to answer. Maybe not a big deal, but do consider how comfortable you be with these things if the doctor is someone with whom you have a personal relationship. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-an-md-or-go-to-one-they-know#post-2712187 Fri, 17 Mar 2017 15:51:15 +0000 Chuckles 2712187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not exactly the same but our pediatrician is someone I grew up with. We were never more than acquaintances, but we went to school together from kindergarten through high school. It is great. I totally trust him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-an-md-or-go-to-one-they-know#post-2712186 Fri, 17 Mar 2017 15:50:14 +0000 matador84 2712186@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't. Our pedi is a good friend, but I never ask medical things of her because I feel like it's a conflict of interest. But, ours is an unusual situation because she was our pedi first and then we became good friends! I would keep separate because you have to think if you don't like the advice she gives or something with her office practice, would you sever the friendship? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-an-md-or-go-to-one-they-know#post-2712166 Fri, 17 Mar 2017 15:35:54 +0000 MrsLonghorn 2712166@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>our Pedi is in a practice of 7 doctors where I have a loose personal relationship with 2 of them (father and older sister of a high school classmate). </p> <p>I respect them both greatly, but chose another doctor in the practice as our main pediatrician because I didn't want to hesitate or feel awkward when I had (what I perceived to be) a stupid or embarrassing first time mom question. I'm sure they would have been great, but I would have felt weird and didn't want to set up a situation where I would feel additional stress or worry. I have really enjoyed seeing them when we pop in unexpectedly for sick visits, and I wouldn't mind having them as our main provider now that DS is 2.5, but it was nice to have a little separation in those stressful early days. </p> <p>Clearly, this decision was due to my personality and is no reflection on the doctors, both of whom I trust! </p> <p>The other thing to consider is how you would feel if you had a medical issue of any kind. Would you want her as the doctor, or would you want her to be your supportive friend? I would imagine it would be difficult for her to be both 100%, so if she is an important part of your support network, I would consider seeing someone else in her practice as your main doctor. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-an-md-or-go-to-one-they-know#post-2712162 Fri, 17 Mar 2017 15:25:30 +0000 youboots 2712162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not exactly the same thing but a nurse at my clinic is the sister of a close fried. I loved seeing her because it was personal and I feel like I got better/faster help. As long as you line up with their philosophy I think you are good. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-an-md-or-go-to-one-they-know#post-2712161 Fri, 17 Mar 2017 15:25:25 +0000 LBee 2712161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We do and I wouldn't again. </p> <p>It's not the level of medical care at all, I love that she knows me, humors me about stuff, and loves my son. The issue is that her particular practice is not well run (2+ hour wait times, etc) and at this point it feels like a statement about her if we leave and I think that would greatly hurt the relationship. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-an-md-or-go-to-one-they-know#post-2712158 Fri, 17 Mar 2017 15:24:09 +0000 PinkElephant 2712158@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There's an entire Jodi Piccoult novel about this topic (Handle With Care)......:)</p> <p>I personally would use her as an informal sounding board, but would see someone else. To me, it's a conflict of interest. It also puts you in a tough position down the road - if she's seeing your LO as a patient, it may put her in a position where you can't ask her advice as a friend b/c she'd be violating HIPPA by talking to you wearing her professional "hat" (I'm thinking of when your LO is older).</p> <p>My FIL is a surgeon, my MIL is a nurse, BIL/SIL are dentists, and SIL is a pharmacist. I sometimes run things by them, like medicine dosages, or ask them for a second opinion, or have them make product recommendations...but I don't specifically see any of them for treatment b/c I think it crosses a line a little bit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-an-md-or-go-to-one-they-know#post-2712157 Fri, 17 Mar 2017 15:20:28 +0000 travellingbee 2712157@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think it's weird at all! I would love that situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-an-md-or-go-to-one-they-know#post-2712152 Fri, 17 Mar 2017 15:08:52 +0000 annem1990 2712152@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm 13 weeks pregnant. I just told a good family friend who is a pediatrician. She mentioned something like "Now it's time to find a ped! :wink:". I really respect her and would choose her in a heartbeat. But, is that weird or a conflict of interest? I'm not sure the etiquette. I don't want her to feel like I don't want her, either.<br /> She's very sought after and doesn't accept many new patients (although others in her practice do). </p> <p>Any doctors have advice? Or<br /> Or do you/DC have a doctor they knew personally before?</p> <p>Thanks! </p>