https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 02 May 2026 07:42:40 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-ever-busy-but-still-kind-of-lonely-irl#post-2075285 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 13:38:22 +0000 Mama Bird 2075285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! Am there right now. Hugs :heart: </p> <p>I've kind of given up trying to meet other moms because who am I kidding... I see my own son for 2 hours a weekday if I'm lucky, how can I make space in my life for new people? Plus we were sick as dogs last winter, the two times a friend actually wanted to meet I had to cancel because I couldn't leave a miserable one year old. This winter has been kinder to us, but I'm used to never going out by now.</p> <p>Still, if anyone is in the NYC area and wants to meet, I'll try to come! I'm not giving up hope completely :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-ever-busy-but-still-kind-of-lonely-irl#post-2075251 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 13:20:13 +0000 PurplePeony 2075251@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel this way, too. I have very few friends in this city, so even if I get a rare few hours to do whatever I want, there's nobody to hang out with. My office is tiny so I haven't been able to meet anyone through work, and I belong to a couple clubs but people just don't seem interested in being friends outside of club-specific activities. I was hoping to meet other parents once DD was big enough to go to the playground, but again, no luck... It really sucks and something has to change, but I'm just not sure what to do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-ever-busy-but-still-kind-of-lonely-irl#post-2075022 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 11:04:53 +0000 MOMTOLITTLEB 2075022@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a few close mom friends and we do try to schedule dates but in the meantime,we text a ton and it's been a huge support to me since my son was born. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-ever-busy-but-still-kind-of-lonely-irl#post-2075021 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 11:04:38 +0000 lizzywiz 2075021@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know where in :heart: ComputerLand but I feel less alone already!<br /> My work is actually people intensive, but I contract and switch jobs every 9 to 12 months. Also, because I'm a contractor, they want to squeeze every drop of productivity out of me they can, and no one wants to see me chatting around the water cooler.<br /> @mrs.shinerbock: I've heard of meetup.com but I've never tried it- something to think about.<br /> Given my husband's schedule and our lack of babysitters, the only solution I can think of is to get over my hostess phobia and invite people over more. Kind of makes me anxious just to think of it, but I think my friends would be just as happy to have pizza and beer at my place as they would at a bar.<br /> (forgive my typos I'm on my old school phone) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-ever-busy-but-still-kind-of-lonely-irl#post-2075013 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 11:00:02 +0000 looch 2075013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I find this is my life as well, I mean, with working full time, dealing with a commute and all the life admin things that come with that, there isn't really a lot of time for social calls.</p> <p>I am making a point though, this year to schedule things. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-ever-busy-but-still-kind-of-lonely-irl#post-2074974 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 10:45:46 +0000 blackbird 2074974@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: Yep. And i think a huge part of this is that i am bored and unchallenged at work. And it's what helps kill the time. And you can't even really say, in my situation, "well do more work then". Because i'm blowing my metrics out of the water. So i'm obviously excelling and going to far exceed my marks for the year. But...it's just that introverted, desk job mindset that I really feel like I need to get away from. I want to interact with people (while still having some downtime) and not feel so sucked into an internet world so much. But for that to happen, I have to not be on a computer all freaking day. And it's hard on my body, too. I spend so much money at the chiropractor because I'm stagnant so much of the day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-ever-busy-but-still-kind-of-lonely-irl#post-2074963 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 10:40:08 +0000 .twist. 2074963@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: The more time I spend on the internet, the less healthy I feel. I have ups and downs for sure, and I'm totally in a lull right now. I get sucked in really hard and become completely obsessed with certain websites. I need to spend all my time there, and I become unproductive. It's the unhealthiest feeling ever. I can break it occasionally and then feel great. It's just hard to get out. The struggle is real? lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-ever-busy-but-still-kind-of-lonely-irl#post-2074952 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 10:35:33 +0000 sarac 2074952@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have to work really hard to fight it off. I try to schedule as many dates as possible with friends and their kids, do brunch with girlfriends when I can, etc. We do sports things with friends when we can. Then on the weekends we try to really fill up on family time because we don't get a ton during the week. It's just barely enough. We've lived in this city for four years, and I've made some mom friends, but we haven't really made any couple friends. So I try to work our existing social connections as much as possible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-ever-busy-but-still-kind-of-lonely-irl#post-2074949 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 10:33:30 +0000 rachiecakes 2074949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lizzywiz: YES!! big hugs. this is me, too. </p> <p>DH and I work opposite schedules. I solo-parent 6/8 nights a week. My DS is a night owl, so the "me time" after he goes to bed is like a fantasy to me. (I don't mind him up late, he's great company - and I don't see him in the morning or all day).<br /> I'm always looking for a buddy to walk the mall, get dinner after work with me &amp; LO but most I know have family dinners/bedtime routines. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-ever-busy-but-still-kind-of-lonely-irl#post-2074947 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 10:32:45 +0000 blackbird 2074947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I totally get you. I am perpetually busy but I think I've figured out spending 8 hours/day on a computer is what really makes me feel lonely and stifled. I have IRL friends, but they are all so busy, and i LOVE when i get to see them for HH and stuff. But i miss the daily chatter and banter with friends and coworkers, and I feel lonely at work, so I am online a lot (plus my job is not super demanding, so i have the time to...which I also feel like is not super healthy for my mental well being. I am working to change this). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-ever-busy-but-still-kind-of-lonely-irl#post-2074938 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 10:30:29 +0000 .twist. 2074938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep. It's really hard when you're in a life stage kind of by yourself. DH and I have pretty similar schedules, but our lives consist of a lot of repetition, so it can get dull after a while. </p> <p>I also find it hard to meet new people and maintain relationships <i>because</i> of how busy I am (or how busy DH is and I have to stay home with L). </p> <p>My two best friends live out of the city so even if I wanted to do something totally spontaneous, I can't. :( </p> <p>I spend a lot of time on the internet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-ever-busy-but-still-kind-of-lonely-irl#post-2074936 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 10:29:46 +0000 wheres_c 2074936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel you too! All my friends are either single and childfree or SAHMs. I don't know any other WAHM with young children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-ever-busy-but-still-kind-of-lonely-irl#post-2074926 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 10:25:39 +0000 mrs.shinerbock 2074926@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel you, though my day to day loneliness is more because I'm at a newish job and don't have any work friends yet. </p> <p>I've made some WOH mom friends through our local Meetup.com groups - there is one specifically for WAHPs that does weekend play dates and weeknight happy hours and two of the other ones have both SAHMs and WOHMs and try and o do a mixture of things during the week and on weekends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-ever-busy-but-still-kind-of-lonely-irl#post-2074891 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 10:03:31 +0000 lizzywiz 2074891@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Before LO, I had an active life with a group of mostly single professional women in their 30s and 40s, I communicated regularly w/ my siblings and although my husband and I had discordant work schedules we managed tons of fun dates throughout the week. By fun I mean going to Costco hungry and buying everything we sampled, but it worked for us. And I even took myself on vacations by myself when I wanted to do something no one else was on board for or needed to be alone.</p> <p>Then I had a kid who ended up being a sick kid. I suddenly became drastically less available to my social group.<br /> A lot of my friends are married or partnered off but are still child free and still making plans at the drop of the hat that I can't make. And it turned out my sibling relied on me to do most of the reaching out. And any spare time I have after work now is almost always 1:1 w/ LO, as my husband and I still have discordant work schedules. We get about two family evenings a week and no weekend time.</p> <p>I see friends socially about once a month (if I don't cancel because of LO), which isn't horrible, but I guess I just realized I am kind of lonely in the day to day life. Also, I miss having a friend who is in the same stage of life (working full time w/ a young child, etc).<br /> Are there such things as mommy groups for WOH moms? :silly:<br /> I am not devastated or anything, just putting a name to my general angst. Which is good, so I can fix it.</p> <p>Anyone else been here? </p>