https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 17:25:49 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-get-judged-for-nursing-your-toddler#post-2428645 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 01:26:33 +0000 Nutella 2428645@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Doesn't apply to me as LO self weaned at 13mo, but I saw a friend recently who has a 7mo EBFing &amp; she was talking about how she was going to stop at a year...and then added a really rude 'obviously' as if it's the only option in the world. I felt like saying it's not actually that obvious, but decided to leave it. I feel like she totally would have judged me IF I was still feeding my LO as a toddler. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-get-judged-for-nursing-your-toddler#post-2428483 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 22:28:21 +0000 nana87 2428483@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Astro Bee: I thought I would, but I let lo try nursing and she definitely got something. I do think it's less than before but it is a little. I'm hoping to wean on her terms so kind of hoping she has less interest if there's less milk. I was gone 7 days and only used a manual pump for a few mins at night on the first couple nights, and only got like a quarter to half an ounce or so, but didn't pump for the rest of the time </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-get-judged-for-nursing-your-toddler#post-2428446 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 21:52:24 +0000 pinkcupcake 2428446@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I nursed till age 2. I've had people say, oh you're still nursing?! But I don't think it's from a place of judgment as much as surprise because most people I know IRL don't nurse past a year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-get-judged-for-nursing-your-toddler#post-2428443 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 21:50:06 +0000 Astro Bee 2428443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My cousin still nurses her 26 mo old once before bed. I think it's wonderful, but I guess there is talk in the family about when she'll stop. My LO is only 9.5 months and I have no plans to stop anytime soon. </p> <p>@Nana87: You didn't dry up at all in that week away? DH has a business trip opportunity in May and I'd like to go along, but maybe sans bébé this time. It would be for 8-10 days, but I'm worried about engorgement and enforced weaning. I guess I could pump some? It's international so I'd just be tossing it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-get-judged-for-nursing-your-toddler#post-2428438 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 21:45:59 +0000 mrsrain 2428438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our nursing relationship was cut short when I got pregnant when DD was 14 months. She stopped cold-turkey, and I was devastated-- not at all ready for that! That said, my mom had made some comments along the lines of, "if she's old enough to ask for it she's too old to be doing it". My daughter was barely over a year at that point and it made me furious!</p> <p>With my son (due in 8 weeks) I have decided that my response will be to quote the official recommendations and research provided by sources like the CDC and the AAP. As for "asking" to nurse, just because my child acquires language doesn't mean s/he suddenly becomes a sexual being or that my breasts cease to provide the necessary nourishment and comfort that they provided before s/he could speak. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-get-judged-for-nursing-your-toddler#post-2428415 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 21:30:42 +0000 catomd00 2428415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: omg!!!!! I would seriously never speak to someone again if they did that and it ruined my nursing relationship. However, I am more inclined to believe her friend just told her that to get her off her back about it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-get-judged-for-nursing-your-toddler#post-2428412 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 21:29:16 +0000 catomd00 2428412@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Probs behind my back but I couldn't have cared less. I'm confident in my decisions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-get-judged-for-nursing-your-toddler#post-2428407 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 21:25:41 +0000 FaithFertility 2428407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@daniellemybelle: nope you can never win!<br /> I agree </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-get-judged-for-nursing-your-toddler#post-2428389 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 21:11:02 +0000 daniellemybelle 2428389@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I got comments. I tried to not bring it up but she would pull on my shirt and say, "Nurse!" haha, and then people would ask wide eyed, "Oh, you're still...?" It's crazy because I was judged for supplementing with formula, too. You can't win. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-get-judged-for-nursing-your-toddler#post-2428367 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 20:56:25 +0000 matador84 2428367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Still nursing at 23 months. I don't really care but I do think it affects how much DD eats table food. I don't really publicize it but if I do mention it people are pretty shocked! I don't know many irl who made it to even a year nursing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-get-judged-for-nursing-your-toddler#post-2428355 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 20:48:03 +0000 avivoca 2428355@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: OMG. The nerve of that woman! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-get-judged-for-nursing-your-toddler#post-2428350 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 20:43:46 +0000 erinbaderin 2428350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A woman at work the other day said to me "you're a mom, you'll like this. I went to my friend's house and her daughter is almost 2 and she's still nursing her! When the daughter came up and asked to nurse I gave her a look and said "you're still doing that? You're too big for that!" And she totally got it, her mom said she hasn't asked to nurse since!" I didn't say anything but I was totally appalled! That is none of your business! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-get-judged-for-nursing-your-toddler#post-2428312 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 20:24:54 +0000 nana87 2428312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lo is 21 months and I thought we were going to wean when I just went on a weeklong work trip, but lo begged me to nurse when I came back so we aren't weaning yet after all, lol. I do feel a little judgement sometimes but it makes lo so happy and comforted, and that's so much more important to me than what anyone else thinks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-get-judged-for-nursing-your-toddler#post-2428309 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 20:23:41 +0000 littlejoy 2428309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You do you ... Most people are probably just not used to it. Take it as a way to "teach" people that some mamas nurse their toddlers. Throughout the world, the average age is 3 years. </p> <p>If someone tells you it makes them uncomfortable, I'd say, "I'm feeding my baby. You don't have to watch." or "I can't help that you feel uncomfortable about something that's natural." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-get-judged-for-nursing-your-toddler#post-2428302 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 20:18:01 +0000 winniebee 2428302@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS2 is 13.5 months. He nurses once a day. I thought people would judge but no one has really said anything. I don't bring it up so it seems others don't either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-get-judged-for-nursing-your-toddler#post-2428297 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 20:12:51 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2428297@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>People are so quick to tell mothers to BF and then in the next breath tell them when they should stop. Apparently 6 mos+ is pushing it in my immediate circle.</p> <p>Years ago, I saw a friend of a friend nurse her toddler. I wasn't used to seeing such a big kid (running around, eating their own meal) nursing, so I asked my friend about it. She turned me on to the term "comfort nursing." Who knows maybe the mom was producing milk and the tot was still getting nourishment IDK. At that moment nursing in public and for older babes became normal.</p> <p>More power to all of you that have been able to nurse so long! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-get-judged-for-nursing-your-toddler#post-2428203 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 18:28:50 +0000 californiadreams 2428203@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely got comments starting after one year. My mom came to visit once and we were getting ready to go out and she said "you use a bottle in public now, right?" As if at some age I'd decide it's more apprpooriare to pump a bottle just so I can feed him in public! Talk about inconvenient! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-get-judged-for-nursing-your-toddler#post-2428200 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 18:25:59 +0000 Kemma 2428200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Probably but quite frankly, I don't give a sh*t (if they'd like to come and put my 3yo to bed then they can be my guest). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-get-judged-for-nursing-your-toddler#post-2428169 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 17:56:52 +0000 Foodnerd81 2428169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got questions from family members- it's amazing how the same words, "so when do you think you'll stop nursing?", can sound totally different depending on who is asking. She's grandmother asked me a couple of times but I really think it was a curious thing, same as if she asked when I was going to drop to one nap or something. I didn't feel judgment. But other people could ask the same thing and id bristle. </p> <p>I nursed until Lo self weaned at 20 months. I only know a very small handful of people who nursed that long in real life and I know plenty of people thought it was weird but most kept it to themselves. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-get-judged-for-nursing-your-toddler#post-2428164 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 17:45:45 +0000 MoonMoon 2428164@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're at 31 months and no one has said anything directly to me, other than a few jokes from family. But I definitely am less comfortable with public nursing my huge kid, haha! By now he knows not to pull my shirt and that sometimes he has to wait, but I plan to let him self-wean.</p> <p>I wouldn't think twice about it at 17 months! That's her problem, not yours! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-get-judged-for-nursing-your-toddler#post-2428117 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 17:16:32 +0000 Greentea 2428117@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@stargal: good for you! DD just randomly quit cold turkey at 2.5 (very recently), and one thing that helped me is my best mom friend is a fearless nurser. She nurses her toddler (same age) randomly in public regularly, so I think that influence helped me feel strong. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-get-judged-for-nursing-your-toddler#post-2428106 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 17:10:49 +0000 MrsRcCar 2428106@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>E will be 2 on the 11th. I get comments all the time from family to wean him. We are down to 3 times a day and we will be down to twice a day around his birthday. I am ready to wean him (well I think anyway) but I don't think he is totally ready. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-get-judged-for-nursing-your-toddler#post-2428088 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 16:54:55 +0000 stargal 2428088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>the thing is I NEVER talk about it, they always just bring it up or see me nursing him and ask. She asked my husband when I wasn't there.</p> <p>@Greentea:It was said to my husband not me (I wasn't even there!) but I def have told them in the past that I don't know when I will stop nursing him and want to go til at least 2 bc of WHO recommendation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-get-judged-for-nursing-your-toddler#post-2428077 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 16:46:52 +0000 Greentea 2428077@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Either in a nice way, or a snarkier way, I'd say, "Oh, I am so sorry you are not up to date with modern recommendations. It is recommended to nurse until at least 2." And that would be that. Or say it in a nicer way. I nursed until 2.5 and it is a major accomplishment, and no one's business. I also never discussed it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-get-judged-for-nursing-your-toddler#post-2428076 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 16:46:51 +0000 skipra 2428076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think most people don't know because we only do it before nap and bed and in the morning but my mom always has something to say. Usually it is that it's time to give it up and DS1 didn't nurse that long, etc. (BTW yes, he did!) We had the same conversations when DS1 was nursing. They will get over it when we wean and then forget he nursed as long as he did! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-get-judged-for-nursing-your-toddler#post-2428068 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 16:44:27 +0000 sorrycharlie 2428068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my LO turned 1 exactly 6 days ago. I've already gotten comments from my mom and gma about weaning (not outright but hinting!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-get-judged-for-nursing-your-toddler#post-2428067 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 16:43:31 +0000 twodoghouse 2428067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For the most part, family and friends are supportive or don't know that we are still nursing. One friend is sort of judgey that I still nurse entirely on demand, even if t means 5-6 times a day. She's very routine oriented though, so I think she just thinks it's weird that I don't have scheduled nursing times. However, my mom and sister have started making comments like "when will you be done? You're not going to nurse after they turn two, are you?" It's weird because my mom has always been my biggest supporter through the struggles of nursing twins (and my sister nurse her twins for a couple months and understands how hard I've worked to get to almost 21 months!). It's just foreign to my mom that I would keep nursing them this long, as she doesn't know anyone who BFs past a year, really. No one in my extended family has nursed this long (or did back when my cousins and I were babies), so I guess it's just different. On the other side, my DHs family is full of extended breastfeeders (many nursing past age 3, including my MIL), so I feel pressure to never stop from that side! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-get-judged-for-nursing-your-toddler#post-2428041 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 16:30:36 +0000 avivoca 2428041@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I stopped bringing it up. At that point, we were just nursing in the morning, so she wasn't pulling on my shirt throughout the day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-get-judged-for-nursing-your-toddler#post-2428033 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 16:28:12 +0000 stargal 2428033@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>D is 17 months and I am getting a lot of questions asking when I am going to wean him. Dh's grandma said it was embarrassing when D pulls on my shirt to nurse :shocked: Its not like he is pulling my shirt all the way down exposing me, he's a baby, geez .<br /> I am nowhere NEAR ready to wean him and D isn't ready either. Just sick of the judgment from people.<br /> Can anyone else relate? </p>