https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 17 Jun 2026 06:14:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-a-baby-that-you-cant-put-down#post-1920184 Tue, 28 Oct 2014 20:51:00 +0000 Mrs. D 1920184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter was the same, to the point my husband was convinced she didn't like him. He's over it now.<br /> Sometimes you have to let him cry when he's in someone else's arms, as much as it hurts you. Try sitting on and sleeping on one of his blankets without washing it so it smells like you, then wrap him in it when someone else is holding him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-a-baby-that-you-cant-put-down#post-1919525 Tue, 28 Oct 2014 13:33:27 +0000 SweetiePie 1919525@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi all, I wanted to recommend the book Wonder Weeks to those of you who, like me, were/are struggling with a baby that just doesn't want to be put down.<br /> It really explains a lot and coincides with the weeks we've all mentioned noticing the clinginess. There are SO many things that are making me go "aha! He does that too! This makes sense!"<br /> He's 7 weeks today and last night like clockwork he entered another clingy fussy phase. But reading this book has made me understand why and prepare for it.<br /> @stargal: @Janet: @chibee: Hope this helps, even if you're out of the phase now - it can help prepare for the next "leap" as the book calls it. Highly recommend! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-a-baby-that-you-cant-put-down#post-1900882 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 15:20:19 +0000 catomd00 1900882@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Totally normal, it's the "fourth trimester." It gets better! Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-a-baby-that-you-cant-put-down#post-1900850 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 15:03:45 +0000 stargal 1900850@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ShootingStar: it must be a Declan thing ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-a-baby-that-you-cant-put-down#post-1900848 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 15:03:06 +0000 stargal 1900848@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just want to thank everyone for responding and letting me feel like I'm not alone. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-a-baby-that-you-cant-put-down#post-1900630 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 12:55:58 +0000 ShootingStar 1900630@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My Declan was just like this too. We had to co-bed at the beginning because the only other choice was to not sleep ourselves. I honestly don't remember when it stopped. He's still pretty cuddly at 11 months, but plays independently a ton. </p> <p>For bedtime my goal was just to keep working towards independent sleep. I would try twice to put him down independently in the RnP or PnP, and if that didn't work, we'd co-sleep until he woke up and then I'd try again. Some nights if it didn't work I'd just give up for the rest of the night. But I never gave up entirely - we kept trying and little by little it got better. </p> <p>For naps, it's always been a struggle. I can remember being on maternity leave and just being tied to the couch because he was sleeping on me. He'd sleep for 3 hours if I didn't move, but he'd get upset if I put him down, so a lot of naps were on me. And even now it's sometimes easier to have him nap on me.</p> <p>It will get better. Just keep reminding yourself that. And one day you will look back and realize he doesn't want to be held as much any more and it'll be sad. Until then, can you take walks with him either in the stroller or wearing him? Can you hand him off to your husband and take a shower to at least get a little break? I always liked to do that because it drowned out the crying. I always felt obligated to rescue him if I could hear him, but in the shower I'd have no idea. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-a-baby-that-you-cant-put-down#post-1900489 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 11:52:10 +0000 bunnylove08 1900489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A was like that and my sister said I should just put her down. I did and she cried and I was going to pick her up and she told me to just let her cry and do what I need to do. I did that and A eventually was okay being put down. </p> <p>Just sending you hugs because it is not easy. You're doing a great job. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-a-baby-that-you-cant-put-down#post-1900466 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 11:41:45 +0000 meredithNYC 1900466@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: I started around 3 months. I remember visiting a friend whose baby was a few months older than mine and she was like, "You know, you should put her (LO) down more often." I honestly wasn't even offended - I was just like, "Oh, huh. I guess I should do that?" Lol, I was just in the throes of early motherhood and in survival mode and I didn't even think about logical things like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-a-baby-that-you-cant-put-down#post-1900341 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 10:30:26 +0000 SweetiePie 1900341@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Chocolate: yes! This! Night time he's ok which people tell me to be thankful for. And I am he eats 11pm, 2/3am, 6/7am. And he goes right back to sleep. But daytime....he just won't sleep. I have to hold him all day with the rare occasion I think he's just so pooped he doesn't care as much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-a-baby-that-you-cant-put-down#post-1900331 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 10:23:51 +0000 Mrs. Chocolate 1900331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter was like this, and is still like this to a degree She is just a mamas girl I guess. It was really rough in those early days especially when I had a 3 year old to contend with too. My saving grace was she did go to sleep at night on her own it was just naps and the rest of the day. I just held her most days all day and it was rough. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-a-baby-that-you-cant-put-down#post-1900328 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 10:22:15 +0000 SweetiePie 1900328@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meredithNYC: Hi! I am now in this boat with the rest of you. 5 weeks today and Id say starting around 4 weeks he is very clingy. The second I pic him up he dozes off. I put him down and he cries. It's an endless cycle.<br /> In wondering how old your LO was when you started the sort of "cry it out"? I am at that point I think. I have already put him in his crib and shut the door or got in the shower just to stop hearing the crying and to get some peace. Or to pee. Or to eat. I've done it like twice. Screamed his head off the whole time. injust watch him on the monitor with the volume off to make sure he's ok. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-a-baby-that-you-cant-put-down#post-1897829 Sat, 11 Oct 2014 12:25:26 +0000 meredithNYC 1897829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I went through this and felt like I would lose my mind. To make matters worse, my baby hated the carrier. It got to be too much after a while with my back constantly aching, so I just started putting her down more frequently - usually in swing or bouncy seat and would decide that I would leave her for 5,10, however many minutes provided she wasn't hungry or needed a diaper change. Yes, she would cry, but at least I knew she was safe. At first hearing her cry was awful, but she quickly grew used to the fact that I would not immediately respond to every cry. It's not for everyone, but I was at my breaking point and needed things to change. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-a-baby-that-you-cant-put-down#post-1897794 Sat, 11 Oct 2014 11:35:08 +0000 Janet 1897794@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO is seven weeks old and we have been going to the same thing since about five weeks of age. I thought my arms were going to fall off! Part of it is that this is just that really tough 6-8 week period for them. But I did find one thing that really helped - The leechco infant lounger. You can get it on Amazon.com. It cradles the babies so they feel nestled and safe. My LO will now nap (you're not supposed to let them sleep in it but I only let her nap while I am watching her on the monitor) in it and sit in it awake while I eat breakfast. It's not a magic solution, but it does give me a chance to rest my arms and get some work done! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-a-baby-that-you-cant-put-down#post-1896210 Fri, 10 Oct 2014 05:38:58 +0000 Dandelion 1896210@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>M is still like this at 6 months! The jumperoo helps, but he happiest sitting in my lap with a toy. DH will hold him for a while and he'll be happy, but it's not long before he's asking for "mama". I've learned to just pass him off or put hom down if I need a breather. It was bad for a while, but DH realized it was ruining me, so he's better at stepping in, now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-a-baby-that-you-cant-put-down#post-1896176 Fri, 10 Oct 2014 00:56:41 +0000 spartysammy 1896176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine is 17 weeks and still needs to be held for naps, we cosleep which is supposedly supposed to make things easier but I find mysslf becoming resentful that she is is constantly on my breast and honestly who can sleep like that!? We are having a ton of sleep issues to. Finally admitting to myseld I may also have some PPD. I hope it gets easier for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-a-baby-that-you-cant-put-down#post-1896162 Thu, 09 Oct 2014 23:42:40 +0000 PurplePeony 1896162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DD was like that and I think around 7 weeks was the turning point -- it slowly got better from there and by 11-12 weeks, she was much less needy that way. It sucked the life out of me while I was going through it but it does get better toward the end of the "fourth trimester"! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-a-baby-that-you-cant-put-down#post-1896128 Thu, 09 Oct 2014 22:27:23 +0000 autumnlove 1896128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO 1 was like that for the first 7 weeks! Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-a-baby-that-you-cant-put-down#post-1896118 Thu, 09 Oct 2014 22:12:54 +0000 sunny 1896118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 2 year old was like that up until 10 weeks or so. Good luck mama! I hope he will grow out of it soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-a-baby-that-you-cant-put-down#post-1896093 Thu, 09 Oct 2014 21:48:30 +0000 anandam 1896093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You're not alone! I kept (err... keep) telling myself he's just such a smart little mammal baby with such good instincts against being left or forgotten - he just doesn't know he's in a safely locked apartment and I'm within earshot. It is very tiring. Around 9 weeks he'd usually let me put him down in his bouncy chair for a quick bite or to pee. By 12 weeks, other people could hold him for naps. Probably around 15-16 weeks I could put him down for naps and he'd stay asleep 45min or an hour. We're 20 weeks now. It's been a gradual learning process for both of us - he feels more safe, I feel more space. But some days I still can't put him down long enough to make dinner, so we order takeout. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-a-baby-that-you-cant-put-down#post-1896092 Thu, 09 Oct 2014 21:46:08 +0000 skibobrown 1896092@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>7 weeks is *the worst*. The social worker who ran my moms group always reminded the new members of our group about this. 6-8 weeks = crazy baby time. Hopefully things should start improving soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-a-baby-that-you-cant-put-down#post-1896090 Thu, 09 Oct 2014 21:42:47 +0000 chibee 1896090@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@stargal: i feel like i wrote this post - mine is 7 weeks also and i literally had a 2 hr cryfest over this, i feel like i'm getting the baby blues all over again. I have spent the majority of my maternity leave since he's been born just holding him, right now is one of those rare moments when he is sleeping in his swing (the ONLY other place he will sleep besides in my arms). I'm there with you, totally. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-a-baby-that-you-cant-put-down#post-1896087 Thu, 09 Oct 2014 21:36:39 +0000 FancyGem 1896087@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son was like that except he didn't care who was holding him. It helped when I put him in his swing. It did get better as time went on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-a-baby-that-you-cant-put-down#post-1896083 Thu, 09 Oct 2014 21:31:38 +0000 mlm2934 1896083@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@stargal: F has very much been a baby that needs to be held to be content - and trust me, it's not for my lack of trying to not hold him! I feel like the peak of me wanting to lose my mind was 8 weeks, and every week since then it's gotten gradually better. He still wants to be held or entertained most of his awake time at almost 13 weeks, but his play mat now holds his attention independently in 15-20min increments. But I feel your pain! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-a-baby-that-you-cant-put-down#post-1896080 Thu, 09 Oct 2014 21:25:16 +0000 stargal 1896080@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CottonCandy: 12 weeks, seem so far away! just trying to take it one day at a time. thank you for sharing :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-a-baby-that-you-cant-put-down#post-1896053 Thu, 09 Oct 2014 21:00:35 +0000 CottonCandy 1896053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like it got easier at around 12 weeks....l definitely feel like it was ebbs and flows though...some days would be great, and others would be hell!! We had a witching hour EVERY night right at dinner time... I'd rush home from work, try to make dinner and LO would just scream for hours..I used to pray she would sleep through dinner (and then feel guilty because I was away from her at work all day)! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-a-baby-that-you-cant-put-down#post-1896043 Thu, 09 Oct 2014 20:56:02 +0000 stargal 1896043@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CottonCandy: :) when did it get easier? please tell me soon. he's 7 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-a-baby-that-you-cant-put-down#post-1896041 Thu, 09 Oct 2014 20:55:02 +0000 CottonCandy 1896041@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My only tip is that you're not alone :happy: I had a baby just like that... I thought I'd lose my mind....just keep going. My baby is now a toddler. It does get better, I promise. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-a-baby-that-you-cant-put-down#post-1896038 Thu, 09 Oct 2014 20:51:28 +0000 stargal 1896038@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I need advice before I lose my mind. Declan will not let me put him down. im the only one who can hold him too. I literally feel like we are attached to the hip and its really really wearing me down. I think its a huge contributing factor to my ppd. I babywear. I swaddle. I don't know what else to do to comfort him. hes fine as long as he is in my arms or breastfeeding. </p> <p>Im really struggling tonight especially. any tips? </p>