https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 16 May 2026 10:21:11 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-some-mom-guilt-to-absolve-themselves-of-today#post-994971 Wed, 07 Aug 2013 00:21:55 +0000 MaisyMay 994971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I went to work before LO woke up yesterday and worked so late that she was in bed asleep when I got home. She's been having horrid sleep the last two nights, and I was supposed to be off today, so I dropped her off at daycare, feeling guilty that I was going to go home and nap...got called in to work and DH did the daycare pick up,<br /> Mom guilt for missing a whole day of LO's life, planning on napping while LO was at daycare and I had the day off, and I missed her saying dada for the first time (not today). Having to work sucks sometimes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-some-mom-guilt-to-absolve-themselves-of-today#post-994897 Tue, 06 Aug 2013 23:26:44 +0000 Corduroy 994897@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Daycare asked for more milk today and I'm not going to give it to them. I 100% believe that she's fine. She's totally chubbin out. Still I feel guilty for 'starving' my baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-some-mom-guilt-to-absolve-themselves-of-today#post-994632 Tue, 06 Aug 2013 21:17:48 +0000 bpcmarj 994632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Put P down for a nap with a sticker on her hand that she played with. She didn't cry at all when she was falling asleep. When I went to get her, the sticker was nowhere to be found. I am pretty sure she ate it. Then I was worrying about if she could have choked on it and I never would have known...blah blah. That's today's Mom guilt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-some-mom-guilt-to-absolve-themselves-of-today#post-994621 Tue, 06 Aug 2013 21:11:25 +0000 Bookish 994621@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ellie: I hear ya, I definitely reconsider BF-ing on days like this. I feel like I did nothing but BF all flipping day. I'm going to stick with it, especially since I only have 4 weeks of mat leave left, but man....it gets rough. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-some-mom-guilt-to-absolve-themselves-of-today#post-994618 Tue, 06 Aug 2013 21:09:10 +0000 wheres_c 994618@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel mom guilt with this move.<br /> We've missed swim class and he has had like no toys or clothes for the past month. Our stuff finally arrived yesterday so I'll feel better once it's unpacked but I feel guilty for ignoring him to unpack :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-some-mom-guilt-to-absolve-themselves-of-today#post-994612 Tue, 06 Aug 2013 21:06:23 +0000 pl0508 994612@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Was giving Lo a QUICK bath because he was sleepy and he GRABBED MY RAZOR. Omg I felt so careless I didn't even think about it being were he could reach. Never again. Will keep it up high and keep the guard on it. I felt horrible ! Thank god it didn't cut him </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-some-mom-guilt-to-absolve-themselves-of-today#post-994596 Tue, 06 Aug 2013 20:59:30 +0000 Ellie 994596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz and @bookworm: I could have written your posts.</p> <p>My babe has been on my boob all day and it's starting to make me reconsider EBF-ing. I'll stick with it, but today was so hard.<br /> And usually-helpful hubby hasn't really helped me at all today, on a day I feel like I need it the most. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-some-mom-guilt-to-absolve-themselves-of-today#post-994511 Tue, 06 Aug 2013 20:37:01 +0000 PrincessBaby 994511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>And also, we are smack dab in the middle of a 3-part move. Our life is basically barely held together right now, 95% of our things are in storage with the movers. So if H wears something easy (a romper, a onesie, etc) and doesn't get it dirty, you better believe it's getting recycled the next day for simplicity's sake! She wore this red romper yesterday and today. No shame here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-some-mom-guilt-to-absolve-themselves-of-today#post-994493 Tue, 06 Aug 2013 20:29:16 +0000 Smurfette 994493@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I set R on the floor tonight and she was actually sitting up by herself really good. So I turned around to grab my phone off the coffee table. I was sitting right behind her and the table was behind me. She started to tip over and I didn't catch her and she hit her head on her infant seat(like a bumbo) tray with the toys on it. She started crying, luckily she stopped once I picked her up and gave her some hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-some-mom-guilt-to-absolve-themselves-of-today#post-994465 Tue, 06 Aug 2013 20:21:49 +0000 PrincessBaby 994465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Maysprout: Bahahaha!!! Lol @ wolfchild:) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-some-mom-guilt-to-absolve-themselves-of-today#post-994446 Tue, 06 Aug 2013 20:16:47 +0000 Maysprout 994446@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: It happens, dogs become their role models too. I caught my daughter chomping on tall grass today because the dog was doing it. She once in awhile tries to put her face in her food to eat like a dog. I think I might be raising a wolf child. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-some-mom-guilt-to-absolve-themselves-of-today#post-994437 Tue, 06 Aug 2013 20:13:58 +0000 PrincessBaby 994437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter is obsessed with the dog, and now that she's crawling, all she wants to do is chase him. Today, as I looked at home decorating sites and HB, she chased him down, stole his ball, AND PUT IT IN HER MOUTH. Ultimate mom fail:(. She's just sooooo quick! </p> [attach=1247/13/mr4zfb.600x354.image.jpg] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-some-mom-guilt-to-absolve-themselves-of-today#post-994403 Tue, 06 Aug 2013 20:02:22 +0000 lovehoneybee 994403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: I've been in that exact position, more than once. And more than once I just handed LO to DH and locked myself in the bathroom. DH would walk around outside with him or rock him or just pace the apartment with him while I took a bath. Sometimes he got him to sleep, sometimes just calm, sometimes no difference but getting that break let me come back to the situation refreshed, more patient/less frustrated and less resentful of DH. Maybe you could let your DH try for a while so you can have a bit of a recharge? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-some-mom-guilt-to-absolve-themselves-of-today#post-994401 Tue, 06 Aug 2013 20:01:54 +0000 Lindsay05 994401@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO is really becoming rough, biting, slapping and laughing after doing it. I had to put her firmly on the floor and raise my voice to make her stop. I realize I am no good at disciplining. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-some-mom-guilt-to-absolve-themselves-of-today#post-994389 Tue, 06 Aug 2013 19:56:53 +0000 singingbee 994389@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had to take the 3 hour glucose test today And the ate McDonald's and had a milkshake this afternoon. I don't know my results yet I feel super guilty eating that stuff, but if I have GD, I wanted it one last time. The other part fee,s guilty because what if I do have it? Did I cause it with my eating? I know that's what my family thinks. Just overall guilt. And my house isn't clean. </p> <p>But, I absolve myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-some-mom-guilt-to-absolve-themselves-of-today#post-994387 Tue, 06 Aug 2013 19:55:51 +0000 MrsH 994387@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsF: thanks - cancer sucks :( I'm hoping the pups won't suffer to much when LO gets here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-some-mom-guilt-to-absolve-themselves-of-today#post-994382 Tue, 06 Aug 2013 19:53:45 +0000 Bookish 994382@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: this. Exactly this. LO did not nap from 11-530. I thought I was gonna lose my damn mind. I definitely felt resentful all afternoon, and had a panic attack around 5. I don't know if I want LO to sleep for long stretches at night if this is the result :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-some-mom-guilt-to-absolve-themselves-of-today#post-994349 Tue, 06 Aug 2013 19:43:43 +0000 MrsF 994349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsH: Fur babies definitely count! I have almost more mom-guilt for my pup since M's arrival than I do for the baby. I'm so sorry about your kitty :( </p> <p>@grizz: Resentment is such a big part of the mom-guilt! It's so hard to have these little guys dominating your life. When M was a newborn DH and I worried this would feel like "the year we were at war with the baby". Luckily this has gotten better. *hugs!* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-some-mom-guilt-to-absolve-themselves-of-today#post-994328 Tue, 06 Aug 2013 19:35:54 +0000 lovehoneybee 994328@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@petunia354: Oh honey, I've been there. E had fallen off the bed TWICE on my watch! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-some-mom-guilt-to-absolve-themselves-of-today#post-994326 Tue, 06 Aug 2013 19:35:25 +0000 MrsF 994326@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travellingbee: Those days are so hard! Last week M woke up at 5:30 for the day. I turned on the TV and laid down next to her on the floor with a blanket and hoped she would let me sleep for a few minutes. Didn't happen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-some-mom-guilt-to-absolve-themselves-of-today#post-994315 Tue, 06 Aug 2013 19:32:04 +0000 MrsF 994315@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@petunia354: It happens to everyone! Your DH forgives you, your son is fine and will never remember. This happened on my DH's watch a few weeks ago and M is totally fine. Of course I was sort of glad it wasn't on my time... and then I fell down the stairs holding her. Fail. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-some-mom-guilt-to-absolve-themselves-of-today#post-994311 Tue, 06 Aug 2013 19:30:37 +0000 travellingbee 994311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a cold and LO is sleeping like crap lately. I am so tired and feel terrible. At one point I put him in the swing and just let him hang out there while I laid on the couch and watched Friends. And later I let him play on the floor, mesmerized by the TV while I cooked dinner. I just didn't have the energy to be a very interactive mom today. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-some-mom-guilt-to-absolve-themselves-of-today#post-994292 Tue, 06 Aug 2013 19:23:56 +0000 petunia354 994292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS fell off the bed this morning. Yeah. I did what everyone tells you not to and now I know why. Cried my face off, even more so than him. He is fine now and back to his happy self. I think the worst part was having to tell DH that something bad happened on my watch.</p> <p>I wish I could absolve myself, but I don't think it's gonna happen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-some-mom-guilt-to-absolve-themselves-of-today#post-994286 Tue, 06 Aug 2013 19:19:27 +0000 Maysprout 994286@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO has been a grumpy bear refusing sleep so today I just had her play in her room till she decided to sleep or at least have quiet time. Where she decided to sleep was in the laundry basket of clean clothes but she must have had her head pressed up against the one side and woke up with an imprint of the basket. I've just had her play in her room before when she won't nap and she usually crawls into bed or curls up on her carpet but guess those clothes just looked comfy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-some-mom-guilt-to-absolve-themselves-of-today#post-994283 Tue, 06 Aug 2013 19:18:25 +0000 brownie 994283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I left my baby (2 years old) at daycare earlier than he has ever gone to go to a doctors appt. then the appointment went too long (ugh) and has to have a friend pick him up and watch him. We missed swim lessons and I will get home just in time to put him to bed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-some-mom-guilt-to-absolve-themselves-of-today#post-994282 Tue, 06 Aug 2013 19:17:54 +0000 lovehoneybee 994282@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO has cut 6 new teeth and more are pushing through and O was up with hin most of last night. I dosed myself up with coffee but I'm just so tired today that we haven't gone anywhere and he's been watching Baby Genius videos off and on all day. </p> <p>Can't be super-mom everyday, I definitely absolve myself! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-some-mom-guilt-to-absolve-themselves-of-today#post-994274 Tue, 06 Aug 2013 19:14:53 +0000 Boheme 994274@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My baby is SUPER over-tired and I am doing everything in my power to get him to sleep and I just can't. Right now I'm letting him comfort nurse although he's done it all freakin day long... I'm so frustrated and my nipples are torn to bits. I just want to scream. I feel so guilty for feeling resentful about it, but my husband is being zero help today. Zero. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-some-mom-guilt-to-absolve-themselves-of-today#post-994268 Tue, 06 Aug 2013 19:09:38 +0000 MrsH 994268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do fur babies count? The vet just told us the cat we rescued (aka took in after someone dumped him in our neighborhood) has cancer. The growth was removed but instead of amputating portions of his paw we are just going to wait and see what happens. I feel really bad that we aren't taking any action. I've lost a lot of family (people not pets) to cancer lately and I feel guilty for not doing more for him :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-have-some-mom-guilt-to-absolve-themselves-of-today#post-994245 Tue, 06 Aug 2013 18:59:18 +0000 MrsF 994245@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I loved @FutureMrsMcK 's mom-guilt thread a few weeks ago and I was remembering everyone's admissions and trying to forgive myself for today!</p> <p>I worked 12 hours overnight last night. When I do a night shift, DH takes M to her babysitter's the next day before I get home. I always feel guilty because most of the moms that I work with go home and watch their kids for the whole day afterwards. I don't know how they do it - by the time DH gets home it would have been a full 38 hours since I had slept. Just not possible for me. </p> <p>Usually I go home and sleep for a few hours and then run around and do chores, grocery shopping, laundry, etc. This makes me feel better about paying someone to watch M while I'm at home. Today, I slept most of the day and then sat on the couch and watched the entire Bachelorette finale. I didn't make dinner, go grocery shopping, pick up toys or do laundry. We went away last weekend and the bags are still packed. The house actually looks worse than it did when DH left for work this morning. </p> <p>I'm hereby absolving myself of my guilt. Phew - that feels better! Anyone else need this today? </p>