https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 01:43:25 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-a-horrible-time-at-drop-off#post-1472647 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 10:57:33 +0000 yellowbird 1472647@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: I usually do ask her to go get something or find a certain object when I get there, but she just says no and refuses to move. She knows I'm going to leave and she doesn't want me to.</p> <p>@NovBaby1112: she really doesn't have a lovey. She takes a pacifier but even that doesn't help. Her main lovey is me. She likes to stroke my hair and lay her head down when she isn't feeling her best. </p> <p>@cmomma17: I've watched that episode with her before! I tell her that I will be back to get her at xx time and we will play/take a walk/cuddle etc.</p> <p>@bunnylove08: maybe I can try to have a little more time with her in the mornings. I usually wake her at 7 and we are out the door by 7:20.</p> <p>I wonder if she would be happier if I fed her breakfast at home in the mornings? I may try getting her up 10 mins earlier and having a small breakfast with her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-a-horrible-time-at-drop-off#post-1472320 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 10:11:53 +0000 cmomma17 1472320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yellowbird: oh my gosh so sad! :( :( Poor you!<br /> I saw a Daniel tiger episode about parents always coming back and it even had a little song "grownups come back ..."<br /> Maybe having a little song you could sing together might help the transition? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-a-horrible-time-at-drop-off#post-1472294 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 10:07:27 +0000 bunnylove08 1472294@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:heart: I just wanted to send you lots of hugs. I have no advice for you. </p> <p>When DD has a hard time when I'm leaving its because she didnt have enough time with me in the morning. I want to let her sleep but she needs at least 30 minutes of Mommy and DD time. Maybe some mommy time and cuddles will help </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-a-horrible-time-at-drop-off#post-1472062 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 09:19:39 +0000 bookwormmama 1472062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The toddler I nanny for has been doing this when his mom leaves in the morning for the past month or so. She said it happened with all of her kids around the 15-18 month time period. He even cried when she gave him to his dad at night! Sometimes he throws himself on the ground when she leaves...yesterday she tried to put him down and he threw himself backwards and he landed on his head. :sad: </p> <p>It's hard, but I try to distract him while she leaves and it helps. Sometimes I take him upstairs and he usually does ok. She usually has to sneak out while I distract him to avoid a full on tantrum...she said her kids all grew out of it eventually. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-a-horrible-time-at-drop-off#post-1472057 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 09:18:27 +0000 NovBaby1112 1472057@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>awww that must be so hard :sad: we havent had this issue too bad yet, but LO is only 16 months so maybe it's on the horizon....but does she have a lovey or comfort object at all? When my LO doesnt want to leave my arms, I hand her blankie to our daycare lady and M lunges into her arms for it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-a-horrible-time-at-drop-off#post-1472028 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 09:05:31 +0000 looch 1472028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, coming off the weekend is especially tough.</p> <p>One thing a more experienced mom mentioned to try is to give him or her a task in the morning when they get there, like to bring something to a teacher or the director. It gives them a task to focus on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-a-horrible-time-at-drop-off#post-1471983 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 08:44:16 +0000 yellowbird 1471983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@brownie: I have a feeling it will be something we just have to wait out. </p> <p>Drop off with dh didn't go any better this morning. She goes 3.5 days a week, so I think her long weekend also makes it harder. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-a-horrible-time-at-drop-off#post-1471904 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 07:38:03 +0000 brownie 1471904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had the same issue at 18 months old. He would just cry and fuss. I have a more open schedule so for him it helped that I stayed until breakfast was served. But he just needs more transition time in general. It did end up resolving itself eventually (6 months for us but that was only twice a week). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-a-horrible-time-at-drop-off#post-1471895 Thu, 06 Mar 2014 07:23:28 +0000 yellowbird 1471895@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@78h2o: hanging around makes it worse here too :(<br /> @MrsMccarthy: :heart: thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-a-horrible-time-at-drop-off#post-1471651 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 23:18:14 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1471651@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wish I had advice for you. I am so sorry you are dealing with this. If it makes you feel any better I do think its normal even if you aren't a working mom. My son has the same kind of freak outs if I just go to the bathroom without him or if I go into the kitchen to make dinner. I remember super nanny having a great episode about separation anxiety. Ill see if I can find it on YouTube for you. In the meantime big hugs!!! Don't feel bad. Your little A is okay. She's just learning how separate she is from you and it's hard to handle at first. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-a-horrible-time-at-drop-off#post-1471605 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 22:42:14 +0000 78h2o 1471605@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've tried to hang out there for awhile (15-20 min) to wait for her to warm up and get engaged in an activity, but it hasn't helped (I think it actually makes it worse). Seems to work best if I give her a quick kiss goodbye and hand her off quickly. I hate it so much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-a-horrible-time-at-drop-off#post-1471581 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 22:26:33 +0000 yellowbird 1471581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@78h2o: awhhhhh!!! My lo tries to grab the door knob to get out with me. It's sad :(((</p> <p>@bpcmarj: she's 18 months. I ask her if she wants to go see her friends and she says no in the saddest voice ever during our car ride. it's awful.</p> <p>We actually tried the food trick this morning but it only ended with her crying super hard with a chewed up strawberry falling out of her mouth. :crying: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-a-horrible-time-at-drop-off#post-1471573 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 22:22:26 +0000 bpcmarj 1471573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How old is she? LO was doing this a lot about a month ago. She would grab onto me so tight and scream when I handed her off. Some days it started in the car with her saying "no mommy, go home!" Now, I try to distract her. I give her something to say to her teacher. And, daycare started having her breakfast out and ready, so they just take her and sit her down to eat. That has helped SO much. This too shall pass and you are not a bad mom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-a-horrible-time-at-drop-off#post-1471570 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 22:20:49 +0000 78h2o 1471570@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>P.S. - the only things I've found that help a little are spending more time with her in the am pre-drop off and letting her take one of her little jellycat animals with her. She still cries anyway, but it seems to help a little. Oh, and in the previous room, they let me give her a snack when I dropped her off (I sat her at the table with a few yogurt melts) and that really helped; unfortunately, her current room discourages food outside of snack times. Plus I didn't love the idea of using food for comfort/distraction, but it did work!</p> <p>ETA: My LO is 15 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-a-horrible-time-at-drop-off#post-1471564 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 22:16:18 +0000 78h2o 1471564@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes!!! My LO is breaking my heart these days as well. Big crocodile tears and crying "maaaaamaaaaa" in the saddest, most forlorn voice. She clings to me and tries to squeeze out the door with me - makes me so sad! I sometimes wait and then peak back in, and she usually recovers pretty quickly. I am with you though... I can't wait until she outgrows this phase! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-a-horrible-time-at-drop-off#post-1471558 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 22:12:49 +0000 heffalump 1471558@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oy. She's not in daycare yet but I've been debating what to do for preschool when that happens and this post makes me want to have DH do drop off.</p> <p>Good luck, hope others have some useful advice :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-a-horrible-time-at-drop-off#post-1471554 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 22:09:27 +0000 yellowbird 1471554@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO used to be fine at daycare drop off each day. For the past couple weeks she has had major separation anxiety. It starts on the car ride where she holds her hand up and whimpers and wants to hold my hand. When we get to daycare she refuses to even stand up and will sit on my lap and refuse to move while I take her coat and shoes off. Then she starts with the tears rolling down her cheeks and she clings to me and lays her head down. I usually have to pry her off and leave because I'm almost late! It's heartbreaking to say the least. I'm thinking this is just a phase, but why does it have to be so bad?????</p> <p>She is very clingy to me evenings and weekends too and won't let her dad do much for her if I'm around. I'm glad that she loves me, but I feel so broken leaving her to cry every morning because I'm leaving her. </p> <p>DH us doing drop off tomorrow because I just can't, though it makes no sense for him to do it. He works nights and gets home just as I'm leaving. He has to drive back in the other direction 5 miles to daycare then back home to sleep again, so it's not feasible to do more drop off a during the week. :( I feel like such a horrible mom. </p>