https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Apr 2026 19:52:09 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-heartache-about-stopping-at-2#post-940136 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 20:58:57 +0000 T-Mom 940136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SAHM0811: you and I should both have just one more at the same time and provide each other moral support.. Come on... If you will, I will! Ahahaha... ;-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-heartache-about-stopping-at-2#post-939989 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 19:53:35 +0000 SAHM0811 939989@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Loved the article!! I could relate to it so, so much. And to your post too. My youngest just turned 2... and I have such bittersweet feelings about it... While things are getting easier in a way, at the same time, I'm thinking, "oh yeah... THIS is why they call it the 'terrible twos'... and it's just starting!"</p> <p>It really depends on the day too. On the she-doesn't-nap or all-they-do-is-fight days, it's like, we are DONE... On the easy-going, everyone-is-happy and life-is-so-grand days, it's like, awww it would be so nice to add a third. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-heartache-about-stopping-at-2#post-939974 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 19:47:41 +0000 Mrs. Twine 939974@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh, man. That is EXACTLY my reasoning for being done... when I'm being strong and actually *feel* done. But I love being able to give my all to my kids, and I think three or more would leave me feeling stretched too thin. I already feel that way sometimes with just two. Le sigh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-heartache-about-stopping-at-2#post-939334 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 14:59:19 +0000 T-Mom 939334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ginger333: that's awesome that you have 3 already and feel that way about 4. I heard 3 going to 4 is not all that bad? :-) My DH is from a family of 4, and he just loves it (part of the reason he wants more).</p> <p>@Mrs. Jacks: I know, she just sounded so wistful in that post. Sounded like a future me and it made me sad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-heartache-about-stopping-at-2#post-939236 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 14:27:46 +0000 mrs. wagon 939236@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Now that LMW (my second) is turning one I get really sad when I realize that she's my last baby and she's not a baby anymore! No more babies. No more baby things. Just kids from now on. That makes me sad because I know it's over and done with. But I'm done at 2, and I'm happy with the size of our family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-heartache-about-stopping-at-2#post-939207 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 14:20:50 +0000 Ginger333 939207@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have that but for a fourth ... I feel sad thinking we might be done at three, I'd love just one more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-heartache-about-stopping-at-2#post-939200 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 14:19:59 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 939200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup. But two is right for us right now. Sadly. Because I want another, but I really don't.</p> <p>I could have practically written that article, but she says it all soooo much better than I ever could have! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-heartache-about-stopping-at-2#post-939137 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 13:59:39 +0000 Andrea 939137@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Babies/kids are so cute! I think you always end up wanting more! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-heartache-about-stopping-at-2#post-939008 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 13:17:11 +0000 Honeybee 939008@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I mostly feel complete with just 2, but sometimes I feel sad about not having another baby. We may adopt in the futurebut it would be a child, not a baby. I usually say I'm still coming to terms with only having two. I think it's the right decision but I'm still processing that emotionally. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-heartache-about-stopping-at-2#post-939005 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 13:15:41 +0000 T-Mom 939005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I should add that I am horribly horribly worried that something would go "wrong" with number 3 since I'm not excactly a spring chicken. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-heartache-about-stopping-at-2#post-938987 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 13:11:29 +0000 heffalump 938987@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T-Mom: Yes! We really do treat our dog like our child. We try not to leave her home if we can help it, she comes everywhere with us. But we won't have to pay for her college :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-heartache-about-stopping-at-2#post-938961 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 13:02:29 +0000 T-Mom 938961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: ooh furbaby, maybe I need to just get a dog, huh?<br /> @chopsuey119: yeah I'm trying to remind myself of all the reasons why I should stop!<br /> @sloaneandpuffy: @sarbear: I would love to come into a ton of money, that would make it a lot easier wouldn't it!<br /> @Koolbreeze: I go back and forth too.. mostly on the no side, but sometimes when I'm hormonal like today, I start thinking crazy thoughts... :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-heartache-about-stopping-at-2#post-938947 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 12:57:25 +0000 littlebittyhouse 938947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: i waffle; he waffles. story of my life mama! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-heartache-about-stopping-at-2#post-938946 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 12:56:53 +0000 MsLipGloss 938946@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel this way about No. 2 . . . we are pretty sure we are one and done (I don't know how I could continue to manage working and 2 LOs in the house!), but I am sad about it sometimes. We haven't completely ruled another baby out, but . . . </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-heartache-about-stopping-at-2#post-938943 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 12:56:30 +0000 Mrsbells 938943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T-Mom: I only have one at the moment but I know eventually I will feel like this. I always wanted 3, but have now started changing my mind to 2 because of how much work it is! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-heartache-about-stopping-at-2#post-938938 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 12:55:14 +0000 Koolbreeze 938938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We always planned 3 but here lately we've talked about not having another (we already have 2 boys). Sometimes I feel really good about not having a 3rd, but other times it really upsets me to think we may be done. I don't know how I'll ever make my mind up! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-heartache-about-stopping-at-2#post-938900 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 12:48:16 +0000 GrapeCrush 938900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>#2 isn't here yet(2 more weeks!) and we have decided we are done. I've always wanted 3, but I know financially it doesn't make sense to have a 3rd and that makes me sad :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-heartache-about-stopping-at-2#post-938882 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 12:44:32 +0000 chopsuey 938882@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a little sad about not having a 3rd, but I think about all the reasons we decided to stop and I stop feeling sad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-heartache-about-stopping-at-2#post-938875 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 12:42:32 +0000 mamimami 938875@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I will ever be satisfied and sure I'm finished, until nature has the last say. I am pretty sure we're finished, with two, but not 100%. But I bet if I had another, I'd still have sadness about stopping. My kids are so awesome, when I think that there could be another awesome little person like them out there possibly existing... well, let's not go down that road. Financially we really need to stop or come into a large amount of money! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-heartache-about-stopping-at-2#post-938874 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 12:42:23 +0000 heffalump 938874@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm with you. We agreed on 2 before having any kids, and then I had LO and wanted more. DH said he's open to more..... but only if we can afford it. Or if I went back to work earlier.... but I don't want to go back to work. Then I'd just be sad every day knowing I have a child I can't spend every second with like I do with LO. </p> <p>So my options are..... 1. DH all of a sudden starts making a lot more money and we adopt a 3rd (My body can't take any more pregnancies) or 2. We have 2 children and one furbaby, so in my book that's still 3 kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-heartache-about-stopping-at-2#post-938873 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 12:41:38 +0000 T-Mom 938873@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: ahhh you're right... all the sickness, the pumping, ugh. I need to just go and hold some babies and get it out of my system! But two.. you can do it !!! ;-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-heartache-about-stopping-at-2#post-938862 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 12:37:23 +0000 mediagirl 938862@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Awww! I feel you with being one and done and kind of, but not really, but then sometimes, wanting two. :) I'm 36, as well and the earliest we could have another would be when I was 39 and I'm not sure I would want to do that. Plus, we already decided we are one and done. But then I waffle. And he waffles. But we know we can't do two in daycare. GAH. </p> <p>Know when it's the worst? When I rock my baby to sleep in the middle of the night and her head is on my shoulder and her legs are tucked up under her on the chair. She is so big right now and I miss that baby who I could hold with one arm. I don't miss the pumping at work and the 8 months of illnesses, though!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-having-heartache-about-stopping-at-2#post-938843 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 12:32:36 +0000 T-Mom 938843@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just read this article about wanting three but knowing we should really stop at 2, and it really hit home for me. <a href="http://www.modernmom.com/blogs/risa-green/i-want-a-third-child-except-i-really-don-t" rel="nofollow">http://www.modernmom.com/blogs/risa-green/i-want-a-third-child-except-i-really-don-t</a><br /> I ALWAYS thought I would be 2 and done, but now that my youngest is almost two, I find myself so sad that he's growing up and wishing I could freeze time... or maybe have another one! :-( I know if I really wanted to have a third, I should really start soon (I'm 36) but the thought of adding another to my already stressful life is overwhelming. My DH really wants another one but I told him definitely no unless he becomes a completely different kind of dad (he is not particularly hands on and I do the lionshare of the kids and house work while WOH).</p> <p>I know it's partly just hormones, but GAH!! Anyone else feeling me on wanting a third but knowing you should just stop? </p>