https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 06 Jun 2026 10:13:02 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-not-allow-hospital-visits#post-2730890 Mon, 01 May 2017 11:40:51 +0000 littlejoy 2730890@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@youboots: Bahaha. Yes. I'm having a "no toddlers for 2 weeks" rule this time ... other friends brought their 2 year old over last time, and they basically sat on me while I was trying to BF, hahaha. And, as much as I loveeee toddlers, A told me her butt itched this morning, and I saw her scratch it and try to go back to eating her waffle ... GAHHHH!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-not-allow-hospital-visits#post-2730805 Mon, 01 May 2017 10:16:30 +0000 JessyMess 2730805@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsmacSLP: Stealing this idea, thanks! :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-not-allow-hospital-visits#post-2730696 Sun, 30 Apr 2017 21:46:30 +0000 youboots 2730696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlejoy: I forgot how awesome I am. 😂 I will bring you food and do your dishes but my grubby two-year-old will be in tow-The guys could take the girls to the park. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-not-allow-hospital-visits#post-2730694 Sun, 30 Apr 2017 21:31:13 +0000 mrsmacSLP 2730694@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had visitors, on each full day in the hospital (3 days total). My mom visited, my in laws, my best friend and my husbands best friend and his wife (also little mans Godparents). </p> <p>The only thing I regretted was having so many on the same day/one after another. When we returned home we learned to filter people out, the ones who just wanted to see baby versus the ones who truly wanted to help us. The midwives I had suggested posting a list of things people can do to help on the fridge which is what we did. It helped so much! We were even able to "tell" people when things are done (sheets changed on Fridays, towels washed Saturday) and now that we've been home almost 3 weeks we have friends that visit on certain days to help because they know what's helpful to us and then get snuggles! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-not-allow-hospital-visits#post-2730596 Sun, 30 Apr 2017 10:55:47 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 2730596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't allow visitors, but had them anyway! My cousin, whom I hadn't seen in years randomly showed up, which was a little annoying, but I knew she meant well. I think sometimes people don't understand that new moms need space. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-not-allow-hospital-visits#post-2730577 Sun, 30 Apr 2017 07:24:21 +0000 Iced Tea 2730577@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were lucky that there was an ice storm when my LO was born, so only two visitors made the trek during our four day stay. My relatives are the sort to ignore advice not to visit, so the weather helped us out. </p> <p>This time we may have a home birth, and I simply plan not to announce the birth for a couple of days and then post a list of helpful tasks for visitors. I think I would legit appreciate anyone coming over to take my daughter across the street to the playground in exchange for peeking at the baby. I think posting specific hours will limit the visits also. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-not-allow-hospital-visits#post-2730537 Sat, 29 Apr 2017 19:38:06 +0000 MrsSRS 2730537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With my first we lived too far away from anyone for this problem. With my second we had a birth center birth, so we were home that afternoon. We enforced a strict nap time policy. We were unavailable (lights off, door locked curtains closed, phones on silent) from 12-3 every afternoon. DS napped so DD and I napped too. This cut out some prime visiting time. One of my sisters popped over most mornings and unloaded my dishwasher. An aunt or someone stopped by every afternoon to drop off dinner for the first week and I asked all visitors to take DS outside to play for a bit in the yard. Nobody really came after the first two weeks. This was great, but I was a second time mom. Nursing was a breeze, I was calm, etc. Those first few days after DS I would have needed a policy similar to my labor policy "you can be in the room if it truly won't hurt your feelings if I yell at you or tell you to leave. You must be quiet and comfortable with nudity and follow directions. " </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-not-allow-hospital-visits#post-2730518 Sat, 29 Apr 2017 17:58:13 +0000 bubblegum 2730518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@abbydabbydoodlebug: bahahahahahaha that is hilarious!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-not-allow-hospital-visits#post-2730517 Sat, 29 Apr 2017 17:57:36 +0000 bubblegum 2730517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlejoy: ouch I bet that was rough!!! I would've had to be like sorry guys but I really need to rest but thank you so much for visiting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-not-allow-hospital-visits#post-2730514 Sat, 29 Apr 2017 17:28:10 +0000 abbydabbydoodlebug 2730514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I posted this on my Facebook in a semi-joking manner: </p> [attach=1468/17/op6zqy.600x600.FB_IMG_1493504832349.jpg] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-not-allow-hospital-visits#post-2730505 Sat, 29 Apr 2017 15:41:52 +0000 littlejoy 2730505@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bubblegum: @misolee: I had a home birth, and this was a real problem. My BFF visited on day two, and only stayed for an hour or so (and brought me food and offered to do dishes - AMAZINGGGGG!!), but we had friends visit later in the week with their 2 year old, and they seriously stayed for HOURS. My nipples were destroyed, I was leaking everywhere, and had the glorious sweatpants + ultra pad combo. </p> <p>This time around, we'll be very specific about length of time and what people are "bringing to the table" with their visits. Lesson learned!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-not-allow-hospital-visits#post-2730365 Fri, 28 Apr 2017 15:16:35 +0000 MrsADS 2730365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Only my mom who I am 100% comfortable with - she is out of town but flew in when I went into labor and then stayed the first 2 weeks w/us to help. Other family isn't local, we had a few friends ask to the hospital and I said no. I actually thought it was weird - I would never even ask to go to the hospital to see a new mom and brand new baby!</p> <p>If we ever have #2 it will be the same. Honestly, I felt so crappy after delivery for the first week or so, even with a pretty typical vaginal delivery. I was nauseous and exhausted and I had awful after-birth cramps that were so painful. I was in no mood to see anyone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-not-allow-hospital-visits#post-2730272 Fri, 28 Apr 2017 12:06:27 +0000 misolee 2730272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>agree with @Bubblegum</p> <p>I had quite a few visitors with LO1 at the hospital and most only stayed for 20 minutes. There's not that many places to sit, doctors and nurses are coming in and out, no refreshments to serve, etc so people usually leave fast. I also didn't mind the visits as the baby was sleeping a lot</p> <p>For Lo2, he was early, super fast recovery, and we left the hospital after a day so most people came to my house. They stayed longer. Refreshments were expected (my mom was with me and she handled that but still...) and a part of me just wanted to lie down. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-not-allow-hospital-visits#post-2730270 Fri, 28 Apr 2017 11:56:49 +0000 bubblegum 2730270@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always preferred hospital visits because you can always get them out of there quicker than if they visit you at home where there aren't any set rules per say. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-not-allow-hospital-visits#post-2730233 Fri, 28 Apr 2017 08:44:53 +0000 snowjewelz 2730233@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had both my girls during the week so no friends even asked to visit; I think we all assumed they can just come later on. I was only in the hospital the standard 2 nights anyway. I never really understood why people wanted to visit right away! </p> <p>With DD1, it was just family that came &amp; went. With DD1 there were barely any visitors b/c she was in NICU and only DH was able to take visitors there since I had a fever and I couldn't go myself. </p> <p>So I never had any rules or preference even; just worked out that we didn't get many visitors and I liked it that way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-not-allow-hospital-visits#post-2730231 Fri, 28 Apr 2017 08:42:39 +0000 JennyG 2730231@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had quite a few visitors with LO1, but he was in the special care nursery after being born at 35 weeks so the visitors were a nice distraction.</p> <p>With LO2, just my sister bring LO1 and my in-laws came by. None of my family is local (sister happened to visiting), so it was perfect. </p> <p>With this LO, I will probably just have my MIL bring my two kids by to meet the baby and that's it. I personally want to get the heck out of the hospital, so I am always ready to jump ship as soon as I can. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-not-allow-hospital-visits#post-2730225 Fri, 28 Apr 2017 08:26:14 +0000 LuLu Mom 2730225@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First baby was in NICU and it was October so start of cold/flu season and the hospital had a "no one under 16 allowed" rule going on. We allowed our parents and siblings, and my best friend but that was it. People were allowed to come visit us and look through the window, but we allowed very few to old her since she aws having breathing issues, didn't want to risk getting sick. </p> <p>baby 2 we welcomed all the visitors, I had a C-section and we were there 3 days and it was a weekend. I honestly preferred hospital visits to home visits, they were quicker and people didn't linger as long :) HAHA so bad to say but true. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-not-allow-hospital-visits#post-2730224 Fri, 28 Apr 2017 08:24:59 +0000 looch 2730224@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was in the hospital for 4 days. No one came until day 3. I would have loved to have a few visitors the second day, but on the first day I was in pretty rough shape. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-not-allow-hospital-visits#post-2730209 Fri, 28 Apr 2017 07:45:28 +0000 mrskansas 2730209@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I only wanted my mom and dad to visit while we were in the hospital. My mom stayed around an hour and my dad probably 30 minutes.<br /> I definitely preferred that since I looked like a hot mess. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-not-allow-hospital-visits#post-2730183 Fri, 28 Apr 2017 02:04:27 +0000 LAZB 2730183@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't have visitors for d my second or third baby. Won't in the future either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-not-allow-hospital-visits#post-2730173 Thu, 27 Apr 2017 23:41:38 +0000 birdofafeather 2730173@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we had only our parents visit in the hospital (they each lived 1.5-2 hours away) and one set of friends who were flying out the next day to live abroad! i'm not huge on the visitors, but i like having family there. if/when we have #3, we are much closer to very close friends, but i'll probably still wait to have visitors until we're home. so much easier to relax there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-not-allow-hospital-visits#post-2730148 Thu, 27 Apr 2017 21:23:43 +0000 azjax 2730148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had quite a few visitors with DS, and even though I was recovering from a C-section, I loved seeing friends and family. I felt more protective once we got home and the post-birth high wore off and BF and pumping problems set in.</p> <p>For the second baby, we will play it by ear but I am expecting at least some family to visit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-not-allow-hospital-visits#post-2730146 Thu, 27 Apr 2017 21:17:38 +0000 Foodnerd81 2730146@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With my first my parents came up and visited and my bike stopped by for an hour or so. Most family wasn't lov so it wasn't an issue, and my friends generally seem to be on the same page- very close family only in the hospital, and wait until mom says she is ready for visitors after. </p> <p>With my second it was the same, only DH went home to get dd1 and bring her to meet her sister. DH only stayed the first night in the hospital, then went home to stay with our older one so her world was slightly less rocked. It was nice having the alone time with baby in the hospital. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-not-allow-hospital-visits#post-2730140 Thu, 27 Apr 2017 21:02:23 +0000 JessyMess 2730140@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With a birth center birth I go home about 6 hours after he's born, so I'll answer this about the first couple of days at home. I had everybody visit with LO1 for the first couple days and they visited whenever they wanted. For LO2 I am being much more careful. I decided to enact visiting hours 12pm-1:30pm and 4:30pm-6:30pm aka lunch time and dinner time. I'm hoping this will encourage people to bring food and give us time for naps/rest in the morning and afternoon. I also want our evenings to ourselves. I am vetoing any out of town guests for the first 6 weeks. </p> <p>I am SOOO glad there are other people that don't want guests right away. My mom has been making me feel like that's "so different, but i guess ok if thats what you want..." lol passive aggressive much? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-not-allow-hospital-visits#post-2730135 Thu, 27 Apr 2017 20:43:51 +0000 bhbee 2730135@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our people are all out of town so for #1 we said no visitors until we were ready - my mom came when dh went back to work. For #2, my mom came right away to watch lo. He was born Tuesday morning, they came to meet him Wednesday around dinner. It was sooo fun to do the sibling meeting and I was ready by then to put makeup on and be dressed so I wouldn't hate the pics and video. We like our space but I was ready then! Of course I am super comfortable with my mom and that made a difference too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-not-allow-hospital-visits#post-2730111 Thu, 27 Apr 2017 19:23:48 +0000 nana87 2730111@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With lo1, my parents, mil, fil, and sil all came and while I was fine with my parents, I was really uncomfortable w my inlaws there and really overwhelmed in general. So w lo2, we still had my parents there (they were watching lo1, plus my mom was in the room when I gave birth both times) but we asked in laws to wait until she was 2 weeks. They waited more like 10 days but it was so much better for my sanity! I was so much more comfortable by the time they came. Mil still pushed it-- she asked if she should start driving in from out of state when we scheduled my induction 🙄 She "forgot" we'd had a whole conversation about waiting (yeah right!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-not-allow-hospital-visits#post-2730107 Thu, 27 Apr 2017 19:18:54 +0000 Jennibenni 2730107@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All of my family dropped in here and there, and I was glad to have them. They live out of town but I would've felt horribly neglected if none of them had bothered to come (it's a few hours). No one else came and that was fine by me, I was comfortable with my family but I was a total train wreck and I had some other relatives ask to stop by and I said no. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-not-allow-hospital-visits#post-2730106 Thu, 27 Apr 2017 19:13:21 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2730106@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didnt want visitors and the only person who really wanted to be there was my mom. I will probably implement the same rule if we have a second. For gosh sakes I had a cathiter and wasnt wearing a bra my entire stay! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-not-allow-hospital-visits#post-2730105 Thu, 27 Apr 2017 19:05:20 +0000 gingerbebe 2730105@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With DS1, no one was allowed except DH until one day postpartum, when my parents and brother came for 1 hour. Then my mom came a second time briefly while DS1 was in NICU. </p> <p>With DS2, I had my friends drive my mom and DS1 to the hospital right after my RCS. They left after an hour. That was it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-not-allow-hospital-visits#post-2730100 Thu, 27 Apr 2017 18:49:06 +0000 pachamama 2730100@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I sort of wish my in laws didn't come have a pizza party in my room day 2. But now that I think about it, it was a nice break from the madness that was starting to set it. </p>